My life revolves around my kid (1127 hits)
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Submitted by Corn Nugget (View user info) at 2009-10-07 18:44:22 EDT
And I suppose that's how it's supposed to be.
But goddamn, it gets boring after a bit.
I pick him up after work, from 3-4 we do something "fun" like going to the park (where I spend the entire time hoping no one tries to small talk with me, because I hate small talk. I hate it because it feels shallow and, well, I'm bad at it), going for walks, going to the lake, whatever... after 4 we go home, clean up, eat dinner.
Then comes the horrible 6-10 time frame.
There are only so many toys a mom can play with, so many episodes of scooby-do, so many games of hide and seek, before she gets bored and desperate.
Desperate for adult interaction.
I don't mean sex, asshole.
See, I've become overly dependent on one friend who would come over almost every night and hang out. But now she works late and has a boyfriend, so I haven't seen her in a little bit, and I'm back to struggling with "being a single mother".
I don't want a relationship right now, but I do want someone to spend time with. I want someone to talk to. I envy my friends who have boyfriends because they have someone to laugh with, watch tv with, talk about politics and religion.
All of my friends my age are in relationships. "Hey, Angie, want to come over?" "no, my husband and I are watching Lost".
"Michelle, want to go grab a beer?" "No, my husband won't let me go out without him". (no joke on that one, but- to each their own)
That leaves me with this pleathora of young friends who will hang out at the drop of a hat. But they aren't interesting. "Lets get hammered!!!" only goes so far.
I live in a realitivly rural area, which is a big difference from when I lived in Ann Arbor, and there was no end to ways to meet new friends. Out there you'd meet new people walking down the street.
Here there is nothing "down the street", so no one walks anywhere, or has coffee anywhere, or sits and people watch anywhere.
Fuck if I know what the people of this county DO.
But I can't move because I work odd hours, and I have no babysitter that can watch my son, except for my mom. So I've accepted the fact that I have to live HERE, in the middle of nowhere. But I can't accept doing nothing.
I signed up for a few internet dating sites *hangs head in shame*, and it just feels creepy and wrong. Wrong, mainly, because I'm pretty sure the majority of guys on there are looking to shag any decent looking girl that emails them back. Wrong, because, I don't want a relationship. I just want to find a website like www.letsjustbefriends.com .
I want to be content with my life, but where does one find contentment?
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Submitted by moneyshotforyou (user info) at 2009-11-03 10:36:25 EST (#)
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Just bring your kid to my house. There are always a fuck load of those eating, shitting, membrane reducing motherfuckers running around here so I am sure that there is little that one unpleasant little unedumacated windowlicker could fuck up that the rest of these lifesuckers are not doing already.
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-13 22:58:05 EDT (#)
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Hi Shitfuck
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2009-10-13 22:20:11 EDT (#)
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YA
Submitted by firefly (user info) at 2009-10-13 12:10:06 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by sandmantate (user info) at 2009-10-12 09:06:31 EDT (#)
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WHOA WHOA WHOA WHOA WHOA.....
You have a KID?
Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2009-10-12 07:42:56 EDT (#)
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ha, read this now. if you would only put out ONCE, you know I would be there!
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2009-10-09 23:14:45 EDT (#)
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Tell your doctor your kid is severely retarded then collect the insurance money.
It's the fair way.
Submitted by maiorano84 (user info) at 2009-10-09 01:10:08 EDT (#)
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Wanna swing by my place for some beers and mouthsex?
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-10-09 00:44:16 EDT (#)
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Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-10-08 19:59:15 EDT (#)
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Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-10-08 15:21:57 CDT (#)
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Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:25:16 EDT (#)
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FTW, I'm an only child.
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That doesn't surprise me at all.
Not trying to talk shit, or make any sort of insinuations or character judgments or anything... it's just that if someone had asked I would have put money on it.
*shrugs*
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Why's that?
