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Submitted by Ashlee <QueenRavieBaby.at.AOL.com> (View user info) at 2003-10-17 04:51:02 EDT
Warning: Long, not funny.
I started out as a normal kid. I was well adjusted and for the most part, happy. I'd just gotten my first job, doing market research in the mall. I got along with my mom, and had tons of friends. My life was a modern day fairy tale.
Then I met him. Tall, tan, gorgeous, smart. In short, my dream guy. He seemed like the perfect addition to my perfect life. There was flirting, we'd have lunch together most days, and he'd drive me home from work. He told me I was beautiful, said he loved me, bragged about me to all his friends. He spent all his free time with me, brought me flowers, held me for hours. I was in love. WE were in love. I was thrilled when he propoesed.
The wedding was beautiful. I had the perfect gown, and he looked amazing in his custom-tailored suit. When we kissed, it seemed like time stopped just for us. We went on our honeymoon, which continued long after we came home. We were the picture-perfect couple, blissfully happy just to be near each other.
Then, all too quickly, reality began to set in. At first, we'd have little ten minute fights, which ended quickly with both of us apologizing, then having wild make-up sex. Slowly, the fights became more intense and more frequent, each lasting longer and hurting more than the one before. The smallest things would trigger an argument. Little by little, the amazing connection we shared began to fade, getting to the point where we didn't understand each other at all. We'd say and do things with the express purpose of hurting each other. I wondered what happened to us. Whether he did or not, I couldn't venture to guess. I loved that man with all my heart, but I could feel the happiness we'd found in each other slipping away.
Then, it happened. We were fighting, again, and the next thing I knew, he was gone. I went through the next few days in a haze of denial and false hope. Finally, I realized what had happened, and I panicked. I begged and pleaded with him to come home. I called him regularly, spent as much time as possible with him, even resorting to being his booty call in hopes that he'd come to his senses and return home. When my friends would call and tell me they'd seen him with another woman, I'd call him crying and screaming. He'd deny it, and I beleived him time after time, even when it was confirmed that he was living with the woman in question. "She's just a friend," he'd assure me, "I'm only renting a room from her. Nothing's going on." Despite all evidence to the contrary, I beleived him. I yelled at the friends who tried to get me to open my eyes, told them they didn't know what they were talking about, warned them to mind their own business. Eventually, they all wrote me off as a lost cause. They still spent time with me, but I loathed that look in their eyes.
Finally, after four long months, my life took an apparent turn for the better. My beloved husband picked me up from work, and when he pulled into my driveway, I saw boxes of his things. He'd moved back in! I was happier than I'd been in months. The next few weeks were like a second honeymoon. I was the one he was meant to be with, he said, and he'd finally realized it. I was in Heaven.
Until she called. The "friend" he'd been living with. I was informed that he had, in fact, been involved with her. Still, I denied it to myself. When I confronted him about it, he, too, denied it. Until later that night. He finally told me the truth, the truth I'd known from the start. It was a mistake, he assured me. He loved me, and he wished he'd never been so weak. Although things were tense between us for the next few days, I decided to try and forgive him, to heal our relationship and go on. Still, his transgression hung over me every day. When I was alone, I'd cry until I just couldn't cry any more. I tried to be strong, to put on a brave front because I didn't want anyone to know that I was so vulnerable. We were getting along, better than we'd done in awhile, and I just wanted it to stay that way.
Of course, real life again returned, and there was fighting againg. For many different reasons, none of them really important when considered alone, but all adding up to great tension.
Soon after, I was asked to accompany my grandmother on her vacation to Las Vegas. "Wonderful!" I thought. This would give us both a chance to relax, to have some time apart. I assumed it would give us both some perspective and help to strenthen our relationship, which still meant the world to me. My husband agreed that it was a good idea.
I had a blast on the trip. I met new people, had a lot of fun, and was stress-free for nearly three weeks. I spoke on the phone to my husband every day, and it really seemed like things were going to be better for us when I got home. However, that was not to be.
On the last day of the trip, I wasn't feeling in top shape. I could tell I was coming down with something. I couldn't wait to get home to snuggle up to the love of my life. When I arrived at my mothers house, I called my husband on his cell phone. "Hi, babe, I'm back, could you come to pick me up?" An uncomfortable silence followed, broken by "I think your mom will have to take you home." I didn't understand. "Where are you?" "Jacksonville." I was still confused. "Huh? When are you coming home?" "I'm not." Still, the fever I was developing was clouding my seneses. After what seemed like an hour, it sank in. I broke down. I don't remember quite what I said to him, or what he said in response, but it was established that I didn't want to see or hear from him ever again.
