40 year old man, what was your first clue? (3030 hits)
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Submitted by LacyFace16<lacyface16.at.yahoo.com> (View user info) at 2004-02-22 18:47:10 EST
I have never been hit on so much by older men as I have in the past few weeks. It started with my car. I bought a car and the man who sold it to me was a 40-something man with a wedding band. I noticed it when he was signing my papers. Two days after purchasing my car, he called me at my office to thank me and to ask me if he could take me to dinner. I was completely taken aback and hardly knew what kind of response I should be searching for. I stupidly changed the subject because I couldn't find the words to actually turn him down. Afterward, I truly felt dirty, like I had done something to make this 40 year old married man call me at my work place to ask me out. What gave him the nerve to think i would have gone out with him in the first place!?!
Second encounter was just a few days ago when a 53 year old man came to lease an apartment. I know he was 53 because I had to check his credit. He would not stop pestering me to take HIM out and show him around...and would i please give him my cell phone number. I kindly told him probably 4 or 5 times that I do not give my cell phone number out. It didn't seem to sink in so finally I just told him I am not even going to be living here much longer because I'm moving to Florida. He left the office after leasing the apartment and proceeded to call me 3 more times that day for my phone number. Oh, and every time he talked to me he referred to me as *baby*.
Today I went to a bullroast with my family where they have dinner, beer, and dancing. I don't have a boyfriend so when slow songs come on I'm left to either dance with my mom's fiance or watch from the sidelines. During one slow song, a 46 year old man approached me to ask me to dance. (I knew he was 46 because when he left my grandmother told me who he was and how old he was). Now, it's just a dance and under normal circumstances I may have just agreed to dance with him. Unfortunately, I had already noticed that every time I went up to the bar to refill the pitcher for my table, he was staring at me like he could see right though me. Each time I either avoided eye contact or smiled politely enough to get past him without feeling uncomfortable. So, when he asked me to dance after gauking at me all night, I kindly said *no thank you* and turned to watch my family dance.
I just don't get it though. I'm not against anyone dating anyone older or younger than them. I'm very open-minded. I don't know why any of these 3 men would have thought I would have been interested in them. I'm not looking for a 40 something man. If I'm looking at all, it's for someone in their 20's. I don't think I'm giving off any kind of vibe telling these individuals to come harass me. It is just a little creepy to be put in that situation where now you have to find a way out of the situation you were just put in.
Please don't take offense if you are a 40 year old man who has done this. This is just my opinion for me, not my judgement on you or anyone else. I realize you're only as old as you feel and I totally agree. I just am not attracted to older men. Some girls may be...just not me. Ugghh, am I being snobby? If so, I don't mean to be. I am just getting tired of being put in uncomfortable situations by older men who don't seem to take *no* as a first and final response.
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Submitted by Sian_Silverhair (user info) at 2004-04-08 08:22:44 EDT (#)
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Fucking sickos.
Submitted by lowsodiummonkey (user info) at 2004-02-24 19:29:42 EST (#)
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You must have huge tits or something?
Do you want to go out sometime?
By the way ..
I'm a thirty something and .... ummmm
married
Submitted by quack (user info) at 2004-02-24 19:08:20 EST (#)
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haha. "advocating bald coots" just sounds funny.
Submitted by dyerbm (user info) at 2004-02-24 12:08:50 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by dyerbm (user info) at 2004-02-24 12:08:21 EST (#)
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sorry, meant to give +2
Submitted by dyerbm (user info) at 2004-02-24 12:07:40 EST (#)
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I hate older men/perverts with a passion. They are a disease of this country.
Submitted by hcp28 (user info) at 2004-02-23 22:11:57 EST (#)
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I fell in love with a girl who is dating a 49 year-old. She is 25. I figure I just have to wait till he dies and then she is all mine. Seriously though what is up with that shit?
+2 for you I hate dirty old men.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-23 18:30:20 EST (#)
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The issue to me is the persistence, not the age.
i couldn't have said it better. they seem to be overly persistent to the point of harassment. the 53 y/o i was talking about called me at work today asking me if he could bring me lunch or ice cream or anything. i was like ARE YOU KIDDING!!!!! Get a life! I actually said *no thanks, we eat lunch in the office* but you catch my drift.
