Maybe it's the hormones... (1276 hits)
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Submitted by Heather <monkycrk.at.aol.com> (View user info) at 2003-08-02 23:11:03 EDT
As of late, I've become very anti-social. I'm almost certain it has to do with the
fact that I've been sober for about 3 months, due to the fact that I'm pregnant. I realize
that I am constantly surrounded by moronic individuals and this usually doesn't bother me.
I'm assuming it's because I was usually drunk or in a daze of some sort. Being sober is putting
a lot of stress on me. I can't smoke cigarettes, I can't get drunk, I can't smoke weed. These were
the things that kept me sane in an infuckingsane world. I'm seriously beginning to dislike people as a whole. I tolerate the people around me. I'm just worried that I'm going to fucking SNAP.
I don't hang out with my friends, partially b/c they spend most of their time getting fucked up.
I'm not working right now, which is not making things any better. I'm at my house, a lot.
Basically.. to cut the bullshit short. I need answers.
WHAT THE FUCK can I do to reduce the stress level. Any remedies that aren't harmful to a pregnant
chick? Any suggestions will be much appreciated.
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Submitted by glasscpp (user info) at 2003-08-04 14:46:47 EDT (#)
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heatherm,
First off I want to congratulate you on a soon mother to be. Belive me once the baby has arrived you will be a completely new person, from the actions you've taken so far you are headed in the right direction. Also congratulations on stopping all you old habbits, for this is probably the hardest thing to do for the baby. I first met my wife 4 years after she had her first, then we had two children shortly afterwards. So I'm a father of three, I say three cause I am much more of a father to her son than his biological father. I don't think you have anything to worry bout becoming just another "statistic". Believe me I know its hard to stop all that other fun while pragnent, since I also stopped all that during the times my wife was pragnent just so I can help relate and better be there for her. The only thing I hope for you (other than a healthy baby) is that the man you are dating becomes closer to you and helps you through the pragnecy. You really need all the support from as many family and friends you can get. Best wishes to you and once again congratulations!!!
cheers,
glasscpp
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2003-08-04 14:04:34 EDT (#)
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Yeah, I'm bitter. Riiiight. Look, get some help for you and your baby. I'm not lecturing I swear to god. Don't end up like thousands of other young, single mothers. Good luck.
My rankings for you are good btw. I guess I just hate to see another statistic. Subscribe to Parenting magazine. It may seem corny but it will help.
And again....good luck.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-04 12:08:06 EDT (#)
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"I could have just said FU."
This is what you should have done. First off, You don't know me OR my habits. I simply asked for suggestions to reduce stress. I didn't post this so I could get a lecture from a bitter old man.
You are damn right I will deny having a dependency on drugs/alcohol, because I don't. If I did, I would still be getting fucked up. Have you ever heard of exaggeration? People do it ALL the time.
Like.. if I were to say you are the biggest fucking shitstain dickhead I've ever encountered. That would exaggerating, b/c I don't know you well enough to pass that kind of judgement. OOOOH but wait.. you are high and mighty.. and apparently know ME well enough to pass judgement.
Who the HELL are you to try to use the fact that I'm not married or in a "serious" relationship against me?
What does that have to do with me NOT doing drugs and being a responsible person? How do you know that I wasn't married to him and that things just didn't work out? I'm irresponsible b/c I couldn't work it out with someone? Be it.. that's not the case, but again, YOU know nothing about me. Absolutely nothing. People make mistakes, majority of pregnancies are not planned. Maybe your 3 lovely children were all planned with your lovely wife after working your lovely 24 years and being a lovely old bitter man, but mine wasn't. Our situations are completely different, as we are completely different. I would think if you were as smart as you try to act, you might think twice about being so judgemental. I never said anything mean to you or bad about you. I just said that your tone seemed a little derogatory and I wasn't the only one who thought so.
As far as my friends are concerned... that is also irrelevant to my post. I'm not sure why you felt it neccesary to come and attack me, but using what my friends do against me is a little trivial.
Also, my job status is none of your business.
Do me a favor and don't give me any more of your "advice". I'd rather eat shit for breakfast than hear what you have to say.
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2003-08-04 11:46:50 EDT (#)
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You should read this whole thing Heather....................
