One of the shittiest days of my life (relived and reviewed) (774 hits)
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Submitted by nyxmar (View user info) at 2005-09-17 06:14:38 EDT
As I look back I wonder how we all thought we were invincible, non more so than Jimmy. He could be a world class prick sometimes, but dammit he made me laugh. Few people in my life have been able to do that.
I remember getting home from school that day. One of the few times I had actually gone to all my classes. It would never happen again, I promise you, but it was Wednesday, Sept 12, the day after the attacks and since the week had been a waste up until that point, I figured what the hell, why not attend class, you're paying for it after all. I knew something was wrong the moment I looked at the answering machine: 23 missed calls. Oddly enough people weren't leaving messages. Only 2 people did Ralph, who wasn't home, (his mom refused to tell me what happened) and Kim, who by this time was no longer coherent. So for 2 more hours I played phone tag thinking maybe Jeremy (Kim's new boyfriend, and one of my good friends was hurt).
Have you ever focus in on something so you thing you got it completely figured out? That's usually when the bottom drops out. I had steeled myself for finding out about Jeremy, when low and behold Ralph finally gets through and says he has bad news. I say what's up, is Jeremy okay. He just stops and says: Jimmy's dead.
Ding, ding, hello? Ever have a moment where your mind shuts down? You just black out? You don't remember much after that. I remember people that I didn't like calling me and telling me they were sorry. Family that never wants to recognize I exist calling me asking me if I was okay. Define Okay. My dad actually calling me by my name instead of "boy". I think that was the scariest part of all. People crying, myself crying. And through it all a professor who said he didn't care what excuse I had, my paper better be in his hands by Thursday morning.
In hindsight, you should always see things like this coming right? He had destroyed 10 cars before he got to this one. He was always smashed and unwilling to let people drive him home. I was one of the few people who would fight him for his keys. It hurts to know that he made that stupid decision to take his car home from the bar. Just as it hurts to know 10 of my friends were sitting next to him at that bar, hell, even serving him drinks. Most of us aren't friends today, it hurts too much to think about things that were avoidable.
One of the worst things to do in life is go to a funeral of a 23 yr old. A man at the beginning of his life, ended by stupidity and a misplaced sense of invincibility. I miss him, he was someone you could count on if you needed help, and those people are in short supply these days. This is to a friend who always gave me an honest answer and helped me when I needed it.
Jimmy D 1-23-79 to 9-12-01
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Submitted by lechuza (user info) at 2007-05-07 00:08:36 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
a friend of mine got his arm cut by a road sign and crashed because he was wasted.
he died at 16
Submitted by coley (user info) at 2007-01-06 17:07:48 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
This makes me sad. So preventable..what a waste.
I've lost some friends at young ages also; some ways preventable and some not but all terribly difficult to process and deal with. One, last December ('05); ate some vicodin and drank too much and his buddies dropped him off at home and he had passed out and vomited and asphyxiated. Found in the AM by his probation officer. Not a glamourous thing.
Fight them for the keys. I don't care if you fucking hate me and never want to talk to me again, I'm not letting you drive. I'd rather have you alive and hating me than dead or paralyzed or who knows what else.
Submitted by thecaes (user info) at 2005-09-19 07:45:02 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry buddy. I've been pretty lucky with my friends -- they're most of them healthy and not reckless.
Submitted by nyxmar (user info) at 2005-09-18 13:33:38 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Noted Kitchen, errors are unexcusable. Jay, young deaths are the worst, especially an aneurysm. That sudden loss kills.
Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2005-09-18 13:15:28 EDT (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Jay_Bassman (user info) at 2005-09-18 10:55:36 EDT (#)
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16, passenger in car accident.
18, brain aneurysm.
I know the feeling... young deaths don't stop hurting.
Submitted by kitchens_closed (user info) at 2005-09-18 08:46:37 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
This was a very touching piece, but you should revise your work for errors and shit next time.
I'm not trying to be an asshole. Just a simple suggestion.
Submitted by nyxmar (user info) at 2005-09-17 18:22:02 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
Hey Drum, I know what how you feel. Jimmy was the first, but not the last. I've watched my social circle dwindle. We've lost 9 other friends since his death 4 years ago. Starting to think I'm cursed.
Submitted by drumfeeb (user info) at 2005-09-17 14:52:25 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
That sucks, but try going to the funerals of 18, 18, 19 year old in the period of about 3 years. Live fast, die young.
Submitted by PokeyPecker (user info) at 2005-09-17 10:45:27 EDT (#)
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Uh....who the fuck with Jimmy D?
Submitted by nyxmar (user info) at 2005-09-17 06:31:47 EDT (#)
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yeah, sorry, drunken remembrance, 22 not 23
Submitted by Beer_bong (user info) at 2005-09-17 06:31:27 EDT (#)
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I know the feling bro. http://www.ubersite.com/m/39841
My apologies for the linkwhore, but its appropriate.
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2005-09-17 06:25:10 EDT (#)
Ranking: 2
that sucks.
wasn't he 22?