Submitted by coley (user info) at 2004-02-23 17:48:04 EST (#)
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I've had the same "problem" I guess in the past..but just with random guys at concerts, the park, etc. Nothing major, not too often (I'm not the girl that gets hit on all the time). But, one time, I had my friend teasing the shit out of me for days about all these "old guys" that "totally wanted" me. I finally got pissed off and asked what her problem was...I didn't think they were hitting on me. Apparently being NICE is considered flirting these days..arrgh...okay off subject there.
Anyhow, like whoever said, turn em down like you would a 20 yr old. And sometimes you have to ignore them. The issue to me is the persistence, not the age.
Submitted by drstrangedhruv (user info) at 2004-02-23 16:49:20 EST (#)
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"I just don't get it though."
Wow, older men hitting on a hot, nubile young woman with a great butt, what a perplexing mystery.
Submitted by volklcess (user info) at 2004-02-23 11:56:34 EST (#)
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Just tell them you don't date out of your generation...hehe. Old men can be such pervs.
:-)
Phoenix
Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-02-23 11:47:36 EST (#)
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Coot is a funny word.
The groomed pieslice...you know...the triangle, neatly trimmed and then everything else waxed. Allows for minimal pube interference while allowing you to keep most of your hair. So you can feel 22 instead of 11.
This classroom smells like a hotdog.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-23 11:32:23 EST (#)
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haha Kristen...groomed pieslice!?! no i dont advocate bald coot! I can't believe i just said coot.
Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-02-23 11:27:16 EST (#)
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Thank you for the clarification, Michelle. I thought you were advocating bald coots.
Everyone knows the groomed pieslice with waxed everything else is where it's at.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-23 10:11:22 EST (#)
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and about the hair...since it's becoming a popular subject on my post...
i think a little bit of hair is necessary for women. maybe no longer than 3 or 4 centimeters long. and for guys, i do NOT like completely shaven pubes. I prefer it to be trimmed. i don't want to feel like i'm having sex with a 14 year old.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-23 10:08:29 EST (#)
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loki,
a bullroast (don't ask why that's what they call it) is where they serve roast beef, raw oysters, pit beef, barbecued beef, etc. they had lots of beer and dancing. it's pretty fun if you like that kind of food. i don't particularly care for oysters so i stick with roast beef sandwiches on rye bread with mustard.
Submitted by reallybored (user info) at 2004-02-23 10:04:13 EST (#)
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Its kind of disturbing to
see a totally shaved pussy when your driving you woman wild, its like fucking a preteen.
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Um no.
A waxed vagina is God's greatest gift to man.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2004-02-23 09:53:25 EST (#)
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bullroast?
I guess they figure that they'll get shot down 99 times out of 100, but that 100th time woo hoo.
Submitted by whataefag (user info) at 2004-02-23 09:29:55 EST (#)
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If a 40-year-old is hitting on someone half his age then there's a serious problem with them. Next time just tell them you have a boyfriend.
Hm, bullroast ...
Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-02-23 00:56:53 EST (#)
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Submitted by someone (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:24:23 (#)
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Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:01:26 (#)
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To where this thread has headed: What's wrong with hair down there???
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A nicely trimmed line or something similiar is fine. Its kind of disturbing to
see a totally shaved pussy when your driving you woman wild, its like fucking a preteen.
IF its not shaved or trimmed however, no fucking way. I dont care if the chicks a fucking
supermodel, ill either kick the bitch out or straight out tell her.
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Bushes=bad, Hedges=good?
Submitted by chipolatte (user info) at 2004-02-23 00:50:55 EST (#)
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Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:00:51 (#)
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whooo. at least i didn't offend you because you are in the age group that I'm talking about.
I think even if it was a 10 year difference that is still alright. I'd date someone in their late 20's, but 53 years old! He's older than my mother! It'd be like sleeping with my own father.
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But it's not your father.
Submitted by Worm (user info) at 2004-02-23 00:33:51 EST (#)
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waitwaitwait...
