On Women, Working, and Equality (1448 hits)
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Submitted by netimportant (View user info) at 2009-07-05 16:20:10 EDT
I'm proud to say that my yearly earnings are above the average household income in the U.S.--not bad for a 25-year-old Film major--and that the trajectory of my career is looking bright in spite of these "hard economic times." While pursuing my career, I've made a lot of observations about what women do that make or break their financial independence, and I'd like to share them with other women who aspire for success--or at the very least, autonomy and comfortable living.
My opinion is that equality of the sexes is almost, almost 100% here. I can't say I've been a victim of any major sex discrimination at work; however, the reality is that there are still salary inequities and slight differences in attitude towards men and women in the workplace. We owe it to ourselves to change that, but in order to do so, we need to ask ourselves if we're prepared for the challenges that true equality brings.
I know an unfortunate number of women that still depend on their boyfriends to be the "breadwinners," which is counter to the idea of sexual equality. Whether they're looking for a well-off man, or they're building their lives around their boyfriend's career, or they're simply so caught up in their relationship that they've failed to develop their personal goals, they're holding themselves back by requiring dependence on another person. If you aren't prepared to go dutch on dates, you aren't prepared for sexual equality. Men don't usually look for people to support them financially, and neither should you--only when you've changed your attitude about this can you begin to understand what it means to be free, independent, and equal. Take some advice from Beyonce and buy your own diamonds, buy your own rings.
You're not living in 1950, you say? Great--if you've already got the attitude of an independent woman, now you've got to persuade other people to perceive you as one. If you're a 5'5" 120-lb blonde female like me, people are wont to treat you like you're a little girl (or their potential Friday date), and maybe you'll fall for it the first few times. But if you're smart, you'll begin to see when you're being taken advantage of in both your personal and work life, and if you're assertive, you'll put a stop to it.
Commanding respect doesn't mean not having a sense of humor or dressing like Janet Reno. It means realizing that women are socialized to be pleasers, and dropping this constant fear of hurting people's feelings. It means knowing the difference between acting like a woman, and acting like a teenage girl. In the case of a conflict, a girl might gossip about her coworker--a woman would confront her. Girls cry, women calmly approach the problem. Girls are insecure, women are confident. You don't have to suppress your sexuality to gain respect, you just have to muster some maturity and assertiveness.
Equally important to showing maturity is protecting your self-image. As we know, many people lead unfulfilling lives and feed off rumors for their personal entertainment. That's why it's my personal policy to never date a coworker--the potential for drama is too high. So, unless you're a stand-up comedian, be prepared to lead two lives: your work life and your personal life. Keep your mouth shut about your personal life at work, keep your coworkers off your Facebook. Bored, negative people will not hesitate to undermine you with rumors. Oh yeah, and don't encourage men to do any of the following: walk you down to lunch everyday, carry your anything, reward your successes with extra praise because they're surprised you can do anything right, troubleshoot your technical issues, or fix your car.
A third key to being respected at work is to...well, work. Men are socialized to earn what they want, to be competitive, and not to wimp out. We could learn a few things from them, in that regard. So, if you want respect and equal pay at work, you better be actually working--not Googling apple pie recipes, talking to your girlfriend on the phone, or clipping your nails. Seriously now, folks. I don't make as much money as I do by farting around at work. I bust my ass Monday through Friday, often Sunday, sometimes Saturday, and occasionally through the night.
That covers earning respect at work--now, what are you doing outside of work to improve your livelihood? Your focus and time are worth something; you should put as much care into how you apply them as you would into how you spend your cash. Is your attention going towards activities that are helping you grow, or stifling you? Are they making you money or costing you money?
I will say that I've gone through periods in life where my close friends were mainly male, and others where they were largely female. I've noted one major difference between the sexes, and it's not what you might expect. Both sexes seem, overall, equally bitchy, equally emotional, and equally sexually liberal. The difference is that men have more interesting hobbies. While women invest more energy in their appearances and their relationships, men spend more time on activities that develop skills--freelance work, reading, taking things apart, whatever. So ladies, if you want to get ahead, trade in your Cosmo for Money Magazine and be prepared to ditch a sunny day at the beach for freelance work--at least once in a while, until you establish yourself. An hour spent on the couch watching Entourage (and believe me, I love Entourage) is an hour you could have spent looking for a better, higher-paying job. Be conscious of how you manage your time and energy.
