The truth about love (535 hits)
Category: HumorRating: -1.66 on 6 reviews (Rate this item) (V)
Submitted by Ana Gastire <jackparker968.at.hotmail.com> (View user info) at 2002-10-19 07:40:11 EDT
I have decided to offer another view on love- since I offered the one view most people have, I thought it would be interesting to offer another..more..realistic viewpoint.
Love tends to be an ever-changing philosophy. There are those that will tell you it comes only once, and those who will tell you that love cannot be found until after the soul mate, AKA "That Special Someone" has surfaced in your life. I find neither of these theories to be true, though clever they may be. If you are reading this with the high-hearted hopes that my opinion will launch you down the path of romantic righteousness, I must tell you straight off that I am no example of my philosophies. These are theories I have based solely on other people's past experiences and journeys as well as my own idea of what I think love truly means and is. That said, you have been warned, so any course of action you choose to take following this composition is 100% your own doing, as I will not be held responsible for your decisions. So let us begin- there are two main myths that tend to get on my nerves, because so many people are actually naive enough to buy into them. These myths are:
· OPPOSITES ATTRACT- while this may be the case for some, 90% of us find more comfort in those who resemble ourselves. I have seen many people who were total opposites and they have done nothing but argue and berate each other throughout their entire relationship because they had absolutely nothing of interest in common. Once again, allow me to stress that this is not true for everyone, but to say opposites attract would be just as bad as saying that southerners are hicks or that African Americans are great dancers. It is a stereotype and we are brought up to know that stereotypes are bad for the intellectual digestion- opposites attract is like another stereotype, and clearly one that romantic hopefuls should stay away from.
· LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT- I could go on about this for hours- literally. I don't know who came up with this ridiculous fallacy but whoever the moron is should be shot. What about those who are sightless? Or those who grow to love each other? Basically we as human beings have decided that love cannot be based on anything other than trust, mutual respect, compassion, and a genuine connection for the other person, on all levels. As far as I know, none of those can be felt for a total stranger. Last time I checked there weren't a hell of a lot of people having compassion for that girl in the line at the supermarket, or the clerk at the video store. In fact that is probably the same girl you blew the whistle on for having 11 items in the 10 item express lane, or the guy you turned in to the manager for miscataloging "The Fast and the Furious." We tend to lose sight on the meaning of empathy, because we have to grow to know a person before we can truthfully have compassion for them- compassion is fueled on trust and visa-versa. This alone should reveal that love at first sight is just wishful thinking.
I know that all of this "informative information" as some of you may have so shrewdly put it, can be a bit much to absorb, but fear not! It is not as difficult to understand as it seems. Although I am not a first-hand expert on what to do when your legs feel all woozily or you're foaming at the mouth at the sight of your potential sweetness, I can tell you from the logistical point of view that if it's meant to work out it will. Most of you are probably spending your days sitting there with glazed over eyes thinking about the next time you'll see him/her. Or maybe it's if the amount of deodorant you put on is proportional to the gallon of mouthwash you consumed, just because there's a chance you'll pass by them during the course of your day. This, my friends, is no way to live, and again as I said, I honestly believe that fate will handle itself. I've never been one to buy into the whole "heart stopping" or "butterflies-in-the-stomach" experience. My advice to you is to know that whatever will be, will be, and that the next time you have that gnawing, jumpy feeling in your chest when he/she walks by, it may just be indigestion.
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Submitted by StrongInMind (user info) at 2002-10-22 16:14:53 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
awww dun worry, lol. I wrote this damn thing to see who paid attention- who didn't, so on and so forth. I am actually a happily taken young lady at the minute (love ya Nate) and so fear not! I am not demented. This particular thing was written awhile back and I only recently dug it out of my many rambling files. Hope that answers any questions. Wishes, Ana.
Submitted by hendrixjrr (user info) at 2002-10-22 08:44:46 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
I'm starting to feel incredibly sorry for this writer. I hope there was a break up some time in her recent past; if not, there are serious problems here.
Submitted by yidele (user info) at 2002-10-20 15:31:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: -2
yeah, random, they generally buy harlequin paperbacks, true romance & girlie mags. If you need masturbation aids, I dare suggest that alt.sex.cuthulu or the like would be a safer bet.
Submitted by yidele (user info) at 2002-10-20 15:15:22 EDT (#)
Ranking: -1
What is this? Special ed for the romaticaly challenged? Just because you don't inspire a burgeoning, swelling reaction in men, doesn't mean that it does not happen for other women - if you spent half the time you do writing this swellhead mush in a gym or dieting, you might find what you so badly need. Get laid, fer god's sake , or write to ann landers.
Submitted by Random Joe at 2002-10-20 07:07:25 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
some people like reading about love
Submitted by Random_Joey-Jo-Jo at 2002-10-20 06:26:46 EDT (#)
Ranking: 0
I am sick of reading your posts about love and shit. I am avoiding your posts as of now. You sound like some 15 year old freak with no friends who rants for far too long on here, thinking people read your crap and agree with you. The best posts on here are about mature debatable topics, not pasted links, not teenage angst. Give it up.