A 40 year old car salesman was SLEAZY??
Well, I never. Car salesmen are right up there with Mother Theresa and the Dhali Lama.
On a more serious note, old guys are creepy. car salesmen are also creepy. Put them together and you get Michael-Jackson-creepy.
-Wo|2M
Submitted by amusediniraq (user info) at 2004-02-23 00:13:43 EST (#)
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I know exactly what you mean. I am 37 years old (male) and married to boot. I wear my ring and love my wife and 12 year old daughter to boot. It's just that everytime I go out all these luscious, firm, gorgeous, (I think I said firm), women who are like 19-23 keep hitting on me. Its horrible and disgusting. I personally am offended and repulsed! What a 40+ y/o guy would see in you is unknowable. I've seen your picture...its hiddious...
*slap across the face*
Naw, don't worry about it. These guys are leeches and figure if they ask 100 women 1 will say yes. I read most of this string and you have some good advice here. I find a good kick in my nuts deters me well. Try it.
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:40:18 EST (#)
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If my girl had hair, I would just nibble it off, anus and vagina both.
Submitted by someone (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:25:03 EST (#)
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Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:17:59 (#)
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Kristen, I have been *trying* to get ahold of you for three days. Email me at yahoo, mmmkay?
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Another plus two for the southpark reference, mmmmmmmmkayyyyyy???
Submitted by someone (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:24:23 EST (#)
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Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:01:26 (#)
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To where this thread has headed: What's wrong with hair down there???
==========================================
A nicely trimmed line or something similiar is fine. Its kind of disturbing to
see a totally shaved pussy when your driving you woman wild, its like fucking a preteen.
IF its not shaved or trimmed however, no fucking way. I dont care if the chicks a fucking
supermodel, ill either kick the bitch out or straight out tell her.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:17:59 EST (#)
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Kristen, I have been *trying* to get ahold of you for three days. Email me at yahoo, mmmkay?
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:03:30 EST (#)
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As long as I can chew on the pubes for fun, I'm all 18-year old chicks.
Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-02-22 23:01:26 EST (#)
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To respond to the post: Ew, you should have shot the married guy down! What a slime!
To where this thread has headed: What's wrong with hair down there???
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 22:02:39 EST (#)
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alright that's just gross Kool. I agree though hair is no good in the nether regions. but we're off topic here.
Ref...thanks for the complement. i'll be looking forward to your amusediniraq2 posts.
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-02-22 21:59:52 EST (#)
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Same applies to female buttholes. I don't want ass-pubes getting into my teefers.
Submitted by TheRef (user info) at 2004-02-22 21:29:17 EST (#)
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its gotta be trim or bald. i hate the amazon.
Submitted by AnnabelLee (user info) at 2004-02-22 21:19:02 EST (#)
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Old men do this to me all the time. (I'm 17.)
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-02-22 21:12:10 EST (#)
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Well, Tattered hit it on the head. Obviously there should be limits, but I think they're a bit hard right now. I prefer no grass on the field, Lacy.
Submitted by TatteredAndTorn (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:50:31 EST (#)
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Old enough to bleed old enough to breed quack.
+2
Submitted by TheRef (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:35:27 EST (#)
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thanks lacy. 6 months out of each of the next 5 years i will be amusediniraq2.
i still don't understand why you have troubles finding men. You are as beautiful as you are talented. the guys should be flocking to you!!.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:20:03 EST (#)
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Kool...tight maturing pussy? yeah, and they barely have any grass on the field! something about that screams pedophile(sp?)
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:14:39 EST (#)
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Quack, you should take advantage of that! They're tight maturing pussy!
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:13:18 EST (#)
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quack...i dont know who has it worse!
Ref...good luck!!!
Submitted by quack (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:06:03 EST (#)
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better than me. i get hit on by little girls. 13, 15, etc. not kidding.
Submitted by TheRef (user info) at 2004-02-22 20:05:12 EST (#)
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queen has a point. a 50 year old is no different than a 20 year old. the 50 year old can prolly handle more of a rejection since chances are he has been around the block a couple times already.
