A twisted scenario of Love (625 hits)
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Submitted by Ana Gastire <jackparker968.at.hotmail.com> (View user info) at 2002-10-17 21:39:32 EDT
I have never understood some things in this world. Most of what I don't understand has to do with love- it is the most wonderful and painful emotion known to man. Maybe I cannot speak for the rest of you, and Lord knows I wouldn't waste my time trying- but I want those of you who hurt to know I understand- I've been there and I know what hell it can be. Here's the ideal situation: you find what you think is the world's most perfect match for you- your soul mate..and he/she is the most beautiful thing to ever happen to you..and so you stay together- for awhile. Until the unfortunate day that they leave you- you'll never understand why and you never saw it coming but lo and behold they sit you down one day and say "Baby I love you but it is too hard to have an 'us'. I'm so sorry." And for a moment you sit there in shock and then it hits you- and you cry, sulk, and eat your weight in chocolate (this one applies more to the female set), and if you were truly in love then you'll find you never really stop loving this person, no matter how many times you tell yourself you hate them. Then comes the day when they move on- they have a new relationship and you they tell you about it first because they want to be your friend- they want to be your BEST friend. And you calmly tell them "good luck." before you burst into tears and heated pain. The only way this pain could be magnified is if your ex still loves you (or at least claims to). It's 10,000 times the pain when the ex tells you they are still wildly in love with you and that they hope SOMEDAY things will work out- only they make no moves to get outta their current relationship. Believe me, I know this hurts! I know it kills you inside and makes you feel like you're suffocating. I wish to God I could move on- let go and start over..but then it hit me. It'll never happen. I've tried for close to a year to let go but I cannot do it- I tried to pass of a brother/sister relationship but that failed so miserably I'm afraid to mention it again. I find myself thinking about the situation all the time- seeing people that remind me of it, seeing things that remind me of it, hearing things that remind me of it. I have people who keep telling me we were meant to be, and therefore it'll work out for me in the end, but I am so unsure sometimes.
And you know what??
I wouldn't have traded my time in that relationship for anything in the world. Because for about 17 beautiful months I belonged to my soul mate and to find that AT ALL, let alone at my age is astounding and could be considered a miracle. So I have no regrets, and keep all of my memories close by- and I never let go of our past.
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Submitted by streetpunk (user info) at 2002-11-26 10:37:39 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Yidele, you seem to know alot about dildos, have you been using them? I bet you got a purty mouth.
Submitted by StrongInMind (user info) at 2002-10-29 22:00:12 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I know it PAS, lol. But you know what? I don't really mind- tis all in good fun..and hey attention IS attention, after all. I don't even know yidele so it makes it perfectly easy to ignore him- meh. Wishes to you, Ana- (with 1 'n').
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2002-10-29 21:30:30 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Ana, I fear your relationship problems are not at an end because Yidele is in love!.....he is so blinded by love he is spelling your name wrong :op
I think he felt threatened by the thought of you having a vibrator, the poor lamb is just trying to get all the jealousy out of his system. Is this the third poem he's written you now? The man's obsessed.
Submitted by yidele (user info) at 2002-10-29 21:13:15 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Didn't you just write "...I am actually a happily taken young lady at the minute..." ? Isn't that lying? Oh, wait, maybe it's just "artistic license" ?
What is it you've been taken with? Who's Nate? Do you now name each of your vibrators?
There was once a heifer named Anna
whose keyboard was much worse for wear
she frequently cried out "hosannah"
when Nate her mate served her
Anna was of him enamored
he was tough & marbled & strong
he didled just as she'd have him,
'cause Nate was a plastic dong
All of his manly features
in latex or silicon were cast
any a-fleshy contender
Nate-dog could easily outlast
but then came the day all must reckon
when power & bateries failed
Anna tried all that she could
but the directions weren't detailed
The booklet that nate came with
said something of manual function
but the boooklet was in chinese
and Anna gave him th' last unction
She buried him in the backyard
like a bitch that burries a bone
Nate was, alas, still quite hard
but he lost the electrical drone
There's not much more to be said
Nate is quite dead underground
Anna had screwed him to death
As she'll do you - pound for pound
Submitted by StrongInMind (user info) at 2002-10-29 14:46:29 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
thank you PAS- you are a very wise person. lol, slowly- (but surely, mind you) I am learning how to cope with what it is that I am dealing with and going through- and maybe it was in the best interest anyway since last time I spoke to him he's not even sure if he wants a friendship. Like you say, my dear- perhaps it is for the best and therefore I thank you for your input. Take care, and best wishes, Ana.
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2002-10-27 22:15:50 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Sorry, I'd missed out the worst bit,
"the ex tells you they are still wildly in love with you and that they hope SOMEDAY things will work out- only they make no moves to get outta their current relationship."
