Aww SHIT... The Topic of All the Guys Shes Fucked Comes Up Again... (2455 hits)
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Submitted by Nomad <Drainoe.at.hotmail.com> (View user info) at 2004-11-26 23:11:00 EST
http://www.ubersite.com/m/52746
...to contine a few hours later...
I can't stand how we go out someplace, see a bunch of her friends.
We head off to taco bell, about 7 of us.
She and I are at the counter, and she knows the teller.
"Hi!! It's so good to see you again!!"
"You too!!! Is this your friend?"
"Yeah this is Scott."
"I'm her boyfriend."
The tellers face goes blank. "O..ohhh.."
We order and five of us sit down at a table. We chat for a bit, and I hear out of the corner of my ear my girlfriend and the teller chatting...
"Cause... Adrianna said you... sleeping... so.. you were single."
"Who has she...I was sleeping with..."
"Well, a few... in manchester I guess there was a... and that kid Jake..."
"Okay, I slept with him... who else..."
"Then a like two weeks later... Megans friend.... the next night..."
"No, that bullshit. We were sitting there...next day he asked me... but i didn't sleep with...for a week..."
"Oh..."
At this point I chime up, look over at her and say, "I'm going for a smoke." I grab one of the guys I know by the jacket and say, "lets go for a smoke..."
We get outside and I'm a little worked up. I can't stop thinking about that line from that movie with the two irish brothers. "I can't go get a pack of cigarettes without running into nine guys you've FUCKED."
I vent on the guy. This guy has been part of the crowd for a while now. I look him in the eye and say, "level with me. How many, how recent?"
He looked a tad uneasy. "Well, I guys maybe six like uhh in uhh well, before she met uhh you. I don't think she uhh has slept with anyone since umm she met you though dude..."
I wouldn't be bothered. Except for a couple of minor details.
It sounds like alot, and from what I've been hearing it sounds like alot in a short span of time.
Also, we have not had sex yet. She wants to wait/changing her ways/blah blah blah while at the same token tries to (unsuccessfully) hide what shes done, to the point where I think that she is lying.
Waiting is fine. I'm down with that. I really, really am. However...
With that many guys to call up for a fuck, and with the amount of time that we've been together vs. the amount of sex shes had in a given amount of time vs...
Stories about a trip to mass about two weeks after we met that she told me she was really drunk and being flirty the bar tender (which I don't really care about) vs...
Me jokingly bringing up that story infront of someone who was there, and when this person opens his mouth to speak she says, "Don't say it, he'll take it too seriously." VS...
Me developing emotions for this girl on a person to person NON SEXUAL LEVEL =
M I N D F U C K.
Ok. Look.
Someone once said it take a strong man to admit that he is scared.
I am scared. I am scared that I will be hurt by this one.
Someone also said that courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to press on despite the fear.
Press on I shall. But I have to say that when this shit is brought up, my first instinct is to get as far away from this as fast as I can.
In other words, my first instinct is to run the fuck away. That's my gut reaction.
Seriously now - Does anyone have some decent insight to offer me on this one. I know this is a crazy fucking place to ask for that, heheh, but I'm desperate enough right now.
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Submitted by OneCheapGeek (user info) at 2004-11-29 22:18:18 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2004-11-28 23:28:39 (#)
Ranking: -2
Fuck her while she's sleeping. Then dump her because she lied about changing her ways.
That slut.
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Sadly, I concur.
Submitted by Galgos27 (user info) at 2004-11-29 19:28:30 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
You are a fag. Stop crying and bone her everyone else has. Why do you love inflicting pain on yourself by dating these women you're never going to change and never going to fix? You ask for advice but you already know what you're going to do. You're going to let this chick walk all over you and you're going to weep about it next month to your friends that are women who like you enough to listen to you cry but will also never fuck you.
-Nowadays, everybody's got to go to shrinks and counselors, and go on Sally Jesse Raphael and talk about their problems. Whatever happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn't in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn't know is once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings, that they wouldn't be able to shut him up. And then it's dysfunction this and dysfunction that and dysfunction va fungool! - Tony Soprano
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2004-11-29 18:05:53 EST (#)
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Nomad,
I don't like to be a linkwhore, but http://www.ubersite.com/m/50371
I have already summed up most of this issue - I actually originally wrote this as a letter to a friend, many years ago, and I liked it so much I turned it into a story and posted it here on Uber.
Let me know what you think...
Submitted by lucid (user info) at 2004-11-29 15:08:01 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Like oh my god, and then Jack was sleeping with Jill's sister while Jill was abducted by mutant-aliens from outer space that sodomized her with a bulbous, electric gun and then Evil Samantha (remember in the last episode she slipped down the stairs and her personality changed) starred in a bondage video which meant she couldn't keep her Ms. Kansas City title and grandma Johnsonville finally found her teeth!!!
