Some Advice (WARNING: First Post/Rant-ish) (2084 hits)
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Submitted by lessthanthree (View user info) at 2007-01-03 08:04:52 EST
This is my first post. Like most new users, I've been reading Uberposts since early last year, and have shared the humour, witnessed the friendships that developed, and cringed at liberal use of expletives that float around in this place. I have a problem, and really want to get some advice here, and especially from particular 'someone's here. It's okay if you have none, just don't call shennanigans on this. It's not. -.- I'll try to make this as short and sweet as possible.
I'm not very old(I'm still in school) but I have someone I really like.
Perhaps most of you here have been seventeen once, perhaps most of you here have been young enough to remember hitting the books really hard in school. Perhaps most of you are young enough still, to remember feeling scared and insecure about your future before. If you are, then you will probably know that at any schooling age, no one expects to find a soulmate to settle down with for life. It's scary enough that most of the kids around don't know what they're gonna do to earn their bread. I went steady with another girl before her and made mistakes with her. I tried to make it work, and felt thoroughly broken when it didn't, wallowed in the entirety of the failure for a year. Maybe that's why I think that I'm at least a little prepared to ask for Eternity. Because it's important enough for me to try.
We've gone through quite a bit together(for seventeen-year-olds, at least). It took us a long time to adjust our priorities and we both had to make sacrifices. Sacrifices to fit each other into our lives. To prioritise each other into the big picture of 'the rest of my life'. Or maybe we haven't achieved that yet, but we never stopped believing, and we never stopped trying. Not yet, anyway.
I guess what I really mean is that, on this journey to stay together, we never really stopped having problems. The most immediate of which is, her mum told her today that she didn't want me to be together with her. She wanted her to date someone older, which I gather means someone more mature, someone more dependable, and someone who can more probably give her a future. Her parents have never been supportive of us, but I guess this is worse. She feels more scared than ever, simply because it's scary when you're seventeen, and everyone including your parents tell you that you're just a kid, you don't know nothing, and this is not going to work out.
I'm not denying that I AM a kid in many ways too, and so is she (in more ways than I am). I'm not earning my own bread and board now. But I'm not saying that I want to run away to Alaska with her, build a freaking log cabin, buy a gun and eat deer for the rest of our lives. I'm saying that I want her to be the one I'll spend my life with. There're a lot of 'what if's and the odds are high, but I believe in it and so does she. And that's all that matters, isn't it? I won't stop trying. I will be responsible about myself, I'll get my grades right, get a good degree and get a good career. It's nothing abnormal, it's just what I believe in. What we believe in. And I won't stop trying. I don't think anyone can tell me what's important in my eyes, and I know that if i don't try for Eternity with her, I will regret it for just as long.
Maybe this is crazy, but have any of you heard of anything like that before? Lovers who lasted all the way from college? Relationships that withstood disapproval from parents and held true? What kind of advice would you give to someone you know, who was in this situation? I've read Uberposts long enough to not expect very nice replies to this, but I really want to hear some words from the heart. Thank youuu.
Shit it's been a long entry.
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Submitted by Rejection (user info) at 2007-08-21 11:15:24 EDT (#)
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Submitted by ScarfaceMN (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:12:46 EST (#)
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Don't go emo if it all goes to shit on you.
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Too late.
Submitted by RabiedRooster (user info) at 2007-08-10 09:15:39 EDT (#)
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what the fuck is with 17 year olds coming out on ubersite
Submitted by hot_pocket (user info) at 2007-01-07 12:50:54 EST (#)
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Submitted by Yougotthatright (user info) at 2007-01-05 03:52:48 (#)
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Never EVER marry a "Doughnut Holder".
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HAHAHAHAHAHA
Submitted by HurtByTheSun (user info) at 2007-01-06 14:02:19 EST (#)
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I attempted a long distance (trans-Atlantic) relationship when I was 17. At the time I thought we would last forever. I was really fucking wrong. Oh yeah, and her mother didn't like me, or want us to be together.
To sum up: you're going to have difficulties. Get drunk with your mates and have a laugh while you don't have a job/higher education/child/wife to worry about.
Submitted by homer42 (user info) at 2007-01-05 11:08:54 EST (#)
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Haha, long term AND long distance? Like you're going to seperate colleges? LOL, $5 says she's drunk getting gang banged at a frat house before her shit is unpacked. LOL.
