Transparent Crystle - A Rant (1589 hits)
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Submitted by Crystle <crystlesun.at.aol.com> (View user info) at 2005-07-16 01:05:41 EDT
So here I sit, the night before my 29th birthday... facing things I don't want to. I find myself filled with grief because I just found out my Grandma has liver cancer so advanced that they only give her two months, tops, to live. It's hard to think about saying goodbye.
She's had a long life, she's done a lot of things. She has nothing to regret and no one thinks she's going too soon. Grandma is in her mid 80's and up until last week was waiting on Grandpa hand and foot. They retired together 25 years ago, and moved out of California up to beautiful Rouge River, Oregon. They have spent the last 15 years traveling around the circle of relatives in their RV, alternating with being at home and having their kids, grandkids, great-grandkids, and many many long time friends visiting them.
We never lived close to my grandparents growing up. They were always an 8 hr drive away.. first down south, then after the move to Oregon, north. We faithfully visited them once or twice a year, in the summer, and during Christmas break. As we got older, that changed to once every two years or so.
My father is the only boy of their three children. When I was younger, I didn't even realize it was weird to have four living grandparents, none of whom you lived near. My maternal grandparents were 45 minutes away, but we only saw them three times a year. As I got older, I realized how strange this isolation from family was, and it really began to bother me. Looking back I know exactly what happened. And it's still happening. And right now it's ticking me off.
On Tuesday Grandma called to get advice from my nurse cousin, who I live with, because she had been having abdominal pain for several weeks, and didn't know what it could be. She had been to the doctor once already, and they hadn't been able to help. After calling all the other nurses in the family (6 total) Grandma decided to go back to the doctor, and was admitted for testing. Thursday night I got to my mom's house to pick the girl up after work, and my mom tells me that Aunt Nurse had flown up to Oregon and had cornered the doctor. Apparently 90% of her liver is riddled with holes and tumors and there are no viable treatment options. This is when the two month prediction was delivered.
Naturally, we all started making plans to try to visit Grandma soon, in the next month, before the morphine that she is on for pain takes away her lucidity permanently. As a family, we think that its better that she go quickly and as painlessly as possible, and none of us want to try treatment options that might keep her alive, but incoherently so.
My dad is planning on making trips up every other week. My mom is ticked off that he is. And THAT is why I'm livid.
What a selfish bitch.
I don't know how she can live with herself. His mother is dying, and my mom, who hasn't worked a day in her life, and doesn't have any social obligations, just sits in the house watching NYPD Blue on TIVO all day, is mad at him for wanting to go. Why is she mad? Because he asked her to go with him. ONCE.
Not only that, but the fact that he dared to ask her to go upset her so much that she called my 8 months pregnant mother of two other babies sister to come pick my girl up because she was too upset to watch her.
I wish matricide was an option.
Not only did this woman do her best to ensure that Dad had minimal communication with his family for the last 35 or so years, but she doesn't even have the grace to let him go to his dying mother in peace. Or to support him in his time of hurt.
When her father passed away 4 years ago, the entire family, including my father, reacted the same way.. but Mom made sure we knew that his death has been her burden for the past four years. She still says she can't do things because she's dealing with her father's death. She didn't talk to her father more than once every two months while he was alive, and only saw him two to three times a year - by HER choice. She bitched at Dad when he suggested visits to her parents.
And instead of letting Dad deal with his heartache and grief, she is upset that Dad could consider asking her to be a part of the family saying goodbye to his mom.
I'm so mad I don't know what to do right now.
Happy 29th Birthday me!
User Reviews
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2007-09-25 16:03:17 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Don't involve her in the decisions. Don't run anything past her. Just go. Family comes first, and if she doesn't want to be a part of it, then leave her at a kenel for a weekend while you're visiting.
Submitted by Kaelic (user info) at 2007-09-25 15:53:17 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2007-09-25 15:38:45 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Unabonger (user info) at 2007-04-17 18:08:14 EDT (#)
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Submitted by MEGACITO (user info) at 2007-04-17 13:56:00 EDT (#)
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u suk
________
go ask mommy and daddy to give you attention because you're crying for it on uber.