This git is trying to have his cake and eat it. He dumps you (with no good reason), you stay as his friend (when you should have done the decent thing and got him out of your life - maybe even cut up his clothes to show you mean business) and now he has the audacity to try to make you his piece on the side!!
That clown has some nerve.
Don't get me wrong I'm no man hater, I'd just trying to read between the lines and he sounds like a tosser if ever I saw one. Your friends are probably only saying stuff like,
"we were meant to be, and therefore it'll work out for me in the end,"
because they know it is what you want to hear and they know you were happy with him and they want you to be happy. But he is not making you happy right now is he Ana?
The only way to lessen the pain and upset you are going through is to clear him out of your life for good.....for as long as it takes for you to get over him. No more being friends or listening to his problems or holding his hand if his current relationship is not going so well. Don't be his security blanket, he is using you and you are worth more than that.
If you really ARE meant to be, then a year apart with totally no contact is not going to make any difference is it? and at least you will feel better about yourself by then.
Start thinking about what YOU want out of life. This is a wonderful time for you in many ways. The independence, the freedom of being single. Go wild! Do things that you always wanted to that he didn't. Do things that interested you that he put a downer on. This can be in little ways i.e you always bought a certain type of food just because he liked it, well throw it in the bin. Buy something YOU want. You always wanted to go to Greece but he didn't like Europe? Screw him, go on holiday to Athens.
Best of luck with it all. Don't let the bastard get you down.
PAS.
Submitted by PeopleAreStrange (user info) at 2002-10-27 21:58:20 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Well said Ana.
However! You may have been your ex's soul mate (as you call it) but he certainly wasn't yours. How can he break up with you using a pathetic reason like,
"Baby I love you but it is too hard to have an 'us'. I'm so sorry."
What bullshit crap is that? He loves you and has been happy with you for 17 months and being with you has not been a problem for the last year and a half but all of a sudden it is 'too hard'?? What was his real reason?!!
"Then comes the day when they move on- they have a new relationship and they tell you about it first because they want to be your friend- they want to be your BEST friend."
Of course he wants to be your best friend, if you are acting ok around him, it makes him feel less guilty about dropping you faster than a pile of hot bricks. This guy is an arse and way too lucky that you fell so deeply for him that you are still in love with him now. Take the blinkers off girl, why should you be happy for him when he has treated you like a rat?
I don't believe you can be friends with an ex until you have completely gotten over them (and them you). That means NOT spending time in their company or being in contact with them for as many months or years as it takes for you to stop loving/hating them. This is in both of your interests.
Also I don't think there is such a thing as a soul mate. I believe in kindred spirits but not that there is only 1 person on this planet that I am destined to be with or truly love, otherwise I would have to globe-hop faster than a kangaroo on speed to try to find Mr Right and I'd only have a 1 in 6 billion chance of finding him.
In some cases you are better off without. By the sound of things Ana you can do much better than that loser.
PAS
Submitted by Anna Bastone at 2002-10-27 21:19:39 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I must say that your post was both deep and in some way, scary. I know your feelings and in some ways, your situation exactly, and I think it's great that you posted, because it's awesome to see someone going through the same thing. I was with a guy for 17 months, and we just ended our relationship a few months ago; not too long ago actually. And the pain still has a way of creeping up inside of you when you least expect it, and when you least want it. Ahh..SOB I just realized who the author of this post is..and you know my situation..lol. so this is somewhat pointless..huh?
Submitted by Random Joe at 2002-10-27 20:59:17 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
me thinks ana and slimvin need to get 2getha
Submitted by slimvin (user info) at 2002-10-26 23:01:21 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I understand that feeling alright..not being able to let go.... The reminders in everything, even when they hurt you, you can only love them. With no resistance you are open to the risk of manipulation, humiliation. Your friends say why do you bother, truth is all you hope for is maybe just maybe.
You meet, talk, visit. Little things you pick up on seem to be a sign... theres that hope again. You feel that things are changing, your heart races at the thought. Then it all crashes down to reality. They dont want you. Back down the spiraling darkness of rejection and pain. Why are you doing this? You felt so sure....................
To find ones soulmate is heaven,
To lose ones soulmate is hell.
So you go round or call next day because maybe just maybe.........
I feel your pain, I understand it, I live it everyday.
Take care cos I care
Submitted by slimvin (user info) at 2002-10-26 22:38:24 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
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Submitted by DonMecca (user info) at 2002-10-18 00:14:53 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Love sucks. It's lov that drags you down and beats you for no reason. It's love that causes you to give up everything for that 'special someone'. Love causes too much pain, moreso than hate. It is the most outrageous emotion, it makes you do crazy things, but it's the one most often lied about. Why do we love? Because everyone else does, if we lived in a world where we made love for mating purposes only, then love would be a thing of the past, and people would live happily, and dominant males would fight for the right to mate with the female of the pack. We should live like lions, and breed only a few times a year, for some it would mean a lot less breeding, but for the lonely amongst us, a lot lot more.