Marriage or a Giant Fuck Fest? (2196 hits)
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Submitted by Natalie <nataliefortin.at.yahoo.com> (View user info) at 2003-10-06 17:31:18 EDT
Oh no, I think I'm a grown up! Let's jump right in.
Stage One:
Prior to a year ago if anyone had mentioned the big M word (marriage) or the big B word (babies) to me, I would be stunned speechless. WHO ME?? What business would I have with either one of those? I rarely lose my composure, but if you wanted to see me stumble M and B would do it.
Stage Two:
Up to age 25, I would sometimes feel as I did when I was a teenager and someone asked me if I had kids. It would only occur to me that I was now old enough to do M and B after that habitual moment of shock, but even then it was more of a mild novelty. Still slightly alien.
Stage Three:
Until 6 months ago. I noticed I wasn't experiencing the urge to run the other direction at the mention of M and B. A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I are at Mammoth Caves standing near a section we were not allowed to go in. Someone has a little kid running around. He says, "Wouldn't it be cool to have one of those? We could send it running down that way just we could chase it and see what's down there. Then we could pretend he was in trouble." I don't think anything of it. In fact, I think it's a pretty funny idea. "Haha, yeah." Wait. WHAT? The other night I'm bitching about my living situation and he says, "Maybe when you come for Thanksgiving you won't want to leave. You could stay here with me. That would be...wow...that would be awesome." I suddenly feel giggly, and it strikes me as a good idea. Then...Wait. WHAT? I'm not shocked at the suggestion, mind you. I'm shocked at myself for not feeling the least bit freaked out and for wanting to jump on the idea.
My dad always laughed at my face of disgust when talking about babies and would say, "You just have to meet the right guy. That's all." My response: "What, are you NUTS? How is liking a man going to make me want to pop a human out of my crotch?"
Well, I met a guy...
I'm not saying I'm thinking of buying a white dress and wiping infant snot, but...
But...
I am no longer opposed. At all.
Shit.
WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?
I'm freaking out a little because I'm not freaking out. I'm tempted to overanalyze.
I hate the affected shallow crap that goes along with dating; I've done the casual sex and I don't get much out of it; I hate roommate swapping therefore the idea of having just one person to live with sounds fantastic. Keeping these things in mind, am I coming to the idea that M might not be so bad by default, or because it's right? Screw B for the moment. I'm still more in Stage Two on that one.
I am befuddled, so I can't warp this up neatly. For those of you who feel you've found a person you'd like to be with for the rest of your life- how did you know? Do you ever have doubts? What do you do about them?
This guy rocks, by the way. He had me at "Let's go climbing."
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Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2004-01-06 10:27:41 EST (#)
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hahahahaaaaaaaa I *heart* my stalker
Submitted by angrykoz (user info) at 2003-12-29 22:40:20 EST (#)
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I wanna lick you!!! In a giant fuck fest!!
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-08 09:41:26 EDT (#)
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Thanks, NA. My dad was saying the same thing a little while back (Yeah I know, dad this, dad that. The man rules.). He told me he didn't like kids! I didn't know this! Obviously he's crazy about my brother and me. You always hear that it's different with your own, but this was the first time I thought there must be something to that. I think he secretly would like to see me have a kid, but he knows that icky face I make so he doesn't say anything :)
It's nice to see people talking about the bond they have with kids. It's so unfamiliar!
Submitted by NotApologizing (user info) at 2003-10-07 23:50:07 EDT (#)
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Natalie,
Judging by what you say, i think you're more than ready. I mean, you can never be truly ready for children--you can always come up with a reason NOT to have them. Once you get pregnant though, you'd be surprised how ready you immediately become. You will expreience nothing greater than the joy of parenthood. It is amazing how differently you can feel about the screaming brat behind you at the restaurant, and the lovely, extraordinary baby in your booth who's just trying to 'exercise his/her vocal chords'. Don't worry, you're ready. I was married at 22 and a father at 24. I have never regretted either, and it doesn't sound like you will. Besides, if your parents are anything like mine, then they have been ready for grandchildren for about 10 years by now.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-07 23:28:43 EDT (#)
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Thanks so much Loren :)
"It's scary, I may never find the right one, but I'm going to try to have a lot of fun along the way."