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sorry i sound ranty in the entry. AND wordy. i don't mean to say that my problems are really big or anything, i really wanted to ask how people thought about the notion of relationships surviving long-term, and maybe long-distance. that's all.
i don't expect sympathy. it was seriously not my point. "
Submitted by homer42 (user info) at 2007-01-05 11:02:08 EST (#)
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Yea those are the one's that got married like retards at 22 and then did the sensible thing and got divorced at 25.
"overs who lasted all the way from college? Relationships that withstood disapproval from parents and held true? What kind of advice would you give to someone you know, who was in this situation? "
Here's the only advice you need. Stop being such a retard - you have a long way to go. Until you're much MUCH older just worry about banging as many chicks as you can and don't get tied down. Never trust women. Good luck.
Submitted by Yougotthatright (user info) at 2007-01-05 03:52:48 EST (#)
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Never EVER marry a "Doughnut Holder".
Submitted by Flying_buttmonkey (user info) at 2007-01-05 03:16:38 EST (#)
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I think you're putting too much thought into it. If it happens, then it happens and was meant to be. If it doesn't then at least you've spent some good, relaxed, fun years with some bird you seem to like a lot.
My parents got together when they were 15 so I know it does happen, but at the same time you ARE young and you've got a lot of life ahead of you to make decisions like this. You're making your own youth more angsty than it needs to be, just calm down. If you turn it into some major issue then it won't work out and the time you DID spend together will be nothing but a stomach-sinking memory.
+2 to counteract all those ugly -2s but you really shouldn't have put 'first post' in the title and this is a bit waa waa for uber.
Submitted by EchoBoxing (user info) at 2007-01-05 01:23:38 EST (#)
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i know who you are
Submitted by Unabonger (user info) at 2007-01-04 20:45:36 EST (#)
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you've been here long enough to know what shenannys are but you don't know not to include 'first post' in your first post?
horseshit.
But if it's genuine, hell...I'm drunk and high enough to give you a from the heart response:
First off, when you refer to her being more of a child than you are, how thoughtful and loving that statement was. Maybe you're too young to know any better? Too young to have a proper perspective on other's maturity? Too young to hold humility in your personality? Whatever the case may be, if you still see her as inferior to you is this really someone you want to spend 'eternity' with? What if she never grows up? What if you never grow up to look past that?
Secondly...if things don't work out between you two or you decide to call it quits for any reason, you're going to fall in love with someone else. When that happens, you're going to feel the same way about 'eternity' with your next loved one. Anytime you love someone there's those times where you're so blinded as to believe there's an eternal possibility with the object of your affection. My advice, then, would be to judge the relationship on how it's been through the really bad times. At 17 it's hard to have too many hard times to work through. I doubt you have financial responsibilities right now. You both probably have your parents to depend on. Regardless, it's when your very livelihood is in danger when you realize what serious strain is in store for your relationship. When you're both worried about your next meal or when some crisis hits and you both argue and go crazy, how you both handle that is the definition of a strong relationship. It's easy when the goings are easy.
Lastly, men and women alike have the basic desire to get a serious influx of sex in the years you're stepping into. Is it strong enough to survive? Even if you're strong enough to keep yourself monogamous, is she? Or, more importantly, do YOU believe she is? Cause all it takes is one shred of doubt to kill a relationship. Trust me, bro, you don't want to go down that path.
My advice is to move in together. If you survive, and she lets you put it in her butt, I say go for it. Engage her. You can always wait ten years for a marriage.
Sage advice: "No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her shit."
Submitted by sicosemen (user info) at 2007-01-04 19:57:51 EST (#)
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I call Bret on this post. I also say that you are a faggot.
Submitted by whiskey_jack (user info) at 2007-01-04 17:48:59 EST (#)
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Damn youngins. Hell I'm not much older but even I wasn't this wussy and naive when I was 17. And if you're so worried about what others think about your relationship then it must not mean that much to you deep down. Either way why not grow a pair and do what you feel is right.
P.S. I don't know why you want to be with her. I fucked her and she was crap. Total starfish.
Submitted by Chillax (user info) at 2007-01-04 12:21:44 EST (#)
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If she lets you put it in her butt, she's a keeper.
You can only stay with her if she's a keeper.
Do the maths.
Submitted by orph (user info) at 2007-01-04 09:26:26 EST (#)
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first post in title? auto -2
Submitted by cshape (user info) at 2007-01-04 09:22:06 EST (#)
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From my personal experience with long term teenage relationships:
GET OUT NOW!