Submitted by MEGACITO (user info) at 2007-04-17 13:56:00 EDT (#)
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u suk
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2006-07-05 20:03:43 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
*chins slips off hand*
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2005-12-08 22:36:56 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-12-07 14:05:35 (#)
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So what you're saying, Apollo, is that you'll be too busy during that weekend in Feb. to meet for, say, coffee or dinner?
Really.. think of how impressed your pals will be that you've got a date on your weekend away..
Although, with respect to your current relationship to shandythedog, I promise not to lay a threatening finger on you.. """
of course i am not saying that you buffoon! As THE most attractive woman on ubersite it would be madnessfor me not to try my utmost to meet up with you.
i may be stupid but i'm not stupid.
Submitted by Dead_0hi0_Sky (user info) at 2005-10-24 12:36:29 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Mike00295 (user info) at 2005-10-24 12:23:42 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I think it's weird that you mention "Airborne."
I got some of that last week, it works like a charm.
Strange.
Stop following me to the drug store.
Submitted by Average_Dan (user info) at 2005-10-12 13:51:56 EDT (#)
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http://www.ubersite.com/m/75040#1637239
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2005-10-10 16:52:24 EDT (#)
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your nan still alive chick?
Submitted by nitty34 (user info) at 2005-09-23 12:20:05 EDT (#)
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I will be in Clearwater for a week in November. What sort of trouble are you looking to get into?
HA!
Submitted by nitty34 (user info) at 2005-09-07 16:38:09 EDT (#)
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I think we would get along fabulously.
Submitted by Average_Dan (user info) at 2005-08-30 18:31:54 EDT (#)
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I heart you crystle!
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2005-08-25 18:26:41 EDT (#)
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that's it.
I IDENTIFY with this soooooo fucking much.
+2 and be strong.
No one can hurt like a mother can.
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2005-08-25 18:26:02 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I erm, whats the word, shit.
Fucking hell what IS THE FUCKING WORD???
Submitted by williamson (user info) at 2005-07-20 07:27:47 EDT (#)
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Tell your grandma I wished her well...
I know you won't actually tell her "Some Australian kid on the internet wishes you well Granny", but you know what i mean.
Happy Birthday...
Submitted by Lechuga (user info) at 2005-07-19 14:26:15 EDT (#)
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No Offense, but your mother sounds like a spoiled bitch.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-17 02:42:55 EDT (#)
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And you're holding some other slores actions against me?
thanks
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Submitted by tuesdaydelay (user info) at 2005-07-16 06:26:53 (#)
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When I was in college some guy (picture in here - http://www.ubersite.com/m/65778) befriended a fat American girl called Crystle over the Internet. She pretended to die of cancer and he got pissed off.
There's a moral there somewhere.
Submitted by jgreening (user info) at 2005-07-16 18:12:15 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
No Comment
Submitted by chemokenny (user info) at 2005-07-16 17:52:48 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2005-07-16 16:30:56 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Viciousriffs (user info) at 2005-07-16 14:31:31 (#)
Ranking: 2
Good ol' Jack.
Can't even keep something like this from turning into a conversation on how all people deserve to be oppressed and babysat because they cannot and should not be allowed to think on their own.
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I did no such thing.
And calling me a Nazi just because I don't like the liberal left which are growing on Ubersite like mold in a home that was sold with a payoff to the inspectors and appraisers to stay quiet completely screwing the poor doofus who bought the shithole and is now getting screamed at by his wife because she is down on her hands and knees scrubbing away said mold and boy, did he pick the wrong time to say she had a really great ass and it was turning him on to see it sticking up in the air and wiggling around like that....
...uh...
was completely uncalled for.
Submitted by Viciousriffs (user info) at 2005-07-16 14:31:31 EDT (#)
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Good ol' Jack.
