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If You Were A Non smoker – Would A Smoker turn you Off?

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-02-28 21:10:53 EST
Rating: 1.13 on 84 ratings (84 reviews) (Review this item) (V)

If the most beautiful man/woman approached you in a club was a smoker and you weren’t, would it disgust you? Similarly, if you were a smoker and you saw a guy/girl light up......would you feel a little more likely to approach them? I say this because in my new job a woman approached me and was almost relieved to know I smoke... she liked me for it..? And claimed ‘we were a dying breed’. It made me want to give up, to be honest.

Does it bother you if your potential lover/life partner/fiancée does something out of the box? Such as (like footballers) hold one nostril closed and snorts out of the other onto the ground? That for me is far beyond a ‘red card’. It’s a sackable offence.

Or he/she shows such grave ignorance that you question whether you really want to show then off to your family in fear of them saying something hideous or embarrassing? Does that matter?

It does, of course it does.

I’m thinking back to an old situation when I was dating a very posh guy and he took me to meet his family.. they were very nice, but...well, I am very clumsy and it wasn’t something that they tolerated, I spilt stuff on their white carpet..........

They hated.

I left.

Ahh well

My turn for hate. I dated this guy in the early nineties, he was sweet but he had a habit of following me around. Everywhere. I met him and my best friend Peter on the way home from work. They come back to my (admittedly tiny) apartment. My friend sat on the sofa – he knew I needed to get washed and changed – he knew me. My ‘boyfriend’ was in my face. Picture the scene – my apartment...I went into the bathroom and locked the door – he got a knife and opened it from the outside and handed me a cup of tea. Cute to some – to me it was not. He was history soon after.

I am the happiest woman in the world - that I am with someone that I know is there for the long haul. Relationships are a bugger.

I shudder to think of the whole 'getting to know' people thing as and could not do it again.

Another question:

If you met someone wonderful...perfect... and they went to church and you were an atheist – could you cope? Would you try and detract them from church? Would you change your religion?

I have a male English friend who changed religion to be a Muslim to marry his Indian girlfriend. Isn’t that wrong?

I mean in the sense that you are not ‘becoming a Muslim’ because you want to be - but because you want to marry. Surely religion is personal...

Life is a constant question for me. I have millions but I guess this’ll do for now.


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Submitted by JonnyX at 2009-03-20 03:27:03 EDT (#)
Rating: 2

NICE PIC

Submitted by derGast at 2009-03-11 05:25:33 EDT (#)
Rating: 0

I once went on a blind date and it turned out she was a smoker. I proceeded to put her in a chokehold, waited patiently until she went unconscious, then I dragged her to the nearest dumpster, undressed her, threw her in there and closed the lid. I then sat on it for exactly 50 hours, 34 minutes and 3 seconds.

Submitted by Berty at 2009-03-09 05:23:22 EDT (#)
Rating: 2

The question is interesting not for its anwers, but in the mentality behind them. Happy the person who is able to have so much choice in their sexual and emotional partner as to be able to specify their habits.

That is to say that there are many that do feel a range of choice and many who do not, although whether or not reality plays a role in creating this perception could be a matter for some debate. The very fact that there are man and women who scour this manner of survey, searching for fundamental data upon which to build their entire personality and lifestyle, is indicative of that desperate drive to find love and acceptabilty amongst some.

There are no right or wrong answers; the cretin who destroys any hope for companionship by discarding partners following unfavourable comparison to unmatchable criteria is no worse than the creature who cares naught for whom their significant other as long as they are there. Both are equally wretched and doomed.

Submitted by munkeypants at 2009-03-05 07:46:02 EST (#)
Rating: 2

+2 because I like the picture and just because it's you.

Submitted by YourNameHere at 2009-03-04 22:09:10 EST (#)
Rating: -2

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-03-04 17:55:31 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by Brdn_Nkd (user info) at 2009-03-04 17:14:37 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

hi.

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hi hon

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-03-04 17:46:56 EST (#)
Rating: 0

please excuse the obsession with orgasmatron but he is so gorgeous... can't help it..

*shakes head to clear*

okay I'm alright now.

Submitted by Brdn_Nkd at 2009-03-04 17:14:37 EST (#)
Rating: 2

hi.




interesting to read, the post and the reviews.


Submitted by Merlina at 2009-03-04 16:36:50 EST (#)
Rating: 0

perfection..

puuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrr...

Submitted by Orgasmatron at 2009-03-04 15:54:20 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I'm a Gemini. That means that there's a chance two of me will show up that day.

Lucky you.

