I know you don't give a fuck, but I need to vent. (1154 hits)
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Submitted by PatheticCapitalistFuck (View user info) at 2004-09-03 23:14:41 EDT
My son was born 8/30/04 at 10:14 a.m. central time. He was taken by cesaeran section because the OB/GYN felt that his size was prohibitive for a natural birth (the last ultrasound on 8/28 indicated he was somewhere between 9 pounds and 10.5 pounds). He's our first, and mom was having issues late (swelling, sugar issues, etc) so we all decided c-section was best.
We were warned that boys taken by c-section tend to have a condition called transient tachypnea which is indicated by rapid, shallow breathing from fluid-build up in the lungs. As we were told, natural birth and being forced down through the birth canal expels most of the fluid present in the lungs. C-section babies don't have this natural expulsion, so they're breathing tends to be labored for as long as a week, and in boys the effect tends to be more pronounced and lasts longer.
All medical babble aside, I had no idea how completely heartrending it was going to be to watch my son labor so hard just to live. He has been on oxygen since birth, has an IV in his head (his oxygenation is poor, so finding veins for IV in his arms was about impossible), and a feeding tube down his throat (his breathing is so rapid and shallow that bottle feeding is not possible). I've taken pictures but hate them because of all the life support implementations being used to keep him going.
Five days later, his condition has changed very little. Aside from lots of gas (just like dad), he isn't breathing steadily on his own yet. We have gotten consults from everyone from genetics to physical therapy to occupational health to pediatric neurology and as yet, nobody can find anything obviously not right.
I am trying to be a good husband to my wife and be rock solid for her because she is tearing herself apart trying to figure out what she did wrong so as of yet, I have no outlet for my grief and it is eating me up. Tomorrow we have to consider whether or not to put our son on a ventilator to try to force his breathing to slow or whether or not we should wait it out. I don't know what to do or who to talk to for the first time in my life. I also don't have the answers or who to even ask to get the answers we need.
So I need your help. I need a miracle not for me, but for my son, and I need your support.
We were allowed to take one picture with all the tubes removed.
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Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2004-09-15 17:56:28 EDT (#)
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What a beautiful child. I hope everything turns out ok, keep us updated please.
Submitted by JohnGalt (user info) at 2004-09-14 00:31:41 EDT (#)
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I never know what to say to stuff like this. So...umm...Best wishes. I'm sure it will all turn out well. I hope so anyway.
Submitted by cigar (user info) at 2004-09-14 00:26:45 EDT (#)
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good luck man...hope all turns out well. :)
Submitted by PatheticCapitalistFuck (user info) at 2004-09-14 00:22:51 EDT (#)
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I love you degreeless_clitoris, or whatever your banned name is.
Submitted by Degreeless3 (user info) at 2004-09-14 00:20:07 EDT (#)
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Damn, hope everything turns out fine.
And lets hope that these complecations aren't caused by
jews
Submitted by PatheticCapitalistFuck (user info) at 2004-09-14 00:08:08 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-09-09 10:25:22 (#)
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I'll bet the kid is thrilled to have his picture posted in this dump.
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His reaction was a long, drawn out fart, followed by a wooshing, squishy sound in his diaper.
Anyone ever hear of a syndrome related to chromosone 22q (possible deletion of a chain in this chromosome)? Next possibility and I haven't had much luck finding anything on the internet about it. Doctors won't say much until they know there is something there.
Submitted by precision (user info) at 2004-09-13 23:00:37 EDT (#)
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I just had to come back to this post, and see how things were going. I'm really sorry that it isn't going as well as expected. I'm not usually a very religous man, but I'll pray for you and your son.
Submitted by ParlorTrick (user info) at 2004-09-12 04:35:46 EDT (#)
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Such a great thing to become a parent. It must be so hard not to be able to celebrate fully. Your baby just needs a little extra time to build his strength. Looks to me like he's already thinking about his first post.
On another note - clearly you are concerned about your child and your wife, make sure you put yourself on the list.