I spent the next week on my mothers couch, delerious with fever. I ended up in the hospital, where I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I spent a few more days at my mom's house, building up my strenght. Finally, I was ready to go home. My cousin was in town, and I offered him the use of my guest room, mostly so I wouldn't be alone. The next morning, the phone rang. It, of course, was my husband. He asked how I was feeling, and acted hurt that nobody had called him when I was in the hospital. We talked for a bit longer, ending with me claiming nausea and hanging up. Every day for several weeks, he called me. I didn't understand it. I had nothing to say to him, and told him so several times. Each time, he would heed my words for a few days, and leave me alone, but he'd always begin calling me again within a week.
Finally, I moved back into my mother's house, and the calls all but stopped. I still, to my chagrin, hear from him now and then, but the frequency is low enough to render it tolerable. I'm happy now, I'm moving on with my life. I'm having fun again, spending time with long-lost friends, and just enjoying life. I feel that I'm a better person for this experience. Although it cost me a lot, I've gained so much. I've matured so much in the last few years, and I've lost my naive, idealistic outlook on life. I've learned to be happy with myself. I may have grown up before my time, but I can take a lot of valuable knowledge from it all.
Why did I post this? Honestly, it was mostly because I needed to get it all out. But it was also partly to remind everyone that the hardest of times have an upside, and what seems like the end of the world is often a blessing in disguise. I know we've all got our own set of problems, but just remember, the universe will even it all out in the end.
If this story helps just one person, it was worth everything.
User Reviews
Submitted by Morlock (user info) at 2005-05-17 14:13:56 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Holy crap. Normally I do not take sides in these things but facts are...
1-this guy preyed upon a minor, we call that child molestation.
2-this older gal is such a frickin cow that this has Jerry Springer SCREAMING for a video highlight.
3-Queen didn't need to explain ANYTHING to anyone. But she did and seeing how this other chick is doing nothing more than ragging Queen name through the proverbial mud... who in the hell are we going to believe?
4-Queen, your dad amy not have been around but I am sure that there are a few of us older gentlemen that wouldn't mind taking a crack at that dipshit ex-husband.
5-Queen has found in herself the ability to tackle these situations... with that, there is nothing more that can stop her in obtaining anything she wants. All she needs is the will.
Submitted by Rasta (user info) at 2005-05-17 03:20:18 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
The story was sad, But the comments are hilarious! I gotta see these two gals in Orlando. lol
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2005-05-17 02:37:26 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
only in Florida.
Submitted by Siren (user info) at 2005-05-17 02:25:53 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Oh my freaking god. Nearly this same exact thing happened to me a few years ago. It's remarkable how similar your situation was to mine and how you described your feelings.
I'm so glad you're happy now. It takes a lot of time for these things to heal correctly. It seems like you clean up the aftermath forever.
No wonder it's so scary to fall in love. I think this type of tragedy is always in the back of one's mind.
Sorry you had to go through it.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-05-17 01:51:13 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
wow..
Ok.. I was looking forward to meeting you in Orlando, Ashlee... but after reading this, I really need to.
(psstt.. I'm pretty sure you've figured it out, but from what I can tell, most of us are on your side..Keep your head up and don't drop your guard..aim for the chin, she'll drop like a fly)
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2005-05-16 23:16:07 EDT (#)
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I had more but I got tired of typing. Damn I'm a pussy.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2005-05-16 23:15:21 EDT (#)
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Christ, spend a couple of days in Cocoa Beach and just look what I come back to...
A) In my defense, Shlongy, I was unaware of the situation at the time. Shouldn't have been, was, whatever. I was sixteen years old, stupid, naive, all that stuff... this whore was in her twenties with a child. Oh, forgot about that bit; she moved a guy she JUST MET who happens to have a felony record (something else I maybe should have known in the beginning, eh?) into her home where her young daughter lived... Great mothering, no?
B) You know damn well that I don't live in a trailer, you whore. And I saw your house; do let's not nitpick at other people's living situations when you raise a kid in a house that WISHES it were a trailer. And also smells like human urine.
