Girls Are Dumb. (3057 hits)
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Submitted by JTC (View user info) at 2005-06-17 20:18:00 EDT
Yeah that's right. You're dumb.
Maybe calling all of you dumb isn't right.
But then again...maybe it is.
I'm swingin' with the first one, though.
Have you ever seen the very first steps of an abusive relationship? The kind where the guy (or sometimes the girl) has to be completely in control, and feel like it? Not the latter times, when he actually hits her and hurts her, but just the beginning. Just the times when he'll raise his voice and ask, "Are you listening?!" or become enraged when she doesn't want him to do something because they had prior plans. When the only way he can see to vent his anger is to throw something, or hit something, and the only reason he hasn't hit her yet is because he knows she just *might* not be committed enough to him to stay.
It's sort of a neat thing to watch, actually--obviously in a twisted sort of way. Many people, myself included, taught that a man should be very caring towards women in general, will find something like this detestable. And yes, I do find it repulsive, that a man feels he has to assert his imagined superiority over his girlfriend or wife 'because he can.' But at the same time, I find it so strange that she will not leave him. She'll say, "Oh, he'll get over it," or "It's just a phase, he really loves me," or, pathetically, "I deserved it."
All of those make me a little sad. Just a little! I may be out of the loop, but I didn't think that violence and anger were signs of love. By the way, sweetheart, just because you've sat on his penis...doesn't mean its love. I don't know when most women come to realize that--that males equate love with sex very often. And I'm sure there are many still who don't realize that we don't care; if we have to take a chick on a couple of dates, knowing that there's some of that nasty nasty in the end, we'll do it, and let her think, naïvely, that it's love. Now that's hot. Like I said, I don't know when most women realize, but I do know a lot who haven't.
Can anyone explain to me what compels a woman to stay with a man who is having quite a time keeping his temper under control? Can anyone tell me why she doesn't leave early? I don't believe she can't see it coming, not with all her girlfriends who have seen it before, have told her...It's gone on for generations. That's why I think girls are dumb.
The concept is intended for someone in particular--no, nobody on Uber!--so if anybody's got something brilliant to say, I'll stick you with a +2. Yeah, that's right, a +2 bribe for your philosophical bullshit.
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Submitted by Girlwithaclue (user info) at 2005-06-20 17:43:35 EDT (#)
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Boys are stupid....Throw rocks at them..
Nanny nanny boo boo..
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2005-06-20 17:13:39 EDT (#)
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So, I'm reading this, and I'm thinking n00b alert and
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Submitted by ubetidid (user info) at 2005-06-18 20:36:06 EDT (#)
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I LOVE YOU WILL YOU BEAT ME NOW?
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2005-06-18 11:07:42 EDT (#)
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I think the reasons are twofold. I did voluntary work in a women's hostel years ago and noticed a few things: the women there are poor without family support- they stay with abusive men because they have nowhere else to go. Often the women are pretty strange themselves and find it hard to make friends so ahve noone to turn to. The women beleive the man loves them and that he won't do it again.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2005-06-18 06:28:46 EDT (#)
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So, before you act all smug about "stupid girls" remember, men can be abused and terrorized too, and it happens more than people think.
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And in more ways, a relationship can be abusive and destructive even if there is no direct physical violence.
Submitted by Ducky (user info) at 2005-06-18 04:04:51 EDT (#)
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also what forensic girl said.
Submitted by Ducky (user info) at 2005-06-18 04:03:42 EDT (#)
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-it's a cycle of abuse
-she gets to the point where she's absolutely lost her 'self' in the relationship. She's now part of this strange larger thing that is 'the relationship'. She doesn't know who she is outside it or without it so she stays because she is afraid.
Where's my +2?
Submitted by YELLOW-MAN (user info) at 2005-06-18 00:37:14 EDT (#)
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You know I was watching springer the other day (had no choice I was at my grandfathers) and they had a guy on there who kept saying the girl belonged to him. Yes he said he owned the girl she was his property, and the house he lived in (her house) was actually his. He said he didn't care that she cheated on him as long as it wasn't in "His house". The guy was a complete asshole who kept calling her a slut and a tramp and a bitch. The guy she cheated with came out and pleaded she go with him but she wouldn't. The woman had a child and she was letting it grow up in that kind of environment further messing it up. The other guy kept pleading with her and the boyfriend kept saying she's his property and he'll decide when the relationships over. She wouldn't leave him though no matter how bad she was treated. I thought it was sad to see her crying on stage and how bad she was being treated but she stuck by him. I don't know why women stick with abusive men, maybe because they get some kind of cheap thrill or they believe they can change him. Whatever the case it's a disturbing sight to see and I know if I ever heard about a guy abusing a girl I knew i'd do something, what I don't know, but i'm not going to say kick his ass because you never really know what you'll do when it comes down to the situation. But I know i'd definitely do something about it, I wouldn't sit idly by while my friend is abused and suffering.
Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2005-06-17 23:38:38 EDT (#)
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I guess I'm fortunate. My father warned me about abusive relationships and abusive men and what to look for.