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-03-04 15:52:46 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by Orgasmatron (user info) at 2009-03-04 15:26:58 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Tell me when your birthday is so that I may ship myself, sprinkle-dipped and bearing ice cream, to you for the occasion.
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28th July(am a Leo, of course)

*faint with lust*

Submitted by Orgasmatron at 2009-03-04 15:26:58 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Tell me when your birthday is so that I may ship myself, sprinkle-dipped and bearing ice cream, to you for the occasion.

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-03-04 15:02:10 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by Flying_buttmonkey (user info) at 2009-03-04 07:35:13 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Thought provoking post Jules, once again. Nice to see you posting again :)
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thanks sweetpea..

that's my aim most of the time.

Submitted by Flying_buttmonkey at 2009-03-04 07:35:13 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I know this is going to sound terribly like I've taken up residence on the wall, but if someone's really heavily into something but keep it to themselves then I can't imagine anything would really put me off. I mean if they were secretly baby eaters but didn't harp on about it then THAT would still be a deal breaker but religion, smoking, non smoking all that I couldn't care less so long as they weren't pushy about it. I smoke, and I can't STAND militant non smokers who seem to see it as their personal role in life to get others to quit.

I have fairly severe smokers guilt. I don't smoke in my own house, I stand in the rain so I'm far away from everyone at the bus stop (to the point where I've had people waving me in under their umbrella because they feel sorry for me) I hardly smoke heavily, what does it matter to anyone else?

One of my mates converted to Buddhism so he could marry his wife in a proper Buddhist ceremony but he seems to have got quite a lot out of it and now practises, so I can't see any problem there.

Actually, going back on my whole initial statement, I wouldn't touch - with a bargepole - anyone who:
* was basically a waste of space. Drinking irresponsibly, lounging around without a job or intentions of ever getting one, heavily into drugs, that sort of thing
* who drinks and drives. Ever.

Thought provoking post Jules, once again. Nice to see you posting again :)

Submitted by St_Jimmy at 2009-03-03 09:11:50 EST (#)
Rating: 2

"You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of 'em just cheat on you."


Am I the only one that thinks it kind of looks like the chick in the picture is taking a poo? I'm too lazy to read through all the reviews.

As to the questions, smoking bugs me now. At least if it's indoors with limited ventilation. Since I've started running half/full marathons and generally hitting 40-60 miles per week in training, I find my lungs to be more sensitive. I know, I'm a pussy.

Religion (or lack thereof) wouldn't bug me, as long as it's not of the militant type. I love conversations with those who hold different beliefs, as long as they can be logical and not try to convert me 24/7. I guess that answers the question of whether I'd convert for a chick.

I'm a firm believer in the above quote. Hot chicks really aren't as rare as you might think, so it's not worth putting up with anything too annoying from them simply because of their looks.

Submitted by secret_of_nimh at 2009-03-02 18:31:44 EST (#)
Rating: 2

+2 because I can relate, especially on the smoking thing. I dated a girl for a short period of time - 5 or 6 months - and I knew it was coming to an end when my attraction for her waned fairly quickly and dramatically... apart from other reasons, I realized it was in large part to the fact she was an on again / off again smoker, and whenever she decided she wanted a cigarette I didn't want to really be near her afterward.

And about the ex following you around - I didn't know the situation, but I've got an opposite-sex best friend as well, and we've discussed many times the jealousy we've seen or felt from someone we've been dating, mainly because we are best friends with attractive members of the opposite sex. Lots of people take this the wrong way, and over-compensate in their outpourings of 'cuteness' and whatnot. As I said, I don't know your situation, but I'm sure your 'ex' had some underlying issues with that.

Submitted by Sphagnum at 2009-03-02 18:00:36 EST (#)
Rating: 0

If things like that are important you need to get your priorities in order.

Dying lonely could be fun I guess. It's such a hard choice.

Submitted by captainrads at 2009-03-02 16:30:20 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by i_can_get_you_a_toe (user info) at 2009-03-02 15:39:23 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

I'm a smoker, I couldn't be with a non smoker they're whingers.

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Seconded, I hate when non-smokers bitch about how "its so bad for you". Makes me want to blow the smoke in their faces and say "Ha! Now YOU'RE dying with me!"

Submitted by i_can_get_you_a_toe at 2009-03-02 15:39:23 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I'm a smoker, I couldn't be with a non smoker they're whingers.

Submitted by shitfuck at 2009-03-02 13:59:44 EST (#)
Rating: 0


Uh, who cares.