I fucking love soap operas.
Submitted by spacemonkey (user info) at 2004-11-29 13:10:50 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
She is obviously lying and cheating on you.
There is only one option left to restore your damaged pride.
You should rape and kill her.
Submitted by hyprspacd (user info) at 2004-11-29 13:00:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Talk to her.
Duh.
Dont ask her fuckling friends
Dont ask people she knows.
ASK HER.
Submitted by munkeypants (user info) at 2004-11-29 12:43:38 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Is sounds disrespectful for her to brag or allow her friends to discuss
this in front of you.
Submitted by bignasty (user info) at 2004-11-29 12:01:29 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Sounds like a high school ho to me...much like queen ashlee
Submitted by strwbryfanatic (user info) at 2004-11-29 00:05:07 EST (#)
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Dearest Nomad,
What it boils down to is a choice that you need to make. I can see both sides of the argument:
-You don't want to sleep with her and get herpes or something like that
but...
-You like her
The thing is that if you have had sex prior to her, it is almost unfair of you to assume that she is "dirty" because she's done it too. Even if you've only had sex with 2 people and she's had sex with 193, those 2 people you were with could have something too. Though I will also say that if she has had very many partners, then you could be concerned that she has sex without caring for these people and therefore be afraid that she does not care for you either.
That is all.
If you need to talk, you may email me: strwbryfanatic.at.gmail.com
Hope all goes well in the land of Nomad.
*Rachael
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2004-11-28 23:36:59 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:50:31 (#)
Ranking: 0
Maybe she is secretive because she doesn't want her past to ruin your future. Maybe she really cares about you, and doesn't want you to think less of her because she's been promiscuous in the past, or think that because she's had a lot of sex before she met you, and you are not having sex now, that she will cheat on you.
A lot of women are very sexually active when they're lonely, because sex makes them feel less lonely. Now she's with you, and say she really cares about you: that means she's no longer lonely and doesn't need sex to fill that space. And since she's used guys for sex before, she doesn't want to rush into a sexual relationship with you, because she's afraid that if she does, you'll end up becoming just another guy she fucked and never saw again. In which case, once she feels comfortable in the fact that you guys care about each other and aren't just going to fuck and run, she will be more open to making the relationship sexual.
Hey, it could happen.
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Yeah.
And that movie fucking sucked.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2004-11-28 23:28:39 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Fuck her while she's sleeping. Then dump her because she lied about changing her ways.
That slut.
Submitted by RouteTwo (user info) at 2004-11-28 18:26:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
"We get outside and I'm a little worked up. I can't stop thinking about that line from that movie with the two irish brothers. "I can't go get a pack of cigarettes without running into nine guys you've FUCKED."
BOONDOCK SAINTS!
Submitted by cwl989 (user info) at 2004-11-28 13:39:59 EST (#)
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The movie with the two Irish guys is called "Boondock Saints".
And everyone needs to see it because it's fucking awesome.
Submitted by Maddog (user info) at 2004-11-28 13:29:23 EST (#)
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Move on. Even if she ISN'T having sex with everyone else except you, you'll never trust her enough to have a healthy relationship.
Submitted by Herpes (user info) at 2004-11-28 13:12:31 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Leave now, before it's too late and you waste 3 and a half years of your life on someone who loves you, but doesn't want to be with you until you're unavailable but everytime you make yourself available again, she doesn't think that getting together is a good idea anymore so you're stuck there wondering what the fuck is going on and then you can't fucking take it anymore and decide that since this has happened three or four times since you've known her, it's time for you to take the initiative, and not talk to her anymore, even when she makes the obligatory phone call on thanksgiving just to say hey.
+2 for letting me vent.
Submitted by Slovin (user info) at 2004-11-27 22:53:26 EST (#)
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Reminds me of a recent UM entry about Miss Piggy.
Maybe you should have a Swedish chef slice her up.
Submitted by Slovin (user info) at 2004-11-27 22:49:25 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Some people say that I'm a bad guy..
They may be right, they may be right.
But it's not as if I don't try..
I just fuck up, try as I might
But I can change, I can change!
I can learn to keep my promises, I swear it!
I'll open up my heart and I will share it..
Any minute now I will be born again!
Yes I can change, I can change!
I know I've been a dirty little bastard
I like to kill! I like to maim! Yes, I'm insane!
But it's okay, 'COS I CAN CHANGE!!
It's not my fault that I'm so evil..
It's society, society.
You see my parents were sometimes abusive..
And it made, a prick of me.
But I can change, I can change!
Satan: But what if you never change? What if you remain a sandy little butthole?
Hey Satan! Don't be such a twit
Mother Teresa won't have shit on me!
Here I am, just watch me change..
Here you go, I'm changing!