Sexual equality and financial freedom are there for the taking, but you aren't going to get them for nothing. If you're willing to do what it takes (which is a lot), the payoff is sweet.
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Submitted by icarus1987 (user info) at 2009-07-09 22:07:39 EDT (#)
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Why in the hell did you put this here of all places?
Submitted by iambetteratit (user info) at 2009-07-09 18:24:59 EDT (#)
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I could hear you alot better with a beer in my hand sugartits now go get me one!
Submitted by i_can_get_you_a_toe (user info) at 2009-07-09 05:03:34 EDT (#)
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Submitted by simple_catalyst (user info) at 2009-07-06 11:01:09 EDT (#)
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My opinion is that equality of the sexes is almost, almost 100% here. I can't say I've been a victim of any major sex discrimination at work;
i.e. I have great breasts.
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Wow, 'simple' is a perfect forum name. You really are stupid.
As to the post,
I like this post for what it is, a strong woman standing on her own two feet.
The 'advice' part is annoying as hell. I could give two shits about my job - yea i'm good at it otherwise i'd be fired by now, but it's not important. I don't think any job should be. Everyone you know, knows this already - ever start talking about your day at work and see your friends and family's eyes glaze over? it's because they don't care about your job. They care about the person you are.
Also, I don't think it that wrong to be with a guy that you know can support you - and I only mean that in the sense that if this is the guy you want to have babies with - no matter how fucking ambitious you are - there is a big block of time that you'll have to be off work - and you'll have to know that father of your child will be able to support all of you during that time. After all, he's not the one having the kid, it's not like men and women can just switch the responsibilities when it comes to pregnancy.
Submitted by TheBrad (user info) at 2009-07-08 20:38:18 EDT (#)
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women calmly approach the problem
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That may be the funniest thing i have ever heard.
Submitted by iambetteratit (user info) at 2009-07-08 18:54:06 EDT (#)
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Iron my shirt bitch!
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2009-07-07 21:45:24 EDT (#)
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below shlongy i meant.
godamn jew always gets in the way.
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2009-07-07 21:44:48 EDT (#)
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i get your point below.
i fix many things with my gf cuz my hands shake a lot...for some reason. i can't do anything requiring precision. so she's always not far behind to hold that godamn screw i keep dropping when i fix say a computer or my guitar or some appliance.
and she has good ideas or solutions (which is all you really need), like any other guy when she looks at whatever i'm trying to fix.
i think it's true that generally women don't try very hard when it comes to these things.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-07-07 21:43:36 EDT (#)
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Can I fuck YOU with a vegetable?
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-07-07 20:54:53 EDT (#)
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Submitted by sicosemen (user info) at 2009-07-07 08:23:45 EDT (#)
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It's called typing you brain dead bimbo.
Your wit! It cuts me to the bone.
There are many tangents to go off on regarding this topic, but for one, I'm not opposed to women staying at home while their husband works. I'm all for people doing whatever they want to do in their own relationships, whether they want to be stay-at-home parents, send their kids to daycare, fuck each other with vegetables, whatever works for you. I just don't like the attitude that men should NECESSARILY make the money--and yes, some people still hold that belief. I just dated somebody that was insecure about the fact that I made marginally more money, even though I never rubbed it in his face ever. Why??
Two, I don't think people shouldn't cry at home, I just think it's pitiful to cry at work. Never cry at work. Some 40-year-old guy I used to work with always sniffled in his cube; it was pathetic and painful to hear. He was let go.
And about having men fix your car: a man at work recently offered to fix my brake light for me. I know it was just a kind gesture and I appreciated it. But it's only a matter of changing a bulb, which I can do myself. My roommates always ask their brother-in-law to come over and do "manly" things for us that we could really do ourselves, like put in the window air conditioner. Or my boss, a woman, will ask men to move computers for us when we relocate cubes. What woman in good health can't carry a computer? What do they weigh now, like 20 lbs?