You know, I never said you were a scumbag.......however...there is this:
First, with this quote you led us to believe that you were a hardcore stoner/drunk who was lit "usually" which I interpreted to be most of the time.
"I'm assuming it's because I was usually drunk or in a daze of some sort. Being sober is putting
a lot of stress on me."
Then you impressed us with the quality of your friends with this:
"I don't hang out with my friends, partially b/c they spend most of their time getting fucked up."
Then to top it off we get this:
"I'm not working right now, which is not making things any better."
Oh, but it gets better.
Now we find out this little tidbit of info:
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Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:53:35 (#)
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Sex would be great, but seeing as how I'm not with the father of my baby..
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You painted the picture, we drew it in our heads.
Look, life sucks but you are part of the problem. I have no sympathy for the fact that you can't handle reality without being fucked up.
Now, read carefully young Heather for this is the important part. You are 21, no job, no husband or serious relationship. You have a dependency on alcohol and drugs (you will deny this of course). I am a father of 3 who has been married 15 years. Never divorced (amazing since all my siblings have been and my father as well). I have been in the working world for 24 years and have supported a family for 15. People may like me or they may not like me but thqat doesn't matter. I only have this to say:
I find it admirable that you find it important to improve your situation but I find it marginally believable that this is true:
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Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 12:46:22 (#)
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I think you guys are misunderstanding my post. When I said I was usually drunk or in a daze..
I didn't mean 24/7. I meant, that was my release.. I worked all week, dealt with stupid
people and when it was all over with, I could get drunk and have a good time with my
friends. I didn't mean that I stayed drunk and oblivious to the world every single day
all day. Everyone has a way they release stress, whether it be getting drunk, exercising, doing
yoga, etc...
I'm not going to be going out and getting shitty every night after I have my child. I'm way too
excited and am going to love my child way too much to do something so irresponsible. That doesn't
mean that ,now and then I won't go out and relax or get together with friends. But it's not going to be an everyday OR an every weekend thing, AT ALL. I do realize that a lot of women have children
and then continue on doing the same thing they did before they had the child.. or sometimes they never stop doing those things. I'm not like that. If getting fucked up were that important to me,
I would have an abortion. But, it's not. That's why I'm looking for other ways. For those of you
who are trying to give me advice, thank you, for those of you who doubt me.. ...
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however, I want to believe it, I truly do. There is no more important time for you right now in your life. You can get the support you need from any number of agencies out there that are willing to help young single mothers-to-be. Go get this help, stop thinking about how nice it will be to give birth so you can get stoned again and try to figure out what you are going to do for work afterwards.
Oh, and by the way, the way you see reality is really how it is. People are annoying most of the time but some people are true gems and if you can have a positive attitude you will attract these people. Unfortunately you will attract the others as well. I do wish you luck though. You have put yourself in somewhat of a bad position.
I could have just said FU.
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-08-04 11:25:47 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Quartermain (user info) at 2003-08-04 00:45:30 (#)
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Submitted by Helpertin <me.at.fakeemails.com> at 2003-08-03 00:40:39 (#)
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Congratulations, you have now created life, you are responsible for the worst crime this world has ever known.
Life is an STD with a 100% mortality rate.
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Ooooh, look at me everyone, I'm all brooding and complex. If you're lucky, I may even share some of my Goth poetry with you.
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I totally agree with Quartermain and would like to semi quote Kurt Cobain's opinion on this subject. He said something like "For so long I was stuck in that passe mentality of how could you bring this atrocity of life upon another human, knowing the suffering and bullshit in this world? This totally changes when you fall in love and when I had my daughter Frances."
Now, irregardless of "who killed Kurt" I have always had great interest in his life and work. He was an amazing person, plauged by demons that I myself know something of/have experience with. I have no children, but have experienced love. I would love to someday father children, but may just adopt, if anything.
But, I have experienced true, pure unadulterated beauty in my two nephews Tyler and Evan, aged 4 and 1 years respectively, and also my babydoll of a niece, Delilah, who just turned two.