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-11-27 20:53:53 EST (#)
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Rape and kill her so she can't fuck anyone else over.
Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2004-11-27 18:05:36 EST (#)
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heed my warning, young one. now that you've had sex, she's going to say she feels dirty and it's going to fuck everything up.
just get out of there while you can. i'm serious.
Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2004-11-27 17:47:54 EST (#)
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Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:50:31 (#)
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Maybe she is secretive because she doesn't want her past to ruin your future. Maybe she really cares about you, and doesn't want you to think less of her because she's been promiscuous in the past, or think that because she's had a lot of sex before she met you, and you are not having sex now, that she will cheat on you.
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or maybe she's going to use you for a while to feel better about herself and then toss you out like a sack of garbage when she's done with you.
Submitted by packofqtips (user info) at 2004-11-27 17:31:25 EST (#)
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the boondock saints is the movie with the two irish guys
also the bits of converstaion you picked up did you get the feeling they were talkin about events that happened while you were supposed to be her boyfriend?
Submitted by funkchomper (user info) at 2004-11-27 17:23:53 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Hey man. I can identify, I think I'm made up much the same as you. This sort of stuff, if left to fester, is going to rip your heart out one day. No, it's not necessarily healthy to obsess about your partner's past, but it's something you can't help, especially when she's being shady about it. I think you're on the right track. She may be holding out on you because she cares for you a lot, but regardless of the reason, dishonesty is like cancer in a relationship.
If you don't break up with her, try your best to distance yourself enough so that when the truth does come out you're not totally leveled. I know you're all wrapped up in her, that's what sucks about the whole thing.
Ah fuck it, don't listen to me.. worm sounds smarter. ;-)
Good luck, bro.
Submitted by sebcharrot (user info) at 2004-11-27 16:46:56 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Ok dude, I read the rest of the reviews. I took my time because I wanted to read everyone's opinions, and especially what you said.
I agree with Loki over the calming down. You definitely need to think this through. Now if you are really not comfortable, then all you have to do is tell her you're not. That simple.
Next step is, you open up about everything you're feeling. Don't keep any of it in. You want to trust her? Prove to her, and more importantly it seems, to YOURSELF, that she can trust you. Empty yourself to her. Don't leave anything out. If you feel you need to, tell her about Uber (though I wouldn't recommend doing that- girlfriends don't seem to understand Uber, haha). Once you're done, be patient and let her talk to you. And remember it's a discussion, not a debate. You should interact, not give a speech.
Anyway, I hope things work out in some way or other.
Email me or something, I like your style.
-seb
email- sebcharrot.at.gmail.com
msn- ironmaiden_kickass.at.hotmail.com
aim- sebcharrot
Submitted by sebcharrot (user info) at 2004-11-27 16:25:07 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I hate that feeling.
Fuck do I hate that feeling.
Submitted by Worm (user info) at 2004-11-27 16:18:45 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I agree with QueenAhley, but if the girl is having sex with people because she's lonely, she's probably not on the same level as a guy who has the awarness to see whats going on around him, ask others for advice and then make a decision based on what the BIG head says (instead of the little one).
Thats fine if thats what she thinks, but I don't think that's what he's looking for. He seems a bit more rational/stable than this girl.
You are slowly becoming my hero. I have to go out tonight (I'm in Spain, lousy time zones), so I won't be able to hear the rest until tomorrow, but keep up the good fight.
-Worm
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:50:31 EST (#)
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Maybe she is secretive because she doesn't want her past to ruin your future. Maybe she really cares about you, and doesn't want you to think less of her because she's been promiscuous in the past, or think that because she's had a lot of sex before she met you, and you are not having sex now, that she will cheat on you.
A lot of women are very sexually active when they're lonely, because sex makes them feel less lonely. Now she's with you, and say she really cares about you: that means she's no longer lonely and doesn't need sex to fill that space. And since she's used guys for sex before, she doesn't want to rush into a sexual relationship with you, because she's afraid that if she does, you'll end up becoming just another guy she fucked and never saw again. In which case, once she feels comfortable in the fact that you guys care about each other and aren't just going to fuck and run, she will be more open to making the relationship sexual.
Hey, it could happen.
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:20:38 EST (#)
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It's okay Loki, keep typing.
Did I mention she can be a pushy bitch too?
I mean seriously, I want to sleep with her so bad, but I think deep inside it's sort of a "I want to sleep with her because EVERYONE ELSE GOT TO!"
HAHAHAHAAA!! I'm sorry but you have to admit, thats fucking funny!
Too bad it's true.
No, I'm not prepared to have the wool pulled over my eyes. I'm not prepared to let myself be a clueless chump that doesn't really know his woman.
I'm not prepared to "Yes dead, no dear" and pine and whine and, well, I'm just not gonna be this fuckin guy. No fuckin way. NOT ME.