Submitted by EmissionImpossible at 2009-03-02 13:33:25 EST (#)
Rating: 2

sorta

Submitted by EmissionImpossible at 2009-03-02 13:31:33 EST (#)
Rating: 0

surely a hardcore athiest is as annoying as a hardcore christian

Submitted by inion_de_trua at 2009-03-02 13:28:41 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by captainrads (user info) at 2009-03-02 13:10:24 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Being a hardcore atheist
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i like how you can be a hardcore nonbeliever. that's just the best oxymoron ever.

Submitted by apollo88 at 2009-03-02 13:28:32 EST (#)
Rating: 0

i couldn't be with a hard core religionist


Submitted by BruceCampbell at 2009-03-02 13:18:10 EST (#)
Rating: -1

"If you met someone wonderful...perfect... and they went to church and you were an atheist - could you cope? Would you try and detract them from church? Would you change your religion?"

I am an militant atheist and could not imagine myself finding someone "wonderful" or "perfect" if they went to church regularly.

"When someone believes in an imaginary omnipotent and omniscient friend, it's a mental illness. When several people believe in the same imaginary omnipotent and omniscient friend, it's a religion."

So there ya go, I can't have a relationship with a nutcase who believes in the existence of any deity.

By the way GOD cannot be both OMNIPOTENT and OMNISCIENT. Think about it for a while and you'll see why, therefore, God does not exist.

Submitted by captainrads at 2009-03-02 13:10:24 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Being a hardcore atheist, I can say that it would be awful being with a devout christian. I argue with my christian friends all the time about how wrong they are, so being involved with one? No...religion causes enough conflict in the world, I'd rather not have it be a part of my relationships. As for the smoker...I really wish I could meet a girl who smoked(pot, but cigs are fine too), because they tend to be more laid back and interesting as people.

Submitted by skrapmetal at 2009-03-02 11:52:01 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Submitted by The_taste_of_Monkeys (user info) at 2009-03-02 06:56:24 EST (#)
Ranking: 0

Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2009-03-02 03:33:39 GMT (#)
Ranking: 2

I was wondering the other day if there was anything unusual about Jesus' poop.
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Well I imagine he would always leave floaters
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That is the funniest thing on Uber in 2 weeks. TToM slays me.

Submitted by Sidivan at 2009-03-02 11:49:23 EST (#)
Rating: 2

When we first started dating, I made my wife quit smoking. I won't date a smoker long term. Sure, she bitched and moaned. Sure, I kept finding hidden packs of smokes. Sure, it was a bitch for awhile... 6 yrs later, she's incredibly happy she kicked smoking.

Submitted by sexualchocolate1984 at 2009-03-02 11:29:46 EST (#)
Rating: 1

The sole benefit of the UK's recent smoking ban is hanging out outside with chicks who smoke, it's a little more private. Asking for a light and the general topic of smoking are good conversation starters, a shared interest if you will.

My girlfriend doesn't smoke, she even has a strange fear of ashtrays, but she's fine with me smoking, and I smoke a lot, mostly stinky weed too, she's fine with it and as long as i empty ashtrays regularly it doesn't have any effect on our relationship.

If she was a bible basher though, I think that would cause many arguments, I'm quite a strong minded atheist. i wouldn't tollerate a weak, deluded religious type.

Submitted by The_taste_of_Monkeys at 2009-03-02 06:56:24 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by lungfish (user info) at 2009-03-02 03:33:39 GMT (#)
Ranking: 2

I was wondering the other day if there was anything unusual about Jesus' poop.
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Well I imagine he would always leave floaters

Submitted by Replen at 2009-03-02 05:59:19 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I started smoking when I was 15 because I thought it would be a good way to socialise with a girl that I desperately fancied who smoked behing the music block at breaktime but was way out of my social circle/league. It worked. Hated smoking and stopped when I left school at 16 and we broke up. I took it up again at 18 in college for the same reason. It worked again. I stopped again when we broke up. At 21, I started going to the smoking room at work because a girl I wanted to date would spend a lot of time in there. It worked. However she long ago dumped me and I'm still smoking because I'm addicted to the fucking things.

So "No". It wouldn't put me off.

Submitted by Danger_Ranger at 2009-03-02 05:33:15 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I knew a smoker once and I would have disemboweled a complete stranger for her

that's not entirely true but you get my point

Submitted by The_taste_of_Monkeys at 2009-03-02 04:57:02 EST (#)
Rating: 1

Woth is of course Hoth's older brother. He's a bit of a black sheep and his ice fields aren't up to much but he's a loveable rogue.






Of course I meant worth it.

Submitted by The_taste_of_Monkeys at 2009-03-02 04:55:57 EST (#)
Rating: 1

I am not a smoker and if a lady I was interested in WAS a smoker I dont believe it would bother me.
Provided of course of she was...wait for it....SMOKING HOT!

BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA!


Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.



Woth it.

Submitted by inion_de_trua at 2009-03-01 22:41:21 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by hidden101 (user info) at 2009-03-01 21:37:25 EST (#)
Ranking: 0

everyone has their own ideas about a magic man in the sky and they all swear their religion is the right one and they are willing to die for it.
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well ya don't really have to worry about the ones willing to die for it, just stay away from the ones willing to kill for it.

Submitted by lungfish at 2009-03-01 22:33:39 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I was wondering the other day if there was anything unusual about Jesus' poop.

Submitted by hidden101 at 2009-03-01 21:37:25 EST (#)
Rating: 0

yeah, and what if the scientologists were right? or the buddhists? maybe mormons got it right. wait, i bet it's the muslims, right?

everyone has their own ideas about a magic man in the sky and they all swear their religion is the right one and they are willing to die for it.

what really blows my mind is how so many people on this planet just accept what someone else told them without giving it a second thought.

so for the sake of fun, let's say i am wrong and there is a hell. i'll see you there.

Submitted by ghostofbubba at 2009-03-01 20:58:12 EST (#)
Rating: 2

What if they turn out to be right about that magic man in the sky? You're fucked. Enjoy the burn.

Submitted by BadAssJulie at 2009-03-01 20:53:29 EST (#)
Rating: 0

i think it's the idea of being in a serious relationship with a person who has any sort of addiction that is a big turn off. it doesn't matter if it's cigarettes, jesus, alcohol, or heroin. it'd be hard to have a serious relationship with someone who has something that's such a major part of their life that you don't share if neither one of you are willing to change

Submitted by hidden101 at 2009-03-01 20:25:21 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by BadAssJulie (user info) at 2009-03-01 19:52:04 EST (#)
Ranking: 0

i would date a smoker as long as they weren't a heavy smoker. i don't think i could ever have a serious lasting relationship with a smoker though. i also don't think i would be in a serious relationship with a very religious person. I'm fine with someone having different beliefs but if that's a major part of their life that i can't share because im not willing to change my beliefs, how serious can the relationship get?

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same here. light smoker is ok. and if i was going to stay with them, they would have to quit before i could get serious. and i just can't handle the religion thing. believing in a magic man in the sky just seems like the weirdest thing in the world to me...

Submitted by BadAssJulie at 2009-03-01 19:52:04 EST (#)
Rating: 0

i would date a smoker as long as they weren't a heavy smoker. i don't think i could ever have a serious lasting relationship with a smoker though. i also don't think i would be in a serious relationship with a very religious person. I'm fine with someone having different beliefs but if that's a major part of their life that i can't share because im not willing to change my beliefs, how serious can the relationship get?

Submitted by ghostofbubba at 2009-03-01 19:38:43 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Submitted by Otter (user info) at 2009-03-01 19:19:38 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Honestly I've only had one relationship with a woman who wasn't a smoker. It has never bothered me. All I ask is no smoking in my Blazer, and if we go on some kind of a road trip, know that I am not going to stop every twenty minutes so you can smoke.

A woman with light smoke on her breath, with a hint of booze is one of those great memory triggers. It reminds me of some great nights I've had.

I'm more disgusted by gum chewers. I'd rather be in a room of smokers than gum chewers.

In high school, I let a girlfriend borrow my jean jacket. I got it back a few days later with the smell of her perfume and cig/pot smoke. I can't wear a jean jacket now without that smell, it just doesn't feel right. I bought a new jean jacket and gave it to my girlfirend at the time to wear for a week or so to get the right smokey scents in it. My mom tried to wash it coz she hated the smell, I told her no, so I had to leave the jacket in my car.
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The above example has nothing to do with tobacco or smells; it is more of a psychological abberation, normally manifested by jerking off on the teacher's desk......


:D

Submitted by Otter at 2009-03-01 19:19:38 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Honestly I've only had one relationship with a woman who wasn't a smoker. It has never bothered me. All I ask is no smoking in my Blazer, and if we go on some kind of a road trip, know that I am not going to stop every twenty minutes so you can smoke.

A woman with light smoke on her breath, with a hint of booze is one of those great memory triggers. It reminds me of some great nights I've had.

I'm more disgusted by gum chewers. I'd rather be in a room of smokers than gum chewers.

In high school, I let a girlfriend borrow my jean jacket. I got it back a few days later with the smell of her perfume and cig/pot smoke. I can't wear a jean jacket now without that smell, it just doesn't feel right. I bought a new jean jacket and gave it to my girlfirend at the time to wear for a week or so to get the right smokey scents in it. My mom tried to wash it coz she hated the smell, I told her no, so I had to leave the jacket in my car.

