Emotional Terrorism (552 hits)
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Submitted by BlazinBull (View user info) at 2008-01-31 14:34:38 EST
So my mother-in-law is a crazy bitch. I'm sure most people who are married or have been married would say something along those lines, but mine is a refined crazy. She has taken insanity to a level that is in comparison to a fine wine. The time it has taken to perfect her aged swiss cheese like brain must be the foundation of which mental institutions are founded on.
But she runs free for one simple reason. She's rich. Her parents were evil geniuses and made copious amounts of money by investing in land in a small city many moons ago. They have since passed on and left their children their fortune. All of their children are mentally impaired in their own way. Most people like my mother-in-law would be sent into a mental institution long ago, but she remains roaming the country side with her evil sick-minded intentions.
My wife is kind of disturbed in the northern regions as well, but I love her and her faults, but some things just go farther than others. She is damaged from the way she was raised, or the lack of raising would be more appropriate. She never had anyone there to guide her, her mother was either gone or just being a regular nut job. While she was not being looked after, she did drugs and other things that misguided youth do. Whenever she was caught, her mother did not scold her, but instead, had her arrested (on more than one occasion).
She spent great time and money to have her daughter, her own flesh and blood, sent away because she was never raised and was therefore, out of control. Her mother complained of a lack of respect, but when you are not deserving of respect, why should you be respected? She tried to send my wife away to "wilderness training," whatever the hell that all entails. But it wasn't much the choice of destination as much as it was being far away from her, where she was no longer her problem. During the trial that she put my wife through, each party was given a mental competency exam, which showed her mother to be unfit as a parent.
After my wife won the case, she was sent to a half-way house because her father had moved after their divorce (he was her second husband out of three) and was too ill to care for a child. My wife had to work and take herself to school at the age of 14. She was used to going to school on her own, her mother had always refused to take her after they got into a fight before, where my wife hit her with the business end of a broom stick and was sent to juvenile. What would a mother expect? A perfect child that loves her after years of neglect and no love? She was barely provided for, raised as much as possible by her brother who was ten years older than her. That would not last long as he was smart enough to get the hell out at the age of sixteen and did not speak to their mother for over 10 years.
With this limited back story (and there are more stories that she has told me that could fill Uber), my wife has lived on her own since the age of 14. Recently (last few years), her mother came back into her life. Personally I don't understand how you let a person like that back into your life, blood or not, but it is what it is. I will not lie, we have benefited greatly from her mother's wealth. She gave us a house and paid for our wedding, not a cheap thing to do, but yet again, this is money she never earned herself, just money passed down from her recently deceased mother. She has been trying to buy my wife's forgiveness for a long time before we met, but she is trying hard to buy our love as a couple.
Because of what she has given us, she thinks she has purchased a free pass to play with my wife's head, and sometimes even mine. I hate the woman, so it's not going to happen. My wife, on the other hand, is too naïve (or something along those lines) to see what she constantly tries to do to us. She knowingly or unknowingly, I'm still unsure, tries to emotionally hurt my wife, which she has done to her her entire life to both her children. What she does it very clear and not disguised, but my wife continues to write it off as her mother being crazy.
Yes, her mother is legally crazy, she has Spinal Meningitis which has affected her brain, doctors and psychiatrists have said this alike. She has no concept of money, I have seen her lose 300,000$ in under three months buying into bullshit scams. Very sad. My wife gets very emotional because of the things her mother does to her and will continue to do, but she won't stop letting her do it. She gives her all the means in the world to be affected by her. We argue a lot about this and she doesn't seem to get that her mother is not going to change, and she is going to keep hurting her, but she won't agree and face the facts.
The biggest thing her mother likes to do, is ask for favors that have no merit. She does not work and therefore has all the time in the world to take care of whatever it is she needs to have done. We both work full time jobs, don't have as much time together as we would like, and have other things to take care of on top of that. YET, every little thing her mother needs to have done is life or death, if you do not comply, she will tear my wife down just because she feels like it. After this happens, my wife gets depressed and feels terrible, at which point I tell her to just let her mom go, that she doesn't deserve what her mother does. But she will not listen, she can't sever the ties. That's how the terrorists win.
ter•ror•ist
A person who terrorizes or frightens others
That's what my mother-in-law is, an emotional terrorist. Probably not well documented, I believe emotional terrorism is very real. She always said that I will never understand because I don't have a parent like her. My parents each have their problems, my mother is mentally ill as well, but in different ways and my father just plain hates what his life has become. But that has nothing to do with it, I don't feel the same way as she does, not because I don't understand, but because I don't negotiate with terrorists.
I could go on and on about what has happened between them and myself when I am involved, but it all follows the same pattern. Mother hurts my wife, wife gets depressed, I tell her to get rid of her mother, we fight. Lather, rinse, repeat.
I write things like this because I can't write fiction. Never have been, probably never will, but I enjoy writing accounts of life. The moral of this story is that no matter what anyone tells you, blood is not thicker than water. It is when your family is in trouble and you will go to great lengths to help them, but not in a case where you keep them in your life just because they are family. It is OK to walk away if you need to. Second chances are fine, I have nothing wrong with that, but you must see a trend when it happens for your entire life. In the end, your life is your own, you should not let someone else steal all the joy you have just for their own sick pleasure. If the family dog you all love so much gets rabies and goes off the handle biting you, do you just keep getting bit? No, you put it down. As much as I'd like to see this happen to some people, you can't put them down, you just have to get rid of them.
