What’s your Achilles’ heel? (1062 hits)
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Submitted by netimportant (View user info) at 2007-11-09 18:51:10 EST
I generally get along well enough with people, at least on the surface level, to carry out my normal daily activities. I avoid fighting over inconsequential things and like to keep my cool. But there is one weakness that makes me flip my lid, and that is betrayal in any form.
I'm talking about being blatantly lied to by someone I trust, lies of omission that leave me feeling like a sucker, friends spreading my private information or doing hurtful and underhanded things behind my back, and cheating. I really do believe that friendships are built on trust, and once you lose it, it's hard to retrieve. I have a difficult time forgiving friends who have shown such a lack of integrity.
Since the truth is almost never as painful as learning I've been lied to, I would rather that people were brutally honest with me than hide things from me because they're afraid to hurt my feelings. This is how I try to treat other people—not that I've never lied, but I really make an effort to avoid lying about things that might be perceived as important to the other person. Consequently, my honesty can be interpreted as impoliteness by people who don't follow this principle and would rather smile to my face and gossip about me behind my back.
I also think that when you are in a relationship with someone, you have to be honest with both yourself and your partner in order for either of you to be happy. Which means that if monogamy is something you don't want, you need to be up front about it. It's easier to break up in the beginning because of dissimilar values than to deal with the guilt and drama caused by cheating.
Anyway, betrayal makes me lose my temper like nothing else can. When I find out about it, my heart beats fast and I get a burst of angry energy, I become callous, and I cut ties with the person for long periods of time or indefinitely, depending on how badly I've been hurt.
What is your weakness when it comes to dealing with other people? What is unforgivable behavior?
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Submitted by Quint (user info) at 2007-11-13 15:45:05 EST (#)
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Unforgivable? Making fun of somebody's mother.
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2007-11-12 15:20:18 EST (#)
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There is no great story behind it. I just dislike sneakiness. Why should I make myself vulnerable to friends I can't trust? It's not that hard to tell the truth. Some people are two-faced because they want to have their cake and eat it too, do you know what I mean? I want to be surrounded by people with integrity.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 10:19:30 EST (#)
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Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2007-11-12 08:55:55 EST (#)
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Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 05:49:42 EST (#)
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I can't deal with people who get angry over anything. It's puerile and contemptable. Adults should always be in control of themselves, to not be is a terrible sign of weakness.
stiff upper lip and all that? pip pip?
i detest manipulation. have no respect for cheaters either.
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Heh, "White male, 30's, athletic calves seeks 20-40 y/old lady for friendship, hopefully more! Turn ons are nachos & cheese, smoking, large jubblies. Turn offs are manipulation & betrayal."
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2007-11-12 09:10:09 EST (#)
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Gross amounts of hypocrisy. We all do it to some degree, but there are some people whose personal relationships revolve around it, and that upsets me greatly.
Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2007-11-12 08:55:55 EST (#)
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Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 05:49:42 EST (#)
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I can't deal with people who get angry over anything. It's puerile and contemptable. Adults should always be in control of themselves, to not be is a terrible sign of weakness.
stiff upper lip and all that? pip pip?
i detest manipulation. have no respect for cheaters either.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 08:17:39 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Also I think that Lisa needs to realise that even though I am an abject coward and an incorigable liar that I am extraordinarily cute when I do it. If my lying cowardice was personified it would be Johnny Depp stealing your underwear and brazenly claiming it was for Science.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 07:25:53 EST (#)
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Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2007-11-12 06:41:12 EST (#)
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honesty is important to everybody. we have all been lied to.
i think there is a ghost in my bathroom and im not even kidding. the toilet lid just fell shut and my light flickered. weird.
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Honesty isn't that important to me. People lie as a matter of course and even when people tell 'the truth' they can only really tell their perception of the truth.
Maybe I'm looking at this wrong though? Many women I've spoken to who have expressed this love of honesty are just trying to say that they want nothing to do with gutless cowards or manipulative weirdos. That's fair enough and all, but I'd like to know just to be sure I've got it all correct in my head.
Your ghost is probably just a draft. I advise watching Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom for tips on detecting the source of drafts.
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2007-11-12 06:41:12 EST (#)
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honesty is important to everybody. we have all been lied to.
i think there is a ghost in my bathroom and im not even kidding. the toilet lid just fell shut and my light flickered. weird.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 06:13:01 EST (#)
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This might seem like a funny question but I really want to know the answer; why is honesty so important to you? Were you lied to in the past? What happened?