Submitted by ghostofbubba at 2009-03-01 19:12:18 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Submitted by Sacrilicious (user info) at 2009-03-01 18:47:50 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

I'm a former smoker, and for the sake of my health and comfort, as well as the health and comfort of my future children and the health of the man who I believe should do all he can to stay healthy in order to raise them, I would find it difficult or impossible to date a smoker again.

I'm agnostic, but was raised in a Catholic household and while certain issues would likely be challenging to navigate, I would not reject a man just because his beliefs were different from mine.
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A very well-written response, as usual, from Saccy. But what if you had met the man of your dreams while you were still a confirmed smoker? WOuld you have felt the same way then? Do you think you would have held the same values if your intended said the same to you?

It's easy to be one the right side of the fence when you have changed for the better. . . .

Submitted by Sacrilicious at 2009-03-01 18:47:50 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I'm a former smoker, and for the sake of my health and comfort, as well as the health and comfort of my future children and the health of the man who I believe should do all he can to stay healthy in order to raise them, I would find it difficult or impossible to date a smoker again.

I'm agnostic, but was raised in a Catholic household and while certain issues would likely be challenging to navigate, I would not reject a man just because his beliefs were different from mine.

Submitted by bob at 2009-03-01 16:14:59 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Yes I find it really, really unattractive because nicotine gets me nauseous. However, if she was that attractive or that awesome of a person it might not be an immediate deal breaker, but I would probably say point blank that I have no right to say what you do/don't do now, but if we got serious, chances are that I would ask you to stop.

Submitted by cat_head at 2009-03-01 14:22:56 EST (#)
Rating: 2

That's hilarious - the toilet lock/screwdriver thing.

I have an opinion on this. I am a non-smoker, but find smoking to be quite an attractive trait for a girl. I find that the combinations of white wine and cig smoke makes a girl's mouth taste great. Nothing says "slag" quite like that taste. That's a bit too strong, but you get my point. It hints at, and reinforces the idea that she's carefree and naughty.

Submitted by JoeyG at 2009-03-01 14:01:57 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I once met a girl in a pub, and thought she was THE most gorgeous woman who could possibly exist on the face of the Earth.

She was angelic, wonderful, amazing, and all wrapped up in a little white dress.

She asked me back to her place.

I was so shocked by this, that I gagged on the red aftershock I had just necked and vomited over her, covering her in scarlet bile.

Maybe life would have turned out differently if I didn't have that red aftershock.

Submitted by Sinistral at 2009-03-01 13:54:03 EST (#)
Rating: 1

There is nothing I find more unattractive than seeing a girl(s) sitting right outside a dorm smoking. At a party it's slightly less of a turn-off.

On the other hand, if I was a smoker and saw someone smoking it would give me an opening. I carry a lighter with me to every party for the sole reason of meeting people. Someone's always looking for one and that someone seems interesting enough it's a good way to strike up a conversation.

Submitted by ghostofbubba at 2009-03-01 13:37:19 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Submitted by orphelia (user info) at 2009-03-01 12:26:40 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-02-28 22:28:42 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Merlina hon, are you ok? I've noticed that you're last few posts are very "soul"-searching
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I had to giggle at this. I wouldn't class this post as particularly soul searching.

:)

And the answer is 'no'.

ps My other half and I do this weird thing. Say we are sat together watching TV and he gets up, he'll say 'I am just nipping to the loo'. I always tell him when I am off to the toilet too. Or maybe just putting the rubbish out. I'll say 'I am just off to put the rubbish out'.
It's not like we are hinting for the other to come along, I dunno, we just do it.
I guess it must be in-built polite or something.

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Yeah, you giggled because your concept of soul-searching is so much better defined than that of anyone else. Why don't you just stop being a pretentious cunt and shut up? Are you Doodles' mother?


Submitted by orphelia at 2009-03-01 12:26:40 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-02-28 22:28:42 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Merlina hon, are you ok? I've noticed that you're last few posts are very "soul"-searching
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I had to giggle at this. I wouldn't class this post as particularly soul searching.

:)

And the answer is 'no'.

ps My other half and I do this weird thing. Say we are sat together watching TV and he gets up, he'll say 'I am just nipping to the loo'. I always tell him when I am off to the toilet too. Or maybe just putting the rubbish out. I'll say 'I am just off to put the rubbish out'.
It's not like we are hinting for the other to come along, I dunno, we just do it.
I guess it must be in-built polite or something.