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because of those stereotypes you labelled 'bunk' i guess? you line up with some of them. your comments and posts and the general attitude you put out mirror that of my friends in their 30's who are only children.
hyper outspoken, somewhat egotistical (this is not meant as an insult. i'm called arrogant quite often and don't take THAT as an insult so.. whatev) this isn't what i'd label a 'bad' thing. i apprecaiate arrogance,pride,outrageous sense of self worth, etc. hell, i call these virtues.
i dunno, i can't totally explain it w/out expending effort that i'm not altogether willing to, hence the ---> *shrugs*
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-10-08 20:33:34 EDT (#)
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My life revolves around my vagina. Which is a pretty great thing for it to revolve around, if you ask me.
Submitted by pandora (user info) at 2009-10-08 20:33:16 EDT (#)
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I was going to say something about taking up some hobbies/interests and meeting people that way, but I think c1ndy has the best idea.
Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-10-08 19:59:15 EDT (#)
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Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-10-08 15:21:57 CDT (#)
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Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:25:16 EDT (#)
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FTW, I'm an only child.
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That doesn't surprise me at all.
Not trying to talk shit, or make any sort of insinuations or character judgments or anything... it's just that if someone had asked I would have put money on it.
*shrugs*
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Why's that?
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-10-08 16:23:51 EDT (#)
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and i've told you over and over again how to fix your life, nugs. you just choose to disregard my sage (and 100% correct) advice.
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-10-08 16:21:57 EDT (#)
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Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:25:16 EDT (#)
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FTW, I'm an only child.
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That doesn't surprise me at all.
Not trying to talk shit, or make any sort of insinuations or character judgments or anything... it's just that if someone had asked I would have put money on it.
*shrugs*
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2009-10-08 15:30:27 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by RoadSong (user info) at 2009-10-08 15:14:20 EDT (#)
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Some put their own needs and wants on hold till their kids are grown up enough to have lives of their own..
Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2009-10-08 14:03:51 EDT (#)
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Submitted by MudWhistle (user info) at 2009-10-08 18:54:48 BST (#)
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Submitted by ndn27 (user info) at 2009-10-08 13:29:25 EDT (#)
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why the hell did you even HAVE a child?
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well you see, when a man loves a woman
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love?!
i think you mean, when a man has 10 shots of vodka and see's a woman
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2009-10-08 13:55:09 EDT (#)
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(leaves ranking, closes door silently)
Submitted by MudWhistle (user info) at 2009-10-08 13:54:48 EDT (#)
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Submitted by ndn27 (user info) at 2009-10-08 13:29:25 EDT (#)
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why the hell did you even HAVE a child?
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well you see, when a man loves a woman sometimes they get naked and.....
never mind, your parents should have covered this
Submitted by ndn27 (user info) at 2009-10-08 13:29:25 EDT (#)
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why the hell did you even HAVE a child?
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2009-10-08 12:08:22 EDT (#)
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I put the girls to bed at 7 and drink wine. works for me!
Submitted by wookie (user info) at 2009-10-08 10:24:56 EDT (#)
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Submitted by TuTs (user info) at 2009-10-08 09:09:20 EDT (#)
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I went through this when I had my first and what Mudwhistle said actually works. Now my annoying daughter has a playmate and they leave me alone most of the time. The only difference for me was I had someone to talk to at the end of the day. Chin up girl it will get better, or you will kill yourself in a fit of aloneness and anomie.
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:37:15 EDT (#)
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Submitted by monkeyswithguns (user info) at 2009-10-07 22:10:37 EDT (#)
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So I've accepted the fact that I have to live HERE, in the middle of nowhere.
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Those were the very same words spoken by almost every fat, pregnant, black eyed trailer trash baby machine in the U.S.
It begins with boredom, and lack of companionship. In such circumstances, it can drive you mad, which is when you consider relationships, as you're heading towards right now, in order to fill that empty spot. Sure you say you're just looking for friends, but no other guys on there are.
That usually leads to staying together, because while you don't want to be with him, rural areas are notorious for having a big lack of options, and the comfort of a well worn, bad/sub-par relationship can appear to be more appealing than having to be alone again for who knows how long.