C) You're telling ME to grow up? After you hunted me down on a fucking web forum? Aren't you like almost thirty or something? And I'm not yet twenty, you know this, yes?
D) I have already posted my full name, place of birth, place of residence, and phone number on this website; you think that's gonna bug me or something?
E) David left YOU, you never dropped him. I know it, you know it, so please, let's not kid ourselves. Your lies are so unbecoming...
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2005-05-16 13:53:14 EDT (#)
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JER-RY!
JER-RY!
JER-RY!
JER-RY!
Submitted by mizperfect76 (user info) at 2005-05-16 13:36:57 EDT (#)
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dwr_budr i added a pic of me to compare it's submitted under general let me know what you think.
Submitted by dwr_budr (user info) at 2005-05-15 23:04:56 EDT (#)
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Bwahaha 2 year old drama. What the fuck? You both got used up by some douchebag so why are you bothering with each other? There's no pride to be found in this situation, it's all just a big mess so let it go.
Ashlee's cute though, so lets see pics of this mysterious other woman and then we'll see who wins.
Submitted by PeanutButterJellyTime (user info) at 2005-05-15 22:46:16 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
GO GET EM TIGER.
Submitted by mizperfect76 (user info) at 2005-05-15 22:37:55 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
oh and for my husband sleeping with someone else while i was in labor with his kid, hmmm hard to do with him there for all 32 hours of it. oh that's right you were there so you know (yea right) get your story right before posting so bull you have no idea about. you need a hobby, oh you have one--sleeping around for attention. where do you get your info from cause that statement was way off.
Submitted by mizperfect76 (user info) at 2005-05-15 22:25:51 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
i agree with SLONGY. you slept with him in my bed instead of your bed you were married to him how jerry springer does that sound.. oh and shlongy her trailer is the best in the lot polyester curtains and all, but no man no money living off mommy. see the more you know about a person the more you question there writing. i read an article about her dad being in the mafia or some such stuff how true does that sound. consider this when you read her articles.
Submitted by mizperfect76 (user info) at 2005-05-15 22:21:59 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
you're right i wasn't at your wedding but your"husband" did show pictures. but hey at least i drop my POS man you made up a pregnancy to try and keep yours. what does this say about you, he slept with me then with you to shut you up and keep you from calling. and just a reminder you started this 2 years ago with the "whore" comment. make your man happy and he won't go running to someone else. you are so sad dad killed himself to get away from you and faked a pregnacy to keep a cheating man how much more pathetic can YOU get. Ashlee Nicole Saret Crews get a life and grow up a little.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-05-14 19:44:17 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
If you fucked this scum bag of a dude in some OTHER skanks' bed, trust me on this one:
You're better than no one.
So I'll wait for a retraction on your review from 7pm this evening.
This guy sounds like a real catch. Congrats.
Let me know in a year or so how life in the trailer park is.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2005-05-14 19:23:31 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Oh and can I just remind you that YOUR husband was having sex with someone else while you were in labor with his child? It's just, you know, if you want to stalk me, I'm gonna have to start letting people know these things.
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2005-05-14 19:11:39 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
get her ashlee
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2005-05-14 19:03:36 EDT (#)
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Oh and please stop stalking me, you pathetic obsessive dirty dirty slut. It's been what, two years now? MOVE ON.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2005-05-14 19:00:03 EDT (#)
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Yeah, because you were at my wedding and all...
Listen, whore. I was not with him when he met you. We were seperated. The fact that he lowered himself to moving in with a skanky, fat, whorebeast is beyond my understanding, but he did it and it's in the past. The main point is that we were not in a relationship at the time. You were in a relationship with him, and he had to come to me to keep him satisfied. The fact that he slept with me while he was in a relationship with you, brought me to your home and fucked me in your bed, and planned to get back together with me and did so without even TELLING you he was moving out, yet dropped you and your brat like hot potatoes as soon as he had me back, indicates to me that.... well I forget where I was going with this but let's just refresh our collective memories: I am better than you.
Submitted by mizperfect76 (user info) at 2005-05-13 20:59:25 EDT (#)
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i am "just the friend" and this story is soooooo far off based there is not enough space to explain. ashlee your marriage was never perfect he came running to me. he may have been cheating on me with you but he was also cheating on you with me. i think we can both agree he was a low-life scum of a man. try to edit this story and make it realistic. your perfect gown and wedding??? you were married in a public park where home-less people live get it right some people who read these know the truth.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-10-29 16:52:40 EDT (#)
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Jen, I really wouldn't base any decisions off of my unusual circumstances. If you and your fiancee are in love and ready to make the plunge, I wish you the best of luck. Also, I appreciate you taking the time to draw your own conclusions about me based on ME, and not what other people say.