Submitted by inion_de_trua at 2009-03-01 10:49:24 EST (#)
Rating: 0

i do miss the egg hunts from when i was little though :(

Submitted by inion_de_trua at 2009-03-01 10:44:37 EST (#)
Rating: 0

dunno about the smoking honestly. it makes the person taste bad, kisses, other things. the smell of smoke can make me physically ill though and has in the past. so they'd always have to brush their teeth or use mouthwash before kissing, they'd never get a blow job and once in a while they'd have to hold my hair back while i throw up. i mean some people are social smokers, smoke at bars where they're still allowed, etc. i could stand that with alcohol. most of my best friends are smokers of cigarettes or weed. or were. the weed actually was much much easier to stand. stale tobacco smoke in clothes and hair is one of the worst smells not involving poop.

religion, well, i'd never convert for someone. i just couldn't claim to be a follower of something i'm not. i would feel incredibly bad every time i went to church/temple whatever. i've gone as a guest to lots of people's churches and a couple temples and have been at seders and stuff, but they've always known i was just curious or i knew i was just welcome to attend out of charity of the season. they're welcome to believe whatever they want. arguments may or may not ensue. but i think raising children it's easier if you both believe one thing or one parent's answers are set as the standard.

fundamentalist anything is out of the freaking question though.

Submitted by shadow at 2009-03-01 10:30:31 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I don't mind whether you smoke or not, as long as you don't mind my smoking. I have dated two militant anti-smokers, who knew I smoked when we met, and both went positively mad trying to get me to quit. Eventually, for these and other compelling reasons, each relationship ended.

I was actually kind of tickled when I found out my man smoked. I told him he could smoke in the car, and his eyes lit up. It was cute.

As for religion, well, I know a few people who have converted for the sake of marriage. Mostly go through the motions, and it's all for the sake of the parents of the "religious" one who usually isn't that religious anyway (since they're lovin' with someone outside the tribe). It seems to work out, usually. And the kids never seems to come up that religious. So I suppose it's fine; a mark of how much you love them.

Submitted by AW4416 at 2009-03-01 10:22:16 EST (#)
Rating: 1

I've never dated a smoker so i can't really say how i would feel......


In my world any belief in the existance/non-existance of a Deity constitutes a religious belief so that would include Agnostics and Athiests.....

You respect my beliefs, i'll respect yours......you get up on your soapbox telling me how stupid i am because i'm not an Athiest, Buddhist or whatever....then all bets are off. if someone wants you to go to church every once in a while so be it....you're not obligated to sing or pray....your BF/GF knows that you don't share their beliefs BUT....you respect and love them enough to go the extra mile every so often and that is what counts.

my $.02

Submitted by Shlongy at 2009-03-01 09:40:19 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Smoking rules.

As long as you kix the ciggie breath with scotch breath and Listermint strips breath, it's all good.

Submitted by skrapmetal at 2009-03-01 08:40:15 EST (#)
Rating: 1

People smoking around me in public doesn't really bother me, except when I'm eating a nice meal. I have to admit that I think non-smoking restaurants are a good idea. I thought that even when I used to smoke, though. Since I used to smoke, I'm not really allowed to tell someone to stop smoking (doesn't stop some ex-smokers, I know). I think that if my potential SO was a smoker, I'd have to consider the downsides of that very carefully. I mean it can be a bit bothersome but I wouldn't expect someone who lives in the house with me to go outside to smoke anymore that that person should expect me to go outside to drink a beer.

MLW leaves the lights on. I turn them off. I fill the dishwasher but don't run it. She runs it. You deal, you know.

Last one's a trick question: If you don't believe in God then someone who's perfect for you would more than likely share that rather important opinion. Unless of course "perfect for you" means "short-term shaggable".

Submitted by kaos-king at 2009-03-01 08:37:30 EST (#)
Rating: 2


Christ, I smoke almost 2 packs a day. Not really an issue for me. Almost everyone I know is a smoker.

Religion, however, can be a huge turn-off.



Submitted by monkeyswithguns at 2009-03-01 08:09:58 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I shudder to think of the whole 'getting to know' people thing as and could not do it again.
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Me too. I don't think it would matter either way though. I don't smoke cigarettes anymore but my wife still does. It bothers me a bit when she blows it directly in my face or direction, but I tolerate it.

As for your friend who changed religion, I don't know that it would really matter to me so much either, considering I think whoever I was that in love with wouldn't really care if I did it simply as a token gesture and wasn't really observant.

