Are women sexually inhibited? (1672 hits)
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Submitted by Pragmatic (View user info) at 2006-03-23 18:54:08 EST
In regards to my last post:
http://www.ubersite.com/m/85537
It got me thinking. I constantly hear statistics about how only 30% of women can orgasm with intercourse, and how 30% never orgasm with their partner at all. Is this some physical problem that prevents us from doing so? Is it psychological? Is it chemical? Everyone knows it's harder for a woman to get off, and I'm ok with that, my problem is the seemingly huge percentage of women who don't or can't orgasm with their partners. It makes me wonder, have these women ever masturbated? Have they EVER orgasm'd?
At times in my life with some partners, I have faked an orgasm. He didn't notice it was faked. I was sick of his inept fumblings and even when I helped or offered advice, he just kept on mashing his fingers against my more delicate areas, causing me pain. It was easier to pretend so he'd leave me alone. I accept that with women it's not all about the orgasm, sometimes it's great to give your man gratification, enjoy a bit of pleasure and attention, then just curl up and snuggle for a bit. But I don't think I can understand women who don't enjoy sex at all, refuse to try new things, and can't or don't orgasm.
I was brought up in a Christian household. Sex is only after marriage and only with your husband. However, unlike Catholicism, I remember the Pastor preaching that Sex is a gift from God and we are supposed to enjoy it- but once again, only after marriage. I can never remember masturbation being discussed but I get the impression it wasn't encouraged. I can remember getting myself off for the very first time, I decided I'd never do it again because I was upsetting God. I didn't last very long before I started experimenting with different things and seeing how I could get myself off. These days, I own the usual assortment of toys, and since I have a partner that more than satisfies me, I don't need to get myself off any more, but don't really have a problem doing it if the need occurs and he's not in the general vicinity.
I started reading a book the other day called 'The Good Girls Guide To Bad Girls Sex.' I got a few pages in and realized I am already a bad girl! Apparently. I've never thought of myself as being a bad girl. Still Christian, although I'm not an ideal specimen to uphold, but I don't go around sleeping with randoms, I am always safe and have never had any diseases etc, but yet I'm a bad girl? I started wondering, how am I a bad girl? I read some posts and the likes of Mistress Fist, TigerLilly, and a few other women don't seem to be sexually inhibited in any way- surely we're the norm?
Not according to the studies. That means there are a lot of women out there that just don't enjoy sex, don't get off, and are what I would term 'repressed...' and a proportion of very unrepressed women on Uber!
So what makes me a 'Bad Girl', according to this sex therapist? I act on my fantasies. I think outside the square. I am open discussing sex and its various details with my mates. http://grouphug.us/ I read comments on here from women who fantasize about rape, or threesomes, and think it's wrong. It's perfectly natural. It's not the wanting to be raped, it is wanting to be dominated, to be demeaned, it's perfectly normal, yet these people think it's wrong, or they're sick. Or women who like anal sex, and think they're abnormal, or sick. What makes them think that? I recall a friend saying she'd never tried sex doggy-style and she never wanted to. I can't think why this would be so bad.
Are women sexually repressed? Is it psychological that we can't orgasm, or physically are we just difficult?
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Submitted by redskieslookfake (user info) at 2006-04-12 03:54:08 EDT (#)
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I also hate Girls Aloud
Submitted by redskieslookfake (user info) at 2006-04-12 03:52:02 EDT (#)
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Shallow rubbish.
Submitted by Circe (user info) at 2006-04-12 03:43:45 EDT (#)
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Submitted by Calios (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:31:34 (#)
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i refuse to give up the juice unless my partner has had at least one orgasm, hell one isn't enough,
i want her to be calling out to every god under the sun and the neighbours calling the police
because of the screams before i'm done.
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Can't.... stop... laughing.....
This is almost as desperate a cry for attention as the post itself
Jesus
I love you people. You're endlessly amusing
Submitted by Lucylou (user info) at 2006-04-11 01:10:13 EDT (#)
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Auto-Kiwi +2!
Submitted by MistressFist (user info) at 2006-03-24 12:22:10 EST (#)
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religion ruined sex thousands of years ago.
Submitted by Average_Dan (user info) at 2006-03-24 12:15:30 EST (#)
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Personally, I usually like to duct tape myself to a freezing cold metal chair, and have midgets beat me with hot flanks of beef whilst I cry like a woman. Right before I "Unleash the demons", I have one of the said midgets(or dwarves, if available) choke me in the sleeper hold until I janx in the flower pot by my bed (man those flowers look like me.) Aftarwards, I smoke a cigarette post-coidal backwards up my nose. Is that weird?
Does that make me inhibited?
Submitted by ozzy (user info) at 2006-03-24 06:06:37 EST (#)
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Urbane?
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2006-03-24 06:05:30 EST (#)
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Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:57:31 (#)
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I would amend Mr. Berty's statement to read
"Men love to place bodily fluids onto women, women do not love to have bodily fluids placed upon their person. Except Lisa."
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If they sold bottled cunt juice I would wear it as aftershave. So would most men.
Women, however, contemplate suicide if they sneeze and some of it lands on their fingers. The poor, fragile creatures.
