WHY some people cut themselves (13699 hits)
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Submitted by morgan williams <punk_kid_4204.at.hotmail.com> (View user info) at 2004-04-07 17:30:24 EDT
Earlier i was searching the web about cutting or self-injury, and there was an article that someone had written on this website, it was a person asking why in the hell anyone would want to cut themselves. They were genuinely angry and pissed off that people would do that to themselves, and he made it sound like the people who cut themselves are evil and retarded and weak little pussies who cant deal with pain and think that their lives are worse than everybody else's. Well, I used to be a cutter and from time to time I still am, and I was really pissed that someone who is so uneducated on this topic thinks that they know everything and would rather make fun of cutters by calling them names just because he cant understand them, than try to understand why people cut. Well, I decided I would try to give some answers so maybe people won't be so ignorant.
Okay, first of all, people who cut do NOT do it to kill themselves. They do it to release the built up overwhelming emotions inside of them so that they can stay alive. Its a hard to understand concept, but the best way I can explain it is this: Some people have trouble expressing emotional pain and they can't understand why or where emotional pain hurts. They feel the need to change that unknown internal pain into a physical pain that they can feel and they can deal with. The physical pain of the cut relieves the emotional pain and its like by cutting yourself you are letting the negative emotion be expelled from your body. I was watching "the Real world" last night on mtv where Frankie cuts herself, and she explained why she did it in the best way I have ever heard. She said "you cant understand where or why emotional pain hurts
but when you cut yourself you can say 'my arm hurts right here right now becuase it is cut'. Sometimes the pain hurts too god damn much and I need to fix it". Cutting is simply some peoples way of dealing with emotions. And to that ignorant little boy who said that people who cut themselves think their lives are worse than everyone else's, that is absolutely not true. Everyone has a way of dealing with stress, whether it be cutting, smoking cigarettes, smoking pot, drinking alcohol, eating, not eating, shopping, whatever, everyone has problems and everyone has a way they deal with the problems that makes them feel comforted. And as a cutter myself, I agree that most cutters are weak, in the sense that they dont know how to deal with problems and when stress is too much they feel like they they will die from built up emotion unless they cut themselves to let the pain out. If you know anyone who is a cutter, you should try to understand them before you judge them. Most cutters are ashamed of what they do to themselves and they try to hide it. I have never told anyone that I have cut myself, and I never plan too. The reason I havent told anyone? I think that people will look down on me and judge me and not try to understand me and I don't want people to think that of me. I don't seem like the type of person most people would think of when they think of someone who inflicts pain upon themselves. Around my friends I act like I'm fairly happy, I act like I have a nice family, and everything is fine. But that is just pretending. I know that there are millions of people who have it worse than me but that doesnt mean im an ungreatful pussie who thinks i have it worse than everybody else. Most people don't realize that anyone can be a cutter, even if they seem happy and seem to have a perfect family, whether they're a prep, a goth, a punk, a stoner, a jock, or an adult who seems to have a nice job and seems to enjoy their life. Thats pretty much all I have to say, but plz if youre going to be ignorant and post shit before you try to understand us like that one guy did, then you may as well not post at all...
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Submitted by Liz <meowingtoast.at.hotmail.com> at 2004-08-26 00:02:11 EDT (#)
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wow... i might have actually learned about why i cut. thank you very much.
Submitted by Cloverpunk (user info) at 2004-08-24 17:01:33 EDT (#)
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I want to say one more thing, it's the cutter's themselves that are making us all sounds crazy.Like I said before, I am a cutter, I use to do it more often and now I try other things to get my mind off of it because it's wrong! The cutter's themselves are the one's that are making us seem crazy. A lot of people here are talking about how they might just piss off the wrong person and then they will come after you, well shit, it's no wonder that people do think that we might go after them. It's because these people are confirming it! Stop acting like we are victims of people's comments.
Submitted by Cloverpunk (user info) at 2004-08-24 16:50:24 EDT (#)
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I accidentally came across the website here and I began reading your comments that your wrote and you seem to be angry at the people who don't like cutter's, why? They weren't the one's that made you cut yourself in the first place. But I do agree wit half of the things that you said and some of the things that other people said.For those who are cutters, the reason to why people cut themselves and the understanding that comes with it, will always be with you. For those people who despise cutters and think that cutters are dumb and stupid and what not, are never going to be understanding to the cutting nor want to be because they don't understand it. They don't want to understand it and see that there is no need to understand. Those people probably have no one close to them doing it and if they do, they probably don't care what happens to them. So what does that say about them? Only when you want to understand, do u really understand. For those people who hate cutters and despise them, ask yourself this, "What if my kid was doing it?" How would you act then? Would you tell you 10 year old that they are stupid and weak? How would you react to that? Cutting can start before or during puberty, but often times don't start until you are in your 20's. I don't know if these people that hate cutters think that it is just a phase, because it's not. Most of the time it is a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes people not to think right, just like the mind of a killer. You know that in the mind of a killer there has got to ber something wrong because no normal person would just kill. A lot of times psycologist and judges and lawyers, try to go back to the childhood and try to figure out what went wrong in their lives. Then sometimes you come to find out that there was nothing wrong in their childhood. They had good parents and good families, but yet, they turned out to be a killer. It's the same analogy. This traces back to your childhood and sometimes kids develop this from their parents.