If you don't want to put that out on Uber please email me the answer to yeastmonkey.at.hotmail.com
Submitted by ajanssen (user info) at 2007-11-12 05:59:25 EST (#)
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Barbecue sauce. Gets me every time
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2007-11-12 05:49:42 EST (#)
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I can't deal with people who get angry over anything. It's puerile and contemptable. Adults should always be in control of themselves, to not be is a terrible sign of weakness.
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2007-11-12 05:36:24 EST (#)
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ive come to grips with the fact that most people are selfish and will be dishonest with me as it suits them, so i just get disappointed with anybody i catch in a blatant lie. its not really anger, but kind of a feeling of being let down because i always am optimistic for a person's trustworthiness.
what REALLY pisses me off is when people talk shit for absolutely no reason. i hate when people do this. i understand trash talking between friends and in sports and all that, but if its somebody i dont know and hes talking about my car or my friend's haircut or something, my heart rate spikes.
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2007-11-12 00:51:21 EST (#)
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Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:00:23 EST (#)
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I'm loyal to a fault. I abhor people who allow a friendship/relationship to disintegrate just because they are intimidated by strong women, confrontation, or honesty. Fucking think it over, talk it out, fight it out, and then decide. Walking away is for the weak.
Hell yeah.
Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2007-11-11 10:24:14 EST (#)
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big nosed ho's.
Submitted by domenad (user info) at 2007-11-10 18:15:44 EST (#)
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Boobs.
Submitted by maiorano84 (user info) at 2007-11-10 13:09:14 EST (#)
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Submitted by matnotharry (user info) at 2007-11-10 12:56:49 EST (#)
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Niggers.
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You mean "naggers".
Submitted by matnotharry (user info) at 2007-11-10 12:56:49 EST (#)
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Niggers.
Submitted by sicosemen (user info) at 2007-11-10 12:46:42 EST (#)
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Great head!
Submitted by Anansie (user info) at 2007-11-10 10:05:06 EST (#)
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Passive aggressiveness makes my blood boil. Sometimes I think my boyfriend uses this against me, because no one could be that passive aggressive. Then we go to his family's house and I realize they are all that way. It's kind of strange how the thing I hate most in the world is what I end up with.
I guess it's along the same lines as the honesty thing. If you have a problem, say so, don't pull any passive aggressive bs with me.
Submitted by orphelia (user info) at 2007-11-10 03:27:15 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by whiskey_jack (user info) at 2007-11-10 02:42:00 EST (#)
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Drinking all the milk then putting the carton back in the fridge. Screws up my Fruity Pebbles when its just gets sprinkled with milk. Shamone people!
Submitted by maiorano84 (user info) at 2007-11-10 00:48:49 EST (#)
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Somebody taking my cigarette out of my hand while I'm really drunk.
I broke a man's face over that just a couple weeks ago.
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2007-11-10 00:30:36 EST (#)
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This is not of the list.
Submitted by beeltea (user info) at 2007-11-09 23:55:04 EST (#)
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*off
Submitted by beeltea (user info) at 2007-11-09 23:53:42 EST (#)
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laughing my ass of at method below.
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2007-11-09 23:46:54 EST (#)
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People that dress up as animals and have sex with each other
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2007-11-09 23:19:51 EST (#)
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I really hate when people look at me funny as I buy the 72 pound bag of generic Cheerios. What, my cereal doesn't come in a box so I'm a bad person?
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2007-11-09 23:13:19 EST (#)
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But stinky breath sucks.
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2007-11-09 23:12:32 EST (#)
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Loyalty is the trait that I value most in myself and other people.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2007-11-09 21:47:45 EST (#)
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OH YEAH...I ALSO DON'T LIKE STINKY BREATH.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2007-11-09 21:46:48 EST (#)
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I have trouble dealing with skinny, flat-chested, arrogant, holier-than-thou, virgin females that refuse to swallow my sword on a semi-regular basis.
WELL, YOU ASKED.
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2007-11-09 20:39:37 EST (#)
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Submitted by Director (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:51:35 EST (#)
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Submitted by TheUniter (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:49:35 EST (#)
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I hate the spineless alters who rate the work of others yet don't have the fucking balls to post anything.
They should be castrated, dipped in honey and left atop a hill of raging fire ants.
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This made me snork.
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I can't speak to the word 'snork', but I can guess at its meaning.
Actually, The Uniter should be crucified, drawn-and-quartered, eviscerated, butt-fucked, and punched in the face. Then, we should hurt him.
:)
Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2007-11-09 20:33:42 EST (#)
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Waking me up from a nap to look for a stupid fucking stuffed pink bunny rabbit.
Submitted by ConorJS (user info) at 2007-11-09 20:00:23 EST (#)
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I am going to kill the motherfucker who stole my cell phone. I think I know who has it, and if I'm wrong, then I have no fucking clue who did it.
