10 year old strangers (783 hits)
Category: RomanceRating: 0.57 on 7 reviews (Rate this item) (V)
Submitted by engine13 (View user info) at 2004-04-14 14:45:36 EDT
It all started out so well. Love at first sight . . .right? High school sweethearts.
Grow up, buy a house, get a dog, start a family (kids optional). Isn't that the dream?
Well, what the fuck happened. How can you change from being so comfortable with someone
to becoming almost strangers. I guess it's an old story.
Someone once told me that love grows to be like an old sweater: comfortable. But, it
moved past comfortable into annoying, frustrating, and just plain boring. I somehow
envy and feel sorry for those old couples that have been together for fifty years. I
wonder if they are really happy, or if they are feeling that old familiar boredom and
commitment for the sake of commitment I know so well. Sometimes the love, the lust,
the caring wanes and all that is left is the commitment. Commitment to stay committed.
I didn't want to get to that point.
After nine years, I think I am now single. I don't even know how to be single. I don't
know what people do on dates, I don't know the "rules" (not that I would follow them),
and I don't even know how to meet someone to date. I didn't even realize what
"hooking up" really meant until about a month ago. Not only that, but I can't believe
this is real. This can't be happening. I don't fail at things, it just doesn't happen.
My life is falling apart around me and all I can do is watch and wonder. I haven't even
told my family or friends yet. I didn't want to believe it was real. I thought maybe
somehow things might fix themselves, he might start caring, might grow up. But it didn't
happen, it isn't happening.
Sorry, this is sort of filled with clichés and boring, I just had to get it out. And what
would be a better place than Ubersite. Fantastic.
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Submitted by Snark (user info) at 2004-11-19 17:18:48 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
+1 because this post is full of hard honesty and another because I went through the same thing.
Submitted by Scotsman (user info) at 2004-09-15 18:17:46 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
You will get there in the end. Cliche right back at you but time does heal most wounds. You will get a shiny new relaionship wih all the spark and lust that you used to have but you will be wiser to the pitfalls that are in every relationship.
Submitted by fionavar (user info) at 2004-04-14 22:58:22 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
All those things which were once adorable, now become unbearable.
You know exactly what the other person is going to say, and when they're going to say it.
It makes you want to scream, "You've said that before! Lots of times! Come up with something new!"
But you bite your tongue, and continue to live your comfortable existence.
Until one day you do scream, and it's over.
Submitted by shadow (user info) at 2004-04-14 20:47:18 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
our days are filled with tiny tragedies and little bits of joy
hope you see more of the latter
Submitted by volklcess (user info) at 2004-04-14 14:51:39 EDT (#)
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"I somehow
envy and feel sorry for those old couples that have been together for fifty years. I
wonder if they are really happy, or if they are feeling that old familiar boredom and
commitment for the sake of commitment I know so well."
If your relationship didn't last because you moved from being comfortable to being annoyed then it just means it was never meant to be.
You'll get over it soon enough.
:-)
Phoenix
Submitted by JMG114 (user info) at 2004-04-14 14:49:22 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
Joseph Campbell says that romantic love is almost impossible to maintain for a lifetime. Perhaps it's better to focus on the imperfections and love them for what they are.
I feel for ya.
Submitted by antluvdog (user info) at 2004-04-14 14:47:59 EDT (#)
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You'll be fine.