Submitted by yidele (user info) at 2004-09-12 04:06:19 EDT (#)
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i have 2 sons, both delivered by cesarean and both are healthy.
Submitted by BoogieFevuh (user info) at 2004-09-12 03:56:14 EDT (#)
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Don't sweat it, man...he'll be fine, the doctors will make sure of that. You just remember that we're here for you anytime you need to vent.
Submitted by Rooster (user info) at 2004-09-12 03:35:34 EDT (#)
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Good luck man.
Little arrogant sidenote: I was born 9 lbs, 11 ounces, but my mom decided to do natural birth. She must've been quite the badass :O
Submitted by Wish_I_Were (user info) at 2004-09-12 03:28:56 EDT (#)
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Good luck, and god bless. I'm sure he'll be fine, but that's probably not much consolation.
Submitted by PatheticCapitalistFuck (user info) at 2004-09-12 03:15:21 EDT (#)
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"YOU WILL MAKE YOUR KID HAVE COMPLEXES"
Didn't know that was possible with a 13 day old still in intensive care, but whatever you say.
Update (for those who care).
Brought kid home 9/8 on Apnea Monitor, Oxygen, NasoGastric Feeding, and blood saturation monitor.
9/10 Apnea episodes, tachycardia and tachypnea, blood saturation consistenly below 90%. Taken to emergency room and re-admitted to Newborn Intensive Care.
9/11 transferred to Riley Children's Hospital in Indianapolis, Indiana and admitted to Pediatric Intensive Care Unit. Cardiologist suspects possible vascular ring around trachea of aorta (possible double aortic arch, with the aorta wrapping around the trachea; i.e. when agitated, blood flow increases, constricting the trachea, which in turn increases breathing rate, but lowers oxygen saturation). Vascular tests will contine on 9/13 to determine diagnosis and if surgical intervention is needed.
Jesus Christ.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-09-09 10:25:22 EDT (#)
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I'll bet the kid is thrilled to have his picture posted in this dump.
Submitted by causeican (user info) at 2004-09-09 10:19:18 EDT (#)
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wow is this kid ever gonna grow up to be one fucking suck
your the shitty kind of parent that runs to their fucking kid everytime he scraps his knee
the fucking doctor said its normal so liten the fuck up
YOU WILL MAKE YOUR KID HAVE COMPLEXES
let the little fucker cry his eyes out at night
it builds character
if he falls - cheer
the he won't start to cry. he'll get the fuck up think well nothings wrong and go about what ever the fuck he was doing
DONT RAISE A SUCK
AND LITEN THE FUCK UP
YOU CANDY ASS BITCH
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2004-09-04 21:29:43 EDT (#)
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Congrats!
He'll pull through. Kids are awfully resilient. The hard part is the waiting.
And the hat looks like it says "suck".
Submitted by Random Joe at 2004-09-04 19:58:29 EDT (#)
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capitalistfuck you guys havent done anything wrong, you and your wife decided to make a decision based on your situation and you may have made the correct one. I dont usually pray, however, I will pray for you and your family (including your son) tonight.
Submitted by Degreeless_Capibara (user info) at 2004-09-04 19:25:05 EDT (#)
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Sorry, that last comment was uncalled for. And no, I shouldn't be castrated for -2ing a post.
Submitted by LadyPlural (user info) at 2004-09-04 19:12:14 EDT (#)
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Ahahahahaha, the way that the hat is blurred makes it look like it says "FUCK" instead of "DUCK." I love that hat.
Submitted by LadyPlural (user info) at 2004-09-04 19:10:58 EDT (#)
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Awwww... I hate children, and even I hope that yours' condition improves. Good luck.
On a side note, can you imagine how in ten or eleven years, you'll be showing the kid this post, and saying, "These people all wished you well. Obviously, they hadn't actually MET you. I hope that they never do and realize how you turned out."
I'm joking. Think happy thoughts.
Submitted by sublime (user info) at 2004-09-04 18:21:52 EDT (#)
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glad to know everything is fine, your baby is cute and so is his hat.