My point being: Helpertin, don't preach your hate for life here, as it is neither welcome nor appriceated by myself, and I obviously possess the only opinion of any substance on Ubersite. (I know I know... I sound like a hypocrite in light of all my blatant insults to some Uber users)
Amen Quartermain (+2)
Submitted by CynicallyCorrect (user info) at 2003-08-04 06:06:33 EDT (#)
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On a lighter note:
http://www.ubersite.com/cgi-bin/message_get.cgi?message=10599892144237549
Submitted by Quartermain (user info) at 2003-08-04 00:45:30 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Helpertin <me.at.fakeemails.com> at 2003-08-03 00:40:39 (#)
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Congratulations, you have now created life, you are responsible for the worst crime this world has ever known.
Life is an STD with a 100% mortality rate.
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Ooooh, look at me everyone, I'm all brooding and complex. If you're lucky, I may even share some of my Goth poetry with you.
Seriously, I hear swimming is good for pregnant women
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-08-03 21:39:25 EDT (#)
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and Hallelujah!
But I'm coming up on 72 hrs without so here we go. I'm trying to go 90 days and see if it makes any difference in my mind, body all that. (which i am sure it will) But the bipolar disorder and the way pot effects it is the primary issue I am addressing here.
Submitted by dolphgr13 (user info) at 2003-08-03 21:27:58 EDT (#)
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puffingallday:
I've been smoking weed habitually for 5 years now, and I know when I run out of pot for more then a couple days, or after I get off of a 12 hour shift I am JONESIN for that high. When I dont have the high, I get irritable and well down right cranky. I start snapping at those around me for no apparant reason, where as soon as I sit down and smoke a j, everything becomes peachy fucking keen.
Amen to that shit
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 21:11:03 EDT (#)
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+2 for you PAS.. THANK you for pointing that out.. I didn't want to have to explain myself, yet again.
Appreciate the suggestions, again, guys.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2003-08-03 19:21:49 EDT (#)
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OK ok PAS you are right, I didn't read that part. I don't know what you would do to relax. If I couldn't partake of my usual mind altering activities, I would work out until I was exhausted, but I don't think that's a great idea either. You need some sort of hobby.
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2003-08-03 19:16:44 EDT (#)
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Hey people stop misunderstanding Heather. Read this:
http://www.ubersite.com/cgi-bin/message_get.cgi?message=1059880263341916566#117445
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-08-03 19:15:25 EDT (#)
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"Saying all that almost makes me want to get pregnant to be able to have a few months off work. Almost!"
That can easily become reality PAS. *wink*
If your man is an insufficient donor then I am sure there are others. *raises hand*
Submitted by EvilZurr (user info) at 2003-08-03 19:09:07 EDT (#)
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has anyone mentioned abortion yet?
DrinkDDT: it should be illegal NOT to abort them
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2003-08-03 18:33:03 EDT (#)
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"I would love to have a few months out of work, even if I didn't have much money and had to mostly stay in the house there are so many things I could do with my time I would love it."
Since I didn't elaborate on what I would do if the above scenario arose (and these things may or may not spark your interest Heather) I'm going to tell you anyway:
*I'd read. I have a huge collection of books and I've only read about half of them. If my budget was tight and I wanted more, I'd borrow from my local library.
*I'd play computer games. I have loads of games and again I haven't played them all and the ones I have played I haven't completed. I assume you own the computer you post to Ubersite on - older games titles can be bought on budget labels or you can purchase from most games shops pre-owned copies if money is an object.
*I write short stories and poems. I want to anyway but don't do enough of it at the moment.
*I'd catch up with old friends from school/college that I've lost touch with via emails or letters. I'd phone my family more often.
*I'd watch loads of films - either download them or borrow from my friends if I didn't have enough dough to rent them or go to the flicks.
*I'd buy a linguaphone tape (or borrow one from the library) and improve my French.
*I'd spend ages on the internet learning more about all the countries I want to visit, ancient myths, the supernatural and all the other things I'm interested in like genealogy and researching my family tree.
*I'd play the clarinet and get better at it (I have my fiance's dad's clarinet on loan and hardly use it).
*I'd finish re-decorating the house, clear out the attic and get rid of loads of junk.
*I'd take up something artsy/craftsy like knitting/embroidery/drawing/painting/sculpting.
*I'd get a pet. I would love to have a cat and you can spend hours playing with a pet, they are great companions.
*I'd exercise more often, you can do loads of exercises indoors without any expensive equipment even if it's just aerobics in your living room or doing steps on the stairs or lifting heavy food tins as weights.
*I'd try to spend time in my garden...at the moment gardening really doesn't appeal to me but if I was indoors all day I would be out there far more often.