I realize that I'm not a mechanic or electrician and have no problem asking for help from an expert, man or woman, when I need it. I just hate to see women automatically throw their hands up in the air when there is an electrical/mechanical issue, then ask for help from a man who is assumed to know better simply because he is a man. I think it makes us look lazy and helpless, which is exactly how I don't want to be portrayed. So, my point is that I would like women to be cognizant of how they portray themselves, especially at work, where image matters more.
And of course, not all women do that, and no, I don't think all men are holding me back, etc.
Submitted by Ejryuu (user info) at 2009-07-07 17:20:47 EDT (#)
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Sounds like someone got dumped/stood up/accidently impregnated last weekend!
I kid, I kid. Equality is all well and good in some situations but I like that equality between men and women is a yin and yang kind of a thing, rather than a yin and yin. We make up for each other's flaws and it's more efficient to play into our own strengths rather than to try to do something 'different' to feel empowered. For example, I get hella excited when I make a legitimate, edible meal but I know that my [ex] girlfriend (God rest her soul I hope that bitch is dead in an alleyway raped by carniverous midgets) is better at it. Why not let her cook while I take out the trash or move her desk?
Submitted by maiorano84 (user info) at 2009-07-07 15:10:58 EDT (#)
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I don't think that there's really a sexual inequality in the workplace, but I also don't believe that men and women are equal when it comes to work. I would probably blame the lingering difference in pay between men and women on an ingrained sense of work ethics, which in turn boils down to primal instincts rather than the actual desire to work.
To say that workplace sexual inequality is forced is silly. You won't see a lot of women doing bricklaying, construction, or plumbing because it doesn't lie within their instincts to desire work like that. Are they physically capable? Sure they are. But the fact is women tend not to seek out blue-collar labor jobs. Do you hear feminists making a stink about wanting to get dirt under their nails? Didn't think so.
By the same token, upper-management and high-stress positions are not usually sought after by women either. Once again, that's not to say that women aren't capable, I just feel that those kinds of positions lie outside the primal interests of most women. The only reason why femme-nazis are screaming about finding more women in these positions are because they are high-paying and empowering, not because of the actual work that they entail.
Would I want a 7-figure salary if it meant sacrificing my mental stability? I could probably deal with that. But if it meant sacrificing the moments I could spend with my wife and daughter? Even men would find that to be a hard trade. I could also go into the fact that men and women process information MUCH differently, and will be more efficient in certain jobs than others....
But I won't.
Submitted by TuTs (user info) at 2009-07-07 11:05:27 EDT (#)
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First congrats to you, glas you have a good career and prospects.
However, there are a few points where I have to disagree with you.
We are the same age, but where you went straight down the career path I decided that I would like a family while I'm still young enough to enjoy it and am finishing my degree at the same time. So yes I am financially dependent on a man, in return though he is fed every night, his house is cleaned and his children are happy and looked after. Not to reduce our life to a simple financial transaction, but he supports me and in return I support him. When I'm on holidays from Uni, I do all the housework, when I go back we share it.
I was working when we met; I will work again once our kids are both at school. But, not working is my choice and I'm not dragging women back into the 1950's by making that choice. Rather I see feminism as having that choice, not as this idea that women have to work and have to be financially independent. Feminism is choice. It is tiring as a younger mother to have to be continually defending yourself to friends and family, when they ask "why didn't you do something with your life? Your smart and have so much ability, why have you wasted your life?"
I like being a mum, I like being at home, but I also like being at Uni. I don't see myself as a sell-out or a leach because my partners money allows me to have this lifestyle, as we are both happy with our life and I know that one day if our roles need to be reversed that I will be there for him, to support him financially or emotionally or however he needs. This is not devolving the equality movement, it is just a different way of living a life and a different way to be a woman.
This could be it's own post.
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2009-07-07 11:04:40 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2009-07-07 10:39:18 EDT (#)
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Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2009-07-07 01:57:13 EDT (#)
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Tokerson, the only way a guy will do a favor for a girl without thinking of getting in her pants is if she's not good looking. We are a sexual species and if you're a man helping an attractive woman without at least thinking of getting a little extra something in return, it's because you are gay.