20% of cutters have bipolar. It can come from parents who tell kids that crying is for babies and crying is wrong. It can come from a broken up home and it can even come from a family in which nothing was wrong.That's how you get your cutters. And here is where these people that hate cutters are right. We do it because we are weak and we don't know how to deal with it because we don't want to cry. Sometimes we have people in our lives that make it hard for ourselves to deal with the fact that we are different, but we don't want to fit in the catagory as being mentally ill because we do have full use of our brains and we do know what is going on with us. Most of us don't do it for attention because if that were true, then doctors would find a way to have helped it already and we would not try to hide it. I hide it for as long as I could possibly have hide it, until one day I could not take everything that was going wrong in my life and I screamed to the top of my lungs and my sister ran in and I told her to please help me. I told her that if she didn't help me, I was going to end up killing myself. I showed her all my marks and it made her cry and I realized that as a cutter, you also hurt the people that are around you and love you. I knew at that moment that I didn't want to do it anymore because I didn't know that I was hurting more people. Well she told my father and my father rejected me and called me acrazy person and so forth. It didn't make me feel good coming from my own parent. Parents are suppose to understand, considering the fact that my dad was a cutter himself. He was even suicidal and now what his daughter had done it, he didn't know how to deal with it. It was real hard especially when my boyfriend and his family thought that I was crazy to and that I might snap at any moement and hurt someone. But it's not about that, because if snapping and killing is what I wanted to do, then why don't we cutter's just become murderers. It's not about killing, it's not about wanting anyone dead, especially not oneself, although we do act like it.
There are also many types of different cutters, the reason for that is so the doctor can correctly diagnose you and give you the correct stuff. Most cutters just need medication and some kind of routine with excersise and good eating because believe it or not, it's important. Cutter's are emotional people that just need someone to talk to. The cutting can stop, it's all up to you to want to do it. If the cutter's are getting mad at the people who are talking shit, it's because they know that they have a point and the last thing you want to do is admit to it. Cutter's are wrong, cutter's are weak and all cutter's need is some attention. They may not be doing it for attention per say, but you do need it. For the cutter's out there let me just say that all you need to do is tell someone and get help. It's not normal and it's not ok. It looks crazy and people are going to continue thinking that you are crazy. Get help, don't be ashamed anymore. Tell someone, let it be known that there is something wrong with you. As soon as you recognize the problem, you can be helped. Know that it's wrong and now that it's ok and loooks crazy. Don't blame other's for thinking that you might kill them. EVERYONE knows that it can happen.
Submitted by Zero at 2004-08-20 02:50:41 EDT (#)
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Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2004-08-13 20:57:12 EDT (#)
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oh, and i wouldn't worry about the cutting thing so much. if you watch the real world, i'd say you have a bigger problem than hacking yourself up.
Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2004-08-13 20:55:37 EDT (#)
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damn, don't be so mean to punk_kid, people. the real world is deep and stuff.
punk_kid, if you haven't noticed, you need some pretty thick skin around this place. then again, i guess if you're a cutter, you really wouldn't want to have thick skin. it would make it a little harder... oh man, did i go to far? was that too much?
Submitted by glowinsweetart (user info) at 2004-08-13 20:36:44 EDT (#)
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i look at my scar free wrist, i must stay strong, i must fight,i must reject my thoughts, i must hide my emotions, Am i stong enough to keep them imprisoned, behind my neutral face.
Submitted by MD at 2004-08-10 09:50:54 EDT (#)
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for all you motherfuckers that disrespect cutters, you can get fucked cause you wouldn't know pain if it slapped ya in the face, there may be different types of cutters but the main one is to release or subside the true intense deep emotional almost killing yourself pain, but personally before i started cutting i was on the extreme edge,10 years build up of pain doesnt feel too good inside, the rage was so out of control and too intense i wanted to kill somebody but then i picked up a knife and made a 7inch long cut on my right arm and the pain subsided, if i hadn't done it i would be in prison for man slaughter right now, (your lucky its not one of you fucks) but i found it was not a permanent solution so i took up boxing, body building and weight lifting and after 2 years i found that the emotional pain has not risen, but i only hope to god it never comes back coz you dont know what your capeable of until youve done it.
For the rest of you cutters, there is an alternative its your choice to use it. And for you disrespectful fucks you better becareful coz you might piss off the wrong person one day so watch ya back.
Submitted by nick Landsperger <landsperger.at.sbcglobal.net> at 2004-07-30 05:50:06 EDT (#)
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i know cutters and i feel sorry for them since that's the only way they have to release their pain and it's a shame the mental health field don't understand it quite yet its like people with others proplems they do alcohol or illegal drugs to deal with their pain. i, myself turn the pain inword and it makes me quite sick. SO GOOD LUCK TO ALL THE CUTTERS OUT THERE DEALING WITH UR PAIN?
