This past year or so (625 hits)
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Submitted by kim t <kim_t.at.yahoo.com> (View user info) at 2005-02-10 12:55:42 EST
5/8/04
My boyfriend of about 1 ½ years and I finally split up. It was a long time coming.
5/28/04
I joined my friend for a road trip to VA. Had an awesome time that weekend, didn't want to leave but had to return to work for Tuesday.
6/1/04
Got to work early and checked our corporate web page for job openings in VA. I found one in Norfolk and requested a transfer.
6/25/04
Ready for the drive down to VA, the car is packed and gas tank is full. I have 3 days to settle myself in so I can start work on Monday.
10/22/04
Start a new relationship. I move in and things are going great. This is awesome. I never knew a relationship could be so calm and comfortable.
1/26/05
I receive an emergency phone call at work. My father has passed away. He is only 44. This is completely unexpected and I am absolutely DEVASTATED.
Later that evening,.........
I'm on the plane. It feels so strange to be going back. I don't want to go. I can't do this.
2/4/05
I return to VA. I don't want to be here. I can not fucking do this 'alone'.
2/7/05
Get to work early and request a transfer.
"kim, we hate to see you go but understand that family comes first, your last day will be 2/11 and you will be able to start in Providence 2/14"
Fuckin hell.
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Submitted by corn_nugget (user info) at 2006-06-14 17:52:56 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I'm sorry about your dad. You probably know that my dad died about a year and a half ago, he was 50. It sucks a lot. At first everyone who finds out/knows is extremely supportive and um (my memory is so shit right now) and they all seem to understand (at least on some level) how much it must suck to have lost a parent when they were so young and/or unexpectedly.
Then after about 6 months or a year, nobody seems to realize that it still affects you. My boyfriend never knew my dad, and even though I've talked to him about it and cried on his shoulder, I feel like he can't possibly have any idea how deep the loss still is.
Anyway now I'm crying. I've been crying all day because of hormones or some crap.
Submitted by TheSpook (user info) at 2005-02-10 15:15:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Sucks about your dad.
Made me frown (+1)
Submitted by epiphany (user info) at 2005-02-10 14:35:37 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Ya'lls are some heartless mutha fuckas!
Sorry for your loss. I hope that you can get closure with the situation soon and that you were able to say anything to him that needed to be said. As for the bf shit, we men are juvenile when things don't go our way. If hes worth the trouble, you two will figure shit out.
Submitted by Sassmasterr (user info) at 2005-02-10 14:32:06 EST (#)
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Submitted by Kraven (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:04:17 (#)
Ranking: -2
I dont pitty you because you find relationships easily...
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+1 for pity (i'm sure that will help the grief)
if i were a superhero - my superpower would be "to be in a relationship". but we all know that's crazy talk.
Submitted by kimmy02721 (user info) at 2005-02-10 14:17:08 EST (#)
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Submitted by Hadooken (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:52:57 (#)
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Submitted by WhatTheHell (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:31:39 (#)
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"HADOOKEN" ...
The voice of reason for 4 years running.
i just think there is a difference between voicing your opinion on something and people just looking for a reason to pile on. Granted I am one of the biggest assholes around, but everything I blast is because i have an opinion on it and i am either a)trying to be funny or b)trying to illustrate how strong my opinion it. i'm sure some people that are blasting posts are doing it for the same reason, but there are many out there who are just looking to pile on because they are miserable pricks.
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I prepared myself for harsh reviews. I knew the type of responses I would receive. Compassion is not something found on the internet, and I really wasn't looking for sympathy...though the kind words of a few here are much appreciated.
thanks L-Gizzle and Girly.
Submitted by kimmy02721 (user info) at 2005-02-10 14:09:28 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Ok, a few things I didn't mention
My x-boyfriend's last words to me: 'I hate you, I wish I never fucking met you and I hope you die', within a month of me moving to VA he got arrested. He's still in jail now. My grandmother called me yesterday to let me know I have a letter waiting there from him. I am trying to decide if I should have her rip it up before I get there or not.
