"It Hasn't Hit Me Yet..." (647 hits)
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Submitted by A Random Boris (View user info) at 2008-05-09 07:49:26 EDT
Occasionally things will happen in this life with such vitriol that it will completely numb you over. From head to toe you become a husk of yourself and you are an emotional obtuse and utter the words "it hasn't hit me yet" to another emotionally crippled mourner. Most commonly associated with death the same phrase can be shouted when the antonymic emotion is felt. When listening to a recent statement by a famous sports star exclaiming how he felt about his recent win he pushed out "it hasn't hit me yet."
I'm sick of this cliché, so sick in fact that I'm denouncing it. What the fuck do you mean it hasn't hit you yet? Is the mother fucker dead? Would you like for him to get more dead? I don't get it: What more is there to give you a definitive portrait of what is happening. I understand people, the nature to mourn, grieve, and display sorrow even excitement. That I get. I also understand that expressing emotion in those times can sometimes be difficult especially when the person lost is adored, loved, cherished, and generally held in high regard such as a spouse or relative.
Even as people stare in a coffin at a dressed and painted corpse they have the gall to state that "it hasn't hit me yet." Lowering the coffin into the dirt with a member of clergy chanting some nonsense and it still hasn't hit you? You just won the championship of the world in your sport and it hasn't hit you yet? Break out the blow, we're having a be all, end all party where nosebleeds are welcome...if that was the scenario for me.
This begs the all important question of the emotion recipient. When will you--or I, or him, or her, or them--finally be hit with it all? When will you have digested the facts as discernible, factual, concrete evidence that something wondrous has happened? I'm guilty as charged having used the rhetorical statement myself but I state here and now that I will never make that mistake again. Insensitive? Perhaps, but that doesn't make the statement any less moronic.
Come to grips with what is happening and exude the proper emotion instead of cowering in suspense of not knowing how to react. Celebrate your glory, tacitly mourn the loss but whatever you do, don't hide under the auspices that "it hasn't hit me yet." How incredibly common!
Shalom!
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Submitted by Fixer (user info) at 2008-05-11 12:05:05 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
Put down the thesaurus and step away slowly.
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2008-05-09 20:12:38 EDT (#)
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Jesus Fucking Christ.
Submitted by haikumikoo (user info) at 2008-05-09 19:49:15 EDT (#)
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Submitted by F.J.Bell (user info) at 2008-05-09 06:57:24 PDT (#)
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The more I think about this the stupider your argument sounds.
It's not that a bereaved person doesn't KNOW that someone has died, its that they haven't yet accepted or comprehended it.
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You're both generalizing, which automatically makes you wrong, no matter what.
Deal with it.
I'd hang that clown on my wall.
Submitted by FALLEN (user info) at 2008-05-09 11:51:35 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I hate the overused "If there is anything I can do for you..."
people need to say something at a funeral and this is what most go with.
it took all my self control to not say "Well, unless you have the power to resurect the dead, then no. you pretty much can't do a fucking thing for me!"
Submitted by pandora (user info) at 2008-05-09 11:19:39 EDT (#)
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My brother was recently killed in a traffic accident, and I can attest to the fact that it did take a few days to really sink in. I don't know how much of that had to do with the fact that I have a very demanding job, and I am very good at placing emotions aside to get things done (thanks Dad), but it seems to be a common psychological response to trauma. I'm sure there is an explanation for the phenomenon. I'd guess it is something we developed as an evolutionary survival mechanism.
Submitted by GangsterSquid (user info) at 2008-05-09 10:15:40 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2008-05-09 10:00:43 EDT (#)
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Funerals are excellent places to score comfort sex from the deceased's greiving daughters.
Submitted by F.J.Bell (user info) at 2008-05-09 09:57:24 EDT (#)
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The more I think about this the stupider your argument sounds.
It's not that a bereaved person doesn't KNOW that someone has died, its that they haven't yet accepted or comprehended it.
Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2008-05-09 09:55:57 EDT (#)
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misuse words much?
Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2008-05-09 09:49:31 EDT (#)
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Dramatic life changes occur in an instant sometimes but they still take time to settle in to your experience. Remember when you were seven and your dog got run over by that bastard across the street? You cried when you buried him in the back yard in that shoe box. But the next day when you got home from school and he wasn't there wagging and jumping on you, that's when you really felt the loss.
Or it could be just that not enough PEOPLE have hit you yet. I dunno.
Submitted by F.J.Bell (user info) at 2008-05-09 09:30:57 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
Sometimes things that are a shock to the system take a while to sink in, since they are alien to our everyday routine.
Submitted by Banjo (user info) at 2008-05-09 07:55:20 EDT (#)
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Submitted by HurtByTheSun (user info) at 2008-05-09 07:54:14 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
SHALOM MOTHERFUCKER. I hate whites.
Submitted by HurtByTheSun (user info) at 2008-05-09 07:53:33 EDT (#)
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Cool picture.