Submitted by cshape (user info) at 2007-01-04 09:17:47 EST (#)
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"Maybe this is crazy, but have any of you heard of anything like that before? Lovers who lasted all the way from college?"
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What crazy, fucked up, degenerate world do you live in?
Submitted by Adamdidit2u (user info) at 2007-01-04 09:09:42 EST (#)
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Submitted by SilentRenegade (user info) at 2007-01-03 19:10:49 (#)
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Dude....you're 17...you don't know the meaning of love. I didn't learn anything about myself or the type of girl i wanted to be with until i was midway through college. Live on your own for awhile and you will really learn what life( i say life as in not having your parents PAY FOR ANYTHING)is all about. You have no idea what life is. YOu will learn but not right now...it's too soon.
Take a look...take a good long look at this freaking post. THINK ABOUT IT...you are asking for love advice on the most vicious and ego destroying website in the history of the internet(I love Uber...yaaaay Uber). Not the right place, myspace and buddypic is for that shit...
Take a look...take a good look at the REVIEWS 98% of the people rating you are saying it's not worth your trouble and YET YOU ARE RESISTING THEIR WORDS!!!! Don't ask for advice if you IF YOU AREN'T GOING TO RECIEVE IT! A total of maybe like 2 people say good on you. Those people AREN'T REAL, THEY ARE ILLUSIONS!!! However you're pubescent adolescent mind likes to think in fantasy. The world after parental observation is intolerant to stupid people which is the road you are joyously trapesing down.
When you get to college (if you go) you will realize that the things you find so important have no meaning in the real world. Just like having that Barbie doll with you wherever you go was important when you were three. Or how having the Superwoman lunchbox was so important when you were seven. Just like using the men's room instead of having your mommy hold your hand was important to you when you were thirteen...GET OVER IT....fucking emo.....
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I didn't get married until I was 24 and well clear of college. It's true. You have no idea what life is yet. You think you do, but I promise that a few years you'll look back at yourself and think "what a dumbass I was".
Besides, by locking it down now you're passing up all that wonderful college pussy, and let me tell you friend, they're handing that shit out aroud there.
Submitted by locksly (user info) at 2007-01-04 07:20:04 EST (#)
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Go for it you will be happy forever
Submitted by coley (user info) at 2007-01-04 01:18:31 EST (#)
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I hate to say it but people's parents are often right.
Listen to Merlina, jade, etc.
Don't plan on/count on anything. See what happens; take care of you.
Submitted by phauna (user info) at 2007-01-03 21:18:33 EST (#)
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You don't know much, but by hell you semm to believe it.
Try this game if you're bored:
www.lost.eu/13f4f
Submitted by Phallic_Cymbals (user info) at 2007-01-03 21:17:26 EST (#)
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Submitted by SilentRenegade (user info) at 2007-01-03 19:10:49 (#)
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Dude....you're 17...you don't know the meaning of love. I didn't learn anything about myself or the type of girl i wanted to be with until i was midway through college
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Hahahahahahahha.
Submitted by Impassive-Digressive (user info) at 2007-01-03 20:46:14 EST (#)
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Submitted by SilentRenegade (user info) at 2007-01-03 19:10:49 (#)
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Dude....you're 17...you don't know the meaning of love. I didn't learn anything about myself or the type of girl i wanted to be with until i was midway through college.
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This comment alone made me laugh enough that I can't -2 your entry.
Submitted by TheUniter (user info) at 2007-01-03 20:33:04 EST (#)
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Submitted by SilentRenegade (user info) at 2007-01-03 19:10:49 EST (#)
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Dude....you're 17...you don't know the meaning of love. I didn't learn anything about myself or the type of girl i wanted to be with until i was midway through college. Live on your own for awhile and you will really learn what life( i say life as in not having your parents PAY FOR ANYTHING)is all about. You have no idea what life is. YOu will learn but not right now...it's too soon.
Take a look...take a good long look at this freaking post. THINK ABOUT IT...you are asking for love advice on the most vicious and ego destroying website in the history of the internet(I love Uber...yaaaay Uber). Not the right place, myspace and buddypic is for that shit...
Take a look...take a good look at the REVIEWS 98% of the people rating you are saying it's not worth your trouble and YET YOU ARE RESISTING THEIR WORDS!!!! Don't ask for advice if you IF YOU AREN'T GOING TO RECIEVE IT! A total of maybe like 2 people say good on you. Those people AREN'T REAL, THEY ARE ILLUSIONS!!! However you're pubescent adolescent mind likes to think in fantasy. The world after parental observation is intolerant to stupid people which is the road you are joyously trapesing down.