Submitted by kw1 (user info) at 2004-07-19 12:32:21 EDT (#)
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I am responding to the message about persons who cut themselves. I have a 14 year old daughter whom I have just deiscovered has been cutting herself with a kitchen knife. In an attempt to understand this behavior, I have been as understanding as possible. Meaning, I have not dismissed her emotional pain as stupid or immature, or that she is just feeling sorry for herself. I have also made a point not to make her physically stop, and not to chastize her for feeling this way. I want her to understand that she can trust me and that I would like to find a way to help her process her pain in a different way versus cutting herself.However, I cannot stick my head in the sand and say " oh well, this is how kids today deal with pain" because I love her and want her to be happy. But what to do? HELP ME PLEASE.
Submitted by Unknown at 2004-07-15 22:26:36 EDT (#)
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Because of this i have seen the issue from a whole different angle and because of this i think I might talk to most of my friends that cut and try to help them and not look down on them nad if they don't want help them I will leave them to how they relieve stress
Submitted by confusedfemale (user info) at 2004-07-07 21:45:13 EDT (#)
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+1, though "made me smile" doesn't fit. But it could have better, like everyone said, paragraphs are a plus. Though you forgot to ad, there are many different types of cutters, and they don't all cut for the same reason. Good luck next post.
Submitted by geofroley (user info) at 2004-07-07 21:24:24 EDT (#)
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Cutters are a waste of space. If there so sad, why don't they jsut kill themselves and make everyone else happier?
Submitted by Istaros (user info) at 2004-07-07 21:09:43 EDT (#)
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"...he made it sound like the people who cut themselves are evil and retarded and weak little pussies who cant deal with pain and think that their lives are worse than everybody else's."
That sounds about right. You know, it's at times like these that I appreciate people like yidele the most. There's no need to bring understand to such an asinine practice, there's just a need to get rid of it. As the Jew has said before: Cut Deeper.
Submitted by Punk-not-dead (user info) at 2004-07-07 21:03:08 EDT (#)
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My bad. Your solid 0.
Your email clearly says your a punk?
Submitted by Punk-not-dead (user info) at 2004-07-07 21:01:41 EDT (#)
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"I know that there are millions of people who have it worse than me but that doesnt mean im an ungreatful pussie who thinks i have it worse than everybody else"
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+1 For that because i hate when people think they have it the worst when millions of people out their have it much worse.
-1 because im punk.
Submitted by polyamorousaj (user info) at 2004-07-07 20:55:31 EDT (#)
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Submitted by 1stLadiiLawless (user info) at 2004-07-07 20:48:21 EDT (#)
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Okay I am going to comment on many of the replies and the basic topic on my message...
Main Topic - This is a great piece. I myself am a cutter too and you have just explained everything I could ever say in the most easiest way about this. You are right. We are not dumbasses who are just looking for attention and just want to fit in. Personally, I could give 2 fucks about what someone thinks of me. I really dont care. The only reason I cut myself is to release the pain inside. I have gotten a lot better though. I used to cut myself all the time. Now I have only cut myself one time in the past year. I just smoke a lot of weed now whenever I get stressed. Hey at least i cant die from it. But there are still times when the pain inside is too much for me to handle so I just cut myself. I dont cut myself to kill myself either. I DONT want to die. I love living. I just want to release the pain. You are also right about another thing. I am ashamed of it too. I hide the marks too.
*To all the people who talk shit about cutters*
Listen to this. Everyone who has ever cut themselves has had a valid reason to do it in their mind. Whether you see that reason as a valid reason, that does not matter at all. You people are just talking out your ass when you talk shit about us. You do not know what we go through each day. I can also guarantee that you have never felt the amount of pain that I have in my lifetime. So before you go running your mouth again, you better watch out. One of these days your going to say the wrong thing and someone is going to beat the fuck out of you.
Submitted by yidele (user info) at 2004-06-25 01:28:45 EDT (#)
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...because they're morons. Die already & quit wasting time & space.
Submitted by ParlorTrick (user info) at 2004-06-25 01:18:27 EDT (#)
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A fundamentally basic way of reclaiming control of yourself. As I understand it, very personal, very quiet, not a show.
Submitted by fuck you at 2004-06-25 00:42:46 EDT (#)
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You cut yourself to release built up anger? That is the stupidest fucking thing I have ever heard! If you want to release built up anger, the get a punching bag and beat the hell out of that. Bettet yet, stab the fucking thing, that always works. I knew somebody who cut themselves, it left hideous scars all over her body. That alone would make any normal person more pissed off that they fucked themselves up permanently, and they would snap and kill someone.
Submitted by Blaise <scru-the-swiss.at.yahoo.com> at 2004-06-25 00:15:03 EDT (#)
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you fucking moron i have to listen to all these bitches these bitches and hoes about this subject all the time....3 reasons for doing this sort of thing....attention....to fit in with the other bitches.....or finally, you are just a plain dumbass....i figure that last one is how it started. so anyways i think you should get over this "emotional pain" you think you are feeling....and just deal with it. i hate to flame people on the internet....but damn....you seem a bit like someone who would douche themselves with a cactus...