Except the older ones who have experience with children. They are open and excited about the human form and it's excretions.
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:58:49 EST (#)
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Submitted by Calios (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:31:34 (#)
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I constantly hear statistics about how only 30% of women can orgasm with intercourse, and how 30% ne ver orgasm with their partner at all.
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Dude seriously, any real man keeps the women they are shagging in a plentiful supply of orgasms,
and should take it as a challenge if the girl has so much baggage that she 'can't' orgasm at all.
i refuse to give up the juice unless my partner has had at least one orgasm, hell one isn't enough,
i want her to be calling out to every god under the sun and the neighbours calling the police
because of the screams before i'm done. any man who gives out the 0 seconds foreplay 2 thrust squirt and snore should be ashamed.
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quit posing for the women.
you are making the rest of us look bad.
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:57:31 EST (#)
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I would amend Mr. Berty's statement to read
"Men love to place bodily fluids onto women, women do not love to have bodily fluids placed upon their person. Except Lisa."
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:49:58 EST (#)
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Men love bodily fluids, women do not. I blame feminine hygene commercials.
Submitted by Calios (user info) at 2006-03-24 05:31:34 EST (#)
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I constantly hear statistics about how only 30% of women can orgasm with intercourse, and how 30% ne ver orgasm with their partner at all.
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Dude seriously, any real man keeps the women they are shagging in a plentiful supply of orgasms,
and should take it as a challenge if the girl has so much baggage that she 'can't' orgasm at all.
i refuse to give up the juice unless my partner has had at least one orgasm, hell one isn't enough,
i want her to be calling out to every god under the sun and the neighbours calling the police
because of the screams before i'm done. any man who gives out the 0 seconds foreplay 2 thrust squirt and snore should be ashamed.
Submitted by jeveuxgagner (user info) at 2006-03-24 00:17:28 EST (#)
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have these women ever masturbated? Have they EVER orgasm'd?
Often No.
And i agree that that is sad.
You're lucky, you have a good sex life.
I've been with girls like you and i've been with girls who aren't so lucky.
Yes, women are inhibited.
That is soo obvious it doesn't need explaining.
Not all of them have slut fantasies like you do.. although i;m sure many do.
Stop boasting about your sex life, congratulations you have good sex so to half the rest of the world but we don't need to write about it. Get over yourself
Submitted by Sphagnum (user info) at 2006-03-23 23:46:23 EST (#)
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You can't orgasm because you are sleeping with Shlongy and he has a needle dick.
Submitted by Brendon (user info) at 2006-03-23 23:25:06 EST (#)
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Submitted by Lisa (user info) at 2006-03-23 22:37:30 (#)
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A lot of women are still sexually inhibited, and many through their own faults, because they buy into a conservative school of thought linking sex to shame. Even if you can't change the way they think, it doesn't matter much; they will die someday, along with their old ideals. In the meantime the only people suffering as a result of their backwardness are themselves. What do you care if some woman stuck in the fifties can't get off?
All of that is very obvious and hardly needs to be pointed out. People who don't make personal efforts to move forward deserve to be trampled by a progressive society.
Also, I don't think that enough people understand the fundamental physical differences between men and women. As far as pleasure is concerned, a clitoris is the female equivalent of a penis, not a vagina. So, while dudes are getting their dicks continuously massaged in the act of sex, a woman is lucky to get her clitoris bumped here or there. And stimulation to a G-spot alone gives a vague and indirect feeling of pleasure, like the kind you get when you rub rather than scratch an itch. So, I would argue that there's an inequity of gratification in plain and unadorned intercourse, but a sexually adept couple knows how to make up for it.
That's based on my somewhat limited experience. But according to various statistics in Cosmo, I'd guess that much of what I just said applies to a lot of women.
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hot damn, so like gratification of a sufficient competance in your statistical erogenous zones is condusive to adequately functional intercourse. thats wild.
Submitted by goferforhire (user info) at 2006-03-23 23:00:49 EST (#)
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I was going to give you a positive rating because I think all thoughtful contributions deserve one... but then I saw this...
In regards to my last post:
It got me thinking
Something about that annoyed me. Just thought I'd let you know
Submitted by Lisa (user info) at 2006-03-23 22:37:30 EST (#)
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A lot of women are still sexually inhibited, and many through their own faults, because they buy into a conservative school of thought linking sex to shame. Even if you can't change the way they think, it doesn't matter much; they will die someday, along with their old ideals. In the meantime the only people suffering as a result of their backwardness are themselves. What do you care if some woman stuck in the fifties can't get off?
All of that is very obvious and hardly needs to be pointed out. People who don't make personal efforts to move forward deserve to be trampled by a progressive society.
Also, I don't think that enough people understand the fundamental physical differences between men and women. As far as pleasure is concerned, a clitoris is the female equivalent of a penis, not a vagina. So, while dudes are getting their dicks continuously massaged in the act of sex, a woman is lucky to get her clitoris bumped here or there. And stimulation to a G-spot alone gives a vague and indirect feeling of pleasure, like the kind you get when you rub rather than scratch an itch. So, I would argue that there's an inequity of gratification in plain and unadorned intercourse, but a sexually adept couple knows how to make up for it.
