After the Fight (765 hits)
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Submitted by your_arse_is_hanging_out (View user info) at 2005-08-10 12:06:01 EDT
After he left work, we were chatting. Me at work, him at home. I told him I was leaving.
I locked my keys in the car. We work 2 minutes from our apartment. I called *him* to bail me out, and unlock my door. He did.
He looked at me and wanted to hug me. I was still angry and wanted space. It was an awkward hug, where he embraced my body while I had my arms crossed over my chest.
Scene 2
Our apartment, the couch. We sit on opposite ends.
I know what I did was wrong. I knew it was wrong the second I did it. I'm so sorry. I should have never done it. It is difficult for me to admit when I'm wrong. It is difficult for me to say sorry. I know that. I need to work on it.
Jason, it was wrong. Way wrong. And I know you're not an angry everyday crazy violent man, but even once is a deal breaker. As I've told you, the only way I am not going to pack my bags right now is if you commit to going to see a pre-marital counselor. Things won't fix themselves.
I don't know about that, Tara. I think that we could work this out on our own. ((tears up)) I left the office today crying I was so upset for what I did to you. I don't ever want to spend a day without you. I know I have a short fuse sometimes. It's not often at all.
Scene shifts to on the patio smoking a cigarette together. Calm, afternoon sun.
In my eyes, and I know we see the mental health field differently, I think that having to go see a therapist is a personal failure. If we can't do it on our own, we must be doomed.
No, Jason, that's not it at all. Remember when we just started telling each other I love you, and we were getting serious? We told ourselves that we were in it for the long haul. Forever. No matter what. I know you're my soul mate. I want to work this out—I don't want to leave. But I will. What you did was unacceptable, and I need to know if you are willing to get professional help on this subject or I'm packing my bags. Seeing a professional, educated person who deals with stuff like this, BOTH of us, (because I know I have issues too with my verbal attacks) will only make us stronger. To have a 3rd unattached point of view and someone to help us act proactively about this rather than pretending to work on it ourselves only to fall back into a cycle of fighting would be the most effective way for us to begin to learn how to build a strong foundation for our relationship and future. It's not a personal failure, if anything, it would be a truly mature way to proactively deal with this issue. We've only been living together for 3 months, we need to nip this in the bud now, and learn to live with each other.
At some point we move into the bedroom.
A marriage cannot survive on love alone. There has to be compromise, comfort, security, compassion, two individuals that come together in a union.
I love you so much, and I want to make us better. I'm in it for the long haul too. ((Embraces me with fierce needing to be held and to hold)) Let me process the Doctor stuff. I just need some time to come to terms with the Shrink thing.
((Shakes head)) You can have time, but we will be doing it, and it will only make us stronger. It's not a failure. We're doomed if we don't repair and correct this now. Not the other way around.
He hugs me and we cuddle, he whispers in my ear how much he loves me. How much he wants to be with me forever, and that sometimes he blacks out when he does things, not the point where he doesn't know he did it. But to where he doesn't know why he did it. He wasn't thinking. And I told him that that is why we need to get help. There are certain strategies that you can do to try and control your anger and stress levels.
I get on top of him. And I proclaim that the fight is over, and we will get help. To strengthen our relationship, and to build better blocks on which to live the rest of eternity with each other.
"We need to go grocery shopping!"
"No, wait, I want to make love to you."
I'll spare you the steamy details, except for this---when we both came at the same time, me 2 seconds after him....I literally collapsed and began to sob!
Tears flowing, full out, SOBBING. Poor guy. I couldn't suppress it. Once I climaxed, all the tension and emotions I had--completely released and it was unbelievable. I sobbed for Christ's sake. It felt so good. He just held me and we hugged. It was bliss.
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Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-15 14:39:48 EDT (#)
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Bottom line, you do NOT touch your loved one or any woman, in ANGER.
Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-15 14:38:16 EDT (#)
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Whoa cornea, sounds like you have anger issues. We play around fighting and such. I'm not a prissy bitch, I can take a little playful beating.
It's that the attitude was serious, his intention was to hurt, and left a mark. So Fuck off, at the time it was very serious and caused instant tears. Looking back, it was stupid and dumb, but he was dead wrong, even he knows it.
Go slap your girlfriend around in public when I'm there. I'll beat your ever lovin ass. Monkey!
Submitted by CoreaPeekay (user info) at 2005-08-12 22:11:58 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:49:34 (#)
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Sorry, forgot to rate last time.
I'm glad he didn't beat you. If he ever slaps your leg again, break his finger.
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ARe you fucking kidding me? If my girlfriend is playing too rough/being naughty with her mouth/talking crap, I slap her leg and tell her to be nice.. She doesn't make a big deal like OMFG YOU WIFEBEATER!!!!@!$#!@!@! its not like you're slapping her in the face or punching her lights out, its just the same as grabbing someone's chin and making them look you in the eyes before saying 'stop'
it sounds as if he didn't fucking do anything wrong to begin with, therefore you are an idiot. If he wanted to hurt her, he would have hurt her. Its just like when you wrestle around with a dog or cat and they give you a nip on the arm to let you know you're getting too playful and its time to stop, it was a warning, not a fucking 'im going to punch your ovaries' statement.
tools.
Submitted by Unabonger (user info) at 2005-08-12 21:43:49 EDT (#)
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you're making a mistake going back to him.
no +, no -
It's all i really have to say about that.
Submitted by Confuzitron (user info) at 2005-08-10 18:42:31 EDT (#)
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PERFECTION!
Submitted by TheSpook (user info) at 2005-08-10 16:24:54 EDT (#)
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Oblivious ignorant woman.