Right on!
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2003-10-07 14:22:39 EDT (#)
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It's almost like I can HEAR you're in love by the way you write. I sense a lot of excitement. It's nice, and I'm really happy for you.
I never made the official plunge. Been asked a few times, but I think they knew I'd say no, so it wasn't a down-on-bended-knee deal. I ended a 7+ year relationship early last year. And have had a couple other long term (3+ year) relationships in my ancient past.
I always figured - if I didn't plan on kids, why bother getting married? There were times I wanted to do it, but then I would change my mind. I still don't know if I ever want to. But that's probably because I continually get dissapointed or scared off by insane men.
I do feel like I've been through a divorce after spending 7 years with one person, I guess there's no way to avoid that. Lives become so intertwined when you live together that long, but as there wasn't any paper legally binding us, it made life a lot easier in the end. (and a lot cheaper :-)
It's scary, I may never find the right one, but I'm going to try to have a lot of fun along the way.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-07 14:01:05 EDT (#)
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Much appreciated, Kaymanism and Loren!
Marriage and kids isn't all about love, it's unfortunately much more like running a business, but you can't go home and escape it.
You need to look at this man and ask yourself "Would I be a partner in a business with him for the rest of my life? Would I want to be best friends with this man regardless of a chance for a "love" relationship? And do I KNOW he feels the same way?" - Loren
Yes, yes, and yes. See? Scary! haha Actually this is the stuff I consider the most especially the second question. We were talking about that the other day. I was saying how absolutely important to me it was to be able to look at the person you're with and say, yes, I would have you as a friend because I just plain LIKE you. As for the first question- there are (hopefully) always a few people in your life that you KNOW, no matter what, would be there for you and could handle things if necessary with no questions asked. No drama, they're just there. Period. For me that's my dad and my best friend, Josh. And I get the same feeling from this guy that I do from them. I'm so glad you said all that, Loren. The ideas were there, but I hadn't formalized or verbalized them. Now I feel all mushy. Ick. Thanks alot. ;) We're definitely going to be living together in a few month's time (something I take very seriously). The M will happen, methinks, but not for a little while yet. B is an abstract idea to which I am not fully opposed but will not be in the cards for a long time. Have you ever been married, Loren? I don't remember running across anything about you that said for sure either way.
Kaymanism, I think that, yes, I have done all I want to do by myself. Everything I have left on my agenda I can do alone or with someone else. I'm surprising myself with that answer...
I'm going on and on about me me me me. Apologies! Very new and crazy situation! I have no idea what all I've said. I am most definitely taking in everything everyone's said, though.
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2003-10-07 12:44:00 EDT (#)
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You're still very young. Live together. You don't have to get married. Down the road, if you get pregnant, then reconsider. Even then you don't HAVE to get married.
Love and lust is God's way of tricking us into procreating. Oh, I love him... I want his baby...
Think long and hard about what that entails. Marriage and kids isn't all about love, it's unfortunately much more like running a business, but you can't go home and escape it.
You need to look at this man and ask yourself "Would I be a partner in a business with him for the rest of my life? Would I want to be best friends with this man regardless of a chance for a "love" relationship? And do I KNOW he feels the same way?"
You're life will no longer be yours in any way it is now, and see how happy you are now?
You seem like a really together person, so don't get me wrong, just be CAREFUL!
Submitted by Kaymanism (user info) at 2003-10-07 12:00:59 EDT (#)
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Nat take my advice...seriously please listen
UNLESS YOU ARE FINISHED DOING EVERYTHING IT IS WANT TO DO IN LIFE (people places and things) DO NOT GET MARRIED.
I am not against marriage...really i am not. I swear even. But I think we have many parallels here. Like you I am an avid climber. For me I took jobs BECAUSE i could climb 4 days a week and life was golden. Life became platinum when I met a girl at said job and we BOTH could climb 4 days a week. Sex too. Life couldnt get better and I didnt want to lose a hot climbing nympho girl.
So we got married. Then a kid. Then a house for the kid. Then traded the boxster for a honda and the jeep for a land rover.