When you get to college (if you go) you will realize that the things you find so important have no meaning in the real world. Just like having that Barbie doll with you wherever you go was important when you were three. Or how having the Superwoman lunchbox was so important when you were seven. Just like using the men's room instead of having your mommy hold your hand was important to you when you were thirteen...GET OVER IT....fucking emo.....
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2007-01-03 17:34:35 EST (#)
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Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:35:10 (#)
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She'll be bored of you by the time you're 21, resent you for taking away her party girl time even though she doesn't know what it is, and be lying there getting pumped by some other dude on your couch while you're out slaving away to keep the bills paid.
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Monty's right.
Oh, and you've been here long enough to know better than say 'first post'.
Submitted by Bushy (user info) at 2007-01-03 16:05:12 EST (#)
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talk about over thinking shit.
try and grow up, and by try i mean wait for it to happen. i know i'm still waiting.
fuck this, i as only going to minus one you, but this is just ergh, i feel sick.
Submitted by Comfortably_Numb (user info) at 2007-01-03 15:45:33 EST (#)
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Eh, enjoy it while your relationship while it lasts. The girl I was pretty serious with in high school turned into a major whore in college.
Submitted by ilikesteak (user info) at 2007-01-03 15:33:26 EST (#)
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You can just fuck off and go die then.
Submitted by zajebisty (user info) at 2007-01-03 14:47:54 EST (#)
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To put effort into any relationship, a few key things have to be in place despite age. Trust, and sex.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2007-01-03 14:40:24 EST (#)
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jade has a point
It would have killed me to admit at the time, but dad was right about that guy I was dating in high school. I hate when that happens.
Submitted by hot_pocket (user info) at 2007-01-03 14:10:28 EST (#)
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i got as far as 'im 17 and i have relationsip problems, oh noessss, pls hlp!!!111!!" and clicked off to read some apw's. dont post this here, its never well received
Submitted by apollo88 (user info) at 2007-01-03 14:08:14 EST (#)
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this is like The O.C but with ugly people.
Submitted by jade_digitalmedia (user info) at 2007-01-03 14:02:02 EST (#)
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i think back when i was 17 and who i was dating (of which my parents didn't approve) i would be a very unhappy girl if i had married that boy, however; i'm sure it's dif't for everyone and truly no one should let parents get in the way of a relationship. if i had listened to my parents i would be married to some lawyer, going to brunch, raising two children and contemplating killing myself everynight.
Submitted by loki (user info) at 2007-01-03 13:41:27 EST (#)
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vicious crowd
I would say that a bigger issue here is why her parents are so worried about their kid dating someone more mature who is in a position to take care of her. What are they doing, intentionally trying to raise a gold digger who can't take care of herself? This is why you (and I don't mean you I mean 'you understood') should live on your own for a while before getting married.
That and according to whatever study it was that I read in the paper a few days ago, your brain is still formatting itself.
that time I did mean 'you' and not 'you understood'
Submitted by Amontillado (user info) at 2007-01-03 13:30:22 EST (#)
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Me=confused. How old is she?
I've known many a person who's have married someone they've been dating since high school or college.
Submitted by Targa (user info) at 2007-01-03 12:31:56 EST (#)
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Perhaps I skipped the 17th year of my life?
Submitted by Orgasmatron (user info) at 2007-01-03 12:05:09 EST (#)
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What would you do if there were no obstacles in front of you? No opinionated parents, no four years at college hanging over your heads? Don't focus on the challenges you're facing, and rallying against them because they're there. Overcoming the odds for the sake of overcoming them doesn't mean you're going to come out clean on the other side.
Focus on what you would do without all that - what your undistracted hearts would say, as it were - and move forward from there.
Oh and you're young, you don't know anything, and it's not going to work out.
[insert your choice of firstpost hate poem here]
Submitted by thorpe (user info) at 2007-01-03 12:03:49 EST (#)
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Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:16:54 (#)
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And for her:
Ditch this blubbering vagina and call Shlongy the day you turn 18.
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ahahaha
Submitted by hour_man (user info) at 2007-01-03 12:02:32 EST (#)
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Submitted by rorrim (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:20:40 (#)
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Submitted by hour_man (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:05:07 (#)
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Can you spell 'Alter'?
Hang on you won't get that...lets see
Cn u spl 4lt3r?
Kan u spell 'Personalite change?' . Mariage is changing u . Significantly .
