First love is gone... (546 hits)
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Submitted by worm (View user info) at 2004-08-07 14:31:00 EDT
In twenty seven days, I'll be out of here.
In twenty seven days, I won't be working with bratty seven year olds, living in my parents suburbab home, and throwing mac and cheese down the hatch in my underwear. I will be on an airplane from Minneapolis to Iceland, then to London, then to Spain.
At 20 years old, I will take a break from engineering courses for a semester to live with a strange family for the next four months in a city I've never heard of.
And that's the easy stuff.
I have a dog, friends, and family. My sister is pregnant. My lacrosse team, my social life, my school, and my girlfriend all left behind.
With such a dense list, it's difficult to say what I will miss the most. However, when I come back, I am confident that all will be well with the aformentioned... except the last one.
I've always wanted to take this trip, but I always envisionerd it being taken alone. What I feel for her has faded in the last few weeks, largely due to my leaving.
She is, and always has been, wonderful to me. She is also madly in love with me; seeing her melt isn't exciting anymore. It fills my stomach with rocks of guilt. For the first time since I have been with her I am finding other women attractive. While cheating is, and always has been, completely out of the question, her grip on me has slipped.
I have decided to avoid sex while I feel this way.
We aren't on the same page anymore, and I think she is oblivious to my struggle. I am not angry at her at all. She is still the same wonderful girl she always has been, but my attitude has changed dramatically. I am afraid I cannot fix what has already happened, and am dreading the day that I have to tell her.
We have tickets to a play, her brother-in-law has my copy of the DaVinci Code. Tuesday is a weekly gamenight with myself, my girlfriend, her sister, and the aformentioned brother-in-law.
It's only been five months, but she has woven me very deeply into her life and vice-versa.
I love this girl, and now I have to hurt her.
I can't bear carrying this load until I leave; telling her over the phone when I knew it was going to happen well beforehand is simply not an option.
I come to you, fellow Uberites, with a question that I have a hard time answering: We have tickets to a broadway musical tomorrow, and she asked me to come over for another gamenight at her sister's place after work tonight...
Should I wait for these two days with her until there is nothing on the docket between us, or is a swift split better? Keep in mind that I have all the respect in the world for this girl. She is my best friend. The last thing I want to do is to hurt her, but staying without wanting to would be an insult to her and a fantastic torture to me.
Wo|2M
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-08-07 17:22:10 EDT (#)
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Bukkake on her. That'll solve it.
Submitted by engine13 (user info) at 2004-08-07 16:11:31 EDT (#)
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Don't drag it out. Tell her now. If you wait, she might look back on that last week or so you had together, put the pieces together, and realize you weren't really into it but hanging around just because. That's not a good feeling to have. If you respect her, you will tell her how you feel, she deserves that.
Submitted by mujer_alterada (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:56:06 EDT (#)
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Loser *Ü*
Peace
Submitted by Worm (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:45:42 EDT (#)
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I've never understood this.
Were you in love with her?
How did that feeling just fade away? If so, why? And when did you know?
Are you only doing this because you'll be gone for a bit?
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I was in love with this girl, but I think I'm losing it.
I think the feelings fading is mostly because I'm going to Spain. My relationship with her has been great, but I'm beginning to find it a bit mundane. Spain will be one big adventure. Staying with her doesn't feel like the right thing to do. It feels "safe". To me, that is a horrible reason to be with someone.
It dawned on me after the last time I was 'with' her. I felt guilty for not sharing the strong emotion she showed toward me. I was surprised to not feel it. It was gone.
I will be gone for at least four months. Probably five, depending on money.
Thanks all,
Wo|2M
Submitted by ohlookasquirrel (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:35:55 EDT (#)
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This certainly didn't make me smile and isn't a good thing.
Give her those good times though.
Submitted by gassygirl73 (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:16:25 EDT (#)
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I've never understood this.
Were you in love with her?
How did that feeling just fade away? If so, why? And when did you know?
Are you only doing this because you'll be gone for a bit?
Dump her - being miserable is not an option.
Submitted by Euphoricism (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:15:34 EDT (#)
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Upfront and honest is always the way to go.
Just disappearing is the pussies way out. Tell her.
Submitted by whiskeyjack (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:07:49 EDT (#)
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it would be nice to give the girl some good last memories before you break her heart
and also your a mean bad man for hurting this girl and should feel guilty
Submitted by KoolMang (user info) at 2004-08-07 15:06:56 EDT (#)
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lol hehe
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-08-07 14:48:59 EDT (#)
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