Submitted by Geordie80 at 2009-03-01 06:41:05 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I am a light smoker. I probably smoke about 5 a day unless I'm out for a drink. I don't understand it, I try stopping all the time but I can't seem to get past having a few a day. There's certain times when a cigarette is the best thing in the world e.g. after food. I've gone out with smokers and non-smokers. Houses that reek of smoke are horrid. I only smoke in my kitchen wih the window wide open because there are no materials in there that the smoke can cling to. I agree with the smoking ban in the UK, I like to breath freash air between cigarettes - if that makes any sense.

As for religion... I think most people believe in something. I wouldn't make anybody change their religion for me and I don't have any religion to change but then again, I'm seriously unlikely to go out with anybody into religion intensely. It's a bit hypocritical changing religion for somebody else isn't it? Surely that's not true faith or belief?

Submitted by DeathJester at 2009-03-01 06:21:38 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Smokers taste nasty, but I could put up with it. I wouldn't choose to live somewhere where people smoke, though. My mate's house constantly reeks of smoke.

As for religion, I am fine with people having their own beliefs, in fact I encourage it at every opportunity. Hell, I'm doing a Law degree because I wanted to learn more about rights in general (human, Intellectual Property, Copyright etc). I do, however, expect people to respect my beliefs. I cannot STAND being preached at.

Forensic: I couldn't do that. To me, play-acting at religion to appease somebody that devout just seems like a mockery is being made of their belief. I can sings the songs and pray just like everybody else, but I won't go through the motions just to "fit in". That takes something personal away from the people who truly believe. For example, I went to a Christian wedding around a year ago. There were hymns and prayers, and bowing of heads etc. I wasn't the only person who didn't mutter a word throughout the entire ceremony. I stood when told to stand, and I bowed my head when everyone prayed (I'm not a twat; Being the only person sitting when the whole congregation is singing hymns makes you an idiot), but that's out of respect for their choice, and accepting that a token gesture is enough sometimes.

Besides, I didn't know the tune.

Submitted by pen_name at 2009-03-01 06:17:26 EST (#)
Rating: 0


Submitted by BranDo at 2009-03-01 05:42:33 EST (#)
Rating: 0

what is your problem exactly?

why do you have the time and energy to be bothered with these kind of questions?

I just heard David LaFlamme/It's a beautiful day- White Bird and it seemed to fit perfectly with this post.


and to answer your question(s), no.




Submitted by beeltea at 2009-03-01 05:39:46 EST (#)
Rating: 2

leaving himself fewer options to get laid, below.

Submitted by pen_name at 2009-03-01 05:17:26 EST (#)
Rating: 0

I was at a party a while back where I saw this really cute girl. I started to approach her, but as she turned in my direction, I saw that she was smoking a cigarette. I was disheartened. I shook my head and walked away.

Submitted by beeltea at 2009-03-01 05:05:45 EST (#)
Rating: 2

This is impossible to answer. As a smoker, neither smokers nor non-smokers turn me off. However, in the few months last year when I was not smoking, cigarette smokers did not turn me off, and I pitied them.

Stop posing questions I can't answer.

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-03-01 04:46:08 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by forensicgirl3 (user info) at 2009-02-28 22:28:42 EST (#)
Ranking: 2

Merlina hon, are you ok? I've noticed that you're last few posts are very "soul"-searching. You're an awesome person and I hope that no one is making you feel inadequete. If I could, I'd give you hug, and then go get you drunk! ;)
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Yeah I'm great thanks, hon. A bit tired as I've started a new job and its really busy but other than that all's great! I often soul search... in a good and happy way though.

I probably think too much. I'll take that hug though :-)


Submitted by Wildman at 2009-03-01 04:36:07 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by Entaran (user info) at 2009-02-28 22:06:34 EST (#)
Ranking: 0

The nostril thing is called a Bushman's Blow.

And kissing an ashtray gets old fast, but meh, we've all done it.
^^^^^^
We call it a farmer-blow and we do it because it definitely get's rid of everything.

As far as kissing an ashtray, who gives a fuck because my dick can't smell a thing.

Submitted by Phallic_Cymbals at 2009-03-01 02:35:56 EST (#)
Rating: 0

I only smoke when i'm on pills (rarely) and smoker chicks turn me on. I think it's some hangover from being in love with a smoker chick in high school.

Submitted by RoadSong at 2009-03-01 01:59:39 EST (#)
Rating: 2

"Life is a constant question for me. I have millions but I guess this'll do for now."
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The photo is wonderful.