Now what? No climbing in almost 9 months. Havent been on a trip per se in 2 years. My dreams of going to Fountainbleau have been traded for day care. USed to be ranked 24 in ABS now I dream of doing a V5 again.
Do I regret any of it? FUCK NO! I love them both and my girl is the greatest thing to ever happen to me. But I see how people dont make it through it a lot of times. SOOOOO many things I still want to do and people too. But Gotta give it all up. So take your time on this one and get to Joshua Tree, and Portrero Chico, and Hueco Tanks, and all the places you want to see and climb and rave etc. Cuz once you take the plunge it goes away quicker than you think.
Im only holding on to the fact that in 10 years my daughter can climb and the trips will come back.
Good Luck girl.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-07 11:34:37 EDT (#)
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Hell, I might Q. Just for kicks for Halloween. But only if I get something interesting. I won't post a pic of just me standing there with my ass hanging out.
Very nice, Chicken! Looks like an awesome place for mountain biking! Roadbiking, too, if you can do the uphills. I'd like to get a downhill rig and bomb those hills!
Tuts- I'm only 25, and I've never been alone. There's no desperation in this. It's just so easy! I hate to sound sappy, but everything seems perfect. It's all falling right into place. There's not a thing telling me 'no'.
Submitted by TuTs (user info) at 2003-10-07 11:23:30 EDT (#)
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It makes me wonder but would it be because of the right guy? Or just because your getting older and don't want to be alone anymore? I hope it works out nicely for you though.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2003-10-07 11:09:00 EDT (#)
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Quartermain: Hahahahhaaa, no, if I find a schoolgirl outfit in my car, I'm never mentioning it.
Off work for the day... 2 more weeks of nights.. argh! will check for Nat's response when I get home.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2003-10-07 11:05:05 EDT (#)
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Nat: Sonora, Calif. (www.mapquest.com) from San Diego.
http://www.11oh1.net/gallery/sonora
http://www.pashnit.com/roads/cal/BigHillRd.htm <--- I lived on top of "big hill"
Submitted by Quartermain (user info) at 2003-10-07 10:57:29 EDT (#)
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**I have huge blank spots in my memory of the drive**
Blank spots? Lost time? On a drive in the country? Is anybody else thinking....alien abduction?
Maybe you'll wind up with a satellite in your ass, like Cartman.
**But all I have is this naughty schoolgirl outfit. HA!**
You do realise that if you go anywhere dressed as a naughty schoolgirl, you're required to post pictures don't you?
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-07 10:42:16 EDT (#)
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Thank you so much guys 'n girls! It really means a lot to get a sincere answer in this situation.
Yeah, Otter, I'm just waiting. I think Loki and I have had similar ideas on the subject, I'm just softening up alot.
Quatermain- hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa It puts the lotion on its skin...
Queen- You are one peppy chick ;) Am I right in thinking you're 18? That's alot of stuff to deal with by that age!
Belle & GodChicken- The actual ceremony...I was thinking about that last night as I was unsuccessfully trying to sleep. Rings and vague time frames were mentioned, and not by me, in the phone conversation we had yesterday so of course my mind started wandering. Where would I have it since both our families are spread all over two countries? And wait...I'm not Christian. I would be inwardly rolling my eyes at everything the priest says, and that seems so wrong. His mother is apparently pretty old fashioned, so would his family expect the big Catholic wedding? I want my Baptist friend to do the ceremony if it's going to be Christian. Oh yeah, and I don't give a shit about stupid flowers that will just die anyway. Or fluffy decorations. Or that big ugly puffy white dress. I don't want a maid of honor; I'm not going to pick one friend to be the 'special' one. And the ring itself. I'm not so sure I want one! AAAAAAAGH!
Conclusion: I don't care about an actual wedding! I've never had little girl dreams about weddings. Like you said, Chicken, "You can easily say a vow together privately..." It's the life afterward that's important. I like your plan, Belle. I have a feeling I would just do a small ceremony for the sake of family.
I would want to have a big party and say to everyone, "Here's my dude! He's family now," and that's about it. I'm going to be checking things out big time at my friend's wedding on Halloween. She wants us to dress up. THAT sounds like a good idea to me! But all I have is this naughty schoolgirl outfit. HA!