Hmm...
Best of luck with all that!
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omg this seemingly obvious observation just knocked some sense into me.
Submitted by DaBeast (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:27:47 EDT (#)
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You find it inside yourself. Contentment never comes from without or from another person. You're lonely now but look at your accomplishments - you're raising your kid in the fashion that you feel is best and you're doing it alone and you're doing it on your terms by your rules. Loneliness doesn't last forever; it just feels as if it does.
Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:25:16 EDT (#)
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FTW, I'm an only child. I've always wished I had a sibling, even to this day. Most of the stereotypes of only children are bunk, however in my case I learned at a very early age to be independent and how to entertain myself and do for myself.
When only children become adults, a whole new set of worries pop up. For instance, how the hell am I going to take care of my parents when they become elderly? I have no siblings to share the burden.
I myself don't have children so once my folks are gone, I'll be completely alone. Which is ok but that means that I'll have to plan for my own old age a little differently than most people.
I plan to self deliver actually.
Woah, TMI and a morbid tangent. Sorry.
multiple children vs. only child......pros and cons to each ultimately. Good luck to all.
Submitted by sexualchocolate1984 (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:23:21 EDT (#)
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just realised, you moan about smalltalk, then about how you can't meet anyone to hang out with! But that's how people meet! Small talk leads to big talk, get out there and practice your small talk.
i'm not very good at it, often say unsuitable things that cause offense or disgust, but fuck it, it all adds to the fun of chatting shit with people.
Can't wait to teach my littleman how to flip the bird.
Submitted by sexualchocolate1984 (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:21:00 EDT (#)
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I've got my first child (son) on the way, actually saw his nutsack on this mornings 27 week scan! I can't wait for him to take over my life!
But me and Mrs Sexualchocolate are still together, and have a number of friends our age, some with kids some without, moving into our new place tomorrow. So, uh.
1 nil bitch, haha.
Seriously though, there should be some kind of mum's meeting thing near you? Get together with other single mum's going through the same situation.
Or, get laid.
Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2009-10-08 08:08:59 EDT (#)
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Submitted by MudWhistle (user info) at 2009-10-08 06:58:09 EDT (#)
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have another child.
I know, lunacy right? But seriously my girls are almost 3 years apart and by the time the youngest was a year they'd play for hours together.
Sure you've got a year of one child wanting all your attention and one almost NEEDING all of it but after that you've got two peas in a pod.
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I'm wondering if having only one child is somehow a bad idea. I can't really put the concept into perspective, having had 4 brothers.
Submitted by MudWhistle (user info) at 2009-10-08 06:58:09 EDT (#)
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have another child.
I know, lunacy right? But seriously my girls are almost 3 years apart and by the time the youngest was a year they'd play for hours together.
Sure you've got a year of one child wanting all your attention and one almost NEEDING all of it but after that you've got two peas in a pod.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2009-10-08 04:32:00 EDT (#)
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It's hard making friends when the thought of human interaction makes you vomit in terror, but I have heard good things about attending evening classes. Alternatives include work, local events/institutions and internet services concerned with the local area.
I hear they make body armour that can be worn unoticably under regular clothing so there is also craiglist.
Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2009-10-08 04:11:50 EDT (#)
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you should smoke less and love me more
Submitted by Wildman (user info) at 2009-10-07 22:43:14 EDT (#)
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Cheer up and look at it this way:
You're half the way on becoming an empty-nester.
Submitted by monkeyswithguns (user info) at 2009-10-07 22:10:37 EDT (#)
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So I've accepted the fact that I have to live HERE, in the middle of nowhere.
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Those were the very same words spoken by almost every fat, pregnant, black eyed trailer trash baby machine in the U.S.
It begins with boredom, and lack of companionship. In such circumstances, it can drive you mad, which is when you consider relationships, as you're heading towards right now, in order to fill that empty spot. Sure you say you're just looking for friends, but no other guys on there are.