Can't even keep something like this from turning into a conversation on how all people deserve to be oppressed and babysat because they cannot and should not be allowed to think on their own.
Submitted by Jack_McCallum (user info) at 2005-07-16 11:55:45 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
1- 29? Jayzuz, you're just a kid!
2- Be thankful for what you had. All of my grandparents were dead by the time I was 10 years old. Sounds hard to believe, but you're are lucky you had your grandma as long as you have. Just let her know you care. That's the best medicine ever.
3- Parents can be nuts. My mom was pretty much a negative in my life, but I lucked out in the dad lottery. He's no rocket scientist, but he's a damn good guy. Cherish the good, let go of the bad.
4- I'm still painting... with cats. Cat tails make excellent brushes for applying paint to unexpected areas in unconventional ways.
5- I just realized there is a rather large tear in my underwear, since I'm wearing crapola clothes to paint. Every time I turn to the left, it's swing time, baby.
6- That last comment would make a good analogy in regard to my political views and my feelings about liberals, and my response to them.
Submitted by UrbaneMischief (user info) at 2005-07-16 08:45:55 EDT (#)
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no comment needed
Submitted by tuesdaydelay (user info) at 2005-07-16 06:26:53 EDT (#)
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When I was in college some guy (picture in here - http://www.ubersite.com/m/65778) befriended a fat American girl called Crystle over the Internet. She pretended to die of cancer and he got pissed off.
There's a moral there somewhere.
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2005-07-16 06:07:03 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2005-07-16 06:04:30 (#)
Ranking: 2
poor old you- I send my love.
You are the same age as me- I was 29 in May a future post should be a list of things that we both should do before we are 30.
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Me.
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2005-07-16 06:04:30 EDT (#)
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poor old you- I send my love.
You are the same age as me- I was 29 in May a future post should be a list of things that we both should do before we are 30.
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2005-07-16 06:00:04 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Danger: Crystle's mom is the one that started that damn club all because she's a big fat stupid bitch!
Hadley: Don't say it Danger!
Danger: WEEEEELLLLL
Hadley: Don't do it Danger!
Danger: WEEELLLLLL
Hadley: I'm warning you!
Danger: Ok ok
Viciousriffs: I'm getting pretty sick of him calling his ex-wife a bitch!
Danger: WEEELL Crystle's mom's a biiiiitch she's a big fat bitch, she's the biggest bitch in the whole wide world she's a stupid bitch if there ever was a bitch, she's a bitch to all the boys and girls
Hadley: SHUT YOUR FUCKING MOUTH DANGER!
Danger: On Monday she's a bitch, on Tuesday she's a bitch, on Wensday though Saturday she's a bitch, then on Sunday just to be different she's a super king kamaya-maya biotch!
Danger: Have you ever met my friend Crystle's mom she's the biggest bitch in the whole wide world she's a mean old bitch and she has stupid hair she's a bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch she's a stupid bitch! Crystle's mom's a bitch and she's just a dirty bitch!
Danger: Talk to kids around the world and it might go a little bit somethin' like this
(chinese kids)
(french kids)
(dutch kids)
(african kids)
Danger: Have you ever met my friend Crystle's mom she's the biggest bitch in the whole wide world she's a mean old bitch and she has stupid hair, she's a bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch
(Uber:gasp)
Danger: bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch she's stupid bitch
Hadley: Uhh Danger
Danger: Crystle's mom's a bitch and she's just a dirty bitch!
I really mean it Crystle's mom
She's a big fat fucking bitch!
Big old fat fucking bitch!
Crystle's mom, yeah! chaaa!
joedaddy: you need to relax a little, son, here, have some taser - BWWWWWWWWWWLLLLAAAAAAATTTTT!!!
Submitted by thorpe (user info) at 2005-07-16 05:01:06 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
:(
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 04:53:47 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
So who's putting together next year's Vegas? And when will it be? I'll start saving now..