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that applies if you're single or desperate. being nice is not always sexual. if you're doing it for that reason, most of the times, she'll be able to tell anyway.
i'll still do favors to women but i don't hope for anything in return since i'm in a relationship.
i don't know about you, but for me it's hard not to help a delicate beautiful woman struggling with her groceries or being stucked in snow or whatever. it's just a reflex. i don't help fat chicks though...if you're bigger than me, you take care of yourself.
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Haha, I just picked up a psychology book I've been reading, and the first thing it said when I started from where I left off is the pleasure center of the brain and the altruistic center can not function at the same time. Therefore what I said is totally untrue. If only I'd waited three hours or so to write that review.
Anyway, I am with you. I am in a very good relationship, and though my motivation for helping people has rarely been sexual, that thought has always crept into the back of my mind. It's that "you never know when or where you'll meet that special person" thought, and then also the mental picture of what that person looks like naked. I've gotten rid of the first one, and I have no desire (read: not enough balls) to act on the second in any situation, either way.
I do things for women because I'm nice and I like to help, but I'm still programmed to be attracted to the opposite sex. I notice when a woman looks good, and it's a fundemental fact in psychology that good looking people are more likely to have favors done for them than people who are ugly. It's partly because we expect good looking people to be friendly and warm, but I have to believe part of it is also that we want to know we are still attractive to the most desireable of the opposite sex. So, in that sense, I think there's at least a semblance of sexual desire in altruism, but maybe not the kind where your dick moves just because she said thanks.
Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2009-07-07 10:42:40 EDT (#)
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don't help fat chicks though...if you're bigger than me, you take care of yourself.
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heh
fat chicks are so funny, puffing and panting whilst walking 5 yards
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2009-07-07 10:39:18 EDT (#)
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Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2009-07-07 01:57:13 EDT (#)
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Tokerson, the only way a guy will do a favor for a girl without thinking of getting in her pants is if she's not good looking. We are a sexual species and if you're a man helping an attractive woman without at least thinking of getting a little extra something in return, it's because you are gay.
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that applies if you're single or desperate. being nice is not always sexual. if you're doing it for that reason, most of the times, she'll be able to tell anyway.
i'll still do favors to women but i don't hope for anything in return since i'm in a relationship.
i don't know about you, but for me it's hard not to help a delicate beautiful woman struggling with her groceries or being stucked in snow or whatever. it's just a reflex. i don't help fat chicks though...if you're bigger than me, you take care of yourself.
Submitted by HellRazer (user info) at 2009-07-07 10:27:12 EDT (#)
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Fuckin' A. Are you busy this weekend?
Submitted by firefly (user info) at 2009-07-07 10:12:31 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by SgtHartman (user info) at 2009-07-07 08:39:53 EDT (#)
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you gotta get yourself a lady that makes more money than you, like me.
takes all of this out of the equation.
Submitted by sicosemen (user info) at 2009-07-07 08:23:45 EDT (#)
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It's called typing you brain dead bimbo.
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2009-07-07 01:57:13 EDT (#)
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Tokerson, the only way a guy will do a favor for a girl without thinking of getting in her pants is if she's not good looking. We are a sexual species and if you're a man helping an attractive woman without at least thinking of getting a little extra something in return, it's because you are gay. You can be altruistic and horny at the same time.
Submitted by Tokerson (user info) at 2009-07-06 23:59:26 EDT (#)
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I like this, although I take issue with the following:
"Oh yeah, and don't encourage men to do any of the following: walk you down to lunch everyday, carry your anything, reward your successes with extra praise because they're surprised you can do anything right, troubleshoot your technical issues, or fix your car."
Just because a man is willing to help you doesn't mean he's looking to get into your pants. I, like %95+ of my gender, am perfectly happy to help anyone, regardless of their gender, with minor tasks of their own which I can conveniently assist in.
Submitted by sandmantate (user info) at 2009-07-06 21:59:31 EDT (#)
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I just "knew" that this post was going to piss me off. See, I assumed that it would be full of complaining about how you're being held back and that men don't understand and the same tired story that I've heard from every girl who majored in woman's studies or insisted that they "deserved to be treated like a princess".
It was nothing like that at all. Thanks for that.
Now, show us yer bewbs!
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-07-06 21:26:21 EDT (#)
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I second that.
Add, "or post".
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-07-06 20:09:33 EDT (#)
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Simon, don't talk, ever. Thanks.