That usually leads to staying together, because while you don't want to be with him, rural areas are notorious for having a big lack of options, and the comfort of a well worn, bad/sub-par relationship can appear to be more appealing than having to be alone again for who knows how long.
Hmm...
Best of luck with all that!
Submitted by BranDo (user info) at 2009-10-07 22:01:22 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:34:59 EDT (#)
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hey...fuck all the losers you want. Numerous times. Maybe you'll find a winner with that strategy (although, quite frankly, it'll be much harder now- that's just "the way it is".
But get pregnant? Deal with it and never let me hear you complain. Ever.
That's all I'm saying.
My opinion doesn't matter. Except to me.
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Best last sentence ever.
And you, missy, deal with the problems you have co-created.
http://www.ubersite.com/m/121651
You'll be fine kid, contentment will come your way eventually.
Submitted by cheerios (user info) at 2009-10-07 20:08:07 EDT (#)
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:23:29 EDT (#)
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I think we CAN all know another person, but it gets clouded with "ourselves". I knew, deep down, early on, that Obama was trouble. But I *wanted* it to work, and I wanted to believe the best in him, and I wanted to believe we were going to live happily ever after.
So stupid.
If I had left out the wanting and the hoping, I would have seen it for what it was, right out the gates.
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Somehow he did manage to convince a bunch of clueless people to vote for him. It also helped that his predecessor was George W, and his opponent was the pitifully weak McCain. The newest healthcare bill forces you to get coverage, or pay a $750 annual fee. Yes, this is a new tax on people making under $250k a year, which is you. How's that for freedom of choice?
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 20:07:56 EDT (#)
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Wow. That didn't take too long. YES, I WASHED MY HAND.
Now where was I? Oh, right...I was about to tell myself to shut the fuck up and get out of this post before I have single mothers everywhere picketing in front of my mansion.
A few of the hot ones WILL be allowed inside to blow me.
Submitted by GodLovesALittleLovin (user info) at 2009-10-07 20:02:31 EDT (#)
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Dude, I know how you feel sometimes because I am surrounded by military people now and it's like fucking bizarro world AND ITS BULLSHIT. Now it's all military base this commissary whatever I know the deals are good but that equates to shit really in the long run. No one watches The Office and no one reads books or words. I miss my hippy liberal friends who just smoked pot and talked about politics and.....well their taste in music sucks frankly. I am frightened of children so I refuse to comment on that situation. I also like Shlong's idea to wait untii you become a geriatric to have children.
You should try painting things.
Submitted by icarus1987 (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:58:02 EDT (#)
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Normal? Well, I do eat my fiber.
Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:52:47 EDT (#)
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Well, there's always http://www.cougarprowl.com
Put your kid to bed before you click, though.
Submitted by The_Yellow_Dart (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:52:05 EDT (#)
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:36:58 EDT (#)
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Shlongy, I find you endearing in a fucked up kind of way.
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:42:51 EDT (#)
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Icarus, I find you endearing in a normal sort of way.
Submitted by willartstorg (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:42:11 EDT (#)
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Submitted by icarus1987 (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:38:33 EDT (#)
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I'm not sure what to say, besides "I'm glad I don't have the little leeches".
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Icky: If your parents had felt the same, we wouldn't be putting up with your crap.. . .
:D
Just kidding.
Submitted by icarus1987 (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:38:33 EDT (#)
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I'm not sure what to say, besides "I'm glad I don't have the little leeches".
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:36:58 EDT (#)
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Shlongy, I find you endearing in a fucked up kind of way.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:36:12 EDT (#)
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Now excuse me...I have to go spank to some internet teenage porn.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:34:59 EDT (#)
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hey...fuck all the losers you want. Numerous times. Maybe you'll find a winner with that strategy (although, quite frankly, it'll be much harder now- that's just "the way it is".
But get pregnant? Deal with it and never let me hear you complain. Ever.
That's all I'm saying.
