Self-Esteem is Overrated. (820 hits)
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Submitted by banana phone (View user info) at 2005-12-07 15:09:31 EST
It's true. Everything they ever told you, from elementary school to college, is a lie. You do not need confidence. You do not need high self-esteem. And the next person who tells me I can be what I want to be will have their colon introduced to a broken whiskey bottle.
Fuck you all. I wanted to be a Transformer when I grew up.
The real problem is that every child these days is one of "God's special little miracles", and will quite naturally grow up to be the ruler of the world. You want to know why your child acts like a spoiled little shit? Because you reinforce their self-esteem to the point where they KNOW they are gods.
These children have their world fixed so they never have to go through so much as discomfort, let alone pain or failure. In school, they won't fail you until you reach high school. Parents are not allowed to beat their children.
Everything has to be safe and perfect, and these kids are going to grow up, go to college, and be raped, pillaged, burned, and left tied naked to a tree in the middle of the forest.
Back to my original point. Self-confidence is bullshit. Once you know you can do it, then, and only then, do you become sure of yourself. The only thing a "positive attitude" gives a kid is a false sense of confidence, which means a soon as something hard comes up, he'll fuck up and make an ass of himself.
The best thing to do is to tell your kids they need to prove themselves. Make damn well sure you can do it if you're going to brag about it.
This reminds me of my junior high years (grades 7-9).
Five hundred puberty-stricken fuckheads running around acting like their shit was roses. Me, I didn't give a damn. I used to joke about having no friends. People would laugh, and say of course I did.
Idiots. Joke's on you, I was telling the truth.
I had the attitude growing up that I would probably end up as a nothing. This is the kind of self-esteem we need. If you fail at life, you turn out to be right, and are not even disappointed. If you succeed, no matter how marginally, you still have passed even your wildest dreams.
No, it wasn't funny. It wasn't meant to be.
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Submitted by simple_catalyst (user info) at 2006-02-20 23:24:29 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
gotta try to remember why this post pissed me off...
Submitted by nahnoneofit (user info) at 2005-12-08 01:41:06 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by Ejryuu (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:56:57 (#)
Ranking: 0
Next time, put forth some effort.
Self confidence isn't something that's instilled into the youth of today, buster. Cockiness, however, is. There's nothing wrong with being confident in yourself, especially when you know not to cross the line. Self confidence tells teaches "I think I can, I think I can" as well as "When I inevitably fuck up, I'll pick my ass up, learn something from it and move on."
It's quite evident that you were the victim of one too many wedgies =(
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its quite evident that youre the kid who gave them out, spoiled cunt.
Submitted by Unabonger (user info) at 2005-12-07 22:36:12 EST (#)
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Don't need quarters don't need dimes to call a friend of mine
don't need computers or tv to call a friend of mine!
*shoots self*
expect this response from me on every one of your posts I read.
Submitted by Jeanneee (user info) at 2005-12-07 21:27:27 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
what Caul said
Submitted by simple_catalyst (user info) at 2005-12-07 21:19:30 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
TA-DA!
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2005-12-07 20:21:08 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Submitted by fluff (user info) at 2005-12-07 16:57:28 (#)
Ranking: 0
Why the hell do you call yourself bananaphone?
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The fact that you find this a pressing question is quite funny
Submitted by toni_tori (user info) at 2005-12-07 20:19:54 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I got yelled at by some wrinkled old hag for dragging my daughter down the hallway of her daycare by her ankles. Said she could turn me in for abuse.
have a +2 'cause I'm tired of being afraid to even touch my kids anymore.
Submitted by Walker (user info) at 2005-12-07 20:06:39 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
You got some good points there, my friend.
Submitted by fluff (user info) at 2005-12-07 16:57:28 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Why the hell do you call yourself bananaphone?
Submitted by EAZEDZT (user info) at 2005-12-07 16:41:23 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
Good writing but,
Self confidence you do need, an over exagerated sense of self worth is bad.
The feeling that you can't fail or do wrong is the problem.
If you suck you suck, If you're good you're good.
Today we don't want to hurt feelings. BAH!
Submitted by trent_nz (user info) at 2005-12-07 16:30:12 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
No Comment
Submitted by userpete86 (user info) at 2005-12-07 16:03:21 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Can't really rate this... here's a 0.
I like the writing and completely disagree with it.
Submitted by Unabonger (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:58:55 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
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Submitted by Ejryuu (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:56:57 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
Next time, put forth some effort.
Self confidence isn't something that's instilled into the youth of today, buster. Cockiness, however, is. There's nothing wrong with being confident in yourself, especially when you know not to cross the line. Self confidence tells teaches "I think I can, I think I can" as well as "When I inevitably fuck up, I'll pick my ass up, learn something from it and move on."
It's quite evident that you were the victim of one too many wedgies =(
Submitted by wardy (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:48:55 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
i'm on bored at work. woo.
Submitted by clit_commander (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:48:44 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
You're a fucking moron. Self confidence is a huge factor in people's success, because it isn't really a conscious thought. Doubt creeps in and fucks up whatever you do without your thinking about it. Mediocre people often accomplish things just because they tried or beleive in themselves.
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:39:09 EST (#)
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Self-esteem has EVERYTHING to do with the choices people make and the consequences of those choices. It's the difference between a crack whore and a middle-line manager who may have been raised exactly alike in every other way.
Just because you don't like the way your life turned out, doesn't make it your parents' fault or anyone else's. Yes, we are very well *influenced* by our parents and peers, but ultimately the choice belongs with the individual. And the choices YOU make will be influenced by how YOU feel about yourself.
That having been said and acknowledged, it is irrefutable that those with high self-esteems generally live more fulfilling and meaningful lives than those who do not.
Submitted by inion_de_trua (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:30:55 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
at some point a study was done on the relationship between actual ability and believed ability were compared in certain things like math and writing of like highschoolers or something. it was found that the kids that had great self esteem usually sucked balls at whatever and the kids that thought they were shit rocked ass academically. oh yay, we have such a future ahead of us.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:26:00 EST (#)
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Submitted by FartSmeller (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:01:27 (#)
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LOJOPE WAS RAPED.
Pass it on.
Submitted by redskieslookfake (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:24:08 EST (#)
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http://www.ubersite.com/m/79435
If you discuss Transformers, it is best to read my instructive posts on the subject first.
There is more than meets the eye.
Submitted by Iago (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:19:41 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
No joke, i cried when i was told it was impossible to be a Care-Bear. I was about 4 at the time, and to this day i can still remember the room i was in, what was in the room, and exactly how i felt.
I was an odd child.
Submitted by el_em_en_oh (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:15:52 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Kind of all over the place, but me likey.
The pussyfication of our youth... what a wonderful world we live in.
Fuck the little bastards, if you ask me!
Submitted by FilthyAssistant (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:14:07 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
"I wanted to be a Transformer when I grew up."
I wanted to embalm the dead.
Submitted by Caulaincourt (user info) at 2005-12-07 15:12:22 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
this fired in all directions but I kinda liked it