If you are in florida by may i might be able to show you where all the "nice" 50 year olds live. I would try to pick you up myself but i have to be headin to germany and that wouldn't be right in my book.
Submitted by reallybored (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:59:49 EST (#)
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40 year old guys hit on me all the time. But i totally tell them no. Im just not like ready to be in that type of relationship. For sure!
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:57:16 EST (#)
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probably what is most disturbing is that many of these men are probably married...like the car salesman. i absolutely saw a wedding band and he had the nerve to call me AT MY WORK! i should have said *what would your wife think of that* but i was speechless.
Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:52:34 EST (#)
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I have a lot of these encounters on the CTA. My friend Alex who rides the train with me is into video and usually has a video camera with him. He thinks it's funny to video tape these men, and then show the video to anyone who possibly knows me. It's not funny. Just for the record...
Submitted by dakingisdead (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:31:04 EST (#)
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Yeah Lacy I would extend it to ten years but the point is pretty soon after this you are getting a big disconnect in experience and other life skill stuff. Don't think I am slagging young people here because I am not. I am surrounded by young people all the time through my art practice church youth groups etc. It is just that when we are young we tend to be more idealistic and often more fervent in our views. Anyway what the fuck am I saying here. I am waffling.
The thing is I am a pretty damn fit guy who likes to go clubbing and partying still. However, There is no way I could keep it up like I did in my twenties and any old fart like me who thinks he can is delusional. So why delude yourself and think you can hang with a twenty old chick. It is obscene and in the end will only make you look bad if it doesn't kill you first. And why would anyone in his straight mind think he could I don't understand.
My advise to a 40+ guy who really thought he wanted a twenty something girl would be to check out the yellow pages under escort services or whorehouse and fucking grow up.
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:22:40 EST (#)
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Happens all the time. The guy that bought my old house had kids my age and tried to get me to go out with him. It's 2004, and a lot of younger women are dating older men. Some women date them because they're more financially stable, romantic, etc than guys their own age, or whatever. So these older guys get the impression that it's open season on all younger women. Just deal with them the same way you would a 20 year old you weren't interested in, and move on.
Submitted by domenad (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:18:44 EST (#)
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Oh and +2.
I'm only 26. Wanna hump (KIDDING!)?
Submitted by domenad (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:18:15 EST (#)
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Oh man, Lace, you should have totally ripped into him something fierce. What scum. You could have done something like:
"Oh, sure! Pick me up at 4:00 so we can get the early bird special. On top of your senior discount, we'll save a ton! It's so great you called me. I was going to invite you with my friends to go to Disney, anyway. If you just hold the walker, we can get to the front of every line."
You're far too nice.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:01:49 EST (#)
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haha Falconer. I don't know about all that. I have a 10 year old nephew. You guys are too close in age for my comfort.
Submitted by LacyFace16 (user info) at 2004-02-22 19:00:51 EST (#)
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whooo. at least i didn't offend you because you are in the age group that I'm talking about.
I think even if it was a 10 year difference that is still alright. I'd date someone in their late 20's, but 53 years old! He's older than my mother! It'd be like sleeping with my own father.
Submitted by Falconer (user info) at 2004-02-22 18:58:40 EST (#)
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I'm 14. Don't you think that it would be a welcome change of pace?
Submitted by dakingisdead (user info) at 2004-02-22 18:56:57 EST (#)
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Lacy I think it is pretty sicko as well. I am something over 40. Well almost 47 which probably makes me pretty much the grandpa on this site. Anyways my opinion is that anyhthing over about a 5-7 year age gap is starting to be questionable. Anything approaching 20 years is kinda sick.
Don't fret it though it ain't you thats doing anything here and rather than being polite and all from now on if someone like this hits on you just say 'fuck off grandpa'. Pretty much guaranteed to work!
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-02-22 18:54:27 EST (#)
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This applies to anyone in life, because you don't feel as if you're giving a vibe, you're just being nice. But they cling to you because they're desperate, and they should realize that you should never act out of desperation. Plus that's just wrong, old men wanting to fuck someone 20+ years younger than them. It's biological, but still they know better. If I wanted to go out with someone 4-5 years younger than me, that's reasonable, in my opinion.