I'm done being a chump!! She's outside having a smoke, and I'm going out there right the fuck now and.. and... and... I'm not gonna do it, cause I'm a pussy.
I B FUCKED.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:10:10 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Ok, first of all CALM DOWN.
deep breath
Without being there or knowing anyone in this scene, I don't think anyone can really give you any advice, but there simply cannot be any secrets in a relationship if it's going to work. I hate to say it, but no I don't think you will be able to live with this and I don't know anyone man or woman who wants to be the only one in the room who doesn't know the full story about the person they are with.
Plus, from the sounds of it, she seems to be rather proud of herself and
you know what, I'm not helping here am I?
I will stop typing now.
Submitted by Davros (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:08:00 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
TRUST.
Sorry it didn't work out man.
-Davros
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 15:02:57 EST (#)
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Eh, ok I'm back. I'm going to break up with her.
This sucks, because I really like this one.
But, I'm not down with being a sluts nice guy chump. Strong language, but I mean it. She may have parts of her that I really like, but,
Let's call it straight.
Lets call a slut a slut, and my girlfriend is one. I don't say that vindictively, I just say it because it's true. We were sitting there talking with one of her old high school friends last night. Topic of dating/he said, she said/sex came up.
She got a bashful look on her face after I said something about sex, I don't remember exactly what, but she said, "Haha, there are legends about me at suchandsuch high school."
And he looked at her like, "Yeah, and they ain't rumors niether."
Fact of the matter is that I caught her ass. There was this funny vibe last night from everyone there, and I mean EVERYONE.
This uneasy, can't look me in the eye sort of deal. They'd look her in the eye with an expression like, "You mean he doesn't know?!" and she'd look back like, "No, he doesn't."
And no, I'm not reading too much into it. It was rather uncomfortable. EVERY SINGE PERSON THERE DID THAT AT SOME POINT LAST NIGHT.
I don't need this. I'm thinking about stripping and walking into the living room right now.
I don't like secrets. I don't like lies. I don't like being purposely kept in the dark about who a person is. I don't like this, and I think I want out.
People talk about how men use women, play them, lie to them, anything to get into thier pants. This may be true.
But, THIS is how a woman uses a man.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2004-11-27 14:59:05 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
oh dear this is going to be fugly
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 14:49:47 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Worm, thats a really emotional story you had there. I feel you on that one, big time, because that is what I'm afraid of here.
She is sitting on my couch this very second, curled up in a blanket watching a The Santa Clause. Sex is the last thing on her mind at this point, nor will it be. I just stepped outside for a smoke and I made a decision.
I'm going to break up with her. This isn't right, it doesn't feel right. Like you say Worm, she isn't be real about this. And he friends would tell me the same thing (in a round about way, they already have).
"Bro, if you're looking for a quick fuck, go for it."
She shows me the opposite impression. Shes coming. More later.
Submitted by Mario (user info) at 2004-11-27 14:35:45 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I understand people can and do change, but the fact that she so freely talks about something that should be a very private matter with anybody but you just raises a warning flag. If she won't talk about it with you, she shouldn't talk about it with anyone. And seriously, what kind of slag goes around talking about who they fucked anyway, there's nothing to be proud of there, most guys will sleep with just about anything. So fuck her bro, get yourself someone who's less shady.
Submitted by Mario (user info) at 2004-11-27 14:18:18 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Fucking cut that shit loose bro, she doesn't respect your ass at all. Girls will withhold sex from
"nice" guys and make you do all kinds of nice things for them, but they won't think twice about fucking some random douchebag that turns them on. Talking about the kind of girl it sounds like you have right here.
Submitted by Davros (user info) at 2004-11-27 14:14:59 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I don't really know what to say.
I have seen both sides of the coin.
I was in a relationship where I waited 2 years for her to be ready for a sexual commitment and it didn't bother me in the slightest. We fooled around in that time but never went the whole hog.
Another relationship was based on a first night situation.
Both of them ended Badly.
What I have in my current situation is a relationship with Trust. That is the most important thing in any situation.
If you feel that you can trust this girl, then go along and things will come out in the end.
If you can't, then you might as wel give it up now, because no matter what resoloutions you come to, eventually something is going to come along that splits you because you don't trust her.
However hard it is you have to forget about her past and deal with the present.
After much discussion, that came about naturally, I learned that my current partner has had more sexual partners than me, even though she is 5 years younger, this does not worry me, because she is with me now.
Again it comes back to trust.
I trust her and she is with me, therefore the past is, quite literally, history.
This is probably no help, but hope it all works out.
