A change of Focus (506 hits)
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Submitted by Alfa Veloce <avi02.at.hotmal.com> (View user info) at 2005-02-28 05:11:48 EST
A Change of Focus
I was talking to a buddy of mine and we have come to a conclusion about life. Sex changes everything. It turned America into a sex obsessed adolescent in the 90s, standing slack jawed in front of our TVs, craving the next titillating, tidbit about President Clinton's sexual escapades. Sex is the reason females and indeed some men, of questionable talent succeed in the entertainment business, it's why men buy cars, lust after more exotic cars, houses, boats, planes and bigger paychecks. It's why women undergo painful operations like the Brazilian, or wear those pointy heeled shoes that they lust over and then curse the day stilettos were invented and wear bras that lift and separate and must no doubt be uncomfortable.
Why haven't we made any substantial strides in curing AIDs or cancer or world hunger? I say that the quest for sex is one reason...I mean there had to be some serious lab time devoted to the creation of Viagra and its accompaniments. Sure, medical science is complex but so is a woman's sex drive, and we cracked that nut when we invented Avlamil, the "Viagra for women." All throughout the last century the words, "sorry honey I've got a headache," came to represent the common sorrow of men all over the world. And damn it if any of us knew how to make that headache go away, not flowers, not vacuuming, not sweeter words could cure her of her woes. But thanks to modern science, we can now add defeating "the headache" to the list of great medical achievements of the modern age, right behind the invention penicillin, blood plasma and the eradication of small pox. Even men have benefited from the machinations of horny little men in labs coats. We found a way for men to be thicker, longer and have the endurance of an Olympic athlete using steroids. The little blue pill and Enzyte gave men with penis envy the hope they searched for at sports car and SUV dealerships. No longer would they flock to buy expensive, exotic cars, ostentatious boats, planes, houses and other compensatory boy toys. A stop at the local drug would give them the respect they sought.
Sex is our obsession, societal cocaine; we have one taste and are hooked for life. Get a group of people who aren't getting any together, people who know each other; they don't even have to have known each other for very long, and put them in a room to hang out for a while. Sex will come up. Even a group who are getting some will engage in rabid conversation about it. We liken food, drink, anything to it. We have convinced ourselves that if it's "better than sex," then it must good. If it's got skin we'll watch it...if doesn't it'll get cancelled. As much as we de-cry the antics of the Fox network we can't get enough...why...sex sells and Fox knows how to show more than a little leg.
By now you must be asking what the point of this rant is, well here you go:
In a setting where people think about, talk about and generally focus upon sex, it has been my experience that this focus radically changes the motives and dynamics behind the interaction between the sexes. Think about it this way: the idea that men are dogs and women are bitches had to come from somewhere. I say that these negative ideas, while they may not exist because of a preoccupation with sex, are reinforced by it. Women automatically assume that men do things for them because they want sex; other men also assume that men do things for women because they want a backstage pass into the panties. Women. Oh Women. We have given them power on a platter. Now I'm not talking about the vote and allowing them to drive or letting 'em out of the kitchen for the same pay...these were all great things achieved by incredible women. No, I say we have made them into Rubik's cubes with legs and women have done the same to us men.
Both sexes gripe to no end about not being able to understand the other. However both do lay claim to some limited understanding of each other...the women say men are easy to understand, claiming their motives are simply sex and reinforcement of their masculinity. Men say we will never understand women and justify this by making women out to be judgmental, manipulative and never straightforward. The thing is when the genders look at each other after taking the focus off of sex and dig a bit deeper I am sure that we can come to understand each other. Once we lift the cloud of the 'tang, (poontang that is) from our vision, we may just find that our enhanced understanding might enhance our relationships and we no longer waste time on dating the wrong people. Just try it...look at a person for who they are no matter how hot they may be. Hang out with them without trying to get into their pants and see what you learn about them and what you discover about yourself. Be honest and have some restraint...try looking at a woman or man in a bar without thinking of how they might acquit themselves in the sack and see what happens. Now if you are going to try what I suggest, be honest about what you want, who you want, and most importantly remember there are three ways to release sexual frustration...use the two you were born with...I'll give you a clue...they hang from your shoulders.
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Submitted by GuyDude (user info) at 2005-03-07 21:20:43 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
some funny points
Submitted by mrwolf (user info) at 2005-03-07 07:07:18 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Alfa_Veloce (user info) at 2005-02-28 07:08:56 (#)
Ranking: 0
wow...just what I thought...no one wants to take part in my experiment
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Some people hit about 20 and realise that they need to change tact, and that all the meaningless sex they're having is leading nowhere.
Finding the right relationship is fucking hard work without the complication of sex. I'm glad I realised at a young age that sex on the greater scale is a big waste of time and got a headstart in looking for a real partner.
At 23 I am now well into my third serious long term relationship. Each one has lasted 3 or more years, and I am 6 months into this one. Theoretically if I had reached this age and only just realised the meaningless sex wasn't working I would be nearly 30 before I'd gotten to this relationship and learned as much as I have.
That's why divorce rates are so high all over the world. People are so busy having sex they're not learning anything about their adult relationships. I know women that keep moving guys into their house because the sex is great, then having these astounding colossal arguments and moving the guys back out again having learnt nothing.
Sex is the most over-rated thing on gods green earth. If you don't love the person you're having sex with you might aswell just have a wank anyway.
Submitted by Pentameter (user info) at 2005-02-28 10:06:09 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Well thought out and well written.
Very nicely done.
Submitted by DeathJester (user info) at 2005-02-28 08:36:51 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I'm taking part right now, and i'm winning.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-02-28 07:31:02 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
It's harder than that to have a 'normal' platonic Male/Female relationship though. With Male/Female relations you get all kinds of... weirdness. You talk to a woman differently, react to her jokes or stories differently and generally treat one another differently than if you where with someone of the same gender.
You make a good point mind.
Submitted by Alfa_Veloce (user info) at 2005-02-28 07:08:56 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
wow...just what I thought...no one wants to take part in my experiment
Submitted by Stin (user info) at 2005-02-28 06:08:35 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
No Comment
Submitted by Leonfc (user info) at 2005-02-28 05:41:52 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Interesting.........not gonna try either though!! knowing my luck i'll find the 'girl of my dreams' with the most amazing personality but an ass the size of Gibraltor and a face like a screwed up newspaper!
Submitted by Ed_0150 (user info) at 2005-02-28 05:16:24 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
That was interesting..... I'm never going to do what you suggested, but you made me think.