Submitted by crsunlimited (user info) at 2009-07-06 15:38:21 EDT (#)
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I would so love to post this at my workplace. I am the IT guy, and I mainly work with women. I want them to troubleshoot their own problems.... Even though they are only end users with no desire to ever know anything computer related.
Of course that might put me out of a job, but at least I wouldn't have to put up with people calling me over to fix something a reboot could have cured.
As far as cars go unless you like fixing things just have a good mechanic on call. It's not dependency. It's getting the job done without stealing away your entire weekend with something that could be fixed in a few hours by a professional.
Submitted by experima (user info) at 2009-07-06 13:53:40 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by haikumikoo (user info) at 2009-07-06 13:12:37 EDT (#)
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A half-naked camwhore would have gotten you the +2.
Remember that for next time.
Submitted by sicosemen (user info) at 2009-07-06 12:42:44 EDT (#)
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Sorry, meant +1
Submitted by sicosemen (user info) at 2009-07-06 12:42:31 EDT (#)
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First of all: http://www.ubersite.com/m/114714
Secondly: I'm pretty sure this is a vain attempt to reach out to a bunch of losers, geeks, and miscreants to tell them how successful you are however, I see a lacking sense of security since you needed to mention it twice. Money doesn't equate to success for everyone and I'm not just saying that because I'm poor. I have the financial security to take a year off if needed but do not go around boasting this fact (sure, that is kind of a moot point now).
Two hundred sixty seventhly: Despite my second point, I think that what you wrote is a pretty accurate assessment, if not a boring rehashing of a 1990 Good Housekeeping article. Congrats to you are in order, but at least come up with something new and engaging.
Exhibit C: You sound intelligent enough to know that bragging about your income level is well...gay.
#G: I don't see how your appearance would have anything to do with your work ethic or the way perceive you unless you are morbidly obese or horribly unkempt. Whether or not you are blonde or 120 lbs. should not effect how well you perform your job. To prove my point, I like most strippers but the ones that do fancy pole tricks get the most money from me.
And finally, but not lastly: As a man, I expect you to cook, clean, AND be the breadwinner so it would be best if you got back in the kitchen, learned your god damned roll, got me a beer, and STFU before I blacken your eye.
Submitted by Ducky (user info) at 2009-07-06 12:20:29 EDT (#)
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This sounds like something I'd read in a magazine at the dentist's office.
All the same I'm glad that you're doing well.
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-07-06 11:58:11 EDT (#)
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-07-05 21:46:03 EDT (#)
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Nothing you say is groundbreaking in the least.
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2009-07-06 11:08:19 EDT (#)
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we're in 2009, is this subject even relevant anymore? though in america abortion is still a hot topic...lol
i don't think i've ever been with a woman that wasn't financially independant. and everything indicates that in my generation and the one coming up, women will probably do much better based on the high drop out rate of males.
Submitted by simple_catalyst (user info) at 2009-07-06 11:01:09 EDT (#)
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My opinion is that equality of the sexes is almost, almost 100% here. I can't say I've been a victim of any major sex discrimination at work;
i.e. I have great breasts.
Submitted by monkeyswithguns (user info) at 2009-07-06 10:16:03 EDT (#)
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I talk to my wife about this often. She graduated from an all "woman's" college, and says she wants equality, but what she really wants is a servant.
Her idea of equality, is me doing the dishes, laundry, vaccuming, and most other domestic chores, as well as mowing the lawn, building fences, planting things, keeping everything alive that should be, and killing whatever shouldn't, and of course, fixing things that break down.
Her role in her version of equality, is that she will cook dinner when she feels like it, and pay the bills online.
Here lately, it's gotten better though, since I'm easing her off the couch and into a work routine where she actually does more house chores, since getting her to do work outside in the heat is simply not happening.
It's all my fault of course, but, in my defense, she DOES have a vagina and an income, which makes it easy to gloss over the inequalities.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2009-07-06 06:13:05 EDT (#)
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I wrote a reply to this and it turned into a post, as is often the way. Made me think.
Submitted by F.J.Bell (user info) at 2009-07-06 05:12:21 EDT (#)
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Pfft.
Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-07-06 03:30:00 EDT (#)
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Well said.