Loren, I think you'll be happy to know that me and Shawn are actually doing quite well. I think both did a lot of growing up while we were apart. And even if it doesn't work out, I will know that I did EVERYTHING in my power to save our relationship. I wouldn't have it any other way right now. :)
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2004-10-29 16:40:19 EDT (#)
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I still can't get over the fact that you took that S.O.B. back. I hope he is behaving himself at least.
Submitted by JenBee (user info) at 2004-10-29 16:27:06 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
This scared me. I am engaged. Should I rethink this? It also scares me that since I've stopped reading all the bullshit people say about you, and read your posts, I think you are really awesome. Rock on Ashlee
Submitted by NoahsArk (user info) at 2004-09-03 08:44:13 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
No Comment
Submitted by GeorgeBaker (user info) at 2004-09-03 08:39:09 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
Haven't had one of these in awhile...
Submitted by Val (user info) at 2004-07-20 04:38:59 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by dakingisdead (user info) at 2003-10-24 01:54:17 (#)
Ranking: 2
Guys like this just shit me. Typical power play shithead. ...He hits you, IT IS OVER. Read the signs and tell him to fuck off or leave him!
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Where were you 9 months ago when i needed you?
Submitted by WiKi (user info) at 2004-05-23 13:59:30 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Just wanna say that THIS post is the reason I read your stuff..
You're so real.
I love it.
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2004-02-14 23:27:04 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
-1 for whinning about personnal shit as if you were the only person with problems on Earth.
-1 godzillion for the retard look on the pic.
Submitted by dakingisdead (user info) at 2003-10-24 01:54:17 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Guys like this just shit me. Typical power play shithead. Girls when it is over, It Is Over. If he is living whith someone, It Is Over, He moves out, It Is Over, He hits you, IT IS OVER. Read the signs and tell him to fuck off or leave him!
Submitted by Sensei <senseiofmattitudev1.at.yahoo.com> at 2003-10-24 01:25:34 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I thought my life had sucked on occasion, and then I read a real tragic story and want to kick my own ass for being over-dramatic.
Very touching, makes me want to cry, and give you a big hug, and all that sappy stuff.
I love ya, darlin :P
Sensei a.k.a. Aaron
P.S. I'd log in, but I'm lazy.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-22 21:59:48 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
loki, I was 16 when I got married. I have a feeling my dad would have done something closer to killing the guy, if he hadn't died when I was 7.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2003-10-22 11:10:53 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
People get married for all kinds of reasons Reallybored and I seriously doubt that out of 1200 kids who graduated with you not one of them got knocked up or knocked up someone else.
That is a savage age gap. How old were you when you got married? I have to say that when I was 15 if some 25 year old had showed up to take me out, my dad would have decked him.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-22 10:41:59 EDT (#)
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Every time I look at that picture I want to grin :)
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-22 02:00:18 EDT (#)
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You're right, I did come out of it stronger. MUCH stronger. That's something I'm grateful for.
Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2003-10-21 22:51:13 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I've never had this happen to me, but I could feel your emotion by reading this. I can't imagine the full pain of this, but I have a glimpse. I'm sorry this happened to you. You seem to have come out stronger. I haven't witnessed you take shit from anyone on this thing!
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-20 01:20:30 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
I'm a fool? I lived through that, and I'd say I came out ahead. How is that foolish?
Submitted by Franger (user info) at 2003-10-19 23:15:34 EDT (#)
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So basically you're a fool, looks like I've been vindicated.
Good read though
Submitted by Manfre (user info) at 2003-10-19 11:29:18 EDT (#)
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Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2003-10-19 11:13:41 (#)
Ranking: 2
Rick, if you give her a massage, you better give me one, too, so i don't feel left out.
i'm glad it all worked out for you, Ashlee. you can't give people more than one chance in life, or you'll get walked all over. i realized this yet again last night as i was fucked over once more, only this time it was really bad.....
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Of course I will ;0)
Ill even give you a happy ending...
Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2003-10-19 11:13:41 EDT (#)
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Rick, if you give her a massage, you better give me one, too, so i don't feel left out.
i'm glad it all worked out for you, Ashlee. you can't give people more than one chance in life, or you'll get walked all over. i realized this yet again last night as i was fucked over once more, only this time it was really bad.....
Submitted by Manfre (user info) at 2003-10-19 10:46:50 EDT (#)
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I have no problem with giving you a massage in AC. Long as itll make you happy Im game.
Submitted by Scrawberry (user info) at 2003-10-19 02:03:36 EDT (#)
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Then it's a good thing you gave her a +2, because it's really good. Worth learning to read for. :)
Submitted by gascs (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:59:30 EDT (#)
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I didn't read this, because I'm illiterate. But I'm learning.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:39:20 EDT (#)
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Scrawberry, you are too kind.
Submitted by Scrawberry (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:35:41 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Yea, Ashlee's pretty! I personally don't think there's a cap on how often you can tell a girl that. Soooo, for the second time this post-Ashlee is pretty! And a third...Ashlee is pretty. Why did the chicken cross the road? Because Ashlee's pretty!
And girl, I have seen some yellow teeth-I live in Louisiana-and yours are not!
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:32:47 EDT (#)
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I didn't mean to come across as an "I'm so insecure, compliment me!" type, I know that I'm not ugly, I'm just not a huge fan of that particular picture.
Submitted by Posting-Zero (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:30:13 EDT (#)
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You look fine, sheesh how many more people need to say you look good to convince you that you look good? Haha that sounds weird looking at that sentance. Anyway...I looked at your older posts and thought they were well spoken out, ubersite needs more people like you.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:10:59 EDT (#)
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You all are so sweet! I actually didn't like that picture, I think my teeth look yellow and my eyes look weird. I only posted it to demonstrate that I'm finally able to feel happy again, hence the big grin on my face.
Submitted by Posting-Zero (user info) at 2003-10-19 01:08:36 EDT (#)
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Nice post. But sorry about your x-husband.
You look amazing and not all air brushed out like some people....kristy swan...
Asides from your looks, I look forward to reading more of your posts.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-19 00:58:35 EDT (#)
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Manfre- Oh, and just so you know, I'll probably hit you up for a massage in Atlantic City.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-19 00:41:42 EDT (#)
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Manfre, don't feel like a dick. You boosted my ego n' stuff. However, as you can probably understand after having read my post, I won't be getiing married again for quite ahile ;)
Scrawberry, I ready you post last night. I wanted to comment but couldn't think of anything to say! It really suckes that you had to go throught that. I know that just the feeling of knowing that my guy slept with someone else nearly destroyed me, I don't even want to THINK about actually seeing it happen!
I got married ten days after my 16th birthday, and I am now 18.
Submitted by indoninja (user info) at 2003-10-19 00:16:17 EDT (#)
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Just curious but how old were you when you got married and how old are you now? I used to live in Florida and that place was horrible for people getting married early and young girls dating old dudes. I think there must be something in the water there.
Submitted by Manfre (user info) at 2003-10-18 23:46:05 EDT (#)
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Erhm I feel like a dick now...
I looked at the picture without reading the post... I just read the post and I have to say. You didnt do anything different than any other woman out there. Loves very blind no matter what anyone says.
I know I have no real right to say this but I know what you were going through in a sort. My first love did much the same thing. Unfortunately Im still wrapped around her finger. Not as tightly as before but still.
But I am glad to hear that you were able to move on and rebuild your life. For that youve earned a greater amount of respect from me.
Plus I still think your beautiful.
Submitted by Manfre (user info) at 2003-10-18 23:34:33 EDT (#)
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Deer god your amazing looking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Marry me and well have lots of children and Ill make you the happiest woman in the world.
I havent read the other replies yet but Im sure youve already gotten several proposals. Im better then the rest. Why? Because Im a licensed masseur, give great oral, and will be wonderful to you during our marriage.
Wow I thought you to be queenly but I didnt think youd be THIS queenly. Beautiful!!!
Submitted by Scrawberry (user info) at 2003-10-18 05:55:53 EDT (#)
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Ashlee,
I wanna direct you to my own man trouble post. Granted, it's not anywhere near the extent you had to go through, but (and I mean this is a respectful way) when I read your story it made me see how lucky I was to get out when I did. I would hate to have been married when I went through the following: http://www.ubersite.com/cgi-bin/message_get.cgi?message=1066444054532818241
Thanks, ONCE AGAIN, for posting!