That's my pet peeve - not knowing who to exact violent revenge on.
Submitted by experima (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:55:24 EST (#)
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Submitted by TheUniter (user info) at 2007-11-09 16:49:35 PST (#)
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I hate the spineless alters who rate the work of others yet don't have the fucking balls to post anything.
They should be castrated, dipped in honey and left atop a hill of raging fire ants.
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especially ones that only post at Christmas.
Submitted by Director (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:51:35 EST (#)
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Submitted by TheUniter (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:49:35 EST (#)
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I hate the spineless alters who rate the work of others yet don't have the fucking balls to post anything.
They should be castrated, dipped in honey and left atop a hill of raging fire ants.
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This made me snork.
Submitted by TheUniter (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:49:35 EST (#)
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I hate the spineless alters who rate the work of others yet don't have the fucking balls to post anything.
They should be castrated, dipped in honey and left atop a hill of raging fire ants.
Submitted by DeMoNiC (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:30:01 EST (#)
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Aye, bitching is a human condition. Better get used to it, I have many friends, all of which I know at some point have bitched about me / exchanged my personal information with someone else for the sake of conversation. Either accept this little fact or become a hermit love, your call.
Submitted by ChaosJester (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:20:13 EST (#)
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Um... I meant 'former'.
I'm so drunk that I can barely see straight right now.
Submitted by ChaosJester (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:18:54 EST (#)
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Ah. And therein lies the quintessential problem of our information-addicted generation. How do we trust when we *know* that things will eventually and almost inevitably turn sour? I mean, it's cold logic which dictates that, once the warm feelings of a relationship are over and done with, that everyone involved will do their utmost to gain the upper-hand in any future dealings.
Acrimonious words, hurtful actions, High Drama. All examples of normal relationship fallout and I'll be good-gawdamned if I can see a way around it. It's one of the *many* reasons why I have extraordinary problems with relationships. Is it better to be alone, lonely and safe or exposed, vulnerable and loved?
I've always gone with the later, with very few exceptions. I'm so terribly lonely, but I don't have a fraction of the problems that many who were less...careful in their choices have.
I'm still trying to figure out if that makes it worth the price...
Submitted by Phallic_Cymbals (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:10:30 EST (#)
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People eating too much cheddar.
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:08:29 EST (#)
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In short, I hate being lied too, but I have grown up enough to stop believing (and acting) in absolutes. I suggest that you do the same. Life become ever so much easier to deal with...
I know. I'm not a psycho who believes that none of my friends will ever lie to me, and basically everyone I know has made me feel a little betrayed at some point in time. It's just what hurts me the most, and if it's bad enough, I become irrationally angry.
Submitted by ChaosJester (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:03:59 EST (#)
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I hate being lied too, also.
Still, in my profession, I've learned a great deal about people.
One thing that sticks out is that EVERYONE lies. Period. Mothers to children, Husbands to Wives, Brothers to Sisters.
In the end, the only way that I've been able to reconcile this discovery is to decide whether or not the person was lying out of maliciousness, laziness or out of a desire to spare another pain. All the mentioned motivations are still wrong, but have differing gradients of vileness.
Trust is SO hard to find in another. It has been said that once it is broken, it can never be forged again. I do not believe this. Life changes constantly, and friends are few and far between. If someone was untrue to you because they were scared, or made a mistake, things will change, but friendship is still possible. All that's really become different is that you understand that the other person isn't perfect (then again, who is?).
In short, I hate being lied too, but I have grown up enough to stop believing (and acting) in absolutes. I suggest that you do the same. Life become ever so much easier to deal with...
Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2007-11-09 19:00:23 EST (#)
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I'm loyal to a fault. I abhor people who allow a friendship/relationship to disintegrate just because they are intimidated by strong women, confrontation, or honesty. Fucking think it over, talk it out, fight it out, and then decide. Walking away is for the weak.
Submitted by Wildman (user info) at 2007-11-09 18:59:30 EST (#)
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Katie Couric
Submitted by Director (user info) at 2007-11-09 18:58:06 EST (#)
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Pisses me off to no end EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. some chick from the 6th grade cuts my dick off.
YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW MUCH IT COSTS TO SEW THAT FUCKER BACK ON?!?!?!?
Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2007-11-09 18:55:17 EST (#)
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Same thing as yours, lying, betrayal, backstabbing.
Also cowardice and spinelessness.
Submitted by monkeyswithguns (user info) at 2007-11-09 18:55:00 EST (#)
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I know you know better.
ONE POST PER DAY.
Besides, the other one was better anyway.
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2007-11-09 18:52:50 EST (#)
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someone's going to say shitty posting.