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2009-07-06 02:32:19 EDT (#)
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wait
you're a woman?
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2009-07-06 02:25:19 EDT (#)
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i am on board with everything here.
Submitted by SaintGutFree (user info) at 2009-07-05 23:00:22 EDT (#)
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Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-07-05 19:46:39 EDT (#)
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I develop web tutorials for a software company, and I do freelance graphic design work.
I would only recommend majoring in Film if you fall into one of these three categories:
1. You're already highly knowledgeable in film and video production
2. You're absolutely and completely in love with filmmaking and it's the only thing you can ever imagine doing, and you're willing to pour your blood, sweat, and tears into it
3. You'll minor in something else
I had an Animation concentration, so I got experience with design programs, Flash, Maya, stuff like that. If I didn't develop hard skills I'd be fucked. Most of my other friends who majored in Film are scraping by. Not trying to burst your bubble, but if you want to do it, you have to love it, be willing to work your ass off, be flexible about where you want to live, possibly be willing to do porn, and having rich parents wouldn't hurt either.
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Thanks. I'm a little more at peace with my decision.
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2009-07-05 22:54:17 EDT (#)
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Awww.
Isn't that cute?
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-07-05 21:46:03 EDT (#)
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Nothing you say is groundbreaking in the least. I still love you and want you to have my babies, though.
Submitted by sage104 (user info) at 2009-07-05 20:18:15 EDT (#)
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I loved this. You've got a great attitude. Bravo for your already-achieved successes and good luck continuing them. Seriously...props...I have a ton of respect for you after reading this. :)
However...I just have to disagree on one point...."girls cry, women calmly approach the problem". I dont disagree with the idea per se, because I do agree that it is best to "calmly approach the problem" in most situations, i.e. at work, in public, etc. BUT...it is not in our best interest to entirely stifle emotions. Sometimes it is acceptable to cry....sometimes, it is almost unacceptable not to.
When I got laid off recently (fuck this fucking economy), I handled my business in the moment. I didn't cry when they told me, even though one of the other women there who was doing the laying off was in tears...I was calm, cool, and collected. However, I bawled my eyes out once I got home. I hope you wouldn't think me as less than a woman for doing so.
Submitted by catscradle (user info) at 2009-07-05 20:07:00 EDT (#)
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Iron my shirt, bitch!
Submitted by RoadSong (user info) at 2009-07-05 19:57:50 EDT (#)
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"It means knowing the difference between acting like a woman, and acting like a teenage girl. In the case of a conflict, a girl might gossip about her coworker--a woman would confront her. Girls cry, women calmly approach the problem."
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In theory I agree. There seems to be much overlapping between crying women and confrontational teens tho, especially if they live in the same house.
*WAAAH*
heh
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-07-05 19:46:39 EDT (#)
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I develop web tutorials for a software company, and I do freelance graphic design work.
I would only recommend majoring in Film if you fall into one of these three categories:
1. You're already highly knowledgeable in film and video production
2. You're absolutely and completely in love with filmmaking and it's the only thing you can ever imagine doing, and you're willing to pour your blood, sweat, and tears into it
3. You'll minor in something else
I had an Animation concentration, so I got experience with design programs, Flash, Maya, stuff like that. If I didn't develop hard skills I'd be fucked. Most of my other friends who majored in Film are scraping by. Not trying to burst your bubble, but if you want to do it, you have to love it, be willing to work your ass off, be flexible about where you want to live, possibly be willing to do porn, and having rich parents wouldn't hurt either.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2009-07-05 19:32:42 EDT (#)
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yea pretty much
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-07-05 18:45:36 EDT (#)
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When are you going to go out with Shlongy? I'll chow the beave for hours, if necessary.
Submitted by SaintGutFree (user info) at 2009-07-05 17:50:59 EDT (#)
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This was very thoughtful but my question isn't about the article:
What are you doing with your film degree, may I ask? Possibly headed that way myself.
Submitted by Toddler (user info) at 2009-07-05 17:13:03 EDT (#)
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Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2009-07-05 17:09:12 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
hello, would you like a pecan ice cream?
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2009-07-05 16:40:51 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
If you're not Googling pie recipes, you damn well better have one memorized, bitch!