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-18 00:26:56 EDT (#)
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Just because the number 25 is so much better than the number 24.
Submitted by sam_el (user info) at 2003-10-17 16:59:12 EDT (#)
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Great story with an uplifting ending.
I have to say I don't understand the couples where one member is way older than the other, but the fault lies in the older party. I really think these people are douche bags and it's upsetting. It probably has something to do with the fact that my girlfriend's ex was 23 and my girlfriend 15 when they hooked up. I hate that son of a bitch.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-17 16:49:32 EDT (#)
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You guys are the best!
To answer your questions, yes, I realize it was a stupid thing to do. I married him because I was in love with him. Like I said, he seemed like the perfect guy, and there was no chance I was going to let him slip away. I rushed into it, because I wanted to start our life together as soon as possible. I'm sure I had a few underlying selfish and stupid reasons for doing what I did, i.e. getting away from my mother and showing the world that I was as grown up as the rest of them. When I was younger, I had the typical self-doubt. Nobody really knew ME. He was the only person who I felt reallt understood me at all. I see now that maybe he DID understand me, but only because he was so close to my maturity level. Problem is, as time went on, matured, and he didn't. I'm not going to say I'm happy that I did what I did, because I do wish I could go back and change it, but I also value everything I've learned from the experience. I've learned to pace myself, and to recognize the signs that I'm biting off more than I can chew. I'll definitely be more careful the next time I find myself falling for someone.
Submitted by jgirly (user info) at 2003-10-17 13:10:34 EDT (#)
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Thanks for writing that!
I made me so thankful for what I have. I don't know what it is about 15 year old girls. I guess they're just naive. When I was 15 I met a guy that was 25. He said and did all the right things. I probably would have married him just like you except my parents interveened (sp?). I hated them for it for the longest time. But now looking back at it I'm ashamed for even considering being with him. Especially since he ended up taking me to a motel and raping me...but that's another story!
Fortunately, things all worked out. I'm happily married now to a wonderful man...who is my age!
Submitted by Titinita (user info) at 2003-10-17 12:07:30 EDT (#)
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If I work up enough nerve to go to Ubermeet I would love to meet you.
You are such pretty little thing.
Submitted by prezuiwf (user info) at 2003-10-17 12:01:28 EDT (#)
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Good read, not too long actually. I am very sorry for you, but I'm sure you'll bounce back. Just don't worry about that asshole anymore.
Submitted by xLisaCatx (user info) at 2003-10-17 11:56:56 EDT (#)
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The read was worth it, but I to often question youths that get married at an early age.
Submitted by Nicole3 (user info) at 2003-10-17 11:04:25 EDT (#)
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If you ever have kids hopefully you won't let them make the same mistakes. They may say they hate you, but that doesn't matter. That is just wrong, 25 and 15. Kids do stupid things, as you did, but it is up to the parents to set them straight.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-17 10:59:37 EDT (#)
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That's a really nice picture, too. I like how it's blurred and how you're taking it yourself. It suggests uncontained energy and strength in being by yourself. That's an artsy fartsy view, anyway.
Submitted by Natophelia (user info) at 2003-10-17 10:57:41 EDT (#)
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When I was a teenager, I dated guys who were several years older than I was. Not a 10 year difference, but still significant enough. I recall 20-something year olds trying to talk to me alot, but I never had anything to do with them. But now that I'm the age of those 'older' guys who liked teenaged girls, I look at them and see there is something terribly wrong with them! They always seem to be loosers and mental/emotional fuckwits with whom no females their age will associate. I was so blown away by the attention of some of these guys when I was a teen that I couldn't see things like that. Perspective makes a world of difference; something I'm sure you have plenty of now, Ashlee!
RB- Use that 12 year old kid who's been posting holier-than-thou bullshit as an example. Some kids feel like they really do know something about life just because they've 'seen' things. Hell, I saw more by the time I was 12 than most adults I know have EVER seen except in movies, but it takes TIME to sort it all out, learn from it, and grow. With a very young and limited experience, alot of kids think they have 'arrived' and can't fathom how much they're going to change over time. Again, perspective... I was one of those kids, but lucky for me my mom did the marriage-hopping thing and was so horrible to my brother and me that I made a vow to not ever get married until I was at least mid to late 20's and NEVER have kids unless I was married. Phew. Thanks mommy dearest!
