Toxic People (1179 hits)
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Submitted by Velouria <velouria_boudreaux.at.yahoo.com> (View user info) at 2003-12-09 15:55:13 EST
I'm not in the best best or worse of relationships. Everyone has their problems. My boyfriend is a great person most of the time. I make a lot of allowances for times when things don't go well. Often we separate, but it's never for long. Within no time, we're back within one another's arms pretending like nothing had ever happened.
This is the only time we've reconsiled where I'm clueless and feeling emptier than when I didn't have him in my life. We somewhat said we'd get back togehter, again, today. Usually we take a few days, get used of one another's presence again, have make up sex, whatever seems right.
Today he left, but we're somehow together. He's on the road right now to Texas. This trip was planned prior to our very short separation. He even mentioned not going, but I insisted that he follow through with the plans.
I walked into our house for the first time since Friday, the day I walked out. I placed the belongings I took out of the home and put them back within their retrospecive places. And then the phone rings. I didn't answer the phone because I recognized the number. I'm not a person who hates my boyfriend's friends because I can't stand to share attention. So don't go judging me before I have my say. The number was of a friend of my boyfriend's who he'd stop talking to months before. We'll call this guy "Billy."
Billy is a bum. He's one of those guys who never holds a job. He had two children, one of which died. He used the death of his youngest son as an excuse to drink and do drugs. My boyfriend is the godfather of both children. Billy undoubtedly asked my boyfriend to be the godfather because my boyfriend would never allow his godchildren to do without any necessity they needed. My boyfriend would always help Billy out in times of need. Billy in return would do mechanic work and whatever odds and ends that my boyfriend didn't feel like doing at the time. Billy would just about do anything to work off his debt. He is quite handy. I've always called Billy the most useless useful person I've ever known.
Just an example of how pathetic Billy is:
On my first date with my boyfriend ages ago, Billy was at my boyfriend's home when I arrived. Billy was ironing my boyfriend's clothes so he'd look decent for our date. In return, Billy took out a pack of pork chops out of my boyfriend's freezer and two rolls of toilet paper. Billy had no food within the house and could not afford to buy something as simple as toilet paper. The following day, Billy washed someone's car and was paid $20. Billy rushes to my boyfriend's home with the $20 trying to get him to go to a bar since he actually had money. Remember the day before, he had nothing to feed his family and had to borrow toilet paper, but he had money to buy beer.
When my boyfriend was single, he drank a lot and often supported Billy's habits. Billy was always avaliable, and eagerly took my boyfriend's hand-out. Billy didn't like when I stepped into the scene. The hand-outs didn't happen as often and Billy didn't have a bar buddy to support his habits.
There were quite a few times where my boyfriend went out with Billy while we were together. Each time, drama always occured in our relationship. And it just floored me when I saw him calling again. My boyfriend promised me he was through with this guy. He didn't give up Billy for me, he did because "supposedly" he saw that Billy was truly worthless and he was toxic to anyone who allowed him into their lives. To see Billy's name calling our home again, I can't describe. And my boyfriend is not here for me to talk to for reassurance, explanation, or comfort.
We're back together, so I guess I should be happy. But I'm going back home to an empty home, and now I'm left to wonder about what all could have happened within a short four and a half day separation.
This can't make any sense to you all. There so many pieces to explain to make the jigsaw fit, and I haven't the strenght nor time to explain it all out. Sorry guys for venting what probably is mostly incoherent to anyone not being there to understand the big picture. I probably just needed to get it all out and have a good cry.
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Submitted by William_Q_Percy (user info) at 2004-01-14 16:32:58 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
You look like you're hot, so I will give you some advice.
Let them be friends, at the very least. Billy already resents you for taking away his drinking buddy, how the hell do you think he is now that you've persueded your boy toy to cut him out of his life completely? A godparent is more than a friend, if somebody gives you that honour, chances are you've already seen the gates of hell and back with each other, you can't break a bond like that.
Your man-pony is reluctant to tell you to relax on the issue because he he deep feelings for you, wants to protect you, still have sex, etc. He will say he'll give in, but there's no way he'd turn his back forever on a true friend and his godchildren. He is basically family, don't you understand?
Maybe you should cool out for a bit. At the most have a beer with them to show that you're okay with them being friends. Billy needs your guy and I am sure somehow your guy needs Billy in his life.
Submitted by dakingisdead (user info) at 2003-12-09 22:37:03 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
What El Gaupo said.
Give the dick the flick.
Also spell check your work!
Submitted by El_Guapo (user info) at 2003-12-09 16:50:25 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
firefly, this isn't Valerie aka UrbaneMischief. this is someone else.
and Velouria, it sounds like you consciously or subconsciously pressured him into ending his friendship with this person. but aside from that, if he is sincere about not having anything to do with billy, doesn't mean that he can stop billy from calling your house. besides, did you ever consider that your bf may be the only force of stability in this guy's life? but of course this is all my perception based on lack of any real detail about what kind of "relationship drama" came about from your bf going out with the guy.
also on another point, seriously, if you are having this many problems and are breaking up/making up like that, just break it off for good. it won't work out in the end, trust me I know i wasted nearly 6 years with my ex, and in a lot of ways i now see the signs i was too blinded with love to have seen then. unfortunatley, love cannot always keep people together.
Submitted by Death_Metal_Dude (user info) at 2003-12-09 16:29:00 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Relationship/crying/drama post = -2
Submitted by firefly (user info) at 2003-12-09 16:13:35 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
i meant to write billy is streetpunk's friend.
Submitted by firefly (user info) at 2003-12-09 16:07:22 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
um ok
I guess billy is streetpunk?
You know you could always just get councling instead of writing your relationship drama on the internet. This is almost as bad as going on Jerry Springer.
Submitted by Phinch (user info) at 2003-12-09 16:04:32 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
leave billy alone. you boyfriend is buddies with him. billy will probably do anything for your boy.
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2003-12-09 16:02:02 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
I don't get it. But hell, cry away.
I usually rent something along the lines of "Of Mice and Men" when I'm in need of a good sob-session.
Submitted by pleasedontflameme (user info) at 2003-12-09 15:56:33 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
You Suck!