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Engagement is different from marriage, and this is an alter :)
Submitted by jfreakman (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:21:20 EST (#)
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And that WAS supposed to be a +2, but whatever.
Submitted by rorrim (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:20:40 EST (#)
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Submitted by hour_man (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:05:07 (#)
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Can you spell 'Alter'?
Hang on you won't get that...lets see
Cn u spl 4lt3r?
Kan u spell 'Personalite change?' . Mariage is changing u . Significantly .
Submitted by jfreakman (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:20:29 EST (#)
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Roll up everything that Merlina and goatboy said, pack it into a nice tiny bowl, sprinkle liberally with all the misanthrope's opinions, and you have my opinion.
Yes, it is possible that you guys will end up together. It's not probable, but it is possible. Being 17 doesn't necessarily mean that relationship will end badly or even end at all. And if you say that you love her (or are in love with her, there's a difference there bud) then i believe you. Basically, if it's still working, then go with it.
However, at that time in your life, you still need to get out there and see what else there is. How do you really know what you want unless you know what you don't want.
welcome, noob. (from another noob, of course). Now prepare for the shitstorm that will haunt you for the rest of your life. You'll rue the day you ever signed up.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:05:18 EST (#)
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Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:35:10 (#)
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She'll be bored of you by the time you're 21, resent you for taking away her party girl time even though she doesn't know what it is, and be lying there getting pumped by some other dude on your couch while you're out slaving away to keep the bills paid.
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This man sees his own future.
Submitted by hour_man (user info) at 2007-01-03 11:05:07 EST (#)
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Can you spell 'Alter'?
Hang on you won't get that...lets see
Cn u spl 4lt3r?
Submitted by Gunslinger (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:57:54 EST (#)
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really want to get some advice here, and especially from particular 'someone's here
That's Maltese you're looking for, isn't it? I totally guessed it.
Anyway, my advice would be to just go smoke a bowl. You'll feel better and that's what you need right now.
Submitted by matrix2681 (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:36:14 EST (#)
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Well, the one thing I notice is that while you ask for advice, you basically pigeonhole yourself into a place where you won't take any. The first thing I would say is: don't be so sure you're right. This goes for anything in life--there's always a chance you're wrong so try to keep an open mind.
I've been exactly where you are. There was a girl that I started seeing when I was 17 and continued seeing until I turned 20. We finally broke up because of a very simple reason, which is that people continue changing until they turn about 25 or so. Originally things were great, but we both changed and became unable to work with what we'd become.
What I'm saying is that starting something at 17 is not the wisest thing. You even said yourself, you can't support her or any family you might have at this point. Here you're putting the cart before the horse.
The best advice I can give is to just stop pursuing things with this girl. Trust me when I say there WILL be others, and as strong as you feel toward this one, age will temper your feelings so the one you find when you're ready, you'll feel 10 times more feeling toward. Focus on your life, get school done, get college done (if you want to go), get a good job where you can put some career roots down, and then start thinking about marriage. I know it'll be one of the hardest things you ever do if you pull this off, but eventually you'll be glad you did. Email me if you need to talk some more.
Submitted by GodChicken (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:35:10 EST (#)
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She'll be bored of you by the time you're 21, resent you for taking away her party girl time even though she doesn't know what it is, and be lying there getting pumped by some other dude on your couch while you're out slaving away to keep the bills paid.
Stay the fuck away from marriage and any sort of formal committment until you're 23 or 24. You both have a lot of growing up to do and your interests, tastes in fashion, food, and everything else is going to change. Likely you will not even be friends with the same people in 5 years. Only a few hold over.
You will not fully develop into the person you're going to be for the rest of your life for several more years. Don't fuck it up.
Submitted by congo (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:29:54 EST (#)
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Oh, Lord. I imagine this is what Dawson's Creek is like.
Submitted by inion_de_trua (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:26:17 EST (#)
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you are 17. a long distance relationship will probably not work. when i say probably i mean the snowball chance in hell probability. that's about it. don't get married before you finish some sort of college either. gets harder to go back.
sounds like her parents are cunts, but you really can't take care of her anyway.
other than that, don't post any more.