Submitted by PatheticCapitalistFuck (user info) at 2004-09-04 18:19:27 EDT (#)
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Finally some good news.
CPAP (thank you, Circe, that's what it was) stabilized his breathing and in 24 hours they are going to take him off of it and see if he maintains on his own.
Genetic screen showed no disorders or obvious genetic difficulties.
CBC and Chem7 were negative (no infections or issues) and glucose, B12, calcium, phosphorous levels are all normal.
Head CT, Upper G1, EKG all normal.
Tomorrow he's getting an apnea screen and a metabolic screen in addition to some additional neurological testing to confirm the results of the other testing.
I swear that he's gotten better because of my blathering here. He's gone from sleeping 24/7 to Mom and I spending almost two hours with him today alert and reactive. The relief is overpowering.
I cannot thank you all enough for your kind words to a total stranger.
Submitted by Subjugator (user info) at 2004-09-04 11:26:20 EDT (#)
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You've got a beautiful baby and you and he will be in my prayers.
Be well...
Subbie
Submitted by domenad (user info) at 2004-09-04 09:01:16 EDT (#)
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You have a beautiful new son. He will be just fine. I know that is small comfort to a worried father, but he will be. God bless him and your wonderful new family.
Submitted by Karmajane (user info) at 2004-09-04 08:48:25 EDT (#)
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Congratulations on your little one!
I know it's hard now but things will get better. He looks like a fighter (so cute btw!). My friend's baby girl had that when she was born but only very mildly. The only thing you could notice was that she sounded very congested when she breathed. You'd think they'd have thought of a device to simulate mum's birth canal or something so that bub can get that "massage" and avoid the condition.
Here's hoping your bub is better soon :)
Submitted by Pentameter (user info) at 2004-09-04 08:47:23 EDT (#)
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What a beautiful little boy!
I wish you the best, and please let us know how he is doing.
Oh, and by the way, fuck the people who don't care.
What goes around comes around.
Submitted by Fartman (user info) at 2004-09-04 08:21:14 EDT (#)
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Both of mine were delivered C section. No problems though.
I wish you all the best.
Submitted by ICO (user info) at 2004-09-04 08:11:53 EDT (#)
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awww. I myself have been brought out with C-section. I have no recollection of anything going wrong (duh), but I'm sure he'll be just dandy in a while.
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2004-09-04 07:47:59 EDT (#)
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congratulations, you have a beautiful son... keep us up to date huh?
thinking of you.
Submitted by Deadly (user info) at 2004-09-04 07:32:03 EDT (#)
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What a bonnie bairn!
Although he may not have had the best entrance into the world at least he has two loving parents to see him through it.
Here's hoping you get to take the wee chap home soon.
Best wishes to the three of you.
Submitted by Avals (user info) at 2004-09-04 07:05:59 EDT (#)
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I'm no doctor, but from what I see here, your baby is going to be fine. So, even though it's hard to watch your kid in this condition, don't let it get you down and remember that he's going to be fine.
Cute kid, by the way. And I usually hate kids, so that means something coming from me!
Submitted by Stin (user info) at 2004-09-04 05:17:25 EDT (#)
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AW IT'S AN ITSY BITSY BABY!
Best of luck dude, and a lot of goodwill from a small corner of England.
Submitted by BoogieFevuh (user info) at 2004-09-04 02:02:13 EDT (#)
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Submitted by AlahAckbar (user info) at 2004-09-03 23:22:29 (#)
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I've been there: Had a neice who had problems breathing.
It's tough man. it really is.
Cute kid.
Everything will be ohhhhh-tay.
Your the leader of the UCP, remember?
Communist children are strong. They hail from ukraine.
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Dont forget Russia.
"In Russia, babies C-Section you!"
Ah, my stale attempt at making the situation a little lighter. I'm sure he'll be fine, man...he's in good hands with trained doctors, and parents who obviously care a lot. We'll always be here for you.
Submitted by Kristen (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:47:06 EDT (#)
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What a beautiful baby!