Submitted by marc01 (user info) at 2003-10-17 10:26:51 EDT (#)
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hindsight is 20/20 i know but iocant even begin to imagine how much a dirt bag someone can be to be that much older in life. notice i didnt say age. there is a major world of differance between 20 and 15. i get sick when i hear about someone over the age or 23 with anyone below 19. its just wrong. someone 30 can marry a 21 or 22 but even then it is pushing it a little. but glad you made it, but dont give up on guys in general just because he was a dit=rt bag. also this guy will have problems his whole life and is most likely a closet pephediote(sp)? that is the only thing i can think of people who are older who date girls ...yes girls not women.
p.s. i had hoped you were making a dig at lifetime. i hate that channel. it is degrading to both men and women.
Submitted by reallybored (user info) at 2003-10-17 10:22:43 EDT (#)
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Before i go into this i want to say that i like you Ashlee and that im sorry for what happened. But....
WHAT THE FUCK?! He's 10 years your senior? I know your not 21 and you got married? Jesus H. Christ.
As a newcomer to Florida i have seen ALOT of kids that are married and i dont understand it. Why the hell would you get married at such a young age to a guy so much older? At what point did common sense fly out the window?
Ok folks, let me explain something. I was born in NYC and raised on long island. Now for those that have never heard of LI, let me give you alittle background. Long Island is one of the most populated areas in the US. Most of the towns there have populations that dwarf small cities. This is because of people living there that work in NYC.
Anyway, my graduating HS class was over 1200 kids. Out of that 1200 none of the kids, not one single girl had a kid. No girl was even pregnant (meaning keeping the child). And lastly nobody was engaged or married. It just didnt happen. I still talk to alot of people from high school and i still have yet to hear of ANYONE who got engaged or married. However, when i moved to Florida after college i start running into all these kids (yes until you 25 your a fucking kid in my mind) getting married and starting families. My simple question is, WHY??
Why the fuck would you rush into something like this? This most important decision in your life your going to make before you can even purchase beer? I truely do not understand. Please somebody, educate me.
Submitted by Insanethemind (user info) at 2003-10-17 09:00:00 EDT (#)
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Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-17 04:59:22 (#)
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Oh yes, I forgot to mention that he hit me once and that he was 25 and I was 15 when we met.
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Gawd Ashlee, glad it worked out how it did.
Submitted by potatomanjack (user info) at 2003-10-17 08:59:54 EDT (#)
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Thanks for sharing.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-17 08:43:28 EDT (#)
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Awww, thanks, Scrawberry.
*blushes uncontrollably*
Submitted by Scrawberry (user info) at 2003-10-17 08:38:07 EDT (#)
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Ashlee,
I thought this was so well-written, I came back to read it again. And I still wanna give you a hug!
Submitted by GoingBlue (user info) at 2003-10-17 07:27:59 EDT (#)
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Cutie.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-17 06:46:35 EDT (#)
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That was to explain why it might qualify as a Lifetime movie. You know, dramatic twist.
Submitted by tartpumper (user info) at 2003-10-17 06:37:10 EDT (#)
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Oh yes, I forgot to mention that he hit me once and that he was 25 and I was 15 when we met.
Thats a bit dodgy.....
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-17 06:30:10 EDT (#)
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Thanks, you guys. Writing this actually helped me a bit, and I really hope it helps someone else who's going through a hard time.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2003-10-17 05:16:13 EDT (#)
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Great read (and QA is more than a little cute too)
I have a lot of regrets and mistakes myself, and am learning the same lessons.
I think you will find, with time that things will be easier, that you'll even be able to talk with some civility. http://www.ubersite.com/cgi-bin/message_get.cgi?message=1064984330794017661
SpikeGoddess's post here is a good one to go hand in hand.
Submitted by Scrawberry (user info) at 2003-10-17 05:12:27 EDT (#)
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Aw, sweetie...I wish I could hug you!
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2003-10-17 05:09:10 EDT (#)
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Thanks for the story. I usually dont read long stories, because I'm lazy, but Im glad I read this one. It was great.
Submitted by MOssiah (user info) at 2003-10-17 05:00:18 EDT (#)
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Thank you.
This was a pleasure to read.
Congratulations, you have made it through the shithole of life, and came out smelling like roses.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2003-10-17 04:59:22 EDT (#)
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Oh yes, I forgot to mention that he hit me once and that he was 25 and I was 15 when we met.