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:20:32 EST (#)
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Submitted by dexpaxas (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:16:58 (#)
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I'm 29. I met my wife when I was 17. We went out for 5 years before getting married. Now we've been together almost 12 years. We've got 2 kids ages 2 and 5. I work for a medical supply company making a decent living. We've got a nice place to live and a mini-van. My kids are my life and my wife is the icing on the cake. She's the right one for me. I can't tell you if your 'she' is the right one for you, but I do remember being 17 and not being sure of anything. No one here can give you advice because your life has millions of variables that make it different from our own. Don't let my choice (which incidentally has made my life awesome) influence yours. Who knows, maybe a year from now I'll walk in on my wife with another woman...or a big black dude. That certainly would change my tune in a reply of this nature wouldn't it? Oh and I almost forgot. Fuck. (can't forget the unnecessary expletive.)
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thanks.
Fuck. (can't forget the unnecessary expletive.)""
LOL
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:18:29 EST (#)
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Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:12:22 (#)
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Submitted by Axolotl (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:22 (#)
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I'm 16.
Fuck you.
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You see him whining about "love"? No.
Cause it doesn't matter at that age.
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i understand. you're right too.
you know, at this point i'm really sorry that i didn't just post that question on the last paragraph. it's stupid to write it like it's some story, i know now. so hour_man is right too. so kill me.
i don't mind the ratings nor the insults, because i'll really be a loser if i let that affect me. i apologise AGAIN for my ugly writing, but seriously i just wanted opinions about long-distance or long-term relationships.
it's nice to hear real opinions from people, thank you.
Submitted by dexpaxas (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:16:58 EST (#)
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I'm 29. I met my wife when I was 17. We went out for 5 years before getting married. Now we've been together almost 12 years. We've got 2 kids ages 2 and 5. I work for a medical supply company making a decent living. We've got a nice place to live and a mini-van. My kids are my life and my wife is the icing on the cake. She's the right one for me. I can't tell you if your 'she' is the right one for you, but I do remember being 17 and not being sure of anything. No one here can give you advice because your life has millions of variables that make it different from our own. Don't let my choice (which incidentally has made my life awesome) influence yours. Who knows, maybe a year from now I'll walk in on my wife with another woman...or a big black dude. That certainly would change my tune in a reply of this nature wouldn't it? Oh and I almost forgot. Fuck. (can't forget the unnecessary expletive.)
Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:12:22 EST (#)
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Submitted by Axolotl (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:22 (#)
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I'm 16.
Fuck you.
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You see him whining about "love"? No.
Cause it doesn't matter at that age.
Submitted by JulsInsane (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:11:42 EST (#)
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"The most immediate of which is, her mum told her today that she didn't want me to be together with her. She wanted her to date someone older, which I gather means someone more mature, someone more dependable, and someone who can more probably give her a future."
I doubt her mother is worried about her finding someone to give her a future, I think she is more concerned that she will end up knocked up and married to you before 20 and living in a doublewide with the wheels removed.
The greatest thing about guys your age who become so enamored with a woman is that when this chick eventually dumps you, you will fuck everything within 4 feet of you in college.
Good luck with that!
Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2007-01-03 10:01:47 EST (#)
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Submitted by Axolotl (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:22 (#)
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I'm 16.
Fuck you.
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What?
Submitted by hour_man (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:58:29 EST (#)
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Submitted by Axolotl (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:22 (#)
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I'm 16.
Fuck you.
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yeah he knows way more....wait...what?
Submitted by Axolotl (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:22 EST (#)
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I'm 16.
Fuck you.
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:20 EST (#)
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Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:51:30 (#)
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Now that I read it...that didn't come out the way I wanted to say it. Fuck it, you get the point!
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Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:50:11 (#)
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Merlina is right. It doesn't really matter what you do in life. Everyone has their own paths to take. Do what makes you happy
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yeah i do. there's not really a sure way to tell if things will work out, it depends on how we make the best out of the situation. if it really is the best we can do, there's no regrets.
Submitted by indoninja (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:54:10 EST (#)
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Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:14:03 (#)
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Seventeen, huh?
wordly and wise, this one is. You're "problems" aren't worth noting. Let me know when you have 3 kids at 24 and can't afford to feed them. That's a problem. This is teenage bullshit.
Stop posting here. Go back to Myspace.
Submitted by DrogoRoch (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:53:36 EST (#)
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My advice may not be worth very much but here it is.
You are still young. 17 is a great time and you should be living it without the fear of what you are going to be when you grow up, or who you will end up with.
You can still have a great time whilst you study hard to get good grades leading to better career prospects, unless you are anally retentive which I dont think you are.
The main thing is that if you both love each other then you will stick with each other. Love isn't something you should ever have to force. Either it will work or it wont. The main thing is that the time you do spend together is fun time rather than worrying about what may be or what people think.