Saying all that almost makes me want to get pregnant to be able to have a few months off work. Almost!
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2003-08-03 18:26:28 EDT (#)
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no offense, but if you can't stand being sober for 9 months, your kid is fucked
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2003-08-03 18:12:33 EDT (#)
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Tai chi is meant to be relaxing, enjoyable, spiritually fulfilling and you get some exercise but it's pretty calm and slow at the same time. My mum used to do it and really enjoyed it.
http://www.chebucto.ns.ca/Philosophy/Taichi/
If you just fancy a change or getting out of the house how about taking up an evening class or a new hobby? Learn another language or pottery or drawing or painting or caligraphy or DIY or whatever your local education authority (or equivalent) does classes in...I know in the UK they often give huge discounts for people out of work - I don't know if you're on maternity leave or have left your employ to be a full-time mum but I'm sure if you looked into it you'd be able to do a lot of these things at a minimal fee and you'd meet people who enjoyed doing the same thing.
I've never been keen on gardening but I know a few people who love making their garden look nice...that's quite a good suggestion as was going swimming and if money is not too much of an object I'd suggest getting pampered at a spa.
If you like reading now's the time to enjoy the summer and read some good novels in your garden. You could find tourist attractions that are free/cheap to visit and plan day trips for yourself or you and your friends/partner - things like museums, historical buildings, nature trails, parks...there are plenty of places open during the week that you may never have thought about visiting when you were working 9-5.
Sometimes I find the best way to relax is to burn a few candles and/or incense, dim the lights, put on a mellow CD and just lie on the bed happy in my thoughts or read a book. If you are a film buff but money is a bit tight with the little'un on the way ask to borrow your friends DVDs/videos, I'm sure they won't mind lending them out.
I would love to have a few months out of work, even if I didn't have much money and had to mostly stay in the house there are so many things I could do with my time I would love it.
Good luck with your pregnancy and the birth Heather.
PAS
Submitted by Aphrodite (user info) at 2003-08-03 17:55:40 EDT (#)
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I can totally relate to you. Right now I am 7 months pregnant, and haven't smoked or drank or anything since I discovered I was pregnant. Although I rarely drank anyway, I was definitely a stoner-- smoking up was part of my everyday routine. I also smoked Newports (which I have since quit as well).
Smoking up was without a doubt something I loved to do. Although it still irritates me that I can't do it now, I tend to not think of it as much as I used to-- of course, I work two jobs as well as attend school, so I am kept pretty busy with other things. With my first son I wasn't working, and it was much harder for me to get my mind off of it.
I just got back from vacation yesterday... Usually my time in Ocean City is spent in a weed-induced haze, along with my sister, boyfriend, and dad. This year, however, I was the only sober one, and it REALLY blew. Trapped in an apartment with three stoners smoking up all week while I couldn't really annoyed the hell outta me. Not to mention all of the other things I couldn't do, like amusement rides, fishing, parasailing, etc. Oh well...
I'm planning on breastfeeding, so I can't just puff again once I have the baby... It's just a matter of priorities, I guess. Whenever I REALLY want to smoke I just think, "What do I love more? My baby or my Mary Jane?" I'll admit that doesn't make me stop wanting the weed, but at least I can focus a little more on what's really important.
Sorry this turned into a novel, and sorry for bitching-- just wanted to let you know I can relate. I'm glad you're staying off the shit for your baby. Stay healthy and good luck with everything :)
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:53:35 EDT (#)
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Insane.. thank you. I'm just hoping for a healthy baby, whether it be a boy or girl. Actually quitting my bad habits weren't really that hard..I quit doing everything as soon as I found out. It's just a matter of stress relief. I do swim, I do exercise, those help to a certain extent. I think yoga would be a good idea. Sex would be great, but seeing as how I'm not with the father of my baby.. and have only been dating the guy I'm seeing right now, for a few weeks.. we aren't having sex yet.. but hey.. maybe in the future. In the meantime, I'll keep doing what I'm doing and check into yoga. Thanks for the sexy pregnant chick comment. I'm sure I'll feel a lot better when I'm showing more and I don't look like a fatty. I'm showing now.. but I almost just look like I have a pot belly.
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:21:57 EDT (#)
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Oh yeah, and dont forget how TOTALLY sexy pregnant women can be when they are well along.
