When is Sex with the Same Sex Considered Adultery? (1205 hits)
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Submitted by russizm (View user info) at 2005-08-01 11:50:16 EDT
It sure has been a while, uber. Bart finally deleted my gellieman hits. (After I reached 100k hits) so all is well in the universe!
My return is due to an interesting situation my life has brought to me, I need to know opinions and I don't have anywhere else to turn to. I've been living with an amazing girl for the past three years. We have faults, but it is an overall nice and healthy relationship. The sex is awesome (thank you mary jane!) and we have plans to get married.
The "problem" is that my girlfriend is somewhat bi-curious. When I take an extra long gaze at another female, she notices and joins in. She went to an all girl school through high school so she has had her share of lesbian experiences, and liked them.
There is an 18 year old girl at her work that she has been eye-ing for quite a while now. They want to take a few days off, get a hotel, and get their grove on.
My girlfriend says that it would be a one time thing.. the worst part is that they won't let me watch, let alone participate. I am in a quandry.
I've always felt in the past that I would consider sex with the same sex cheating on your partner. But I just don't know. She says she won't do it without my approval, but I can't pinpoint how I would feel besides being left out.
C'mon uber, if there was ever a time for me to get two girls in bed with me, this would be it! Help me understand if you would consider it cheating or how I could score myself into the action.
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Submitted by chillboy (user info) at 2005-08-01 22:32:24 EDT (#)
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I honestly didn't read all of it, but if it's two girls it's hot, if it's two guys it's not.
Submitted by munkeypants (user info) at 2005-08-01 22:13:11 EDT (#)
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if this chick were to join you two and you were okay with it
then sure! why not?
but to do it while you are not present?
hey man. it's up to you.
Submitted by DCWoody (user info) at 2005-08-01 19:13:08 EDT (#)
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Oh and shes not 'bi-curious', she doesn't think she might like it and want to try it out, she has done it and she definately likes it and she wants more. Shes Bi.
Submitted by DCWoody (user info) at 2005-08-01 19:10:27 EDT (#)
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If she shags someone else behind your back in a closed relationship, then its cheating.
If she asks you and you say yes it isnt cheating.
Its understandable that she doesn't want you there, but it would be a bit rich of her to not agree to you shagging other people too.
Submitted by userpete86 (user info) at 2005-08-01 16:00:40 EDT (#)
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Yep. You get to watch or it's cheating.
Submitted by kaos-king (user info) at 2005-08-01 14:52:17 EDT (#)
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My ex was bi and I use to let her make out with girls all the time. Of course, she ended up cheating on me with a guy, so I'm really no help here. Listen to everyone else...
Submitted by precision (user info) at 2005-08-01 14:26:39 EDT (#)
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Have her video tape it for you....then dump her after get copies of the tape.
Submitted by Ejryuu (user info) at 2005-08-01 13:00:33 EDT (#)
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A perfect situation with one little twist (not being able to at the least watch) that turns it into a fucking tragedy. Invest in some one-way mirrors and get your jerk on, buddy. Then drop it like it's hot.
Submitted by congo (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:54:34 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
If they're not even going to let you WATCH, let alone play, then pull the plug on it. That's bullshit, man.
Submitted by UrbaneMischief (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:50:09 EDT (#)
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all i read is the title.
-2 because that's a retarded question. I bat on both sides of the plates. If the significant other isn't involved (three-way or such.. if you allow that), it's cheating. period.
Submitted by bob (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:36:12 EDT (#)
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Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:30:55 (#)
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When is sex with the same sex considered adultery? Depends on who you ask, but in my opinion, it's henever you're not involved. She doesn't want you there, she won't let you watch/participate... honey, she's essentially cheating on you in front of your face. And if you "let" her do it, then that makes you a tool, and you're not allowed to throw a fit later on when she starts doing other girls behind your back.
Now is the time to put your foot down and tell her so. "I'm not comfortable with you being sexual with other people when I'm not involved." Simple as that. If she throws a fit and makes a big deal out of it, then you know you've got a cheater on your hands. Hope this helps.
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Submitted by CookieLass (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:30:55 EDT (#)
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When is sex with the same sex considered adultery? Depends on who you ask, but in my opinion, it's henever you're not involved. She doesn't want you there, she won't let you watch/participate... honey, she's essentially cheating on you in front of your face. And if you "let" her do it, then that makes you a tool, and you're not allowed to throw a fit later on when she starts doing other girls behind your back.
Now is the time to put your foot down and tell her so. "I'm not comfortable with you being sexual with other people when I'm not involved." Simple as that. If she throws a fit and makes a big deal out of it, then you know you've got a cheater on your hands. Hope this helps.
Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:29:52 EDT (#)
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Technically, it's only considered adultery if you're married. But in your situation, it's definitely cheating. If she doesn't understand, just ask her to consider how she would feel if YOU were to have a one-night hotel hookup with an 18 year old slut from YOUR office.
Submitted by missflibble (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:29:11 EDT (#)
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cheating is cheating whoever you sleep with... my hubby tells me he wouldn't mind if I wished to revive my lesbonic tendencies, but I see it as cheating even if he doesn't...unless it's a threesome, then I know onw of us would get jealous.
the bigger dilemma in slightly kinky sex is : does the dog ocunt as cheating...?
(no i do not own a dog)
Submitted by BLITZKREIG_BOB (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:22:47 EDT (#)
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Nip it in the bud: get out now.
Submitted by wookie (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:17:52 EDT (#)
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If you don't get to participate, or at the very least watch, then it's cheating.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2005-08-01 12:04:14 EDT (#)
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I've known people who were in open relationships and it worked for them.
I wouldn't be at all cool with it though, but that's just me.
Submitted by russizm (user info) at 2005-08-01 11:59:22 EDT (#)
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I don't know and haven't seen the other girl, but I know my own is hot, and she says that the other girl is too...
Submitted by bob (user info) at 2005-08-01 11:55:47 EDT (#)
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and i feel that if she is openly bi curious and does not want you involved, that it might lead to cheating on you down the road.
Submitted by Frank_Grimes (user info) at 2005-08-01 11:55:23 EDT (#)
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I only support Gay Marriage if both chicks are hot.
Submitted by bob (user info) at 2005-08-01 11:54:27 EDT (#)
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welcome back +2kakke
Submitted by bob (user info) at 2005-08-01 11:54:15 EDT (#)
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I would say that it is cheating if you are not involved.
if you are involved then hell yea.
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-01 11:53:54 EDT (#)
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Your future wife will leave you
Abort mission now!