Submitted by Naheenanajah (user info) at 2004-06-24 23:31:17 EDT (#)
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great!!!
Submitted by blondie9779 (user info) at 2004-06-24 23:08:10 EDT (#)
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I have cut myself too, and the comments that you have for the reasons why make so much sense. Its true, I cant seem to deal with my emotional pain. I rather feel physical pain because I know how to fix it. Why you see the blood come from the cut it feels like you have let go of what was hurting you. I try hard not to cut myself, because people do think your are crazy, hell my boyfriend thought I was insane..... they just dont understand. They are lucky they dont feel that way. Shit, I wish I could be in a mental hospital sometimes just to get away from everything... Now to most people that sounds insane too! But when you try to look so happy on the outside you let things build up to create a massive large fucking madness inside.
Well, if anyone knows of a great way to stop keeping all the bad emotions inside let me know. Maybe I need to just go pound the shit out of someone .........j/k
Submitted by geofroley (user info) at 2004-05-30 21:11:25 EDT (#)
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There's only one reason those bitches cut themselves: Attention.
Submitted by allison <skater_chick89.at.msn.com> at 2004-05-30 20:52:40 EDT (#)
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I my self have a problem with cutting for so many reasons my familt and friend s all know about because my dad saw them everyone tells me that im just doing it for attention but they have no clue really why I do it the worst thing about it is that now the guy who I like more then ever who I went out with 2 times wont even go back out with me eventough we both know we like eachother but anyways my friend and his friend is a cutter to but he wont go out with me because I cut but he seems to not have a problem with my frien if you have any sugestions please e-mail me at skater_shick89.at.msn.com please I relly need your help and opinion.
Submitted by funk_boy (user info) at 2004-05-13 10:48:45 EDT (#)
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You f'ing CUTTER! only joking..
Go tell someone, if they look down at you, it's there problem.
I consider myself a 'hurter' too, in a way.
3 broken arms, 2 broken legs, one half of face smashed and now my foot.
Submitted by goth_1_666 (user info) at 2004-05-13 10:46:03 EDT (#)
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I think the person that wrote this knows what the fuck they are talking about. And all you ppl out there, that don't cut yourself, DO NOT know what the fuck you are talking about. We do this because we don't like to talk about our feelings or problems so we cut ourselves to make that problem dissapear...
Submitted by goth_1_666 (user info) at 2004-05-13 10:39:57 EDT (#)
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Submitted by lojope (user info) at 2004-05-04 22:04:34 EDT (#)
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Don't worry about what people are saying. I think you made a good point. I don't cut, but I burn myself sometimes and you explained it well. I think I am going to do a post on this.
Submitted by Sacrew (user info) at 2004-05-04 21:00:24 EDT (#)
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Phony, sympathy/attention seeking, self-absorbed, spoiled little weaklings attempting to portray themselves as "deep" and "tortured".
Bottom line: You're not interesting. No one cares. You're not fooling anyone.
Submitted by wyld at 2004-05-04 20:45:36 EDT (#)
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look i was trying to be civilized but u guys are morons and jerks just because u dont understand it doesn t mean u need to call people who support them a dumbass because unlike your stupid asses we actually care about another persons problems and try to understand them and personally i think its wrong and i dont understand it but i will try just to help and for the record i hope u die or i hope i meet u one day and kill u for being an insensitive prick
Submitted by wyld <crazywyldchyld.at.cfl.rr.com> at 2004-05-04 20:27:39 EDT (#)
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look my girlfriend cuts herself and i try to helpand she said it feels good and she said if i thought of something better for her to do she would do it instead but i cant think of anything plz help me ,send e-mail i would be very grateful
Submitted by A at 2004-04-29 20:15:46 EDT (#)
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i cant say i understand the need to cut your selfs my friend does it and she does say that it stops her from commiting suicide but i still think there are better ways of dealing with stress i personaly smoke pot but i dont think that thats that great eather but atleast its not that bad for my body
Submitted by blondie <blondemomentbrb.at.aol.com> at 2004-04-19 16:48:21 EDT (#)
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i found out this weekend quite by accident that my 15 y/o daughter is a 'cutter' it's not something i understand or even beging to pretend i do..but it's something i want to help her with and help her find an alternative way to cope with her emotions...thank you punk for your post and for your insite...do you seek professional help or just learn another way of dealing with what you were going through?
Submitted by mee <mee> at 2004-04-19 08:56:41 EDT (#)
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people do it to change emotional feelings into physical feelings so they have something to point out and say "this hurts right here"
Submitted by hamilton (user info) at 2004-04-16 23:34:10 EDT (#)
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wow.
The good
The bad
1. no paragraphs
2. seems copied
3. boring as fucking hell
that adds up to -3. but that's to difficult so...
