In loving Memory of a True Friend (Fondly Known as "Brabstone") (994 hits)
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Submitted by Skinny Kenny (View user info) at 2005-12-27 17:05:06 EST
http://www3.knoxnews.com/kns/obituaries/article/0,1406,KNS_370_4343292,00.html
Death notices: December 27, 2005
Knox County:
Alan R. Brabson, Jr., 36, Knoxville.
BRABSON, ALAN RICHARD JR. (A.J.) — age 36 of Knoxville, passed away Friday December 23, 2005. He attended Webb School of Knoxville and graduated from Powell High School. He attended Hiawassee College and transferred to the University of Tennessee at Knoxville with a 4.O GPA where he graduated Magna Cum Laude with a B.A. in Liberal Arts in 1994. A.J. was a real estate appraiser with Appalachian Appraisal Service. He became a friend of Bill W. during his college days and his life was enhanced through group friendship, compassion, and support. He had a deep personal respect for human dignity and provided his time and support for many friends who struggled with life's problems. A.J. was involved with several special friends who lived in local shelters and half way houses. He was a true family man, well known for his easy friendly manner and winning smile. His family was very dear to him and he had invited friends from a local mission to spend Christmas with them. Preceded in death by: grandparents, Paul H. Brabson, Col Paul A. Dorney (USAF Ret) and Ann W. Dorney. Survived by: wife, Mary Louise Rollison Brabson; daughters, Jessica Lynn Barbour and Ashley Elizabeth Brabson; mother, Pamela (Paule) Peel and husband Ben; father, Alan R. Brabson and wife Mary Elizabeth; grandmother, Mrs. Paul H. (Marie) Brabson; brothers, Samuel Aaron and Adam Douglas Brabson; special office friends, Kathy Rowell, Debbie Hodge and Tonie Biggs. He was blessed by a loving circle of uncles, aunts and wonderful cousins. Memorial service 7:00 p.m. Wednesday Rose Mortuary Mann Heritage Chapel. In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorials be made to: Knox Area Rescue Ministries, 418 North Broadway, Knoxville, Tennessee 37917. Friends may call at their convenience at Rose Mortuary Mann Heritage Chapel.
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Alan was one of the truest people I've ever known. He had a genuinely great heart and truly cared about other people, even in the deepest pits of his addictions. We met in high school and became close party buddies. When we got into college, he got so out of control on drugs that I had to ask him to quit coming by my house for fear that he was under surveilance (he was) and would get me busted when he went down. Not long after that, he was arrested for selling over 500 hits of LSD, massive quantities of mushrooms and ecstasy, among other things, to an undercover agent. He got very lucky and was put on 5 years intensive probation. C.A.P. it was called. Community Alternatives to Prison. It inspired him to get into a halfway house and sober up. We remained friends, and I often went to meetings with him (AA, NA, etc.), even though I was still partying hard. Alan got married not long after that and bought a house, had kids, did the right thing. About 4 years ago, he found out he had Hepatitis 'C', contracted years before when he stuck a lot of needles in his arms. I remember him and another guy over at my house one day shooting coke. There was blood and syringes littering the place. Anyway, he underwent all the treatments for Hep C and just finished up with them a few months back, around the last time I talked to him. He had been sober for over 10 years.
I wish you all could have known him. He would have had a blast around this site.
Classic Brabson quote: "Barney Rubble, what an actor."
I'll miss you, buddy.
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This is a picture of him and his wife, Mary, from the summer of '02 when I went back to Knoxville. Last time I'll ever see him.
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:34:44 EST (#)
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You're right.
And I can also tell you to take your pompous attitude and stick it up your ass.
But I'm too classy to do that.
Wrong site. I don't give a shit how many people plus 2 it. It ain't a "kicker of all ass". It's a sad tale. Case closed.
Submitted by SkinnyKenny (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:19:40 EST (#)
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I get where you're coming from, but this is a site focused on the social interaction experience, right?
I'll post whatever is important to me here. You don't have to read it.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:15:28 EST (#)
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It's definitely sad...and I can relate to your feelings...
This just ain't the website for all this...you understand MY feelings...right?
Submitted by SkinnyKenny (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:10:50 EST (#)
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Thanks for your thoughts, folks.
And Shlong, for this:
"Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:00:27 (#)
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Oh...and sorry for your loss.
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-12-29 17:58:05 (#)
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Why is this being posted here?