His other piece of advice; if I ever find myself in a relationship that goes bad, the very first time the man would hit me, I was to go stark raving insane on his ass! He told me, "I telling you, grab a baseball bat and fuck that man up!"
He promised me that there would never be a second time.
I told him he was right and that I would not stay in that relationship or subject myself to that abuse.
Yes, my father encouraged me to beat half to death any man who would try to abuse me.
With that being said, you may think it's stupid but I learned a lot about the dynamics of abusive relationships in my psych. studies.
So, before you act all smug about "stupid girls" remember, men can be abused and terrorized too, and it happens more than people think.
Submitted by Feijuada (user info) at 2005-06-17 22:38:07 EDT (#)
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I think you need to read this: http://www.ubersite.com/m/58097
Submitted by Yams (user info) at 2005-06-17 22:07:53 EDT (#)
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Assholy, I already +2ed that, but with No Comment, but I'm giving you another because it still is a pretty damn good piece.
Submitted by Yams (user info) at 2005-06-17 22:06:46 EDT (#)
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She is fairly young, and fairly inexperienced. She knows she needs to drop him, but always ends up going back to him. It happens every other week or so. She's a really nice girl, too; she needs to stop letting him dictate what she does and find a nice guy to go with her. If she finds out on her own, though...that means she has to find out sometime, right?
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2005-06-17 22:04:36 EDT (#)
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Have another +2 because I'm incompetent.
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2005-06-17 22:04:07 EDT (#)
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My philosophical bullshit: http://www.ubersite.com/m/64303
Yeah, girls are dumb. The quicker they admit it...well they still will be dumb, just they will be aware of it.
Submitted by AsshOly (user info) at 2005-06-17 22:03:48 EDT (#)
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My philosophical bullshit: http://www.ubersite.com/m/64303
Yeah, girls are dumb. The quicker they admit it...well they still will be dumb, just not as much.
Submitted by Deidra (user info) at 2005-06-17 21:41:02 EDT (#)
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I'm thinking this girl is young/inexperienced? You'll never convince her.. she has to figure it out.
Submitted by Yams (user info) at 2005-06-17 21:32:01 EDT (#)
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No, Deidra, that's fairly close. After he banged her the first time, he started to become controlling, and now its gotten to the point where he expects her to do anything and everything he wants, he wants to totally dominate.
Submitted by Deidra (user info) at 2005-06-17 21:22:29 EDT (#)
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I would assume (having never actually been in an abusive realtionship) is that the girl falls in love with the guy BEFORE he starts trying to control her/his temper. I know i have been in relationships where people have changed or eventually revealed thier true self after i'd become entangled in a complicated relationship with them. You can't walk away from someone you love that easily. They probably hope he'll change, or go back to how he "was", never realizing that who he "was" was the phase/the fake and that the person thy are now faced with is the true person.
uhh. yeah. I should probably just go back to calling people toadfuckers.
Submitted by Duke_Diggler (user info) at 2005-06-17 21:15:45 EDT (#)
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women ARE stupid.
Submitted by Bloody_staples (user info) at 2005-06-17 21:15:15 EDT (#)
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typically women stay in abuse relationships because all and all its "Challenging." The same reason women can't stand the nice guys that'll bend backwards twice for anything they want. The way he's an asshole and degrades you and desevrate all you hold high? Its attractive, she thinks she can change him maybe, or maybe she just loves being abused. Since when is Attraction felt and Logic used at the same time?
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Where did you get that? Unless your a woman who has delt with this kind of thing before, what is in your head? I wouldn't like an abusive boyfriend. I have had a boyfriend who emotinally hurt me alot, but I stayed with him because I still loved him and I did think 'oh, its just a phase'. Let me tell you that I will never do it again. I don't know what you should tell your friend because different women act different to certian things. You should just be there for her and then when it all flops don't say 'I told you so' because that will embaress her more. Just be there for her.
Submitted by gorf (user info) at 2005-06-17 20:34:41 EDT (#)
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typically women stay in abuse relationships because all and all its "Challenging." The same reason women can't stand the nice guys that'll bend backwards twice for anything they want. The way he's an asshole and degrades you and desevrate all you hold high? Its attractive, she thinks she can change him maybe, or maybe she just loves being abused. Since when is Attraction felt and Logic used at the same time?
Submitted by Yams (user info) at 2005-06-17 20:33:34 EDT (#)
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I put a condom on it, and POOF! it's philosophy. +2 for you.
Submitted by Death_Metal_Dude (user info) at 2005-06-17 20:33:22 EDT (#)
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I'm pretty sure the answer lies in your title
Submitted by zakalwe (user info) at 2005-06-17 20:31:39 EDT (#)
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i think you will find all people are stupid, especially when it comes to other people. dress that up and call it philosophy if you like.
Submitted by knucklesnelson (user info) at 2005-06-17 20:24:19 EDT (#)
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I dont know, maybe you should ask fat tony's old lady.