Submitted by El_Guapo (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:20:54 EDT (#)
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sex and any other physical activity are good stress relievers. but especially sex.
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:18:28 EDT (#)
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Wow, I am sure this is quite the struggle for you. To swim is a good idea whoever mentioned that. Also, try drinking virgin daquris and listening to mariachi.
Best of luck, are you hoping for a boy, girl, or simply a healthy one?
Submitted by jake_plummer (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:04:49 EDT (#)
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hook it up drink.
Submitted by PuffInqAllDay (user info) at 2003-08-03 14:03:14 EDT (#)
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Its the mental addiction that is causing you the stress. People dont like to admit it, but weed and alcohol is addicting especially if you turn to it every time your stressed. I've been smoking weed habitually for 5 years now, and I know when I run out of pot for more then a couple days, or after I get off of a 12 hour shift I am JONESIN for that high. When I dont have the high, I get irritable and well down right cranky. I start snapping at those around me for no apparant reason, where as soon as I sit down and smoke a j, everything becomes peachy fucking keen.
My point is that your stressed because your in withdrawl for multiple substances, you started off cold turkey I assume. You need to find something to keep your mind busy, looking towards us is only half of the answer, we can give suggestions all day and all night, but if they dont interest you, then you'll be even mroe bored. Short of the demeaning attitude expressed by Bigmike, I'd say his suggestions would be the best.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 12:49:15 EDT (#)
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Submitted by drink_DDT (user info) at 2003-08-03 00:27:23 (#)
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swim.
Swimming is good. The only reason I copied this.. is b/c for some reason.. You were in my dream
last night. Well.. I guess it wasn't really YOU b/c I don't know you.. but the guy in your pic, anyway.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 12:46:22 EDT (#)
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No, My name isn't Heather Cooper.
I think you guys are misunderstanding my post. When I said I was usually drunk or in a daze..
I didn't mean 24/7. I meant, that was my release.. I worked all week, dealt with stupid
people and when it was all over with, I could get drunk and have a good time with my
friends. I didn't mean that I stayed drunk and oblivious to the world every single day
all day. Everyone has a way they release stress, whether it be getting drunk, exercising, doing
yoga, etc...
I'm not going to be going out and getting shitty every night after I have my child. I'm way too
excited and am going to love my child way too much to do something so irresponsible. That doesn't
mean that ,now and then I won't go out and relax or get together with friends. But it's not going to be an everyday OR an every weekend thing, AT ALL. I do realize that a lot of women have children
and then continue on doing the same thing they did before they had the child.. or sometimes they never stop doing those things. I'm not like that. If getting fucked up were that important to me,
I would have an abortion. But, it's not. That's why I'm looking for other ways. For those of you
who are trying to give me advice, thank you, for those of you who doubt me.. ...
Submitted by Nator (user info) at 2003-08-03 10:47:10 EDT (#)
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Agree w/ Mike.
Submitted by chinkydiva (user info) at 2003-08-03 05:37:54 EDT (#)
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I agree with BIGMIKE. My question is, are you going to be going back and doing those things once your child is born?
Submitted by jake_plummer (user info) at 2003-08-03 02:40:45 EDT (#)
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Maintaining sobriety is NOT easy. Good luck.
When you get depressed/stressed, just remember life could be a lot worse.
I've been sober now for 10 months!
I have good days and bad days, but just stay confident in your decision to refrain from alcohol.
jAkE
Submitted by JohnWilkesBooth (user info) at 2003-08-03 02:28:45 EDT (#)
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Is your name heather cooper?
Submitted by Istaros (user info) at 2003-08-03 02:13:47 EDT (#)
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"Life is an STD with a 100% mortality rate."
From where did you get that quote?
Submitted by systumofahoedown (user info) at 2003-08-03 01:22:56 EDT (#)
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"I realize
that I am constantly surrounded by moronic individuals"
... Welcome to my world
Submitted by Helpertin <me.at.fakeemails.com> at 2003-08-03 00:40:39 EDT (#)
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Congratulations, you have now created life, you are responsible for the worst crime this world has ever known.
Life is an STD with a 100% mortality rate.
Submitted by drink_DDT (user info) at 2003-08-03 00:27:23 EDT (#)
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swim.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-03 00:11:21 EDT (#)
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Bigmike..... I could see the justification in your rant if I were still doing those things.