-Davros
Submitted by Worm (user info) at 2004-11-27 13:53:30 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Nomad, I don't know you but I like you. I like your style of writing and I like how you think. I found myself in a similar situation, so I will throw in my 2 cents:
I met a girl in my confirmation class my freshman year of high school and chased her for the last 3 years of high school. We were officially friends, but she often spent Saturday nights falling asleep on my shoulder watching Disney movies in my parent's basement. We flirted, gave massages, held hands in public places... this girl had me hook, line, and sinker. It was a very "Rated PG" kind of love: I wanted to make sure that I had her emotionally before anything sexual. I had also put her on a bit of a pedistal and couldn't cook up the balls to make a move even if I had wanted to because I was afraid of deathly afraid of screwing up and having Cinderella leave the Ball before it had started.
Early on in our relationship (around sophomore year), she would repeatedly dump and get back together with some other asshole which really pissed me off, but, again... PG, no balls. We had a couple long gaps in our relationship, but late my senior year, the asshole boyfriend was out of the picture and we got pretty serious- for just being "friends". I finally made a move and she didn't seem to mind. A week later, she casually told me that she was getting back together with the asshole ex.
I lost it. I told her that as long as she was with this dude, I couldn't be around her. She played a lot of games, had a sketchy past with her boyfriend (who I later found out was an addict and treated her like shit), and was never up-front with me. She was my first love. It was really hard, but it had to be done.
Three months later, I see her at a party, which is odd because we go to different high schools. It turns out there were two cousins who went to each of our high schools that threw a party, so all of my friends met all of her friends. I decided to say "Hi" just to make things less awkward when I passed by her around the house. She was just as cordial as I was. I went and sat down with my friends.
When I got there, my buddies had met her friends who told them how many guys she had been with, how much cock she sucked, etc. Of course, they were quick to tell me, and I was slow to believe it. This girl was a regular Charlie Church who hated drinking, and (last I checked) was a virgin. I called thier bluff.
They scoffed at my disbelief and changed the subject.
The next day, my buddy Joe woke me up to tell me that she had sucked off my friend Rory (who I had known since first grade) in the bathroom that night. They had just met at that party. Joe wouldn't lie about that shit. He walked in on them.
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I have no beef with Rory. Most men would do what he did without thinking twice. My beef isn't even with girls who give BJ's to random men. The lesson that I learned from this experience is about deception. The image that this girl gave me was dishonest, and my feelings toward her made her dishonesty indescribably painful.
I've learned that a dishonest girl has something that you don't that can rip a well-meaning, level-headed guy to shreds: the Truth.
If this girl doesn't give you straight answers and you stay with her, you are setting yourself up for a world of pain. If she can't be honest with you, let her go. You don't want to find out 2 years down the road that she had a one night stand with your sister's boyfriend.
So find out what went on. If she lets it out and you're cool with it, more power to you. You just got your girlfriend over a big hump in her life that she's probably embarrassed about, that makes for a pretty strong relationship. If she won't give you a straight answer of changes the subject, let her go. If she's not mature enough to deal with her own past, she won't make a very good girlfriend.
Good luck.
Submitted by Soley_Trinity (user info) at 2004-11-27 13:37:24 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
No matter what she got up to in the past, at least you know that when you both take it to the next level it won't be just casual sex, think of it as a heightened sense of communication. If you want the relationship to be about you and her, then leave previous sexual partners where they belong - In the past.
Submitted by WiKi (user info) at 2004-11-27 13:23:24 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I can't stop thinking about that line from that movie with the two irish brothers. "I can't go get a pack of cigarettes without running into nine guys you've FUCKED."
"Shut your FAT ASS, Ravie!"
Gah. I LOVE The Boondock Saints.
Also, I say, listen to Paul's (mrwolf's) advice. He seems to know what he's talking about.
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 13:03:21 EST (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-11-27 12:43:48 (#)
Ranking: -2
Go date a 12 year old then.
A 12 year old has probably only slept with a couple of guys...that should make you happy.
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Submitted by JohnnyACDC (user info) at 2004-11-27 12:32:34 (#)
Ranking: -2
it sounds like she went for you because youre a non-threatening pussy who she can drag through the mud while she tries to cleanse herself. YOURE A BITCH...now, go join the army, become a man, then come back and make her beg to suck your dick
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Heh. You guys are fucked up, you know that don't you?
Just about as fucked up as I am - on the other side of the coin.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-11-27 12:43:48 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Go date a 12 year old then.
A 12 year old has probably only slept with a couple of guys...that should make you happy.
Submitted by JohnnyACDC (user info) at 2004-11-27 12:32:34 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
it sounds like she went for you because youre a non-threatening pussy who she can drag through the mud while she tries to cleanse herself. YOURE A BITCH...now, go join the army, become a man, then come back and make her beg to suck your dick
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 10:03:40 EST (#)
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Thanks for all the input everyone.
We're going to spend the day together today at my place. I'm making her dinner tonight.
I guess perhaps what I really need to do is face the fact that I'm not okay with the amount of sex she had been having before she met me.
