I didn't stand a chance (501 hits)
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Submitted by <abparki.at.ilstu.edu> dangerdude (View user info) at 2008-01-31 02:12:16 EST
About three months ago I started seeing this girl. We had been friends for few years, and I had the hots for her they day we met, but she had a boyfriend for most of that time. I remember the first time I layed eyes on her, I was a dumb freshmen in college, had just moved into the dorm, and she walked by as I was hauling all of my junk into the room. She was absolutly beautiful. She had long, dark hair, big, beautiful eyes, and she was tall. I don't even like tall women, but it didn't matter. A few days later I introduced myself, and we got along great. But she was always with him. Eventually I accepted the fact that we were never going to end up together, and we settled into a casual friendship. I didn't see her very often, and everytime I did she was with him. They were in love, and it didn't bother me. I settled into the usual college life of chasing skirts and boozing it up on weekends, and I always saw her and him togeather. See, I ended up joining the same frat as her boyfriend (totally by coincidence), and we would always see each other after that.
Flash-forward two years and the two of them break up. At this time the two of us have been spending a lot more time togeather, we lived a few houses down, and we would walk home together after classes. At this point I have no intentions toward her, we were just friends, and I wasn't the ex-girlfriend stealing type. Her ex and I are pretty good friends, and I didn't want to be "that guy." This fraterity prides itself on brotherhood, but I've seen the same girls passed between several different guys. And not casual flings either, long-term girlfriends end up breaking up with a guy, and then start dating another. But I'm getting away from the story
So a few months later its getting towards the end of the semester and she tells me she wants to go see a certain movie, but her friends are all doing something else. I tell her I would love to go. Anyway she later asks me if we're on a date, I put my arm around her and tell her maybe, and the two of us end up spending the night togeather. We go out again, and we hit it off. I fall for this girl, she falls for me, everything is perfect. She was the girl of my dreams, she's exciting, has a great sense of humor, and she's beautiful. Everything seemed perfect.
But theres a problem, a few problems actually. She's moving to Russia, for a year, in 6 months. She got a job teaching English and she wants to take this opportunity to see the world, and to experience other cultures. Also at this point, my friendship with her ex boyfriend is pretty much over. I didn't want that to happen, but I guess it was inevitable. So he no longer speaks to me, and several of the guys in the frat are pissed at me too. But I went ahead with it anyway, I had to. I was in love, and love conquers all, right? Right?
I got into this relationship knowing in the back of my mind that it wasn't going to last forever. I may be a little naive and inexperienced when it comes to love, but I knew what was going to happen. But I went for it anyway, because when I'm with her it doesnt matter, I just enjoyed the time that I had with her, the future seemed so far away. And here we are, three months later, and its all falling apart. We still see each other, but not nearly as often as I would like, and she seems distant. I know shes doing it on purpose because she is leaving soon. I'm dealing with it because I know that the time that we've spent togeather was worth it, that we were happy for a few months, but still, right now, it is the worst feeling I've felt in my life.
So why am I telling you all this Uber? Why should you care? Is there some lesson that I've learned from this that I feel that I should share with all of you? Maybe. Maybe I'm trying to tell you that love is a irrational, inconvienient curse that we have to deal with, and that anyone who falls victim to it will end up being destroyed by it. After all, because of love I've lost friends, and am left with nothing but depression as the woman of my dreams leaves me to travel the world. Or maybe there something else. Maybe I'm trying to tell you that love can be fleeting, and that the only thing you can do is accept it and enjoy it while its there. Yeah its true that this sucks now, but these last three months have been the best of my life, and I wouldn't give them up for anything. Maybe thats it.
Or maybe I just felt like venting. I leave that to you.
Cheers Uber.
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Submitted by Falafel (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:34:29 EST (#)
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I once dated one of the exchange students at my high school. He's a priest now. No shit.
Submitted by HurtByTheSun (user info) at 2008-01-31 13:05:51 EST (#)
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If she means that much to you, go to Russia with her.
Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 11:30:26 EST (#)
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Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 04:24:58 EST (#)
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Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 03:06:43 EST (#)
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Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:55:09 EST (#)
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Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:21:10 EST (#)
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What you need to learn to do is never love someone else more than they love you. Unless you're talking the unconditional kind. But I'm referring to the relationship kind.
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That is depressing on many levels.
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How so? And depressing as it might be, I bet it's not as depressing as how he feels right now because that's what he did.
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I'm not going to go through my list because it's rather late here and I must go to bed, but if both parties follow this rule, their love will ultimately approach zero.
Regardless, you are probably right.
The rest is just silly romantic notions I have about love (unquantifiable, undefinable, etc... [do not address them as they are in no way logical arguments]).
So, things I'd like to believe =P
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Nah, I'm probably wrong. I was mostly joking anyway.
Submitted by ConorJS (user info) at 2008-01-31 10:33:20 EST (#)
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Great.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2008-01-31 10:20:59 EST (#)
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Is English your first language?
If so, you should ask your college for a refund because you're a fucking idiot.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2008-01-31 09:37:18 EST (#)
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You could always go with her to Russia. As Dave Lister teaches us: You don't get many chances in life to be happy so you've got to grab every one.