Submitted by Amber at 2004-04-11 23:04:45 EDT (#)
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Oh yeah I forgot to add:
People don't cut to kill. Later on some people can kill or try to kill themselves. I know I,ve tried and I wish that I was never stopped because if I did sucede I would haunt all you Shit-faced mother-fuckers and make realize why people cut and then I would drive you to kill yourself. Then maybe you would understand why people cut themselves to deal with their pain. It isn't easy to express your emotional pain to some as it is for you to. So the next time anyone wants to say some fucked up shit, just remember: ONE DAY YOU WILL GET FUCKED UP!!!!! YOU THINK IT IS ALL FUN AND GAMES BUT IT ISN'T!!!!!!!! ONE DAY A PERSON WHO CUTS ISN'T GOING TO BE ABLE TO DEAL WITH YOUR SHIT AND THEY ARE GOING TO COME AFTER YOU!!!! JUST DON'T SAY I DIDN'T WARN YOU!!!!!!!
Submitted by Amber at 2004-04-11 22:44:30 EDT (#)
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All that I Can say is that the young lady eho wrote this information is, right. I am a;so a cutter and I believe that all you little bitches who like to say shit about people who cut are making them even more pissed off. So for those BITCHES out there you can kiss my ass!!!!!
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-08 20:54:21 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by Death_Metal_Dude (user info) at 2004-04-08 19:40:09 (#)
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I don't care what the underlying reasons are. I don't care how you want to justify it. It's unhealthy and retarded"
Im not trying to get people to cut or think that cutting is cool or ok, Im trying to help people understand why some people do this to themselves and yes I agree with you 100%, Its absolutely unhealthy and retarded
Submitted by youarsoghey (user info) at 2004-04-08 19:56:07 EDT (#)
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No good new users in a while. What's going on?
Submitted by gbusman (user info) at 2004-04-08 19:43:15 EDT (#)
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Soooo... why not do any of those other things you mentioned? My recommendation of course is the ganja.
-Bus
Submitted by Death_Metal_Dude (user info) at 2004-04-08 19:40:09 EDT (#)
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I don't care what the underlying reasons are. I don't care how you want to justify it. It's unhealthy and retarded.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-08 19:27:44 EDT (#)
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I'm 16 I don't need to grow up yet
Submitted by speeddaimon (user info) at 2004-04-08 11:43:29 EDT (#)
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See down there at the bottom, I gave you a plus one and said well done.
See here, now, -1 because you don't handle shit well at all.
You: I can post whatever I want whenever I want and I'd like to see you stop me.
Me: Ahhh, there are certain things that you cannot do, and if you do, you will not be posting here anymore.
You: I've seen other people not spell out words correctly and use incorrect grammar.
Me: So you WANT to look like an ignorant Jackass? Ditch the LOL, ROTFLMAO, LMAO, and sry. I mean, only if you want to be taken semi seriously.
In conclusion, grow up.
Submitted by mystiamoon (user info) at 2004-04-08 11:39:52 EDT (#)
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i supported this from the start
damn when i am actually nice it falls on blind eyes
must be why i'm usually not so nice
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-08 11:29:04 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by Herpes (user info) at 2004-04-08 01:36:43 (#)
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You're an idiot Punk. Welcome to your trial by fire. If you decide to stay, these are the kind of comments you're going to get. Unless you show off your non-worthless side."
I could care less about the people who give me -2 and -1 because there are a few people who gave me +1 and +2 which means I got through to those people in helping them understand which makes it all worth while...
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-08 11:22:04 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by Luther (user info) at 2004-04-08 10:02:45 (#)
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Good topic, well written. You get a plus two for posting this and taking the flame. Thanks. It needs to be said. "
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"Submitted by Sian_Silverhair (user info) at 2004-04-08 08:01:12 (#)
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Very nicely put. I still think cutters are kind of stupid... but it certainly helps to know WHY they cut"
FINALLY some people who understand the point of the topic rather than bashing cutters just because its easier to make fun of them than to understand them....
Submitted by Luther (user info) at 2004-04-08 10:02:45 EDT (#)
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Good topic, well written. You get a plus two for posting this and taking the flame. Thanks. It needs to be said.
Submitted by Sian_Silverhair (user info) at 2004-04-08 08:01:12 EDT (#)
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Very nicely put. I still think cutters are kind of stupid... but it certainly helps to know WHY they cut.
Submitted by SPE (user info) at 2004-04-08 02:06:36 EDT (#)
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Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-04-08 02:04:23 EDT (#)
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dying is cool
suicide is the coolest
i just farted loudly!
Submitted by Herpes (user info) at 2004-04-08 01:36:43 EDT (#)
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You're an idiot Punk. Welcome to your trial by fire. If you decide to stay, these are the kind of comments you're going to get. Unless you show off your non-worthless side.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-08 01:27:58 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-08 01:11:18 (#)
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"I cut to keep myself from killing myself... "
Then clearly you need to stop cutting yourself. Haha, too easy."
you're an idiot how about you just stop posting on this topic, the point of this topic wasnt for everbody to go nuts and state their opinions on cutting and people who cut, it was for people who don't understand why people cut to maybe see it from a different point of view, from a person who actually knows a reason. Maybe you aren't interested in understanding why people cut, but if you weren't then why did you read this in the first place...
Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-08 01:11:18 EDT (#)
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"I cut to keep myself from killing myself... "
Then clearly you need to stop cutting yourself. Haha, too easy.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-08 00:43:05 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by Yes (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:40:40 (#)
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I was throwing a little humor in there, sorry it went over your head...