A similar thing happened to my Godson. He had a natural birth, but had the fluid built up on his lungs anyway. He was in the hospital, on 100% oxygen, for nine days. He couldn't bottle feed and when he finally had slowed his breathing down enough to eat, it was by tube. They put a pacifer in his mouth so he would correlate sucking with the full sensation the tube was bringing to his belly.
Anyway, he went home at a month old, on an apnea monitor. They ended up diagnosing him with Central Apnea, and he had to take caffeine citrate for a slow heartbeat as well. He's now a healthy 4-year-old kid.
They'll figure out what's wrong and no matter what it is, you and your wife and most importantly you're darling baby, will get through it. Like others have said, medicine has come such a long way. I can't imagine what it's like to watch your baby fight to live and I won't pretend I can. I don't know if you're a religious person or not, but he'll be in my prayers.
Submitted by Nancy (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:43:28 EDT (#)
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awwwwwwww! babies ppoop through dont hethey?
Submitted by CoachMagirk27 (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:41:34 EDT (#)
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Congradulations
Submitted by Disektor (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:17:38 EDT (#)
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Best of luck to you, I hope everything turns out fine
Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:15:26 EDT (#)
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Hey, I was born way too soon, spent time in the plastic box as well, and this was, well, let's just say it wasn't yesterday. I think Gunsmoke was still on TV then. (Jesus!) Anyhow, medicine has come a long way since then. Have faith and hang in there. Before you know it he's gonna be sixteen and a day, bugging you for the keys to your 'old' gasmobile (since mom's car is still plugged into the charger and electric sucks anyway) and you'll be saying, "That damned kid..."
Submitted by StonedSilly (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:11:07 EDT (#)
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before I even read,
congratulations on your newborn son.
Submitted by Donitsu2002 (user info) at 2004-09-04 01:08:21 EDT (#)
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Hey man, dont sweat the little stuff, i'm sure that little guy is gonna grow up to be quite the guy. My little brother had the same problem and came out fine (well, i guess that's up for debate).
God bless man, I hope your son gets getter and Congratulations on the birth of your new boy!
Submitted by Random Joe at 2004-09-04 00:52:42 EDT (#)
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Degreeless_Capibara & 666 well, lets just say, they have issues. It's possible that they should be castrated just to save us the horror of them breeding. morons
good luck dude, sounds like you need it
Submitted by precision (user info) at 2004-09-04 00:44:37 EDT (#)
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Actually...SOME of us do care...I feel for you.
Can't offer you any real advice...But feel free to vent, better you vent to a bunch of strangers than to do it in front of your wife and son. I honestly can't imagine how you must be feeling right now.
Keep us posted on your sons progress...
Submitted by Degreeless_Capibara (user info) at 2004-09-04 00:06:57 EDT (#)
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NSFW?!?!?!?!
Submitted by 666. at 2004-09-03 23:37:35 EDT (#)
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Whats the diffrence between a pile of dead babies, and a corvette?
I dont have a corvette in my garage.
Theres always room for your kid.
Submitted by Circe (user info) at 2004-09-03 23:27:00 EDT (#)
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Congratulations on the birth of your son.
Transient tachypnea usually resolves itself after three days or so. If there's nothing else wrong (and with the amount of tests they run on sickly newborns, they probably would have found it by now if there were) it probably just means that your boy is taking a little longer.
I assume by respirator, you mean CPAP? I'm not really understanding why you might decide against it; if it helps, then do it. It's probably the best thing for him.
Submitted by AvrilLaPete (user info) at 2004-09-03 23:25:38 EDT (#)
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My mom takes care of babies like this every day. I've heard the stories, seen the pictures, seen the kids. You got my prayers brother.
Submitted by AlahAckbar (user info) at 2004-09-03 23:22:29 EDT (#)
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I've been there: Had a neice who had problems breathing.
It's tough man. it really is.
Cute kid.
Everything will be ohhhhh-tay.
Your the leader of the UCP, remember?
Communist children are strong. They hail from ukraine.
UKRAINE IS STRONG!
P.S.
We do care