Submitted by TigerLilly (user info) at 2005-07-16 04:36:41 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:36:24 (#)
Ranking: 0
oooh.. and Tigerlilly, you're one of the people I need to meet
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You name the place. I'm there! ;)
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:44:42 EDT (#)
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yeah! thanks Circe...
solidarity is good..
Submitted by Circe (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:37:16 EDT (#)
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Oh that fucking bitch!
I'm fuming with rage on your behalf, Crystle baby. I'ma go out and slaughter me some middle aged women in sympathy.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:36:24 EDT (#)
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oooh.. and Tigerlilly, you're one of the people I need to meet
thanks girl! I don't care about the spelling.. but have a drink for me!
WOOOT
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:32:28 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Haaaaaa-py birthday to yooouuu,
Give your mum minus 222222222222222222,
Ha-ppy birthday dear Crysssssssssssstle,
and your mum smells like pooooooooooooooooooo.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:17:56 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
WOOOOT
Now I'm 29 on both coasts!!!
Submitted by TigerLilly (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:17:43 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
And...i spelled your name wrong...
sorry. Been drinking! ;)
Submitted by TigerLilly (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:17:11 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
I haven't been around much lately to comment
but i am glad that I came across this Crystal.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:15:39 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
hehe...
I'm isolating by drinking for tonight.
I dont drink often, so it hits pretty hard, fairly fast. It's kind of fun not to think.
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2005-07-16 03:13:44 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Viciousriffs (user info) at 2005-07-16 02:53:05 (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry to hear that, lass.
Foot massage is still in order.
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HEY!
Submitted by Viciousriffs (user info) at 2005-07-16 02:53:05 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry to hear that, lass.
Foot massage is still in order. Meantime, the best thing to do is isolate yourself from the problem- being around it won't do you any good, and you need some time to sort it all out in your head.
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2005-07-16 02:42:00 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2005-07-16 02:00:38 (#)
Ranking: 2
Yeah, let's get duckin frunk why don't we.
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For everybody's favourite father you've got quite teh potty-mouth..
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2005-07-16 02:41:41 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
gosh.
I am so sorry.
Nurse an addiction, it may help you escape.
And buy your mother a fucking alien cat.
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2005-07-16 02:00:38 EDT (#)
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Yeah, let's get duckin frunk why don't we.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:43:49 EDT (#)
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THanks SO Much guys.. and girls.
I'm gonna get frunk now. Join me?
Submitted by Bofemus (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:43:39 EDT (#)
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Damn, Crystal... I'm brand new here, but please allow me to extend my condolences. You related your situation in a manner that would engender empathy in all but the most heartless of readers.
All I can say is... this may be cliched (and pardon me if you've already done your share), but I would suggest some therepy. I had piles of fucked up shit to dig through about my dad, but I've come out the other side a much improved person. If your mother threatens your sense of well-being by intruding on your mental mojo with any regularity, time to purge that shit.
My useless two cents, but if you don't like it, hold on to this part: Happy Birthday, and I hope life has much better things in store for you in the very near future.
Cheers,
--- Bofemus
Submitted by Aladdin (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:39:37 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Sometimes mums really suck
Of course sometimes dads really suck
Its just not fair the way things turn out sometimes
+2 for writing something so well that it makes me empathise
Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:24:41 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
What a bitch! Fuck her! You and your Dad have each other.
I'm sorry about your Grandmother and I feel bad for you.
Submitted by Danger_Ranger (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:21:32 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Happy bithday, Crystle. Sorry about your gran, and your mum.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:16:13 EDT (#)
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Hire a hitman who disguises himself as a boy scout. No one will ever suspect him.
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:12:34 EDT (#)
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I'm glad my post made you laugh. Sounds like you need it.
Submitted by mockidol (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:11:34 EDT (#)
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best wishes
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:11:19 EDT (#)
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Thanks Brenden... But I like guys too much to give them up. And I don't want to end up with a bitch like my mom
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:11:10 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Rent your dad a room, thats what.
Submitted by BillsSBChamps (user info) at 2005-07-16 01:07:12 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Come to Buffalo and I'll turn you into a lesbian.