The -2 was 'cause I hate whiney punk kids who don't use paragraphs...
Why don't you just get high like a normal teenager, learn to cope through
drugs, at least it is a fun form of self-destruction. Oh, and please,
next time you are feeling blue or angsty or whatever the fuck passes
for emotion in your poor torn soul, carve a nice deep groove from your
wrist to your elbow on both arms. You're parents want it that way and
nobody will miss you.
Oh, welcome to Über"
LOL and what you think I've never gotten high? I haven't cut myself in a long time, I get high more often than I cut these days but getting high doesn't make any pain go away at all, cutting does. And actually I don't cut myself on my arms believe it or not, I have done that once and that was only my first time cutting and I didn't think ahead that I would have scars and people would ask me about them so most of the time if I do cut at all I cut on the tops of my thighs or my hips, not that its any of your business. And wy would I cut from my elbows to my wrists did u even read my article?!? I don't cut to kill myself, I cut to keep myself from killing myself...
Submitted by your_mother (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:49:38 EDT (#)
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People cut because it is heroin. Just natural heroin that is released when a person feels pain.
Theres really no more need to justify it than if you were justifying being a crackhead.
Submitted by Yes (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:40:40 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
I was throwing a little humor in there, sorry it went over your head... The -2 was 'cause I hate whiney punk kids who don't use paragraphs... Why don't you just get high like a normal teenager, learn to cope through drugs, at least it is a fun form of self-destruction. Oh, and please, next time you are feeling blue or angsty or whatever the fuck passes for emotion in your poor torn soul, carve a nice deep groove from your wrist to your elbow on both arms. You're parents want it that way and nobody will miss you.
Oh, welcome to Über.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:24:32 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by tshia (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:22:33 (#)
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I agree with jwlmar10 completely, punk kid guy whatever you suck "
...im not a guy im a girl
Submitted by tshia (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:22:33 EDT (#)
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I agree with jwlmar10 completely, punk kid guy whatever you suck
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:05:06 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:03:58 (#)
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Well I'm just guessing here... But I think you are just some punk kid."
WOW we've got a real thinker on our hands!!!
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:04:28 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:58:38 (#)
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And Punk Kid, never post here again. We don't need a recapitulation of last night's Real World episode, because that is all that was in your post. You're off the team. Empty your locker and get the fuck out of here. "
LMFAO!!! Don't fucking tell me what to do you ignorant piece of shit. I will post whatever I damn well please and I would like to see you stop me.
Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:03:58 EDT (#)
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Well I'm just guessing here... But I think you are just some punk kid.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 22:02:00 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:41:53 (#)
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First of all, I understand why people do it. It makes the pain physical, releases endorphins, etc. The fact is that it is still a stupid way of dealing with emotional problems.
If people feel the need to cut themselves then that is fine. They can do what they want, but I will judge them. I will judge them as people who are too stupid to deal with their emotions in a healthy way. I dare someone to try to tell me that that judgement is wrong"
Sure, I'll dare tell you that that judgment is wrong. I would tell you a million times but I'm only going to type it once. I am not a stupid person whatsoever, and how dare you tell me my mental capability when you don't even know me. I am sure there are many things you do that aren't healthy, but that doesn't make you stupid. Yes I know it is a stupid way of dealing with problems, I will give you that. However, it is absurd to judge someone simply by one action, you don't know me and you don't know what I'm like, yet you are calling me stupid. If you ask me, thats proof enough that YOU are stupid right there...
Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:58:38 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
And Punk Kid, never post here again. We don't need a recapitulation of last night's Real World episode, because that is all that was in your post. You're off the team. Empty your locker and get the fuck out of here.
Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:56:29 EDT (#)
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I wasn't talking to you. I was making a statement about the post.
Submitted by mystiamoon (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:54:44 EDT (#)
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that is out of context to what i was saying. I was simply saying that aside from proper grammarical presence, the post itself cleared it up quite nicely for me, regardless of what i think of the people who do this i feel i have better insight into what goes on inside them.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:45:04 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by Yes (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:33:11 (#)
Ranking: -2
pussy. "
Wow I bet you feel a lot better now.
Submitted by jwlmar10 (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:41:53 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
First of all, I understand why people do it. It makes the pain physical, releases endorphins, etc. The fact is that it is still a stupid way of dealing with emotional problems.
If people feel the need to cut themselves then that is fine. They can do what they want, but I will judge them. I will judge them as people who are too stupid to deal with their emotions in a healthy way. I dare someone to try to tell me that that judgement is wrong.
Submitted by mystiamoon (user info) at 2004-04-07 21:06:11 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
well while all you guys are acting like a grammar nazi, i truly think this person tried to explain something that most of us fail to understand and i think regardless of correct grammar the post was heartfelt and insightful to something i have never been able to comprehend
Submitted by Yes (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:33:11 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
pussy.
Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:28:23 EDT (#)
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I do, I have no grudge against you at all punk_kid.
I really have a pet peeve about online english, it hurts me deep inside.
I know a lot of other people here do too.