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2008-01-31 09:16:56 EST (#)
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Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2008-01-31 08:05:46 CST (#)
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You can't expect to be loved if you can't love.
Submitted by loopdeloo (user info) at 2008-01-31 09:05:49 EST (#)
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"Or maybe I just felt like venting. I leave that to you."
When I read that line I saw "Or maybe I just felt like vomiting. I leave that to you."
Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2008-01-31 09:05:46 EST (#)
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"Love is, the best and the worst thing, its also a thing for young. Get a job and start working, Love is not real, in the end, its about being comfortable with one another. Less you love less pain you will endure later, fuck it, and fuck everyone for that matter. "
that might be one of the more depressing things I've seen here. I'ved loved and lost and been shit on but to discard the notion of loving someone, caring about someone, just seems so sad. I'm a lover not a fighter. You can't expect to be loved if you can't love and ultimately loving someone requires a leap of faith and an exposure to vulnerability in the hopes that the other person can and will return the love you offer them.
Submitted by traxadron (user info) at 2008-01-31 08:12:02 EST (#)
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Dude, a girl I dated for 8 years, left me, becuase we grew cold to each other, I was crushed for a year, nearly drank myself to death, got me a small puppy.
Love is, the best and the worst thing, its also a thing for young. Get a job and start working, Love is not real, in the end, its about being comfortable with one another. Less you love less pain you will endure later, fuck it, and fuck everyone for that matter.
Go party all you can, fuck as many as you can, write it down so you can laugh about it. Pleanty of gomen out there.
Oh and I am Russian, if you go to Moscow, every girl is so hot, you will forget about that girl all together.
Submitted by knowledge13 (user info) at 2008-01-31 07:14:42 EST (#)
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Well, sadly i was in the same boat, dating a girl a 'friend' of mine dated. But when you are in 'love' you cannot miss the opportunity of making something special of it...life / love is all about taking risks...speaking of Risks, talk to her...shes only gonna be there for a year - and yes, that is a hell of a long time, but why not try the long distance thing? Worst that can happen [besides her meeting a russian!] is you go a whole year without her, but if its 'true love' you have many more years of your guys future together....
i am so gonna get dogged on this reply - but i was in the same boat // thought the long distance was with another woman [and yes, it went fine for a year, it was the whole 2 years that kinda went down hill..lol] ...and still dating the friend's ex...and me and him are still cool after a mild-hatred.
so do what's best for you bro. goodluck
Submitted by whiskey_jack (user info) at 2008-01-31 06:33:07 EST (#)
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Get a puppy and some balls.
I bet you say bro a lot.
Submitted by locksly (user info) at 2008-01-31 06:28:23 EST (#)
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good luck
Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 04:24:58 EST (#)
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Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 03:06:43 EST (#)
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Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:55:09 EST (#)
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Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:21:10 EST (#)
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What you need to learn to do is never love someone else more than they love you. Unless you're talking the unconditional kind. But I'm referring to the relationship kind.
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That is depressing on many levels.
________
How so? And depressing as it might be, I bet it's not as depressing as how he feels right now because that's what he did.
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I'm not going to go through my list because it's rather late here and I must go to bed, but if both parties follow this rule, their love will ultimately approach zero.
Regardless, you are probably right.
The rest is just silly romantic notions I have about love (unquantifiable, undefinable, etc... [do not address them as they are in no way logical arguments]).
So, things I'd like to believe =P
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2008-01-31 03:39:20 EST (#)
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"I got into this relationship knowing in the back of my mind that it wasn't going to last forever. I may be a little naive and inexperienced when it comes to love, but I knew what was going to happen."
I don't agree that "It's better to have loved and lost blah blah." Why waste your fucking time and effort on someone who's going to break your heart when you could be doing more productive things? I don't even bother if I don't think it could last.
PS. Fraternities are for followers.
PPS. She sounds like a whore anyway.
Submitted by Socialist_Joe (user info) at 2008-01-31 03:11:12 EST (#)
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preach it preacher man
Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 03:06:43 EST (#)
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Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:55:09 EST (#)
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Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:21:10 EST (#)
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What you need to learn to do is never love someone else more than they love you. Unless you're talking the unconditional kind. But I'm referring to the relationship kind.
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That is depressing on many levels.
________
How so? And depressing as it might be, I bet it's not as depressing as how he feels right now because that's what he did.
Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:55:09 EST (#)
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Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:21:10 EST (#)
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What you need to learn to do is never love someone else more than they love you. Unless you're talking the unconditional kind. But I'm referring to the relationship kind.
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That is depressing on many levels.
Submitted by Socialist_Joe (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:23:48 EST (#)
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man thats life aint it
Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:21:10 EST (#)
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What you need to learn to do is never love someone else more than they love you. Unless you're talking the unconditional kind. But I'm referring to the relationship kind.
Submitted by Astral206 (user info) at 2008-01-31 02:20:55 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
+2 for finding love
-2 for betraying a brother
-2 for falling for a chick who is leaving for Russia in 6 months
+2 for honesty
+1 for life lesson learned