That's the truth of it right there. Now I have two options I suppose. Break up with her, or accept it for who she is. She really seems like she wants to live a different life now, we've talked about that area.
Would sleeping with her make it all better? We might just find out by the end of the day. But I don't think so.
Human nature. Everyone likes sex, can't argue that. It's just that for me, I'm really not in to the sleeping around thing. That's how I feel about it. And maybe I'm a rarity, and women with the same outlook as me are a rarity too, but it's how I feel.
I work with this woman that I have become friends with. She is about 35, settled down with a husband and a couple kids. We talk about stuff sometimes.
She fucked ALOT when she was younger. And now that she is married with a 14 year old daughter, she still seems to have fucked up morals.
"If there was someone I'd leave my husband for, haha, it would definatley be Jack Soandso. He works on the fourth floor."
Sure she was joking. But there was a hint of seriousness in that. I'm willing to bet that if she had the opportunity, she would be very easily seduced. And in my mind, if you're married, thats a really fucked up thing to joke about.
My co worker Steve heard what she said, looked at me and said, "That's fuckin rediculous. You believe that? That just ain't right."
Steve is married with two children. He is about twenty seven. When he was my age he was that guy. The guy that had chicks dragging him into the bathroom for blowjobs.
Now he has a wife that loves him, and he loves her. But even he gets moody. He looked up at me one day and said, "Ever just get in that mood, you know, when you just want to go out and see how many women you can fuck in one night?"
Point: People who are sexually free like that don't seems to have the same attitude about relationships. And maybe they ought to stick with other people that are sexually free.
Her sleeping around? Well, for me, the real issue is one of character.
Shit, look at some of the people on this site. Character? Yeah, they're characters alright.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2004-11-27 09:32:57 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Wait, I see the problem now, she thinks your name is Scott. Hey if you are not going to be honest about who you are then how can she.
on the other hand
Maybe, just maybe she's not overly proud of all the things she's done and would rather make a clean start without all the baggage.
I don't know, thank god I'm not a lesbian. I couldn't deal with this shit. Men are such simple creatures and so much easier to deal with.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2004-11-27 09:27:45 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I vote for a radical idea, talk to her about it when the two of you are alone. You have to be careful how you approach it and try to stay calm and rational.
its crazy but it just might work
**Frank, this is a safe place. A place where we can feel free sharing our feelings. Think of my office as a nest in a tree of trust and understanding. We can say anything here. **
Submitted by mrwolf (user info) at 2004-11-27 06:21:07 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Me and my girl had the conversation last night as to what I did with my ex-girlfriends sexually, and what WE do together that makes her so different and special... We talked and she felt better because she didn't realise that me and her do things that I at 23 never did with any of my previous girlfriends, and our sex life has grown as a consequence.
I personally hate hearing what she used to do with her ex-boyfriends. The thought of them touching her gives me the extraordinary ability to punch through walls... She re-assures me that the things we do are completely different and she was never comfortable with them as sexual partners because they were such shitty people.
Its tricky for me to give any advice because your girlfriend was obviously comfortable in her sex life before she met you, maybe you feel like she has 1 up on you because she's more experienced? I guess I can relate to that with my last girlfriend, we bottled up our feelings and broke up bitterly after nearly 4 years of uncomfortable inhibited sex and a resentful relationship.
My advice therefore is this. Talk about it, if it kills the relationship then you won't have wasted 4 years on her like I did mine. If it doesn't kill the relationship you will both grow closer like me and my current girlfriend have. The best relationships are full of brutal and painful honesty. The beggining of our relationships is the time we are most closed up, but it is the time that we establish the rules. If you don't risk being open and honest early on you will be hurting for a lot longer than if she dumped you.
Hit me up on wolfsweb.at.hotmail.com if you wanna... laters.
Paul.
Submitted by Ivy (user info) at 2004-11-27 05:57:19 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Get rid of her. Sounds sketchy, why would you be with someone who's slept with the entire world but she won't sleep with you- her boyfriend? I understand the whole "it's different if it's someone you really like" thing, but it should take her no more than a week or three to shag you if she's slept with other people already.
Submitted by Phallic_Cymbals (user info) at 2004-11-27 05:38:39 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
HAHAHAHAHAHA SHE's Playin you like a mouth organ! Without the sucking!
The only way to save this relationship will be to go fuck someone else. Then she'll get jealous and confused and you can hit her in the weak points (eyes, kneecaps and boobs)
Submitted by Iago (user info) at 2004-11-27 05:34:24 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I know exactly what you mean man.
I was going out with a girl, and although she never cheated on me, she let it slip that she slept with 18 people over the previous summer... 18.. EIGHTEEN!!! Thats a fuck of a lot.
Eventually i dumped her... partly because she was turning into a goth, but also because every time we were, 'creating the beast with two backs' i was also think i was 'doing the horizontal monster-mash' with 18 men.