Submitted by X54 at 2009-03-01 01:32:14 EST (#)
Rating: 1

Most of my friends smoke so I didn't think having a girlfriend that smoked would be any big deal. But then I lived with a girl that smoked. She was always hacking up lungers and every part of her body tasted like cigarettes. It was gross. So I dumped her. Never again.

I'm an atheist, but all my girlfriends have believed in God. That doesn't bother me, as long as they don't expect me to go to church. None of them went to church anyway. People who believe in God are mildly amusing, like people who believe in astrology or global warming. Or anything at all, for that matter.

Submitted by Chroniclysm at 2009-03-01 01:22:21 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Light smokers turn me on.

Heavy smokers turn me off.

Submitted by HadToBeDone at 2009-02-28 22:56:16 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Submitted by Entaran (user info) at 2009-02-28 22:06:34 EST (#)
Ranking: 0

The nostril thing is called a Bushman's Blow.
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Nope, it's a snot rocket.

Submitted by Ducky at 2009-02-28 22:53:44 EST (#)
Rating: 2

stage acting should have been play acting.

Submitted by Ducky at 2009-02-28 22:51:58 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Hi Merlina,

No, it wouldn't.

I dated someone once upon a time who had an absolutely imbalanced mother. She was very religous, but felt that "the church" had turned against her and that her personal safety was in question. She constantly worried that "they" were trying to take her hand, and that "they" were trying to kill her by filling the air with poisonous gas. "The air Ducky...look at the air...it's hazy". She would practice dutifully without attending church, sometimes referring to herself as a messenger from God. I'm not religous, at all. I did however, listen to her attentively. I also joined her at the park sometimes and let her teach (and reteach) me what to do with a rosary. I would never change how I feel - forensic is right - it's stage acting.

I have a girlfriend whose parents are both JW - the mother became JW when she met the father. I've never understood it. Be supportive, sure, but you need to retain your own beliefs.

Submitted by Quint at 2009-02-28 22:38:46 EST (#)
Rating: 2

I like chicks that smoke








my pole.

(somebody had to make the joke)

Honestly, I've never had a problem with people smoking, probably because I sometimes smoke like a chimney when I'm drunk (but hate smoking sober or anytime it is still daylight outside). But I think I'm the exception to the rule. In my experience, most people find the smell disgusting if they don't smoke themselves. And not the smell while you are smoking, but rather that stale smell you reek of when you go back inside.

Submitted by forensicgirl3 at 2009-02-28 22:28:42 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Thoughtful questions. If my potential love interest either had a problem with me, or I had a problem with them, that was so insurmoutable that we couldn't get past it, then guess what, they're not "the one."

And I don't mean that in the hippy-dippy love conquers all sense. I mean that in a life that requires compromise constantly, if you can't find a middle ground, then don't knock yourself out trying to find it.

As to the religion thing. I'm atheist. If my believing partner wanted to keep their faith, no problem as long as they don't expect me to go along for the ride. But let's say they asked me to make a show over going to church to appease their grandparents who are very devout. No problem. I can go to church and bow my head and sing hymns the same way I can audition for a play and get a supporting role. It's all play acting. At the end of the day, I'm the same person.


Merlina hon, are you ok? I've noticed that you're last few posts are very "soul"-searching. You're an awesome person and I hope that no one is making you feel inadequete. If I could, I'd give you hug, and then go get you drunk! ;)

Submitted by Doodles at 2009-02-28 22:19:34 EST (#)
Rating: 0

cigars, no cigarettes, yes

Submitted by Sage at 2009-02-28 22:19:18 EST (#)
Rating: 2

Per your religion comment...I'd never personally convert to another religion, so I would never expect a boyfriend of mine to convert to my religion. I'd respect his right to have his own religious beliefs and would expect him to respect mine.

Submitted by Sage at 2009-02-28 22:13:28 EST (#)
Rating: 2

No ma'am, it would not. I dated a smoker as a non-smoker more often than not. :) IMHO there's something sexy about the smell of cigarette smoke and cologne.

xoxo <3 you. :)

Submitted by Entaran at 2009-02-28 22:06:34 EST (#)
Rating: 0

The nostril thing is called a Bushman's Blow.

And kissing an ashtray gets old fast, but meh, we've all done it.

Submitted by Toddler at 2009-02-28 21:20:29 EST (#)
Rating: -2

Gay.

Submitted by TLawrence at 2009-02-28 21:17:05 EST (#)
Rating: 0

Smokers stink.

Submitted by Merlina at 2009-02-28 21:15:23 EST (#)
Rating: -2

incidently... late night rambling here. Apologies if this bores.

It would me.


I thought there was chocolate inside ... Well, why was it wrapped in foil?

-- Homer Simpson
Mr. Plow