Is it fraud, or is it intolerance and discrimination?Submitted by skrapmetal at 2014-07-30 10:50:04 EDT
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Hot-tub tryst at adults-only club turns violent
BY KATE MCCANN Correspondent July 29, 2014 12:48PM
Updated: July 30, 2014 2:10AM
A planned sexual tryst at a private, adults-only club in Midlothian turned violent when two men realized one of their companions was transgender, police said.
Midlothian police said the driver of a red Mustang flagged them down the night of July 22 after an incident at Aura, 14400 S. Cicero Ave., a private club resembling a hotel that bills itself as a “romantic getaway” with rooms that boast mirrored ceilings, hot tubs and “vibe” lighting.
When police approached the car, they observed two nude women — one with an eye swollen shut — and a naked transgender woman.
The three told police a man inside a room at Aura had struck one woman after it was discovered the third woman was transgender.
Police instructed the three to get dressed, and they then returned to the hotel room to discuss the incident with the two men involved. One of the men, who described himself as a club promoter, said he and his friend contacted the three others on the Internet and agreed to pay them each $75 to all have sex together. The five people involved met up at a club in Markham before relocating to the Midlothian club.
One man said he was lying in bed with one woman when the other two people and his friend decided to hop in the Jacuzzi. That’s when his friend realized the third woman was transgender.
The man in the hot tub said he tried to leave, but the woman began to hit him because she was angry she wasn’t going to get paid, according to the police report. That man told police he fled to his car and locked his doors.
The women denied they were prostitutes and told police they all met at the club and agreed to go to the hotel to have sex together without payment. The other woman told police the second man attacked her associate without being provoked.
Police released all five without charges due to their conflicting stories.
Two guys want to have a simple fivesome with a some professionals in a private club. They locate these professionals and make a deal. These two guys want to bone these three women. Except one of the women is a guy with implants and surgeries designed to imitate the appearance of a woman. Apparently, the imitation is poorly constructed, because the guys discover this little fact and become upset. Punches are thrown, embarrassment is felt, cops are called, and the whole incident blows over after a few minutes.
And now, we are left with the following questions:
1. Does a transgender prostitute with the appearance of a woman have a duty to inform a prospective client that she is in fact a guy with implants and a lot of deconstructive/reconstructive surgeries designed to imitate the appearance of a woman, and not an actual woman at all?
2. Does a prospective client of a prostitute have the right to expect that the vagina he's willing to pay to get into is in fact a natural one and not one that been fabricated by modern medicine (if that sort of vagina is indeed the sort that he wants to get into, of course. It takes all kinds.)
Further, let's say the parties are not ho/john. Let's say they just meet by chance in a bar or at the gym or the grocery store. The dude thinks he's getting on well with the 'chick', and the 'chick' genuinely likes the dude. At what point does it become necessary to plop the transgender card onto the table? If the dude is straight and he thinks he's dating someone who is an actual female but he's really not, is he allowed to be pissed off that he's been lied to? Or is that discrimination against transgender people? If the subject of whether the 'chick' is in fact female hasn't come up in conversation or through observation during a sexual encounter, has he in fact been lied to? A lie of omission, perhaps? Does the transgendered participant 'chick' have any responsibility to inform the dude that he's maybe making incorrect assumptions about the fundamental nature of the object of his desires?
And what if a gay guy thinks he's getting blown by a twink in the bathroom of the Blue Oyster but it's actually a girl with A cups and a well done fake mustache doing the polishing? Doesn't make him suddenly straight, obviously, but is he allowed to be angry about the misrepresentation?
What about transgendered 'guys' who get the testosterone shots and the titectomies and a junkoplasty? What responsibilities do they have to the people they are in potentially close relationships with?
As I am in a LTMR this is not really something I have to deal with. Glad about that, actually. And back when I wasn't in a LTMR, the technology really wasn't available to make a guy appear like a girl in any manner that would stand to the least scrutiny so the cross dressers were obvious. Not that they were bad people who were to be shunned and avoided, just that they were people I didn't want to have sex with.
So enlighten me, oh Ubermench. Those of you who on occasion still get a bit drunkywunky and go to bed with people you just met: Ever been fooled? Those of you who start your evenings with a new prospect whilst sober: Ever been faced with the "I had fun on this date and I'd like to see you again, but before we go any further you should know that I was born a guy and I've had a lot of work done" disclosure? Those of you who are on your own particular journey of transgender discovery: When do you drop that bit of knowledge on your potential or actual SO?
What's the proper transgender etiquette?