Urh. All kinds of dirty.
Submitted by Iago (user info) at 2004-11-27 05:32:21 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
I know exactly what you mean man.
I was going out with a girl, and although she never cheated on me, she let it slip that she slept with 18 people over the previous summer... 18.. EIGHTEEN!!!
Submitted by Quasiplasmohedron (user info) at 2004-11-27 04:22:09 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
When reading this all I could think was "get the fuck away from her now before she rips your heart out." But then I'm cynical and jaded. Still, it doesn't sound like she's being honest with you - you have to decide whether you are willing to wait for her to come around (if that's what she's going to do) and risk getting hurt.
Submitted by Demolocke (user info) at 2004-11-27 03:45:55 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Dump her ass.
NOW.
Why are you still reading this?
And then go after her best friend...
Submitted by TimeCop (user info) at 2004-11-27 02:12:05 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
I enjoyed it at first, especially the missing parts of the conversation, but itlost coherence for me in the end. Maybe it's the alck of sleep with it being 2 am here.
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-11-27 01:16:42 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
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Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 01:14:50 EST (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:55:51 (#)
Ranking: -2
We order and five of us sit down at a table. We chat for a bit, and I hear out of the corner of my ear my girlfriend and the teller chatting...
"Cause... Adrianna said you... sleeping... so.. you were single."
"Who has she...I was sleeping with..."
"Well, a few... in manchester I guess there was a... and that kid Jake..."
"Okay, I slept with him... who else..."
"Then a like two weeks later... Megans friend.... the next night..."
"No, that bullshit. We were sitting there...next day he asked me... but i didn't sleep with...for a week..."
THIS made SENSE?
And it actually got worse after that.
By the way, you sound like an insecure little pussy...go find a virginal 16 year old and just stick it out with here until she's around 24.
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Simulating overhearing a conversation and getting bits and peices.
And as for being an insecure little pussy, well, I never claimed I was perfect, but - I'll have the last laugh on that one. Trust me. We all get our ends, don't we?
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:58:17 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
AHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHHAAHAHAHHAAA
shlongy, you fuck.
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:57:47 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Obviously you like her. Take a chance. You may get hurt, or you may have found something completely great and awesome. You will never know unless you put yourself out there. As for knowing, you are male and I'm sure you just NEED to know. Make sure she knows you aren't going anywhere, and that you aren't going to judge her, and ask her. Make sure she feels secure. But at the same time, do you really WANT to know? Think about that...some things are better left unknown
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I dont want details. absolutley right about that. thats not healthy. i just want her to admit it to me, thats all.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:55:51 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
We order and five of us sit down at a table. We chat for a bit, and I hear out of the corner of my ear my girlfriend and the teller chatting...
"Cause... Adrianna said you... sleeping... so.. you were single."
"Who has she...I was sleeping with..."
"Well, a few... in manchester I guess there was a... and that kid Jake..."
"Okay, I slept with him... who else..."
"Then a like two weeks later... Megans friend.... the next night..."
"No, that bullshit. We were sitting there...next day he asked me... but i didn't sleep with...for a week..."
THIS made SENSE?
And it actually got worse after that.
By the way, you sound like an insecure little pussy...go find a virginal 16 year old and just stick it out with here until she's around 24.
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:53:59 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
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Submitted by CoachMagirk27 (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:18:56 (#)
Ranking: 2
i wish i had something good to say to you
man i hate mindfucks like that
thats it, im takin up the cack
Submitted by Stabkill (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:48:52 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
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Submitted by darko (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:42:04 (#)
Ranking: 2
Run and don't look back!
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Good advice...
And as for the comment by Circe: I have newfound respect for that woman. That is fucking HILARIOUS and cruel at the same time.
Submitted by lovetohate (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:45:42 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by tech-junkie (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:59:09 (#)
Ranking: 2
As far as her hanging with friends, you should be down with that. All other situations, you need to put your guard back up.
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I disagree. If you like her, who cares how many people she has slept with? So, she had a wild streak. She wasn't tied down to anyone. She is winding down, and trying to change her old ways. That can be pure bullshit sometimes, something to be wary about, but at the same time she could be sincere. She hides it because she doesn't want you to know. She doesn't want you to judge her; she doesn't want you to run.
"Thanksgiving was great. She fell asleep on me.
I couldn't stop thinking about her today at work. Smiling at the thought that I would see her again tonight." and
"I like the way she smiles, and her goofy laugh. I like the way she comes up from behind and puts her arms around my neck. I like the way she glows when I say, 'You make my day, you know? It's sucks till I see you.'"