My current boyfriend wants to move back to MA with me. I told him no. He is upset about that and this pisses me off. Who needs the responsibilty of bringing someone to a new place where they dont know anybody. Can't do it right now.
My father lived upstairs from my 80 year old grandmother. He did Everything for her, he was her only son and they spent time together every day. She is the one that found him, he had passed in his sleep and she was trying to wake him up so they could go do their errands for the day. The main reason I am going back is to be with her. If it weren't for her being there alone I would stay here.
My dad's friend told me at the fucking funeral that they recently were at the bar and my father told him that he was very upset that I left and wished I didn't but was happy for me being happy. He also told me that 'I was what kept him going for so long... he didn't know what to do without you' I mean, what.the.fuck. is that?? Worse is we hadn't spoke in about a week and a half.
I gotta get back to work but these are the first things that popped into my head.
Hadooken, I have to admit that I am surprised at your responses. You're usually pretty harsh, I was expecting you to crush me. Thanks for being comforting. :-)
Submitted by L-Gizzle (user info) at 2005-02-10 14:00:29 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry about your dad. I dread the day one of my parents goes.
Submitted by Hadooken (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:52:57 EST (#)
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Submitted by WhatTheHell (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:31:39 (#)
Ranking: 0
"HADOOKEN" ...
The voice of reason for 4 years running.
i just think there is a difference between voicing your opinion on something and people just looking for a reason to pile on. Granted I am one of the biggest assholes around, but everything I blast is because i have an opinion on it and i am either a)trying to be funny or b)trying to illustrate how strong my opinion it. i'm sure some people that are blasting posts are doing it for the same reason, but there are many out there who are just looking to pile on because they are miserable pricks.
Submitted by WhatTheHell (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:31:39 EST (#)
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"HADOOKEN" ...
The voice of reason for 4 years running.
Submitted by Hadooken (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:20:27 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
this is getting out of hand. some people are just trying to look like hardasses by piling on. its not impressive in the least. sorry about your situation, ignore these people, and yes, maybe put a little more detail and work into things in the future.
Submitted by Faithless_Whisper (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:16:33 EST (#)
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Sucks to be you.
Submitted by Girlwithaclue (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:08:06 EST (#)
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Isn't funny how the cycle goes round and round.
Keep your chin up, but not so much as you drown in the rain :)
That is all
Submitted by WhatTheHell (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:06:01 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
BAD THINGS HAPPEN....
WELCOME TO EARTH....
NOW SHOW US YOUR TITS!!!
Submitted by kimmy02721 (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:05:52 EST (#)
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Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:00:58 (#)
Ranking: -1
Should we all play a lone violin for you? Bad things only happen to you and noone else?
Welcome to the land of adulthood.
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I didn't intend this to come across as whiney or anything and really don't think that it did(?). I am not asking for you to feel bad for me or give a shit at all. I just wanted to get this out. Returning home is all I've been thinking about for the past week and was hoping getting it out would release some of the tension that's been builing up.
I think i fucked up the time line too. FUCKKKKKKK
Submitted by Kraven (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:04:17 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
I dont pitty you because you find relationships easily...
Deaths are common ... it happeneds....
Fuck, moving sucks we all know but in the end.. its best to get away.
Submitted by kimmy02721 (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:02:30 EST (#)
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Thank you very much Tigerlilly. I originally wanted to do a post in dedication to my father, but didnt want it to seem as though I was pulling for sympathy or anything and I just think it's too soon for me to be able to write out all the things I want to say about him. I really appreciate the kind words.
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2005-02-10 13:00:58 EST (#)
Ranking: -1
Should we all play a lone violin for you? Bad things only happen to you and noone else?
Welcome to the land of adulthood.
Submitted by Hadooken (user info) at 2005-02-10 12:59:26 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
what the timeline?
Submitted by kimmy02721 (user info) at 2005-02-10 12:58:42 EST (#)
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I already regret posting this. Sorry peoples. I left out so many details and in-betweens that probably would have made this somewhat interesting to read.
Submitted by TigerLilly (user info) at 2005-02-10 12:56:53 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry about your father.