May life love you as it has me. (1624 hits)
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Submitted by Bigmike (View user info) at 2006-12-25 00:40:09 EST
Good morning hardcore Uberites and Happy Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanza, whatever.
No matter what holiday it is for you, I wish you peace and good fortune for the rest of the year and into the coming New Year.
I just got done wrapping the last of the Christmas presents. It is Twelve Fifteen A.M. eastern time and the sky is clear and ablaze with the stars of Christmas eve/Christmas morning. If I were to guess, Santa has had clear sailing in my part of the world this evening and all of the good little kids have an abundance of present wrapped in multi-colored Christmas paper laying under a variety of well lit living room trees.
I usually reflect during this time of year. I reflect on myself, having recently celebrated my forty sixth year upon this earth. I also reflect upon my family, which is a great way to drive yourself crazy. Take it from me, this is true.
My oldest son is fourteen now and truly growing to be a young man. The shadow of a mustache lurking upon his upper lip reminds me of just how old I have become. The way he moves on a baskeball court makes me long for his success and well being. Every time he takes an elbow to the chest or takes a charge on the court I feel it. Every time I am scared for him or feel that I need to help him get through his fears, it is hard for me to hold back, telling myself that he will truly benefit from the experience without my intervention. Can I help him grow to be a good man without alienating him with my interference in his life?
Gosh, I hope so.
My daughter is truly growing into a young lady as well. I fear for her more than the other kids because I know how hard it must be for her to grow up around other teenage girls. I cannot remember if the girls that I hung around with during those years of my life were as cruel and unfeeling as some of the girls she associates with. I cannot remember if I even paid attention to whether or not they were.
Teenage girls are much meaner to each other than boys are. I think it is because boys settle their differences physically, and the pecking order in the world of boys is defined through physical ways. Girls are way more mental in the way they choose to define their order in the world. My daughter seems up to the task though, so I don't interfere too much unless she asks for my advice.
I am a good listener for her and in return, she is a good talker for me. She will be a grown woman all too soon. I cherish the time we have now because we will never have these times back again.
And then there is my littlest boy of seven years. Having two older siblings has forced him to be introduced to an older world way before he should have been. He is a competitor though, in his seven year old world, and he still has many questions that he comes to daddy to ask. The view of the world through his eyes is a precious gem to be held and looked at with awe at its fabulous beauty.
I wish he would never grow up, ever.
He is at the perfect age when part of the world is still new, and the part that isn't has been good to him. He still makes fart jokes and revels is a game of nerf basketball. He still bugs the hell out of me to take him sledding down our hill, and he still tells the coolest little kid jokes.
I'm going to miss this little boy when he is all grown up. It makes me sad just to think about it.
So, as I sit here, presents under the tree upstairs, I am thankful for everything that my life has given me so far. As I get older, I no longer gauge my age in my own years, but the years of my children. My son can almost look me in the eye, my daughter talks about boys, my youngest tries to keep up with both of them.
This may seem like the ramblings of an old man, but I will tell you this much, when you have kids it doesn't matter if another birthday goes by for you. What matters is that your children are growing older, and wiser, and stronger, and more worldly.
That is a treasure unto itself. Something that I will live with and hold close to my heart until the day comes for me to move on.
Happy Holidays Uber. May life love you as it has me.
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Submitted by dexpaxas (user info) at 2006-12-29 08:58:56 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by munkeypants (user info) at 2006-12-28 22:33:27 EST (#)
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Happy Holidays, BigMike!!
Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2006-12-27 15:02:07 EST (#)
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word
Submitted by EatMeCompletely (user info) at 2006-12-27 14:53:40 EST (#)
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Merry belated Christmas, bigmike. Have a safe and happy New Year.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2006-12-27 13:17:22 EST (#)
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Glad it was good for you, brother.
Submitted by Snark (user info) at 2006-12-27 12:58:24 EST (#)
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Submitted by hairycoo (user info) at 2006-12-26 10:54:12 (#)
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shut the fuck up mike. you come here with your families and you love and ur sense of well being showing off your shit. noone want to read that mike. noone.
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Envy is funny and apparently illiterate.
Happy Ho Ho Mr. Mike.
Submitted by Chi_Guy (user info) at 2006-12-27 12:09:00 EST (#)
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Excellent post!
Submitted by CaptainThorns (user info) at 2006-12-27 11:43:13 EST (#)
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Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2006-12-25 11:36:45 (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2006-12-25 10:58:25 (#)
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Not for nothing but your children will ALWAYS be your little boys and girls...so quit being so sentimental.
Wait.......you have kids?
How come I didn't know this?
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You just have to know what to Google...they turn up on a search for "Herbert and Helga Spankenheimer, Jr."
Submitted by TheUniter (user info) at 2006-12-26 18:04:58 EST (#)
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Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2006-12-26 17:53:56 EST (#)
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Submitted by hairycoo (user info) at 2006-12-26 10:54:12 (#)
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shut the fuck up mike. you come here with your families and you love and ur sense of well being showing off your shit. noone want to read that mike. noone.
Sorry hairy. Didn't mean to seem like I was showing off. Just reflecting a bit is all. Just trying to be thankful for what I have I guess.
I hope your holidays are great.
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2006-12-26 12:07:31 EST (#)
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YAY! <3 this post. i've been waiting for the verification mail for so darn long...
and i can finally +2 something! greatest belated Christmas present ever. (:
Submitted by hairycoo (user info) at 2006-12-26 10:54:12 EST (#)
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shut the fuck up mike. you come here with your families and you love and ur sense of well being showing off your shit. noone want to read that mike. noone.
Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2006-12-25 19:47:11 EST (#)
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You sound like a great dad, Bigmike. And mine's the best, so I know.
My (step)nephew is 8. In fact, Aunt Sacrilicious bought him that Nerf Basketball game for Christmas. He might not be my son, but I feel the same way about how his personality is so developed and I wish he'd stay little forever.
Merry Christmas, big guy.
Submitted by ih8u2man (user info) at 2006-12-25 15:02:56 EST (#)
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Submitted by Newty (user info) at 2006-12-25 14:32:17 EST (#)
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You seem like a great dad
Submitted by Snark (user info) at 2006-12-25 13:56:08 EST (#)
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Submitted by hot_pocket (user info) at 2006-12-25 13:46:39 EST (#)
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touching
Submitted by Bigmike (user info) at 2006-12-25 11:36:45 EST (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2006-12-25 10:58:25 (#)
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Not for nothing but your children will ALWAYS be your little boys and girls...so quit being so sentimental.
Wait.......you have kids?
How come I didn't know this?
Happy Christmas Shlongman. My best to you and yours.
Submitted by Director (user info) at 2006-12-25 11:11:40 EST (#)
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Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2006-12-25 10:58:25 (#)
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Not for nothing but your children will ALWAYS be your little boys and girls...so quit being so sentimental.
Also, break out with your daughters phone number when she turns 19.
Have a great western New York holiday. I seem to remember that they usually sucked.
It's fucking pouring here today...Mrs. hlongy and I wee supposed to golf before dinner...not happening.
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Jesus Shlongy. Is nothing sacred to you? And you'd bitch about a Monday off, wouldn't you. Oh well. I still like your cantankerous ass, for what it's worth, dickface.
Merry Christmas all. Great sentiment BM.
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2006-12-25 10:58:25 EST (#)
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Not for nothing but your children will ALWAYS be your little boys and girls...so quit being so sentimental.
Also, break out with your daughters phone number when she turns 19.
Have a great western New York holiday. I seem to remember that they usually sucked.
It's fucking pouring here today...Mrs. hlongy and I wee supposed to golf before dinner...not happening.
Submitted by Davros (user info) at 2006-12-25 07:45:27 EST (#)
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I think your kids are pretty lucky to have a Father who is this cool, although they may not realise it right now, when you do the embarrassing stuff that all parents do.
Happy holidays for you and your family.
-Dave
Submitted by yhywstudios (user info) at 2006-12-25 04:02:15 EST (#)
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Submitted by supadupapupa (user info) at 2006-12-25 03:49:22 EST (#)
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My first was born last week, I'm already changed mentally...
Merry Christmas!
Submitted by BadASCII (user info) at 2006-12-25 03:47:23 EST (#)
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I hope you have a heart attack and die before next Christmas. Then your kids can post how they miss you on ubersite for a nice read.
Nothing personal, because you're great. Just would be a nice read from your kids missing you is all. Ya know?
Submitted by morontian (user info) at 2006-12-25 03:06:11 EST (#)
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Submitted by JulsInsane (user info) at 2006-12-25 02:08:15 EST (#)
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Merry Christmas Mike.
You are only 3 years younger than my own Da.
I feel like even though I am 25 he still feels very much the same way about my own trials in life as you do about your own children.
Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:56:23 EST (#)
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What's peni?
Submitted by Amontillado (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:51:25 EST (#)
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lungfish, what is your obsession with peni tonight?
Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:13:37 EST (#)
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May life love you as it has me.
Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:11:24 EST (#)
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"This may seem like the ramblings of an old man, but I will tell you this much, when you have kids it doesn't matter if another birthday goes by for you. What matters is that your children are growing older, and wiser, and stronger, and more worldly."
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I actually read it. Really.
I just got one, but yeah, she's everything to me.
Submitted by coley (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:10:45 EST (#)
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Very nice, as usual. I always enjoy your writing. :)
Submitted by Method (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:05:02 EST (#)
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Oh how I loathe you....
Submitted by Bubba2341 (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:01:25 EST (#)
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I remember being right where you are, Mike. My youngest will be 28 in February, so tonight
was spent instead telling my five year-old grandson (youngest) stories of his daddy's early
Christmases.
Judging the time and worth of your life by those you love is an excellent yardstick...
Merry Christmas.
Submitted by BranDo (user info) at 2006-12-25 01:01:13 EST (#)
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Man it's good to read some 'normal' human being with his parental thoughts around here.
By the way I can read it you should feel blessed and rich and I wish you and your loved ones a
Merry Xmas.
Here it's 07:00 CET and my night shift's over, Germany, at least where I live, turned white of frozen fog overnight so we have a kinda white christmas.
Hohoho.
Submitted by Chroniclysm (user info) at 2006-12-25 00:58:03 EST (#)
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aw old man.
Submitted by Crystle (user info) at 2006-12-25 00:50:48 EST (#)
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Just got back from my Christmas Eve with my nephews, nieces, and other assorted relatives.
This rang true.
merry Christmas!
Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2006-12-25 00:47:16 EST (#)
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Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2006-12-24 23:23:31 (#)
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Seriously, I like your writing. I'll read it tomorrow.
Still...+2 not penis.
Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2006-12-24 23:17:51 (#)
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I'm not reading all that tonight.
+2 provided there's no penis.
Sorry, it's the JD talking.
and me.