Submitted by indoninja (user info) at 2005-08-10 13:30:29 EDT (#)
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Well either you deserved it or you should leave him, end of story. Not saying never go back, but it is a lot more serious then threatening to leave, if you don't go next time it will probably be worse, and it iwll be your fault.
Submitted by dirtycyberdawg (user info) at 2005-08-10 13:24:47 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Wiggles (user info) at 2005-08-10 13:23:18 EDT (#)
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SEX LOL
Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 13:17:11 EDT (#)
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No we were not drunk. And we were not kidding around either. We were both crabby. And maybe I was unclear, but he does remember it. He just "blacks out" (and I use that term loosely) and really doesn't know why he did it.
Submitted by indoninja (user info) at 2005-08-10 13:12:35 EDT (#)
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Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:47:42 (#)
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J-He didn't beat me. He slapped my leg with his open hand. No mark, just stung.
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Couple questions were one or both of you drinking?
Were one of you kidding around(insulting each other, or hitting each other)?
the fact that he says he doesn't remember it (unless he was drunk) makes me think he is a liar or a psycho. Unless he runs around hitting girls all the time he is going to remember why he did it.
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-10 13:02:59 EDT (#)
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so do you think by Fri we are going to see
"I hate him again, men suck" post?
Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:53:58 EDT (#)
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Adam, thanks for the loving words. That's crap on a stick if I've ever heard it.
Submitted by Vulva (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:53:55 EDT (#)
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Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:50:44 (#)
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Vulv--are you really? Any good Chicagoland references?
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No I'm not. Just pullin you leg my dear.
Submitted by Adamdidit2u (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:52:02 EDT (#)
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Once you get married you'll both feel your owed or obliged more. If he hit you already and you are unrelenting with verbal attacks (which make no mistake are just as bad) then you're doomed.
Call it a loss
Submitted by The_Yellow_Dart (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:51:11 EDT (#)
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You can find comfort in that if you both keep smoking, forver won't be all that long.
Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:50:44 EDT (#)
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You don't gamble with a Campbell. Thats for sure. He knows it.
Vulv--are you really? Any good Chicagoland references?
Submitted by Vulva (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:50:33 EDT (#)
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Another +2 for letting me know I ain't the only Jason out there who isn't afraid to "smack my bitch up"
Har har peener!
Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:49:34 EDT (#)
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Sorry, forgot to rate last time.
I'm glad he didn't beat you. If he ever slaps your leg again, break his finger.
Submitted by Vulva (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:49:26 EDT (#)
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I am a marriage councelor. I say you are both typical. Carry on smartly, you'll be fine.
Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:47:42 EDT (#)
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J-He didn't beat me. He slapped my leg with his open hand. No mark, just stung.
Submitted by sideshow (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:47:02 EDT (#)
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Getting help is a very smart chioce, but love is blind and you must be sure of what you want, not just what is the best at the time, or what you think will be the best in the future.
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:46:54 EDT (#)
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did he write you up a ticket for last nights 'disturbing the peace' loud sex romp?
If I was a cop I would have gotten myself in trouble the first day on the beat
Submitted by Deidra (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:46:19 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:21:13 (#)
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Submitted by Deidra (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:17:17 (#)
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Make-up sex is great.
I should fight with my husband more.
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so hypothetically if you and I were to lets say have sex, your husband would get mad, then you guess would fight eventually leading to make up sex
well, I gots to do what I gots to do- all for the team
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Actually that would lead to divorce.. and me being very unhappy. Probably becoming a homicidal maniac.
Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:43:05 EDT (#)
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Didn't he beat the crap out of you?
Yeah, good luck with all that.
Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:42:16 EDT (#)
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Silly Xcuses. I was wearing nothing during the make up sex. Today I did dress a little sexy tho. Black skirt, teal tank with black 3/4 length sleve sweater. I got pulled over this morning, and the cop called for "back up" because I "look like a tough cookie." He was checking out my goods.
Submitted by ICO (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:36:11 EDT (#)
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Oh Bliss, Bliss and heavenly glory.
It was like silvery wine, flowing in a spaceship, gravity all nonsense now.
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:34:28 EDT (#)
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Submitted by kissmyarse (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:16:37 (#)
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Beige stringy g-string with triangle of string in the back. The front is adorned with a jewel at the top and glittered roses. It's kind of riding up my ass.
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is this the 'after sex' outfit?
Submitted by TheSunGod (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:30:15 EDT (#)
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i'm sorry, i just can't +2 this. he hits you, and then you talk and you're still all unsure, and then you have simultaneous orgasms so it's ok?
i did like the writing, though. and i support your decision. i just can't support how you made it. not my place, though...
Submitted by PokeyPecker (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:28:22 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Teephphah (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:11:05 (#)
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I'm . . . happy . . . for you?
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You could always move to Tibet.
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:23:11 EDT (#)
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"Baby, you know I loves you, but why you make me so crazy?"
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:21:13 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Deidra (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:17:17 (#)
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Make-up sex is great.
I should fight with my husband more.
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so hypothetically if you and I were to lets say have sex, your husband would get mad, then you guess would fight eventually leading to make up sex
well, I gots to do what I gots to do- all for the team
Submitted by The_Yellow_Dart (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:19:42 EDT (#)
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Submitted by nitty34 (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:14:53 (#)
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I'm Ron Burgandy?
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HAHAHA
Submitted by Deidra (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:17:17 EDT (#)
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Make-up sex is great.
I should fight with my husband more.
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:14:58 EDT (#)
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while many are going to blast you on this one, I asked for it so I can't
Guys will say anything to get some, but I'm sure in this case he meant it
Good luck
Submitted by nitty34 (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:14:53 EDT (#)
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I'm Ron Burgandy?
Submitted by Teephphah (user info) at 2005-08-10 12:11:05 EDT (#)
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I'm . . . happy . . . for you?