That's based on my somewhat limited experience. But according to various statistics in Cosmo, I'd guess that much of what I just said applies to a lot of women.
Submitted by pragmatic (user info) at 2006-03-23 21:50:16 EST (#)
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Submitted by fading_suns (user info) at 2006-03-23 21:14:13 EST (#)
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I want to read more posts like this, only please put more description into what the 'usual assortment of toys' are. Thank you.
Submitted by Deconstruction (user info) at 2006-03-23 21:10:43 EST (#)
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Lady Jay has me so annoyed that I can't even think of an original/wordy way to tell her to kill herself.
Submitted by LadyJay (user info) at 2006-03-23 20:57:14 EST (#)
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sorry, ment 7% can have v orgasims, the other 93% are just screwed... pun intended!
Submitted by LadyJay (user info) at 2006-03-23 20:56:18 EST (#)
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7% of women can't have vaginal orgasims, gotta have other stimulus.. I agree with this post.
Submitted by Anansie (user info) at 2006-03-23 20:46:18 EST (#)
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I wish your mother had been sexually inhibited.
Submitted by williamson (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:42:15 EST (#)
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I couldn't even get to the end of reading this...
This post licks balls.
Submitted by Deconstruction (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:37:54 EST (#)
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I thank "God" every day for "creating" Sexually transmitted diseases that could possibly wipe your semen covered face from the planet.
This post, along with your existance, is complete rubbish.
Submitted by AllyJeans (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:32:12 EST (#)
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I forgot to answer the question.
Women can be inhibited, but I'm sure guys can be, too. I think it comes more from fear of whether you're doing it right, than fear of the act itself. People always want to impress, and when they get stuck worrying about their partner's pleasure, they can't relax and enjoy it themselves.
Of course guys can cum no matter what, but that's because they have to keep the species alive. It doesn't mean they are curling their toes like they should. HAHA
Submitted by pragmatic (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:25:02 EST (#)
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Well it may come across that I'm trying to be the 'bad girl' but really, I was wondering- am I 'Normal?' and what the hell is normal anyway? Are all women actually like me, I'm pretty standard really I would have thought, even perhaps more repressed than most due to upbringing.
I am constantly surprised by females attitudes to sex- some women never want to have it, others can't get enough.
and I agree with the rape comments, it's a confusing issue, but I think what i was trying, unsuccessfully, to get across, was that a rape fantasy, by a women who has never been raped, is usually about wanting to be dominated, controlled.
Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:19:26 EST (#)
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Alter or not, I'm going to indulge your question.
First of all, it's too vague a question- you're talking about half of the human population. Statistics are arbitrary at best. There's a plethora of reasons why some women are sexually frigid or are unable to enjoy sex, or various forms of it. Yes, religious upbringing, the inability to reconcile "family values" with sexual enjoyment, past experience, abuse, unskilled or uninspired partners, shame, and physical limitations can all play a part. I'm sure there's a whole handful more.
"It's not the wanting to be raped, it is wanting to be dominated, to be demeaned, it's perfectly normal, yet these people think it's wrong, or they're sick." This may be true in some cases, but have you considered some of the reasons women may fantasize about the things they do? Ever hear about how victims of rape or abuse often end up on polarized ends of the spectrum- either 1) they become afraid or tentative or uninterested or unable to participate in physicality, OR 2) they try to heal by playing out roles they once had no control over, in order to MAKE them acceptable in order to overcome their shame or stigmas? This is just one example- I'm not at all implying this is the case for everyone, or that fantasies all stem from something negative. There are lots of people with no such history that have these leanings as well. But it sounds like you haven't considered the source of at least a fraction of those feelings at all.
Physical or mental illness in many forms can also contribute to the inability to optimize sexual satisfaction.
I think self-exploration, experimentation, and acting out fantasies are all healthy and optimal. But it sounds to me like you're more interested in the opportunity to tell us about how you are a "bad girl" than you are in actually exploring the issues behind sexual inhibitions. I'll be the first to admit I leave a lot of sexually charged comments out here, but if you want to have a real discussion, you'll need to add a bit more weight to your discussion.
Submitted by AllyJeans (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:18:29 EST (#)
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Sex is like Chinese food. Once you start thinking about it, you start to crave it. Once you have it, it, it's not as good as you thought it would be. And two hours later you start wanting more.
Submitted by pragmatic (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:07:46 EST (#)
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I am not an alter!
But I guess to all the retards on here it won't make much difference what I say.
This post is a genuine question that I've been thinking about for a while.
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:01:10 EST (#)
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Way to piss off the Peener Brigade!
Submitted by matnotharry (user info) at 2006-03-23 19:00:29 EST (#)
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Sometimes i stick my finger in my ass, pull it out and scrutanise it.
This post tastes like my finger
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I'm putting my money on Jay Peg. Sick fuck.
Submitted by ruthless (user info) at 2006-03-23 18:58:13 EST (#)
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What the fuck?
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2006-03-23 18:55:07 EST (#)
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REALLY SHITTY ALTER