marriage is over (609 hits)
Category: RomanceRating: -0.75 on 18 reviews (Rate this item) (V)
Submitted by ESVM (View user info) at 2004-07-20 14:05:34 EDT
face it: no one who gets married stays married. okay, maybe some do, but the a great deal don't. I mean, what are the statistics again? 45% of all marriages in the US end in divorce (from the Divorce Reform Page, this one website trying to salvage marriage). That leaves roughly half of the population to uphold the traditional bourgeois ideals, many of whom are probably SMing in their basements while the kids are sleeping.
I think divorce should be stricter, because its just not right to get married on a whim and then break it off when you realize that the guy you met in Vegas is a cross-dressing circus clown. Really, the only reasons for divorce should be:
a)one spouse has changed dramatically, i.e. joined a murderous cult that worships fruitflies, or is an incessant drunk
b)married a sociopath, who hid her personality from you until your honeymoon
c) you were forced into the loveless marriage, a la 18th century style courtship. But nobody except cruel immigrants and foreign, non-American people do that anymore
People, grow up! If you get married, then this is who you want for the rest of your life. If you're not mature enough to handle that, don't get married, just shack it up with a long string of girlfriends your whole life, some of the relationships lasting longer and some not so long. What about children, you ask? If you're not going to stay with the other parent because of a divorce, then what is the difference between that and having the kid with your girl/boyfriend and breaking up with them? There is no difference, except that you spent a lot more money and wasted a lot more time than if you left the golden band off of your finger.
Damn. People should be more careful of choosing the alter-way. Marriage definitely means more than that.
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Submitted by Gnome (user info) at 2004-07-21 11:54:17 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
i agree with your point. though i don't think marrage should be harder to get into. i just think people should take it more seriously. if you're not ready to commit for life, don't do it.
i started writing this review yesterday but it got long and off the point which is where my post (http://www.ubersite.com/m/38942 sorry for the hitwhoring) came from. and old rant, but forever valid.
Submitted by Socialist_Joe (user info) at 2004-07-20 23:50:57 EDT (#)
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we need to have a talk
Submitted by ruthless <musicbug23.at.yahoo.com> at 2004-07-20 23:45:53 EDT (#)
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different strokes... for different folks.
Submitted by ThatOneGirl (user info) at 2004-07-20 23:38:13 EDT (#)
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Just out of curiousity, why do you care?
If you don't agree with divorce, don't get one. What's it to you if Billy Bob and Betty Lou are tired of each other and want a divorce?
Submitted by Random Joe at 2004-07-20 23:23:58 EDT (#)
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"45% of all marriages in the US end in divorce (from the Divorce Reform Page, this one website trying to salvage marriage). That leaves roughly half of the population to uphold the traditional bourgeois ideals, many of whom are probably SMing in their basements while the kids are sleeping."
Wrong!!!!! Some people get married more than one time. Perhaps there is one man who gets 4 marriages, 3 of which end in divorce. Then 4 men get married once each. This means of 8 marriages, 4 men "uphold the traditional blah blah blah" and only only 1 gets a divorce.
Submitted by Slapshot99 (user info) at 2004-07-20 17:27:44 EDT (#)
Ranking: 1
Marriage is like a bank account. Each time you do something nice for your spouse...nomatter how small YOU think it is...is like a deposit into your savings account(marriage)...Time and time again, experts tell us that its the little things that make a loving relationship last. Over time all those "nice" pennies you have saved add up to one nice account full of trust, caring, kindness and desire. On the other hand, fights, distrust, hurting each other through various means are HUGE withdrawals into that account and are very hard to recover from. It takes a while to save for the good stuff in marriage...but a second to spend yourself into misery. I agree...divorce should be harder to do...but so should marriage. People give it all away so quickly now. Everything is so disposable now.
Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2004-07-20 17:09:01 EDT (#)
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"marriage doesn't work in the world today, it's an institution that is in decay"
people should just shack up.
Submitted by ESVM (user info) at 2004-07-20 16:57:10 EDT (#)
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actually, spousal abuse is included within the part about the person changing from who he/she really was, or appearing to be someone else. Because originally, you wouldn't want to marry someone who abuses or possibly would, right?
And, plus, if you guys are driving each other crazy, you should have thought more about the marriage. I don't think that marriage should be harder to accomplish, but knowing that it would be harder to get out of the union hopefully would make some people think over their decision and not get married in the first place.
Submitted by munkeypants (user info) at 2004-07-20 16:26:52 EDT (#)
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eh, i had a point in there somewhere...
Submitted by munkeypants (user info) at 2004-07-20 16:16:37 EDT (#)
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You have an itty bitty eeny weeny point.. but that reasoning is flawed.
Do you really expect two people to stay together when they make each others lives
a living hell? Do you really want young impressionable kids exposed to
mommy bad mouthing daddy to his face and daddy slapping mommy upside the head
cuz one more second with the bitch and he's gonna have to kill someone?
Yes, in ideal world two people would do it behind closed doors and away from the kids.
Let's face it.. the way things are right now you need to have two people
bringing home the dough (generalization). The world has changed, people.
trying to hold onto yesterdays ideals doesn't work in todays world.
Submitted by Disektor (user info) at 2004-07-20 16:03:56 EDT (#)
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Wow.. you contradicted yourself in the first line. Thanks, saved me the trouble of actually reading the rest.
Submitted by quazar (user info) at 2004-07-20 15:46:17 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by sparkle_pink (user info) at 2004-07-20 15:23:00 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2004-07-20 15:22:55 EDT (#)
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This would sort of make sense in a weird and twisted way if you said it should be harder to get married.
I like how you left spousal abuse off as one of your reasons for divorce - touching.
Submitted by Uberfuck (user info) at 2004-07-20 14:31:31 EDT (#)
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Fuck that. If there are no kids and you aren't happy, chalk it up to experience and get the fuck out. But if you made a baby then swallow your pride and stick with it for their sake. Besides, anyone who has kids should be ready to take on the responsibility, which means your life is fucking over and you now live for hte sake of your offsrping.
Submitted by AshK (user info) at 2004-07-20 14:20:24 EDT (#)
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Someone wake me if numbnuts up there accidentally types something original.
Submitted by UrAngelDi (user info) at 2004-07-20 14:14:57 EDT (#)
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BRAVO!!
I'm so tired of the Brittney Spears attitude towards marriage!! Thank you for saying what needs to be said!
Submitted by potatomanjack (user info) at 2004-07-20 14:08:18 EDT (#)
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Were you born retarded, or did it come slowly over many years of eating paint chips?