Considering I'm making a concious effort to not be a complete fuck up.. I would think
you could calm down a little bit. Father of 3, you may be, but not a very understanding
one, from what I can tell. A lot of people drink and a lot of people smoke. Because I'm pregnant
I'm all of a sudden a scumbag, for it?
Drink.. a fucking hobby is exactly what I'm looking for. Thanks for noticing I'm not a piece of
shit.
I hate seeing pregnant women who drink and smoke, too. I have a lot of dreams that I'm
drinking and smoking while I'm pregnant and I feel super guilty about it, in the dream.
I don't get those.
Submitted by Crash3087 (user info) at 2003-08-03 00:09:21 EDT (#)
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Get an abortion
Submitted by LotterFodder (user info) at 2003-08-03 00:08:35 EDT (#)
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As long as you stop your habits now, congratulations. I suggest forgetting about your "cerrrazzzy" past right now, since, if you are mature, you would not continue around a newborn. There is nothign worse then a drugbeat mother.
Submitted by drink_DDT (user info) at 2003-08-03 00:02:28 EDT (#)
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Looks like you need a fucking hobby.
I hate pregnant girls who still smoke and drink. Thanks for not.
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:58:50 EDT (#)
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Hey, I gave it a +1. I just see so many mothers who don't get it. Just trying to help. I guess this just bothered me:
"I'm assuming it's because I was usually drunk or in a daze of some sort. Being sober is putting
a lot of stress on me. I can't smoke cigarettes, I can't get drunk, I can't smoke weed. These were
the things that kept me sane in an infuckingsane world."
I can't imagine that being sober is the cause of the stress.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:50:04 EDT (#)
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Yoga seems to be the trend.. I'll look into it.
Thank you, Jaduka(I think I spelled that wrong)I thought I was getting lectured.
Submitted by Judoka (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:47:53 EDT (#)
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My sister in law who is pregnant with her first child seems to enjoy yoga. Bigmike stop the lecture. She is behaving responsibly, when she found out she was preggers she dind't carry on with life as normal. So save the lecture.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:46:26 EDT (#)
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No, I have no other children.. and I'm 21.
I would say thanks for the advice.. but those are all things I'm already doing.
They don't help relieve stress.... and the tone of your reply seemed a bit
derogatory...I apologize if I'm wrong.. but..I couldn't figure out whether you
were trying to be helpful or hateful.
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:40:50 EDT (#)
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I write this assuming you have no other children and also not knowing your age.
Consider yourself lucky. No kid should be born to a mother that only has drinking and drugs on her mind. WHY DON'T YOU TRY DOING SOME PLANNING SO YOUR BABY DOESN'T HAVE AN IRRESPONSIBLE AND COMPLETELY NON-FUNCTIONING PARENTAL UNIT TO RELY ON. Christ, the answer is right there in front of you. You are going to be responsible for another human in a short while. Try to be responsible yourself.
Yes, I am a dad with three kids. You, on the other hand, will be the mother of a social services nightmare in a short while. Plan for your childs future and do it now. That should take up plenty of time.
Excersize
Go to the library and read books on infants and/or parenting
Make stuff for your child.
Talk to other mothers about their children
Try to figure out how you will live.
Decide what the right direction is for you and........
Ignore people who seem to be pulling you in the wrong direction.
Get a real life. Your baby will thank you for it by being healthy and happy.
Submitted by ninja <tarendar.at.yahoo.com> at 2003-08-02 23:36:00 EDT (#)
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Working in a little garden always makes me feel better.
Submitted by heatherm (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:27:50 EDT (#)
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"Welcome to the real world. If you actually think about it, wasn't drinking and smoking weed part of you trying to escape reality?
Or is it just because it's so fun and cool! "
Pretty sure that's what I already said.
Hence the STRESS of being sober.
Stop being such a dickwad and pay attention.
Submitted by Titinita (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:17:54 EDT (#)
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My mom and sister really enjoy yoga, if that interests you at all.
Submitted by Fabish (user info) at 2003-08-02 23:17:42 EDT (#)
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Welcome to the real world. If you actually think about it, wasn't drinking and smoking weed part of you trying to escape reality?
Or is it just because it's so fun and cool!