Enjoy chap.
(p.s if you ask this again when you're 30 you will get a -2)
Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:51:30 EST (#)
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Now that I read it...that didn't come out the way I wanted to say it. Fuck it, you get the point!
Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:50:11 EST (#)
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Merlina is right. It doesn't really matter what you do in life. Everyone has their own paths to take. Do what makes you happy.
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:40:04 EST (#)
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Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:35:06 (#)
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Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:28:11 (#)
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thank you, i don't really have anything to contribute, but it's nice to hear from your experiences. i understand what you mean about 'getting on with life on your own', but do you think the experience of living the years from 16 to 35 adds to the life as well?
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Oh of course, it all adds up to who you are. In fact in those years its where you learn the most and I think it's healthy to know what YOU would do in certain situations without having to consult a partner. You can have that when you're older.
But maybe thats just me.
Be happy, thats what matters.
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okay, i realise that my prev comment didn't really answer what you WERE saying. okayyy got it. it sort of ties in with what drgoat said about things people miss out on by trying to stick to a relationship too early.
eh... thanks again.
Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:35:06 EST (#)
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Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:28:11 (#)
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thank you, i don't really have anything to contribute, but it's nice to hear from your experiences. i understand what you mean about 'getting on with life on your own', but do you think the experience of living the years from 16 to 35 adds to the life as well?
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Oh of course, it all adds up to who you are. In fact in those years its where you learn the most and I think it's healthy to know what YOU would do in certain situations without having to consult a partner. You can have that when you're older.
But maybe thats just me.
Be happy, thats what matters.
Submitted by ripple (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:32:33 EST (#)
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hhhheeeaaaatttt
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:28:11 EST (#)
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Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:14:54 (#)
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Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:07:16 (#)
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I've been with my fiance since we were seniors in high school. We made 6 years together this past October. Relationships can last from high school. It's just hard to make them work considering all the things that you "think" you're missing out on.
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Of course they can work. I don't disagree with that.
I just disagree with people who grab relationships at such a young age. Most people change slowly up until they're about 30. Then you start getting more set in your ways. You probably won't be the same person with the same needs when you are 35 as to when you were 16.
I was just saying in my opinion you need to get on with life on your own as an adult sometimes - you learn more.
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thank you, i don't really have anything to contribute, but it's nice to hear from your experiences. i understand what you mean about 'getting on with life on your own', but do you think the experience of living the years from 16 to 35 adds to the life as well?
i don't know, maybe personalities may change but some things remain valued because devotion etcetc is rare to find. perhaps after a while it's the common history of roughing the tough times that stick it. does it work like that?
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:24:57 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Go fuck yourself.
Submitted by hour_man (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:20:12 EST (#)
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Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:17:40 (#)
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that's true. and, i don't expect sympathy. just opinions on how this will probably turn out? but thanks anw.
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I would have left this had you not abreviated such a short word so God damned patheticaly.
Everyone has problems, but being that you're 17 you're lame enough to grow your hair (side parting) paint your nails and get into anything prior 1980 (whilst not leaving out your 'new' scr-emo, deathcore post rock pre music grind techno jive emo core). Then abreviate your name. 'Cunt' is a good option.
Also women LOVE, and I mean LOVE, it when you describe problems including them over the net. They adore it, it makes you seem mature and cool, especially at such a warm and loving place like uber.
Fucking idiot.
Submitted by mynameisandy (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:19:19 EST (#)
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At this age, I recommend you spend your time dating, fucking, stalking, and/or raping as many girls as you can.
Although, there is an up side to having a steady, longterm girlfriend at 17. You learn about relationships. What you'll want in a future girlfriend, and what you want to avoid. If she's not a total dick, you'll get regular sex too. You'll need this practice for adult life, cos if you've only ever fucked one girl for ten years, then you're going to suck in bed.
I suggest a combination of the two. Have a long term girlfriend, and fuck as many girls behind her back as you can.
By the time you get to about 25, you should have a pretty good idea about what kind of woman you want to own.
I'm in a super mood today, so have a +1
Submitted by Mike-Mc (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:15:50 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:14:54 EST (#)
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Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:07:16 (#)
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I've been with my fiance since we were seniors in high school. We made 6 years together this past October. Relationships can last from high school. It's just hard to make them work considering all the things that you "think" you're missing out on.
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Of course they can work. I don't disagree with that.