No pressure though, speak as you wish.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:10:10 EDT (#)
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Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:01:46 (#)
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"Also, you will be much more well received on uber if you don't say things like this:
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Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:57:18 (#)
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Oi sry everyone for not seperating the paragraphs but this is my firts article, I didnt know u could do that lol. SRY!!!
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Translation into English: "Oi sorry everyone for not separating the paragraphs, but this is my first article. I didn't know you could do that [lol omitted]. Sorry!'
That's the ticket.
Sorry to be a jerk, just, trying to be constructive."
What's the difference? I've seen other people on here who don't spell out every word why don't you go bug them?
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:06:34 EDT (#)
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"Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:47:36 (#)
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Why you should cut yourself"
I dont recall telling anyone that they should cut themselves...actually, I would advise anyone who doesn't already cut to never try it, there are better ways to deal with pain and once you start solving problems this way its hard to stop...
Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-04-07 20:01:46 EDT (#)
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Also, you will be much more well received on uber if you don't say things like this:
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Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:57:18 (#)
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Oi sry everyone for not seperating the paragraphs but this is my firts article, I didnt know u could do that lol. SRY!!!
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Translation into English: "Oi sorry everyone for not separating the paragraphs, but this is my first article. I didn't know you could do that [lol omitted]. Sorry!'
That's the ticket.
Sorry to be a jerk, just, trying to be constructive.
Submitted by PunkKid420 (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:57:18 EDT (#)
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Oi sry everyone for not seperating the paragraphs but this is my firts article, I didnt know u could do that lol. SRY!!!
Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:47:36 EDT (#)
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Why you should cut yourself:
Earlier i was searching the web about cutting or self-injury, and there was an article that someone had written on this website, it was a person asking why in the hell anyone would want to cut themselves. They were genuinely angry and pissed off that people would do that to themselves, and he made it sound like the people who cut themselves are evil and retarded and weak little pussies who cant deal with pain and think that their lives are worse than everybody else's. Well, I used to be a cutter and from time to time I still am, and I was really pissed that someone who is so uneducated on this topic thinks that they know everything and would rather make fun of cutters by calling them names just because he cant understand them, than try to understand why people cut. Well, I decided I would try to give some answers so maybe people won't be so ignorant.
Okay, first of all, people who cut do NOT do it to kill themselves. They do it to release the built up overwhelming emotions inside of them so that they can stay alive. Its a hard to understand concept, but the best way I can explain it is this: Some people have trouble expressing emotional pain and they can't understand why or where emotional pain hurts. They feel the need to change that unknown internal pain into a physical pain that they can feel and they can deal with. The physical pain of the cut relieves the emotional pain and its like by cutting yourself you are letting the negative emotion be expelled from your body. I was watching "the Real world" last night on mtv where Frankie cuts herself, and she explained why she did it in the best way I have ever heard. She said "you cant understand where or why emotional pain hurts
but when you cut yourself you can say 'my arm hurts right here right now becuase it is cut'. Sometimes the pain hurts too god damn much and I need to fix it". Cutting is simply some peoples way of dealing with emotions. And to that ignorant little boy who said that people who cut themselves think their lives are worse than everyone else's, that is absolutely not true. Everyone has a way of dealing with stress, whether it be cutting, smoking cigarettes, smoking pot, drinking alcohol, eating, not eating, shopping, whatever, everyone has problems and everyone has a way they deal with the problems that makes them feel comforted. And as a cutter myself, I agree that most cutters are weak, in the sense that they dont know how to deal with problems and when stress is too much they feel like they they will die from built up emotion unless they cut themselves to let the pain out. If you know anyone who is a cutter, you should try to understand them before you judge them. Most cutters are ashamed of what they do to themselves and they try to hide it. I have never told anyone that I have cut myself, and I never plan too. The reason I havent told anyone? I think that people will look down on me and judge me and not try to understand me and I don't want people to think that of me. I don't seem like the type of person most people would think of when they think of someone who inflicts pain upon themselves. Around my friends I act like I'm fairly happy, I act like I have a nice family, and everything is fine. But that is just pretending. I know that there are millions of people who have it worse than me but that doesnt mean im an ungreatful pussie who thinks i have it worse than everybody else. Most people don't realize that anyone can be a cutter, even if they seem happy and seem to have a perfect family, whether they're a prep, a goth, a punk, a stoner, a jock, or an adult who seems to have a nice job and seems to enjoy their life. Thats pretty much all I have to say, but plz if youre going to be ignorant and post shit before you try to understand us like that one guy did, then you may as well not post at all...
Not really, but you set yourself up, hon. Paragraphs next time please.
Submitted by distressedjester (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:41:59 EDT (#)
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damn, Herpes.
oh and Jays5, your rating doesn't matter, ass.
Submitted by Herpes (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:24:05 EDT (#)
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Always remember, when you cut your wrists tonight, use a chainsaw.
Submitted by I_Have_a_Kristen_Fetish (user info) at 2004-04-07 19:10:13 EDT (#)
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Tip of the day: Hit Enter twice after each paragraph. Otherwise, it's a pain in the ass to read.