So all the members of the Uber-torium reading this today please remember this, if nothing else: Life is too short and too hard to deal with everyone else's shit. It's not your job (unless it is your job, then I sympathize with you). If something or someone makes you feel bad, get rid of it. Family or not, just because you share some genes does not mean you have to share the misery. Live life to the fullest; don't let anyone stand in your way. Not even your own mother.
Please let me know how you feel about the subject.
P.S. Always listen to the rational people in your life, you will look back and know they were right. They always are.
P.P.S. If you -2 this, I probably never liked you anyway.
User Reviews
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2008-02-13 15:39:38 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
I wish you had told specific stories of how crazy the mother was... nutty things she did, eccentricities, etc.
I know you told some stories about her sending her daughter away, etc... but lots of unfit parents do that type of crap. It's complete bs, but not sanitorium crazy.
You know?
Submitted by icarus1987 (user info) at 2008-02-01 17:15:32 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
My MIL pulled the same shit until I called her a fucking whore and told her that she and her new husband would both die with traffic cones up their asses if she ever called the house again.
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2008-02-01 14:05:06 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by ConorJS (user info) at 2008-01-31 15:46:51 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:45:40 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Meh. Not good, but not awful.
Next time, entertain me. I've got all the life lessons I'll need, so you can stop those.
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Maybe this isn't how you meant it to come across, but if it is, then you are one arrogant son of a bitch.
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It was an honest interpretation of the work presented. Also, yes, I did mean to come across like that, and everybody loves it.
Submitted by locksly (user info) at 2008-02-01 04:18:11 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Why did you accept the cash?
You should never let someone like that pay for shit
Submitted by Falafel (user info) at 2008-01-31 23:44:29 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Too late, Demonic, she married some poor puppet and has her hand so far up his ass he doesn't know what's what.
Submitted by Wompom (user info) at 2008-01-31 23:29:32 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
I couldn't finish this, too awful. A downer, too.
Submitted by DeMoNiC (user info) at 2008-01-31 23:24:01 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by Falafel (user info) at 2008-02-01 14:00:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
My mom's a scientologist and temporarily went insane... well, permanently, but now that I don't put up with it, to a lesser degree.
A true master of the art of the mindfuck, she went out of her way to make me miserable and try to shove her bullshit down my throat. I moved out with my brother to get away from it.
True story: in grade 12, I had mono. Test confirmed and everything. She sincerely thought it was caused by my then boyfriend's psychotic mother, whose negative energy was "suppressing me".
A religion can be just as bad as an addiction and I sincerely think that blood doesn't impose any obligation to keep a person in your life.
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Your deadbeat mother needs a bullet before she infects someone else with that bullshit.
Submitted by Falafel (user info) at 2008-01-31 23:00:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
My mom's a scientologist and temporarily went insane... well, permanently, but now that I don't put up with it, to a lesser degree.
A true master of the art of the mindfuck, she went out of her way to make me miserable and try to shove her bullshit down my throat. I moved out with my brother to get away from it.
True story: in grade 12, I had mono. Test confirmed and everything. She sincerely thought it was caused by my then boyfriend's psychotic mother, whose negative energy was "suppressing me".
A religion can be just as bad as an addiction and I sincerely think that blood doesn't impose any obligation to keep a person in your life.
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2008-01-31 21:49:35 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
No Comment
Submitted by HandZon (user info) at 2008-01-31 19:01:35 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Never been married but had some pretty intense fucking would-be in-laws.
I feel sorry for you, sort of, but not really.
Submitted by creman (user info) at 2008-01-31 16:03:35 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
I have a crazy mother-in-law as well.
The -2 is because you whine like a woman
Submitted by Yozz (user info) at 2008-01-31 15:53:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
I'm gonna balance out that -1 I just gave you - that is a great fucking pic. I say that all the time - best solution to most problems.
Submitted by Yozz (user info) at 2008-01-31 15:51:57 EST (#)
Ranking: -1
You took the money - she bought her way in. Live with your fucking decision and stop pissing and moaning. Next time, refuse the money and tell the person offering it to shove it up their ass. Get a backbone you twit.
Submitted by loopdeloo (user info) at 2008-01-31 15:50:35 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
""Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."--Dr. Seuss "
Submitted by ConorJS (user info) at 2008-01-31 15:46:51 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:45:40 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Meh. Not good, but not awful.
Next time, entertain me. I've got all the life lessons I'll need, so you can stop those.
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Maybe this isn't how you meant it to come across, but if it is, then you are one arrogant son of a bitch.
Submitted by Lib (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:46:48 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
No Comment
Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:45:48 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
I'm tempted to -2 this just because of this: "P.P.S. If you -2 this, I probably never liked you anyway. " seriously? fuck off.
I've dealt with a crazy mother in law, even worse has been dealing with her inserting herself into our business now that my ex wife and i are no longer married.
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:45:40 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Meh. Not good, but not awful.
Next time, entertain me. I've got all the life lessons I'll need, so you can stop those.
Submitted by Linus (user info) at 2008-01-31 14:41:43 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
+2NUKE RAGE