I just disagree with people who grab relationships at such a young age. Most people change slowly up until they're about 30. Then you start getting more set in your ways. You probably won't be the same person with the same needs when you are 35 as to when you were 16.
I was just saying in my opinion you need to get on with life on your own as an adult sometimes - you learn more.
Submitted by drgoatcabin (user info) at 2007-01-03 09:07:16 EST (#)
Ranking: 2
I've been with my fiance since we were seniors in high school. We made 6 years together this past October. Relationships can last from high school. It's just hard to make them work considering all the things that you "think" you're missing out on.
Submitted by Merlina (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:59:36 EST (#)
Ranking: 1
I'm saying that I want her to be the one I'll spend my life with""
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this is going to sound REALLY patronising but... in my opinion at seventeen you are too young to make a decision about who will be your life partner.
I met mine when I was 32. But y'know, before that I wasn't sitting waiting to meet anyone. In fact I totally avoided it because I was enjoying travelling, studying, reading, having fun with friends etc.
Just my opinion though.
Welcome to Uber
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:57:24 EST (#)
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Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:29:12 (#)
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Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:14:03 (#)
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Seventeen, huh?
wordly and wise, this one is. You're "problems" aren't worth noting. Let me know when you have 3 kids at 24 and can't afford to feed them. That's a problem. This is teenage bullshit.
Stop posting here. Go back to Myspace.
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you haven't seen problems yet, son. i know it seems like life is rough at your age, but trust me, it gets a lot worse when you grow up and have REAL problems to deal with.
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sorry i sound ranty in the entry. AND wordy. i don't mean to say that my problems are really big or anything, i really wanted to ask how people thought about the notion of relationships surviving long-term, and maybe long-distance. that's all.
i don't expect sympathy. it was seriously not my point.
Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:29:12 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:14:03 (#)
Ranking: -2
Seventeen, huh?
wordly and wise, this one is. You're "problems" aren't worth noting. Let me know when you have 3 kids at 24 and can't afford to feed them. That's a problem. This is teenage bullshit.
Stop posting here. Go back to Myspace.
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you haven't seen problems yet, son. i know it seems like life is rough at your age, but trust me, it gets a lot worse when you grow up and have REAL problems to deal with.
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:27:36 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
you are a total fucking alter nice try idiot go listen to some more group x
Submitted by Beano312003 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:26:17 EST (#)
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Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:21:16 (#)
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is she cute?
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what he means is are her Tits big?
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:24:56 EST (#)
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Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:20:54 (#)
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Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:18:26 (#)
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seriously, is that even necessary, hadley? -.-
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yes, yes it is.
Buck up, sport, life gets way fucking worse from here.
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Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:21:41 EST (#)
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I guess what Im trying to say is ditch her, go out and live your life, and give her my number.
Submitted by rad1101 (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:21:16 EST (#)
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is she cute?
Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:20:54 EST (#)
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Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:18:26 (#)
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seriously, is that even necessary, hadley? -.-
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yes, yes it is.
Buck up, sport, life gets way fucking worse from here.
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:18:26 EST (#)
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seriously, is that even necessary, hadley? -.-
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:17:40 EST (#)
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that's true. and, i don't expect sympathy. just opinions on how this will probably turn out? but thanks anw.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:16:54 EST (#)
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And for her:
Ditch this blubbering vagina and call Shlongy the day you turn 18.
Submitted by HadToBeDone (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:16:00 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
You're 17.
You know nothing.
About anything.
Submitted by Foolproof (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:14:03 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
Seventeen, huh?
wordly and wise, this one is. You're "problems" aren't worth noting. Let me know when you have 3 kids at 24 and can't afford to feed them. That's a problem. This is teenage bullshit.
Stop posting here. Go back to Myspace.
Submitted by redskieslookfake (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:13:20 EST (#)
Ranking: -2
it doesn't work.
Submitted by ScarfaceMN (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:12:46 EST (#)
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Okay, kid, here's the deal:
Most relationships in high school don't last.
Most relationships where parents or friends are very resistant don't last.
Most doean't mean all.
Don't go emo if it all goes to shit on you. But if you do, post here regularly with bad poetry or prose of the "woe is me" style. I like venting here, it means less closets in my house are taken up by hobo corpses.
Submitted by azurefroz (user info) at 2007-01-03 08:08:36 EST (#)
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Sigh I'm beginning to think this is a bad idea. She may be reading this, so if you do happen to have advice or words-of-truth/encouragement just direct it to her directly.
any insults/sarcasm can go to me, so i know it's a bad idea. -.-