Submitted by Jays567 at 2004-04-07 18:55:39 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
"This post will not get any 2's". Wrong shithead, this post is getting a +2. Well written and great topic.
Submitted by Mr.Bungle (user info) at 2004-04-07 18:33:32 EDT (#)
Ranking: -1
Oh Christ, first Katie on the Real World comes out as a cutter and now it's the new Buzz Topic! Cutting is a problem and people who do it need help. Step down, next case, end of discussion. I swear if i turn on Maury Povich tomorrow and he's crying and hugging "a cutter," I'm going on a killing spree!!! SO YOU PEOPLE AT GINSOO BETTER WATCH YOUR ASS.............BECAUSE BUNGLE'S COMIN AND HE'S BRINGIN' THE VEGE-O-MATIC TO DO SOME CTTING OF HIS OWN ON YOU PEOPLE!!!
Submitted by Alexis at 2004-04-07 18:18:02 EDT (#)
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Honestly, although you may bash the whole "cutting" thing, the author does make a good point. For instance, people don't do it to kill themselves. Personally, I do it from because it takes away from over analyzing the real world you live in, and all the bad things associated with it. By focusing on the pain of the cut, rather than other issues, it helps us cope.
However, I'm not saying that this is a permanent solution to lifes issues. We've all got to grow up sooner or later, and we all know that things will probably just get harder, not easier. Cutting is a way to cope temporarily, until you're strong enough to figure out some real solutions. With this being said, the next time you feel like trashing an author about an article he or she writes, make sure you're well educated about the subject before stating your opinion. Also, remember that sometimes one can not understand a concept without living through it first.
Submitted by Al_Queda (user info) at 2004-04-07 18:15:42 EDT (#)
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I f some fucking gothic asshole wants to slice up his or her arm, good for fucking them.
I hope you die.Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-04-05 16:00:33 (#)
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Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-04-05 15:40:39 (#)
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my ratings are turned off so I can't -2 you, but you're a stoopid fucking nigger/kike/arab fuckhead/muslim cocksucker/asian small cocked civic driving fuck face coke dealer/severly handicapped bed shitting cunt/mexican child rapist/brazillian fucking inbred slut.
Meh, you're just a fucking pile of streetjerk.
I FUCKED YOUR MOM
Submitted by Zoidberg (user info) at 2004-04-07 18:04:20 EDT (#)
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someone watched the real world last night
Submitted by WillZone (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:50:56 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Lyric (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:45:55 EDT (#)
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You're preaching to the wrong masses here.
But you're well versed. Maybe a few more spaces in between your paragraphs next time. My eyes hurt.
Submitted by dohnuts (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:43:48 EDT (#)
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+1 because I'm a psychologist and applaud what you're trying to do here, and you've said some well-informed things...
But, you're not preaching to the most receptive audience and, for god's sake, in the future separate your paragraphs by hitting "enter".
Submitted by SpikeGoddess (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:43:18 EDT (#)
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I am sorry that you struggle with this behavior. If you care to read my experiences with cutting, you can read my post "You Asked About the Scars". I'm not going to rehash that entire post here because I've already "been there, done that."
I want to add that there is a neurobiological reinforcement to self-injury. Cutting is often a response to feelings of anxiety, and in response to pain/injury the brain releases neurotransmitters that act as 'innate opiates' to ease the physical pain. They also have the effect of directly reducing the anxiety. Cutting makes you feel better. It is not unlike taking a drug.
This post would have been improved by the addition of paragraphs, the exclusion of the 'real world' reference, and either a more literary or more scientific tone. However, I'm guessing that you're young and you're just trying to express something that you are justifiably mad about, so I'm not going to really yell at you for these things. I'm behind your basic premise.
Just remember, everyone who exhibits this behavior is different. It's not just some symbolic way of "showing the pain on the outside", but there is a biological motivation as well. Cutting is not fully understood by professionals, so it is foolish to think that you or I can fully understand it.
SpikeGoddess
Submitted by Hader (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:42:59 EDT (#)
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I cut myself all the time- I fall down, run into sharp corners/objects, accidentally cut my fingers when cutting up food. I'm a clumsy mess. When I'm in emotional pain, I go run about 2 miles listening to System of a Down or Descendents. That or throw my pillow up in the air and punch and/or kick it several times. It makes me feel a lot better. Boo boos hurt. : (
Submitted by Sideburns (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:35:41 EDT (#)
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"then you may as well not post at all..."
someone should have said this to you.
oh, and welcome to uber. we're bored at work, we don't care what some wrist slitting teenager has to say. you post to entertain. THIS POST will not get any 2's. and if it does, that person is a complete dumbass.
Submitted by speeddaimon (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:35:15 EDT (#)
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1st, I have to point out the fact that this is not some high school posting page, please check out UberMadness for some really great writing (notice I'm not in it).
2nd, you wrote this well and explained it well. And, while I am sure you're going to get flamed, I applaud your attempt at education.
For that +1
Submitted by AshK (user info) at 2004-04-07 17:34:51 EDT (#)
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Uhh this is from the site that you frequently see words like retard and nigger. I wouldn't put much stock into what you see here. Look up the term "hit whore" next time you are on google...