Belle, so your guy is all better now? It was pretty scary there for a while, eh?
Ah gawd! Sorry I'm spilling all this stuff. You are seeing actual events unfold.
Hahaha Chicken... "Got a chaw?" Where was that again? I used to arrive to school in the mornings in high school and 20 minutes later not remember driving!
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2003-10-07 09:00:29 EDT (#)
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Nat:
I managed the drive north just barely. I have huge blank spots in my memory of the drive, which is really scary considering how sharp it usually is. I was on this road, and the next thing I remember, I am 20 miles further on and making the right turn onto the last stretch of highway.. There was a gas station between my last checkpoint and that right turn, and I have no recollection of passing it. There were many more of those such incidences.
As I said in my earlier responses here, the weekend was, ah, interesting.
I am forcibly reminded of how far I have come from my roots.
example: Me at the wedding: silk shirt, Perry Ellis dress slacks and nice patent leather oxford shoes, cellphone and cologne. Other guests: cowboy boots, levi's, and old t-shirts of iron maiden & slayer, complete with holes since they're 15 years old. "Got a chaw?"
Ugh.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2003-10-07 08:20:18 EDT (#)
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I was just thinking about this one again, and decided there was a little more I could share.
My mom just got remarried after 20 years. She'd been seeing/living with the guy for the last 9.
This brought me a bunch of new family, most of which I am horrified at.. But that's a whole post in and of itself.
Savannah, my new step-niece, is 11.
I hadn't been home in nearly 4 years to visit, so most things were pretty hazy to me.
This pretty little blonde girl with blue-grey eyes comes up to me, sticks out her hand, and says "Hello Monty do you remember me?" Serious and just killing me with those eyes. I remembered her as a wild-haired little thing running around the yard last. Now I am confronted by a pre-teen lady with intelligence shining out of her almost visibly.
Later on she smiles at me and comes running up and nearly knocks me over, jumping up to hug me.
Children can be the best thing in the world, and the worst.
I've found a deep affection for this young lady who sits on the grass in the dark and asks me to point out the constellations she doesnt already know, and tell the greek mythology that goes along with them, if I know it.
It makes me miss my step-son, who was only 2 the last time I saw him.
The reward is watching them unfold and grow into the things you hold dearest.
Submitted by Bellebrown (user info) at 2003-10-07 08:12:53 EDT (#)
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God you sound like me. Great post...
Been thinking the same things myself... although slightly different on the marriage front.
We'd both been switching sides on the debate, Id say I do, he'd say I don't... he'd come round and Id decide that he was right in the beginning... that kind of thing. Same thing was happening with kids. I got told off because Id come out with "when we have kids, I hope..." and then the next day Id say "I am NEVER having children." and he couldnt work out what I wanted.
Then he nearly died. All very scarey... but it made me realise Im a complete cow. I change my mind about all of that (kids, marriage, buying houses etc etc).
So, I get to the hospital the first day he's with it and he tells me he was considering proposing (Im thinking he's high on morphine).
I say "I dont care about any of that stuff. If you really want to, we can do it... but whats important is that you're still here, and we're together... its a lot of money for one day and a peice of paper... but if you want to, we can, just can we do it in Gretna Green or something?"
He's back to normal now, and it looks like we're off to Hong Kong (or somewhere) and a sunken barbeque garden which will cost us about the same as getting married - its nicer than a white puff ball dress and crap cake if you ask me.
I really honestly couldnt give a shit about weddings now (used to have my moments), they really aren't important. And if we do ever do it - it will be in Gretna on the cheap, or in Las Vegas in front of Elvis because we're drunk... or at least I hope thats what happens.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-07 07:56:40 EDT (#)
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Nat, I've had both, and the giant fuck fest worked out better for me. Marriage, for me, ended up with me being a mess. Depressed, smoking more weed than I once thought humanly possible, drinking, being a bitch to nearly everyone I know, and sleeping way too much.
