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Submitted by Durae (View user info) at 2005-01-12 03:01:38 EST
My mother quit smoking when she was pregnant with me. As a smoker, I can't imagine that sort of sacrifice for a clot of cells growing like a cancer in my belly.
For eight years before that she lived with my father, unmarried, in a time when you couldn't get a hotel room or an apartment together unless you were married. He was recently divorced and bankrupted by the cunt, so he had the baggage of severe trust issues and a young daughter that my mother became closer to than the girl's own mother and father were.
My mother likes having me around because she thinks my friends are funny. She half-jokes that I should stay home from college so that my friends will keep coming over all the time. She doesn't have the same disgust and lack of respect for younger people that so many adults have. To her they are just smaller people. To her, there are perks to children like their brutal honesty and genuine curiousity, overwhelming innocence and unabashed affection. She says that adults have their own flaws like censorship and dishonesty, closed-mindedness and hatred.
My mother and her family supported my decision to leave high school early to go to college when almost no one else did. Everyone else asked assinine questions like, "Won't you regret not going to your senior prom and graduation?" I didn't fucking go to graduation. My mother and her siblings didn't go to college - they're working class and they usually don't have the time to sit around and read books or paint, but they still understood my priorities and my unhappiness. They understand the value of living life the way you fucking feel like it and not listening to assholes who want to tell you what will make you happy and successful (I'm sure that's how they would phrase it too). My more middle class side of the family walks the beaten path, goes to church and they're much less satisfied. But they'd never admit it. Regardless of her support and desire, I couldn't afford to go to college early.
She stayed in a loveless marriage to keep a home together for her children. My younger brother and I had to tell her to leave our father because she was miserable and stressed out all the time. She still feels guilty about leaving even though she hates him. He fell apart without her. Not emotionally.
My mother works two jobs. Not cushy office jobs sitting down somewhere. She never sits down. She's the happiest she's been in years. She's lost weight, she runs around in kids' sizes, buying cute clothes, with a nice car, in her own place, with her own friends, her own money. For about 30 years she had no independence, no life of her own. She feels 30 years younger. Men hit on her constantly, but she doesn't care. No more, she says, never again.
She started smoking again when she caught me doing it. I used to bum her cigarettes before she would admit that she was addicted again. We would sit out on the porch together and smoke and bitch and laugh about things. Her and I are very different people in some ways. I'm a geek and she never cared much for school. But she has never misunderstood me and has always taken me seriously because as she says, I was a serious child.
My mother stayed at home because she didn't want anyone else to raise her children. She did everything that needed to be done in the house. Now her soon to be ex-husband is scrambling to hide his money to avoid paying her anything. She works year round, five days a week, 10-11 hours a day. He has a seasonal job and works maybe five months out of the year. Putz.
I know that eventually a time will come when the situations will reverse and I'll have the opportunity to take care of her and show her how much she means to me (even though she's said that when she gets that old, she wants someone to take her out back and shoot her). I just don't know how to show her now. Gifts are no good, they make her feel guilty, I'm no good at emotional speeches or being loving in general and those picture frames decorated in macaroni don't have the same effect anymore.
How do you show the best person in your life that well, they're the best person in your life?
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Submitted by Sassmasterr (user info) at 2005-01-29 17:00:57 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
as promised
Submitted by Thored (user info) at 2005-01-27 21:32:25 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
"-2 Because I think your stupid."
Asshole.
Submitted by Girlwithaclue (user info) at 2005-01-27 19:08:30 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I think a good way to show her that you love her would be to take care of the little things in life that she doesn't have time to do, or too tired to do. Something like having dinner done for her when she gets home. The house cleaned and looking spiffy. Possibly pick up her favorite flowers or candy, with a little card that says I love you.
Mom's are suckers for the little things.........
Nice post
Submitted by Doneupandin (user info) at 2005-01-27 18:42:18 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
"How do you show the best person in your life that well, they're the best person in your life?"
Punch that bitch in the face. Your post proves that a women is nothing without a man.
Submitted by lojope (user info) at 2005-01-13 11:27:05 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
During the car ride to Albany to pick you up, your mom and I had a couple hours to chat, just the two of us. At some point I told her that she was a good mom. One of the best moms I'd ever seen in fact. She teared up. When you've dedicated your whole life to something, sometimes just being told you've done well is enough. It's enough to know that everything you ever did meant something. That your life wasn't in vain. It doesn't have to be a speech or overtly affectionate or sappy. But I bet just telling her she's been a great mother and you appreciate her would mean a lot to her.
