I'm getting a car--revisited. (757 hits)
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Submitted by Manda (View user info) at 2005-12-18 01:34:08 EST
A couple of weeks ago, I asked the general Uber population to suggest cars, because I was in the market for a new one. I mentioned that price wasn't an option, but I'm not comfortable accepting an ultra-fancy, ultra-pricey car from anyone. A lot of people are probably thinking that I'm some kind of high-end prostitute dealing with a millionaire. The suggestion was actually kind of laughable, given my situation.
My Uncle is in the hospital. He was diagnosed with some pretty serious medical problems, and he's now on dialysis. He's always been a great guy, and he's always looked out for his nieces and nephews. I remember one time when I started dating my first boyfriend, he sat me down, and told me that if he ever hit me or upset me or cheated on me, he would have his cop friends deal with it. And if they wouldn't, then he would.
He wasn't kidding.
Sometimes he can be a bit strange. He once drove up to Massachusetts from Maryland with a truck bed full of live crabs. Maryland is famous for its crabs, and although by no means rich, my uncle brought us the finest Maryland had to offer.
Basically, my Uncle is a provider. He will give anyone anything and everything that he has ever owned just to make someone happy. He has cared for his brother, my other Uncle, who is mentally challenged, for his whole life. I'm worried about what would happen if he died. They're best friends.
My Uncle might die. It's strange seeing those words in black and white, and I'm having a hard time coping with this. It's easier for me to laugh and smile than it is to be sad. My Uncle is happy to be able to have at least some normalcy in his life, and he's told me the daily phone calls brighten up his hospital stay.
It's just...hard. It's hard knowing that someone you love is going through so much pain, so many miles away. It's hard thinking about what the future holds. It's hard accepting a present from someone that might die soon.
I decided to decline his offer for the car. Getting into a Volkswagen Jetta and flipping the heat warmer on to warm my frozen New England buns while I cruise down the highway sounds nice. The reality of the situation is that I would think of him every time I turned the key to that car. It sounds selfish, but I want my memories of my Uncle to be of good times, and I don't want a gift knowing that his wish is to give it to me because he's ill. I don't want him to die. I don't want to lose a friend.
It's too hard.
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Submitted by Bob_Dole (user info) at 2005-12-19 09:43:44 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
<moment of weakness>
been there... hope he gets better and everything works out ok. sucks loosing a family member.
</moment of weakness>
um, yeah, and stuff.
Submitted by MistressFist (user info) at 2005-12-19 09:34:42 EST (#)
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I'm sorry to hear this Manda. Best wishes for peace and recovery for your Uncle. He sounds like a great guy.
Submitted by hungovermondays (user info) at 2005-12-19 09:31:01 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2005-12-19 09:16:26 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry to hear about your uncle's situation. That's rough.
Give me a buzz later this morning on AIM if you're around.
Submitted by The_Yellow_Dart (user info) at 2005-12-18 23:16:26 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Good luck.
Submitted by Azk (user info) at 2005-12-18 12:57:47 EST (#)
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ahahah fag rofl lol pwned gg k thx bye.
Submitted by Xcuses (user info) at 2005-12-18 11:21:25 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I'm a little confused about this post. First it was car talk, and then family dying. Either way, sending my prayers to you and your family. Sometimes uber can show the dark side of society. I try and bring a little levity to it from time to time.
Submitted by Despiadado (user info) at 2005-12-18 06:59:31 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Get a ute.
I honour of the fact that he had one. (I'm assuming that he had those crabs in the back of a ute tray.)
Submitted by MandaPanda (user info) at 2005-12-18 06:44:25 EST (#)
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Thanks guys.
Tigerlilly, I think you are the sweetest woman that I have never met! If I was to attend an Ubercon, I'd make sure you'd be there because I think you're awesome.
Submitted by jagmcmanus (user info) at 2005-12-18 06:01:50 EST (#)
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Submitted by Magic_Monkey (user info) at 2005-12-18 05:34:09 (#)
Ranking: 2
Sorry for you , but think about it the other way; he wants you to be happy , so everytime you turn the key,just remember the good times.
Submitted by Bryanhoop (user info) at 2005-12-18 05:39:26 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Naomi. You poor soul. May you find peace in a hot tub with burning incense. I know that I did, and for that I will be forever grateful. And for that I shall die. Where is some breathing child that you can worship upon? Hundreds of angels shall scream your name until you shine. Thirty years.
Submitted by Magic_Monkey (user info) at 2005-12-18 05:34:09 EST (#)
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Sorry for you , but think about it the other way; he wants you to be happy , so everytime you turn the key,just remember the good times.
Submitted by TigerLilly (user info) at 2005-12-18 01:50:48 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
Manda, I'm so sorry girl. Even though we've never met and we live thousands of miles away please know that my heart goes out to you and your family.
Submitted by MandaPanda (user info) at 2005-12-18 01:37:54 EST (#)
Ranking: 0
I didn't spell check. I probably used some words that don't even exist. I didn't even re-read it to see if it makes sense.
This was written in an attempt to come to terms with the situation... I'm upset now, so I'm going to bed.
Goodnight Uber.