What? I'm not bitter.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2003-10-07 07:54:37 EDT (#)
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Nat:
I was married once, and although it ended messily, I can say a few things for certain:
1. When you are apart, and you go to be with friends and realize its just not as much fun without him/her there, you've found the "best friend" part.
2. When you fight, and you can still curl up and snuggle to go to bed or at least want to, you're doing good.
3. You no longer notice the passing curiousity for the member of the opposite sex and look forward only to his/her physical presence.
Monogamy and marriage are a wonderful thing. I wish I could find a girl as interested in the former as they are in the latter. I seem to find ones that are more in love with the idea of being married and admiring the ring I can afford to put on them than they are in loving me.
Food for thought: marriage is an institution and a tax status. You can easily say a vow together, privately, and it can have just as much meaning, without the legal hassle.
Submitted by Otter (user info) at 2003-10-07 07:33:48 EDT (#)
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Ask Loki, I know marriage and especially children and the having thereof are her favorite things to talk about.
Submitted by Quartermain (user info) at 2003-10-07 00:40:51 EDT (#)
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I'm 26 and I have absolutely no desire to have anything to do with children other than saying 'Woman, control your child' when some woman lets her spawn run wild in public.
I wouldn't mind finding the right woman, I just have to figure out how to make a relationship last longer than 6 months.
Maybe I could dig a hole in the basement and keep them in there....
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 20:22:53 EDT (#)
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PAS what's pot-holing?
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 20:18:53 EDT (#)
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Wow PAS! 7 years! My longest was 3.5 years. Woooo serial monogomy!
MajicWalrus- Me at 16...hmmm... I was just starting this 3.5 year relationship. I 'loved' this guy, but when I tried to picture us together as adults or married, I would draw a complete blank. It's been like that with every guy I've been with until now.
I was never in love with the idea. It was something I knew I would NOT do unless there were NO red flags, and I didn't care if that never happened. Everything would have to fall into place, not just the feelings. Feelings are not infallible. I'm much more of a realist than a romantic.
Streetpunk- you could have lots of little kiddies and make them sing and stuff! Like The Jacksons!
Oof- just got off the phone with him. Oh yeah. If I wasn't clear on his intentions before, I certainly am now! Whoa, I'm smiling. Freaky shit.
Submitted by TheRef (user info) at 2003-10-06 19:57:49 EDT (#)
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4. Fuck until your wheener is red.
silly faggot, its not red...its your boyfriends shit on your dick.
good post.
Submitted by MajicWalrus (user info) at 2003-10-06 19:27:17 EDT (#)
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I hear what you're saying, but when you were my age... I'm 16 now... How did you think? I'm ready to get married move in and live happily ever after... Kids can wait until you know.. I have a job that pays more than 100 bucks a month. But you know, other than that... I'm inlove with the idea.
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2003-10-06 19:09:58 EDT (#)
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I thought this was a great post chick. I'm 26 and I have felt exactly like you in the past. I also don't feel so weirded out by M and B as I used to. Well, maybe still B but I'm getting used to the idea of M.
I think you guys need to live together first. I've been with my fiance for 7 years in Nov, living together for 5 1/2. Some people need more time than others. I'm still a child myself!
I'd like to try rock climbing. Or even better abseiling. And pot-holing. And bungee jumping. And sky-diving. And hang-gliding.
I feel the need. The need for speed. (Best to do it now before babies are on the cards).
Best for me to cut down on the cheesy quotes.
Burp.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 18:58:46 EDT (#)
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Lucid- Done. He's the one who brings these things up!
I guess I should make it more clear that I'm not grabbing onto the idea to have rugrats just yet. I'm just not disgusted by it anymore. It's the whole living together/marriage deal I've started to look forward to.
Where are all the post-early-twenty-somethings?! Not knocking you guys, but, well the free love does get boring for alot of people past that age. It's way too easy and you're left with nothing in the end anyway (I said in the end.. Am I the only one who constantly has a running Beavis and Butthead-type commentary going through my head?).
RB- The plan, if there was one, would be to take that kid money and go on the trips at least for the first few years. I won't even consider dropping sprogs until after that. Oh yes- lots of boinkin for as long as possible, too. Lots.