I'd -2 you because, quite frankly, this is a fucking stupid post, but I also use the "Barney Rubble - what an actor" line all the time.
From one of Shlongy's Top 10 movies of all time.
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In fact, I have used the line in some of my reviews on this site.
This should have been posted somewhere else. "
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I don't really know hat to say, but I'd like to meet you sometime. My golf game sucaks hind tit, but ohterwise....
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:01:30 EST (#)
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Sorry for your loss. My old lady has Hep C, and the
treatments are basically chemotherapy.
Your friend sounds like he was a good man who got his
life in order. Again, I'm very sorry.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-12-29 18:00:27 EST (#)
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Oh...and sorry for your loss.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2005-12-29 17:58:05 EST (#)
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Why is this being posted here?
I'd -2 you because, quite frankly, this is a fucking stupid post, but I also use the "Barney Rubble - what an actor" line all the time.
From one of Shlongy's Top 10 movies of all time.
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In fact, I have used the line in some of my reviews on this site.
This should have been posted somewhere else.
Submitted by jgreening (user info) at 2005-12-29 17:49:13 EST (#)
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.....
Well...
Uh...
Shit.
Submitted by inion_de_trua (user info) at 2005-12-29 13:45:51 EST (#)
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very sorry.
Submitted by Davros (user info) at 2005-12-29 13:34:44 EST (#)
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Sucks Kenny.
If I may quote W.H.Auden...
"As poets have mournfully sung,
Death takes the innocent young.
The rolling in Money,
The screamingly funny
And those that are very well hung."
Don't know why but it always makes me feel better when I lose a friend of my own age.
-Dave
Submitted by PokeyPecker (user info) at 2005-12-27 19:26:57 EST (#)
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Sorry.
Death sucks.
Submitted by SkinnyKenny (user info) at 2005-12-27 18:55:48 EST (#)
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Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2005-12-27 18:45:13 (#)
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I am so sorry for your loss. Someone close to me is currently in a turbulent recovery/relapse cycle, and was recently diagnosed with hepatitis C as well.
I don't mean to pry, but if you don't mind, would you tell me if it was the disease that took him?
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He had finished the treatment, as I understand it. He said it was horrible. Lost more weight from that than when he was a crackhead/junkie. His wife said he was snoring really loudly the night of the 23rd, and she tried to roll him over, and eventually turned on the lights and he was turning blue and had shit running out of his mouth. He was dead by the time the ambulance arrived. Autopsy won't be performed until after the first of the year, so we don't really know hwat it was.
Great Christmas for the kids to remember, huh? Dad died on Christmas Eve morning.
Submitted by Loren1 (user info) at 2005-12-27 18:51:28 EST (#)
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I said goodbye to a friend this year too. I'm very sorry for your loss.
Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2005-12-27 18:45:13 EST (#)
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I am so sorry for your loss. Someone close to me is currently in a turbulent recovery/relapse cycle, and was recently diagnosed with hepatitis C as well.
I don't mean to pry, but if you don't mind, would you tell me if it was the disease that took him?
Submitted by c1ndy (user info) at 2005-12-27 18:28:02 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by SkinnyKenny (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:50:26 EST (#)
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Submitted by Orgasmatron (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:46:31 (#)
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"So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us, as we remember them."
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I like that. Truer words were never spoken.
Submitted by Orgasmatron (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:46:31 EST (#)
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"So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us, as we remember them."
Sorry for your loss.
Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:43:33 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by TigerLilly (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:39:45 EST (#)
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I'm so sorry Kenny.
Submitted by Maddog (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:32:04 EST (#)
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Sorry for your loss.
Karma is indeed a bitch sometimes.
Submitted by SkinnyKenny (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:30:25 EST (#)
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Submitted by MistressFist (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:18:05 (#)
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+2 for 10 yrs sobriety. Sorry to hear about this. Wishing you peace.....
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10 yrs is quite an achievement. I never made it more than 6 months and a week, but that was because I was in jail for 6 months of that time. Coolest thing was that Alan was still friends with everybody he always had been,druggies or not, and never offered a single word of condemnation regarding anyone's lifestyle, but if you came to him and wanted to help yourself, he'd do anything to help you do that.
Submitted by MistressFist (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:18:05 EST (#)
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+2 for 10 yrs sobriety. Sorry to hear about this. Wishing you peace.....
Submitted by Sassmasterr (user info) at 2005-12-27 17:12:13 EST (#)
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seemed like a good dude.