Obviously you like her. Take a chance. You may get hurt, or you may have found something completely great and awesome. You will never know unless you put yourself out there. As for knowing, you are male and I'm sure you just NEED to know. Make sure she knows you aren't going anywhere, and that you aren't going to judge her, and ask her. Make sure she feels secure. But at the same time, do you really WANT to know? Think about that...some things are better left unknown.
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:45:21 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:41:25 (#)
Ranking: -1
I wish I could understand what the fuck you just typed up there, man.
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Me too, it sucks when people barely know how to read...
keep working on it man, before you know it, it'll only take ten minutes to write a sentence like that. Don't give up!
Submitted by darko (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:42:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Run and don't look back!
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:41:25 EST (#)
Ranking: -1
I wish I could understand what the fuck you just typed up there, man.
Submitted by CoachMagirk27 (user info) at 2004-11-27 00:18:56 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
i wish i had something good to say to you
man i hate mindfucks like that
thats it, im takin up the cack
Submitted by tech-junkie (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:59:09 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
As far as her hanging with friends, you should be down with that. All other situations, you need to put your guard back up.
Submitted by shitfuck (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:55:30 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I always just ask outright how many and who, I have no sexual hang ups or insecurities--in fact, I would say that making a big deal out of who she's fucked will only work against you.
Be open and fearless, people fuck, it's the most natural thing in the world. Sounds like she had a good time, so be happy for her, I'm sure your cock has been in some pretty interesting places too.
But my advice is probably shit, I avoid meaningful relationships like the plague and when I tell the girl how many chicks I've banged it's pretty clear to them too that I'm not much more than a fling.
If all else fails, go fuck someone else!
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:53:56 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Circe ROCKS!!!
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Scott says:
so, if I wanted to reverse mindfuck, how would i do it?
Scott says:
not that i will of course...
Circe says:
Show no interest in sex.
Circe says:
Kind of flinch away when she kisses you, but smile afterwards to let her know you still like her.
Circe says:
When she asks (and she will) what's wrong
Circe says:
you explain very gently sit her down and explain that you're worried about catching something because of her history.
Circe says:
....believe me, conversation would happen.
Scott says:
HAHAHAHA HOLY SHIT
Scott says:
HAHAHAHAHA!!
Scott says:
You gotta let me post this!!!!
Scott says:
hahaha
Circe says:
hahahahaha
Scott says:
please????
Circe says:
.....oh, bugger.. all right. It's not as though i'm seen as a sweetheart anyway.
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:35:14 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
If she skirts the issue, it means that it makes her uncomfortable, and it's best to just drop it for now, even if it's bothering you. She will discuss it with you when she's ready and the time is right.
Don't sweat the petty stuff, and don't pet the sweaty stuff.
Submitted by Circe (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:34:30 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
You sound like a decent guy, ie you don't want to know how to mindfuck her back. You honestly want to know how to get through this.
If she refuses to talk about it, and you don't want to go behind her back to get the full story from her friends, there's only one thing you can really do; wait her out. Trust her, as much as you can. Be patient, stop asking questions. Make it clear from time to time that you're aware of her past but that you don't care.
If she's going to hurt you, it's going to happen no matter what you do. At least this way, you'll be able to tell yourself you did the best you could.
(And if you ever DO want to know how to mindfuck her, hit me up on msn - fickle_muse.at.hotmail.com.)
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:32:48 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
I don't know. Maybe I should feel honored.
Every new person we meet acts astonished when the find out she has a boyfriend. She's alway comes over, always calling. We've seen each other every day for the past two weeks. We're going on a trip next weekend.
Maybe she's more scared that I am of me doing exactly what I am doing. That's why shes trying to hide it, but she can't because everyone that knows her knows... And when I meet them, they either act astonished or assume that I'm a fuck buddy "boyfriend".
I'd feel so much better if she would just sit down, look me in the eye and say, "Scott, I've been living a very sexual lifestyle. I've had alot of sex with quite a few partners. But I really think you are special and I want to be with YOU for the long term. I don't want anything else but you right now."
Yeah. Yeah, that ought to do it. Ought to do just fine.
Remember that movie Saving Amy? He lost her cause he couldn't get over her past. I don't want to make the same mistake. I also don't want to make the mistake of making myself vulnerable. I hate admitting it, but I'm pretty fragile when it comes to shit like this.
Submitted by Nomad (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:21:43 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
No dice there bro.
I did just that. All she does when that issue is brought up is act dumb, skirt the issue and give very vague and indirect answers.
I cornered her once on this into acctually talking about it, and she turned it into an issue her and I.
She will not directly talk about it.
Submitted by jack11058 (user info) at 2004-11-26 23:17:32 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
If you care about her, and the relationship is important to you, tell her your concerns in an honest, loving manner, and ensure you fully articulate the reasons for your concern ie: your increasingly strong feelings for her.
If she cares about you, she'll give you straight answers.
Then again, maybe you just need to take another happy pill.
Good luck.