Submitted by Judoka (user info) at 2003-10-06 18:52:27 EDT (#)
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I love kids (I am a teacher), I just don't want to own any.
Submitted by DJMattB241 (user info) at 2003-10-06 18:38:37 EDT (#)
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thoughts:
1) "This guy rocks, by the way. He had me at "Let's go climbing.""
um... rock climbing? hm
2) Murphyiloveyouwillyoumarryme?
3) giant fuck fest wins over marriage. but this is me and i'm 20.
Submitted by reallybored (user info) at 2003-10-06 18:34:19 EDT (#)
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Im going to have to agree with my brothers Hadooken and Murphy on this. Marriage and children are the two biggest mistakes a person can make. My parents did both of them and look what it got them. Three crappy kids, with ol RB leading the way. Think of all the money that could be saved by not having children.
1 child = Two week vacation to a sunny island every yr of your life
2 children = A new car ever three years instead of ten
3 children = Gulfstream 4 ,personal aircraft
4 children = Fuck, i dont know how people even survive with that many mouths to feed.
In short, tie your tubes and tell ol rockclimber to fuck off.
Hope that helps.
Submitted by lucid (user info) at 2003-10-06 18:19:29 EDT (#)
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If you are starting to think this way then maybe you should have a candid conversation about it with this guy so you'll know what his real thoughts are too.
Marriage isn't forever, but kids are. Know what you're doing if you decide to pop some humans out of your crotch.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:59:57 EDT (#)
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hahahahahaaa Hadooken, not hardly.
Ah well, I can do 4, 8, 9, 10 Murph. I'll leave the rest to you ;)
The title of this post is misleading. My plan is to make my marriage a giant two person (maybe three? heh) fuck fest. The two are not mutually exclusive.
Submitted by streetpunk (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:58:45 EDT (#)
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Kids are not so bad. I don't think I would get involved again with one, not now atleast, but they are a joy when you really get attached to them.
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:57:07 EDT (#)
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marriage, giant fuck fest. marriage, giant fuck fest. marriage, giant fuck festy...
giant fuck fest. Yeah im gonna go with that one for now.
Submitted by Murphy1844 (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:56:35 EDT (#)
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Take my advise, my children. The secret to a succesful and happy life follows in Uncle Murphy's ten staples.
1. Drink excessively.
2. Smoke excessivley.
3. Eat excessive fatty foods.
4. Fuck until your wheener is red.
5. Do as little work as possible.
6. Ignore credit card bills.
7. Spend that money on spirits.
8. See as much as you can see.
9. Don't hold grudges.
10. Turn your T.V. off.
Blessed be, my children.
Submitted by Phinch (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:50:10 EDT (#)
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murphy's starting a religon.
"Don't ask questions... just take what I have to say as JUUUUUUST about as close to the truth as you're going to get."
Submitted by Hadooken (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:48:48 EDT (#)
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you probably realized that you are getting older, not so fresh, and have no chance of doing better or finding a younger more attractive man. Congratulations, your life is all but over.
Submitted by Murphy1844 (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:46:19 EDT (#)
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Don't ask questions... just take what I have to say as JUUUUUUST about as close to the truth as you're going to get.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:42:33 EDT (#)
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Nice, Anjie!
How so, Murph?
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:41:16 EDT (#)
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That's fine for you, Marge. But I used to rock and roll all night and
party every day. Then it was every other day. Now I'm lucky if I can
find half an hour a week in which to get funky. I've got to get out of
this rut and back into the groove!
-- Homer Simpson
Homerpalooza
Submitted by Murphy1844 (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:40:52 EDT (#)
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Marriage = Selling yourself out.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:38:47 EDT (#)
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Oh yeah...I'm not looking for mushy advice or anything. Just other people's stories and maybe an epiphany or two. Advice if you want to give it :)
Submitted by Anjie (user info) at 2003-10-06 17:38:27 EDT (#)
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It's a great feeling huh? I found out I was preg about a year ago....I thought my BF and myself for that matter would be horrified, we were both pleasantly <sp?> surprised. I found out the same day, that I had a early term miscarriage. Might have been a blessing. But, because of it we have begun talking about it seriously now. I can't wait....