Being a mother is quite often a thankless job. Small children don't understand that they should be grateful, and by the time most kids are old enough to appreciate their parents, they are embarrassed or shy or don't know how to say it. For a mother to hear "I'm glad you are my mom. Thanks." is amazing for her.
And by the way, she already knows she's awesome. :oP
Submitted by jgreening (user info) at 2005-01-12 10:59:10 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
The same way I do it for my Madre in Wisconsin.
Constant affection and love.
I'm gonna call her now...
Submitted by QueenAshlee (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:55:49 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Set aside a weekend (or, if she works weekends, just a couple days she's got off) for the two of you to just spend time with each other. Take her out to lunch, go shopping, stuff like that.
I miss my mommy :(
Submitted by Totally_useless (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:53:03 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
How do you show the best person in your life that well, they're the best person in your life?
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That would be my fiancee, and I show her by giving her anal sex every night, without fail.
Submitted by FuckTheArmy (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:46:51 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Hug her.
Every time you see her.
No, not just every time you're at the house, but every time she leaves your vision and comes back.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:34:08 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Tell her you love her...and buy her a car.
Submitted by CoreaPeekay (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:23:50 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by JohnGalt (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:05:51 (#)
Ranking: 2
You could get her a pet of some sort. But you need something unusual. You can't just get the average, everyday cat or dog. Ohhhh...I know. Me! You can get her me as a pet. I'll even get a job and work to buy my own food. I can bring her slippers and stuff, but I'm not putting them in my mouth. I like to be scratched and I lick when I'm happy. I need a 15 1/2" collar for the leash and I prefer Mt. Dew to water. I also promise to never drink out of the toilet and I only chase cats if you don't give me anything entertaining to do instead. Reacharounds are optional.
Or you could just show her this post...without the comments.
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I'd go for the reacharound. REACHAROUNDS FOR TEH WIN!!
Submitted by JohnGalt (user info) at 2005-01-12 09:05:51 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
You could get her a pet of some sort. But you need something unusual. You can't just get the average, everyday cat or dog. Ohhhh...I know. Me! You can get her me as a pet. I'll even get a job and work to buy my own food. I can bring her slippers and stuff, but I'm not putting them in my mouth. I like to be scratched and I lick when I'm happy. I need a 15 1/2" collar for the leash and I prefer Mt. Dew to water. I also promise to never drink out of the toilet and I only chase cats if you don't give me anything entertaining to do instead. Reacharounds are optional.
Or you could just show her this post...without the comments.
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2005-01-12 08:34:19 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
...or give them a reacharound.
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2005-01-12 08:33:55 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
How do you show the best person in your life that well, they're the best person in your life?
This might sound crazy, but how about just straight out telling them.
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2005-01-12 07:03:31 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
You have nice hair.
Submitted by Davros (user info) at 2005-01-12 06:47:38 EST (#)
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This is probably a good start.
Nice work.
-Dave
Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2005-01-12 06:25:08 EST (#)
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Oops bugger meant to +2 that, so here you go...
Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2005-01-12 06:24:32 EST (#)
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Yep English Mustard spread on some bread will do it.
Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2005-01-12 06:21:01 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Mustard, maybe?
Submitted by matchoo (user info) at 2005-01-12 06:19:34 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
i don't have an answer, but the peice was great...
Submitted by polyamorousaj (user info) at 2005-01-12 03:27:38 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I get a review of disgust from "Flying_buttmonkey." I have hit a new low.
;)
Submitted by Flying_buttmonkey (user info) at 2005-01-12 03:17:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Submitted by polyamorousaj (user info) at 2005-01-12 03:08:29 (#)
Ranking: 2
Give 'em a reacharound.
Pfffffahahahahahahahaha. Ew!
Seriously though, sounds like she's already loving just having you around. Token gifts just cheapen it, I know EXACTLY where you're coming from here. Nice sentiment.
Submitted by professorfuckface (user info) at 2005-01-12 03:15:44 EST (#)
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shut up durae you ugly bitch, maybe you should get a nose job and lipo, maybe that would impress her
Submitted by Durae (user info) at 2005-01-12 03:12:44 EST (#)
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you fucker.
Submitted by polyamorousaj (user info) at 2005-01-12 03:08:29 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Give 'em a reacharound.
what????