My opinion doesn't matter. Except to me.
Submitted by willartstorg (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:32:55 EDT (#)
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:23:29 EDT (#)
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I think we CAN all know another person, but it gets clouded with "ourselves". I knew, deep down, early on, that my boyfriend was trouble. But I *wanted* it to work, and I wanted to believe the best in him, and I wanted to believe we were going to live happily ever after.
So stupid.
If I had left out the wanting and the hoping, I would have seen it for what it was, right out the gates.
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Stop beating youself up. You are by FAR not the first person to give the bebefit of the doubt to another only to have it blow up in your face. Live and learn. There is some nice guy out there who will love you and your kid. Don't give up.
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:31:56 EDT (#)
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I *knew*, Shlongy, but I didn't KNOW.
I let my emotions cloud my vision.
Should I have let that happen? No, absolutly NOT.
Will it happen again, nope.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:30:14 EDT (#)
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So you knew disaster was around the corner...and that this fucking loser probably wasn't the prince getting ready to take you away on a white horse to a castle in the land of milk and honey.
But you let him inpregnate you anyway.
I have no business saying this- but I'm going to anyway - but it's yourown fucking fault, and because I'm a prick, I have a lot of trouble having any sympathy for your plight.
And I probably LIKE you- but I'd have to walk away and not get bogged down in your life's issues.
I have distant family members who are in the same stupidity boat and I want nothing to do with them. They can't even take care of themselves, and have kids with two different mystery fathers...meanwhile, the chick can hardly read a Want Ad without help.
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:23:29 EDT (#)
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I think we CAN all know another person, but it gets clouded with "ourselves". I knew, deep down, early on, that my boyfriend was trouble. But I *wanted* it to work, and I wanted to believe the best in him, and I wanted to believe we were going to live happily ever after.
So stupid.
If I had left out the wanting and the hoping, I would have seen it for what it was, right out the gates.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:22:21 EDT (#)
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If I saw a picture of him...knew how he dressed...what music he listened to...and how he "spoke", I'm pretty certain that I could have predicted it, too, with about 99.999% certainty.
If it makes you feel any better, and it shouldn't, more than half the female population under the age of 30 is in the same exact boat that you are, with the only difference being that they don't all live in "nowhere-land".
I'm still waiting to have kids- until I am "financially secure", not done being a selfish asshole, and have all my "running around" out of my system.
I'm thinking by age 63 or so, I should be ready to bust a move.
See, I've put some thought into it- so I never have to write a post like this.
Good luck, though. I mean it.
Submitted by willartstorg (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:20:12 EDT (#)
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:17:07 EDT (#)
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Shlongy, I wasn't exactly expecting my boyfriend to turn into an abusive asshole, run to missouri to escape the law and leave me to raise a child alone. Although I shoulda seen it coming. I'll give you that.
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I've heard it said that no one really knows another person. Sometimes that's very true. You don't need an asshole like that. You will get better.
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:17:07 EDT (#)
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Shlongy, I wasn't exactly expecting my boyfriend to turn into an abusive asshole, run to missouri to escape the law and leave me to raise a child alone. Although I shoulda seen it coming. I'll give you that.
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:09:55 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:05:49 EDT (#)
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This was honest and amusing.
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cuz you can relate to it, except you don't have a kid to excuse your loneliness.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:08:23 EDT (#)
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Ummmm...and exactly what part of any of this is a "surprise"?
Don't sweat it; You only have to go through this for roughly another 15 years or so.
Then, you can go back to "me" time.
Unless you stupidly get knocked up again sometime between now and then.
Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:05:49 EDT (#)
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This was honest and amusing.
Submitted by willartstorg (user info) at 2009-10-07 19:02:17 EDT (#)
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Look at the bright side of the whole thing:
1) You have a job,
2) You have a healthy child.
X) Your mom is willing to help out.
22) You are in good health.
Lonleiness and boredom are buttkickers, but it could always be worse. Also, change is a big part of life. Things will get better. Hang in there.